We leave for Florida in 2 days (well, we leave to drive to NY so we can catch an early flight to FL on Sunday). I can't get myself to be motivated to do ANYTHING at work today. I feel like I will run the scheduled meetings I need to chair, but other than that, paperwork is not happening. I have a million IEP amendments I need to get out, but I just can't get myself to make the phone calls.
I'm also a FTM and feeling the fear of "what will a baby do to my marriage?" I feel confident DH and I will come out loving each other even more, and I feel some of that when I look at him lately (as long as he isn't chewing anything), but it's still hard to imagine adding a very needy tiny person to our 10 year relationship.
As a new ftm I can say this baby has brought us closer together. My husband was my advocate when I was in the hospital and couldn't make my own decisions because of all the crazy drugs they had me on. He was doing everything he could to help me get through the hospital stay and subsequently her birth. I loved him deeply before but now it seems like my love for him has grown exponentially since her birth. He has been amazing and in the beginning when we found out we were expecting I was a bit concerned about how a baby would impact our life together I don't have those fears anymore.
I just had breakfast with a long-time friend that I usually only see about twice a year. She was a guidance counselor at my school years ago. I always leave feeling like I left a really good therapy session. LOL Plus, I got home and DH had made homemade brownies and icing with DD for tonight. This is a great day!
Since it is the end of state testing for my 6th graders I am letting them play games on their computer rotation. I told them if they talk or act up it would go away, you could hear a pin drop in here. Best bribe ever.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I can tell we're all in third tri and starting to get miserable...we're being snarky to other regs.
Did I miss some drama??
You just commented on the post. I thought it was going to get spicy. Some comments were a little harsher than I imagined them to be, but maybe I'm finally getting a little sensitive in third tri.
I can tell we're all in third tri and starting to get miserable...we're being snarky to other regs.
Did I miss some drama??
You just commented on the post. I thought it was going to get spicy. Some comments were a little harsher than I imagined them to be, but maybe I'm finally getting a little sensitive in third tri.
You're not imagining it. There were a couple. I'm taking the helpful stuff and releasing the rest to the universe.
But seriously, I've gotten pretty good at balancing intent vs. impact. The adoption world is 10x worse than this. Like brutal. And if you want to learn anything to help your kiddos then you have to compartmentalize a lot. If I cut and ran everytime someone hurt my feelings in 'adoptionland' I would never have any tools in my adoptive parent toolbox.
@Wearmi1 - loved what you said about baby bringing you guys closer. As a FTM I'm also wondering and somewhat worried about the impact adding baby to our marriage will be. While most of me knows it will probably be really wonderful, I definitely feel sad and weepy (thanks 3rd tri) for the loss that will come with change.
thanks to everyone for comments re: RRL and evening primrose, super helpful! I happen to like dates, so will add that.
@tjvan - I've also been measuring ahead. at 27 weeks I was 29cm and at 30 weeks I was 33cm. Wondering if anyone else has experience with this too and whether it affects labor and delivery or anything else.
and a question - anyone have experience with earth baby compostable diapers/diaper service?
I can tell we're all in third tri and starting to get miserable...we're being snarky to other regs.
Did I miss some drama??
You just commented on the post. I thought it was going to get spicy. Some comments were a little harsher than I imagined them to be, but maybe I'm finally getting a little sensitive in third tri.
Awe got it. I hope I was in the helpful camp. Im so bad with getting my thoughts in order and written how I want it to come out.
Y'all, I'm ready for the verbal lashing I deserve.
But I want to be pregnant forever. I'm so sad it's almost over! I'm excited to meet this little girl but I really enjoy pregnancy.
I'm sad that this could be my last pregnancy so part of me doesn't want to rush it or wish it away but I'm also so excited for labor and delivery. There is something special about being pregnant.
As a STM I think babies really test your relationship. If your strong before baby it will get better, if you were weak before... you definitely learn a new side of each other. But seeing your dh fall in love with your baby is seriously one of the best things ever. Dh always says watching me bf dd was amazing for the same reason. It definitely brought us closer and gave us more reason to fight through the hard times.
****TW/terrifying made up scenario in my own head*****
My toddler is not gentle. I keep imagining if I end up with a c-section how long before he jumps on me/my incision and I have no choice but to catapult him through the roof?! Blah! Why did I think of this?!
****TW/terrifying made up scenario in my own head*****
My toddler is not gentle. I keep imagining if I end up with a c-section how long before he jumps on me/my incision and I have no choice but to catapult him through the roof?! Blah! Why did I think of this?!
Oh sister, my kid does this now. He's 2. He has no clue he's hurting me. I've taken to putting a pillow on my belly. Boys.
I enjoy being pregnant too, @Mother0fDragons, and am trying to savor it too since it is my last, @JessyKV. I am getting super anxious about birth though since my first was a disaster. I just want a crying baby that I can hold. I am not setting my expectations high.
I was told I have to choose my c-section date in the next week. It's like messing with nature. I don't want this type of responsibility! As I overthink it all and map out every scenario, the reality that I will only have DH here to help me for 6 days after I'm out of the hospital is terrifying, especially with a 3 year old who I can't lift who will surely jump on my incision as @Mother0fDragons has mentioned! It's the reality when you don't live anywhere near family. People make it happen...but it's still scaring the hell out of me!
@Mother0fDragons. I literally had a melt down in the car today sobbing with DH because I don't know how I am going to be this uncomfortable for two more months. It sucks. I LOVED being pregnant with DS and this is my last pregnancy, so I want to enjoy this one but it's rough. My goal is to wake up tomorrow and enjoy this experience. I am chalking today up to hormones.
@meilay. Our relationship is still going strong. I think the big thing is being able to "share" each other. There were days that I didn't want to snuggle with DH because I had a child swarming all over me all day, which was a big change for us. There were many times we didn't have sex because we were too tired. We deal with this by setting aside couple time, date nights, couple trips, special evenings at home after the kids go down. You have to get creative and communicate. Your relationship is going to change but I think it's a change that only deepens it.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
+1 for enjoying being pregnant. But Im also a weirdo and really looking forward to labor/delivery too. Ive been very lucky both times and feel really good still. Im trying to savor the moment bc this might be my last baby. Im seriously considering becoming a surrogate in the future.
I wish I enjoyed my pregnancy more. We're one and done so I think I put a lot of unfair expectations on myself to really have this magical unicorn experience that just isn't happening. I love a few aspects of being pregnant and will definitely miss the special connection of her being inside, but these last few weeks could truly fly by and I'd be so grateful.
I didn't mind so much being pregnant with my previous pregnancies, but this one has been rough. I've experienced nausea and vomiting throughout, nosebleeds, headaches, leg/foot swelling, varicose veins... I could go on, but I'm sure you get the picture. And now at only 32 weeks, I have some days where it feels like the baby is just going to fall out of my butt. I feel really guilty for not enjoying this pregnancy because I've experienced a loss before, but it is what it is.
@LAMCH1980 I have been over here feeling sorry for myself because I have a scheduled section and DH is only taking 2 weeks off. Props to you, girl. You're a super hero.
My body sucks at being pregnant. Such a bummer considering how grateful I am to be pregnant given all the IF woes throughout my years TTC and building my lil army of Pats fans. Seriously, no character in this world better represents me than the character from What to Expect When You're Expecting who is just miserable after so badly wanting to conceive. I feel guilty for not loving it, but my body gets every nasty symptom in the book.
If it wasn't for the acid reflux/heartburn, I've actually grown to like pregnancy. It hasn't always been the most pleasant, but I think I'm going to really miss feeling belly movements once baby is born.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
I don't mind being pregnant per say. I don't like trying to be a mom while pregnant though. Trying to play with the girls yesterday and they wanted me to be "mommy monster". I tried to chase them, I got winded in like 2 seconds and felt like I had to hold the belly while chasing them. Bending over constantly sucks. Being tired a lot more then normal makes me feel bad. I just feel like I cant give them all they want right now. I try to cut myself some slack but its hard for me. But I do love the baby kicks and I like how my bump takes away my love handles from the front haha.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
I just walked down 35 flights of stairs. Not an activity I recommend - just glad that DH was there to carry DD after she got tired (she did manage the first 14). Silly apartment building with only two elevators, one of which is entirely out of service. What a start to a Friday....
My husband took the kids to school today and he asked me about 5 times before he left if he had everything. I was all yep yep! So he gets home and I realize my daughter has her egg hunt today (my sons class went yesterday) and she didn't bring her basket. Guess who is going back to daycare to drop it off. Sorry husband.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
The TDAP is now my least favorite shot ever. I got it yesterday and my arm is sore and the injection site is a nice reddish color and swollen. Glad I read here to have it on your non sleeping side or it would be much worse!
Things are starting to look up here. My brother has a probable diagnosis of some type of autoimmune encephalopathy, which is super rare, but also totally treatable. Way better than a lot of other things they were testing for. They are still waiting on the definitive test results, but they started him on the treatment in the meantime, and he seems to be getting somewhat better. I'm really hopeful that this is it and he will go home early next week. Thanks everybody ergo sent thoughts and prayers for him and for my family.
My cousin is still here visiting, but I got totally exhausted walking around exploring our city with her this morning, so I asked dh to take her to Niagara Falls this afternoon (we live very near there). I just didn't feel up to it, and she can't drive herself because she left her license at home in Norway and only brought her passport for id. So now I am hanging out alone at home while dd naps. Bliss.
I was supposed to get the TDAP at my appointment yesterday. The nurse had me sign the paperwork and brought the syringe into the room, and the doctor mentioned it, but then we both forgot by the time I finished asking my questions. I remembered on the drive home. I guess I'll just get it in 2 weeks at my next appointment. Ooops.
Ladies get that tdap asap! I forgot to get mine at my last normal appointment and my little one arrived without me having it and her getting some of the benefits of it.
Also I'm a crying mess. Sitting here doing skin to skin with my princess and reading some of her books to her. On the night you were born made me cry a river
Re: Randoms 4/10
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
But seriously, I've gotten pretty good at balancing intent vs. impact. The adoption world is 10x worse than this. Like brutal. And if you want to learn anything to help your kiddos then you have to compartmentalize a lot. If I cut and ran everytime someone hurt my feelings in 'adoptionland' I would never have any tools in my adoptive parent toolbox.
thanks to everyone for comments re: RRL and evening primrose, super helpful! I happen to like dates, so will add that.
@tjvan - I've also been measuring ahead. at 27 weeks I was 29cm and at 30 weeks I was 33cm. Wondering if anyone else has experience with this too and whether it affects labor and delivery or anything else.
and a question - anyone have experience with earth baby compostable diapers/diaper service?
BFP: 9/30/16, EDD: 6/9/17
so bad with getting my thoughts in order and written how I want it to come out.
But I want to be pregnant forever. I'm so sad it's almost over! I'm excited to meet this little girl but I really enjoy pregnancy.
you definitely learn a new side of each other. But seeing your dh fall in love with your baby is seriously one of the best things ever. Dh always says watching me bf dd was amazing for the same reason. It definitely brought us closer and gave us more reason to fight through the hard times.
Also, @lmudra's post made me think of this...
****TW/terrifying made up scenario in my own head*****
My toddler is not gentle. I keep imagining if I end up with a c-section how long before he jumps on me/my incision and I have no choice but to catapult him through the roof?! Blah! Why did I think of this?!
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
~Everyone Welcome~
@meilay. Our relationship is still going strong. I think the big thing is being able to "share" each other. There were days that I didn't want to snuggle with DH because I had a child swarming all over me all day, which was a big change for us. There were many times we didn't have sex because we were too tired. We deal with this by setting aside couple time, date nights, couple trips, special evenings at home after the kids go down. You have to get creative and communicate. Your relationship is going to change but I think it's a change that only deepens it.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
@LAMCH1980 I have been over here feeling sorry for myself because I have a scheduled section and DH is only taking 2 weeks off. Props to you, girl. You're a super hero.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
My cousin is still here visiting, but I got totally exhausted walking around exploring our city with her this morning, so I asked dh to take her to Niagara Falls this afternoon (we live very near there). I just didn't feel up to it, and she can't drive herself because she left her license at home in Norway and only brought her passport for id. So now I am hanging out alone at home while dd naps. Bliss.
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
#catmomfirst
Also I'm a crying mess. Sitting here doing skin to skin with my princess and reading some of her books to her. On the night you were born made me cry a river