There are some straight up weird people in this world. I was in the waiting room for my IUGR scan this morning and there was a woman doing lunges (up and down the waiting room) and some crazy yoga moves. I on the other hand was watching her while stuffing a chocolate croissant down my throat and sitting in the chair closest to the ultrasound room so that I didn't have to move much when the time came.
Shock of all shocks, my TB test came back negative. However, the doctor's office also appears to have "misplaced" my adoption paperwork, so I'm giving them until noon to get their shit together before I lose it.
We're coming up on the finish line for our basement remodel! We have a friend coming in for the weekend next weekend (after Easter) so we have a clear "must be finished with the guest room by then) date. I'm excited to decorate!!
@Elyse1384 Is she trying to induce labor or something....?
@krex-2 Completing projects always feels so good...and then you get to decorate!
We had an ultrasound on Friday and found out that our little girl's head is trending in the 97% percentile and she is about 2 weeks ahead, which I certainly didn't want to hear. My H has a bigger head and talking to his mom over the weekend we found out he was also 9lbs, so it's not looking good for me!
As most of you know, I don't have a great relationship with my mom. And actually had decided to cut her out of my life altogether after a recent incident where she began her emotional abuse and manipulation again. Well, Thursday night my sister (who has the same type of relationship with my mom) called me in tears and said "somethings really wrong with mom, and I think we need to get her to the hospital." After talking to my aunt (mom's sister) and then my mom... It was clear that she was off her medication (she is bi-polar) and in an extreme manic state. It was nothing like I have ever seen/heard and my degree is in psychology!! Anyways... although I dislike this woman that I can almost bare, I talked her into going to the doctor and the doctor recommended she go to the ER for a psychological evaluation. Long story (just a tad shorter) she has been committed. It looks like she will be in there for some time... and she is still very much manic. She goes from being grateful my sister and I made her go, to mad in the matter of seconds. She also is using her ability to call us (I had no idea this was allowed in the psych ward) to manipulate my sister and I (can you do this and that for me, when are you coming to visit, will you bring me this and that, look what you did to me, etc.) so, needless to say... I. AM. EXHAUSTED.
And my blood pressure has been high (shocker!) Anyways... if you are the praying type, please say a prayer for me and my family. This is something I never thought at 30 (and my sister at 27) would be having to deal with. It is like taking care of a very sick parent.
@Elyse1384 Is she trying to induce labor or something....?
@krex-2 Completing projects always feels so good...and then you get to decorate!
We had an ultrasound on Friday and found out that our little girl's head is trending in the 97% percentile and she is about 2 weeks ahead, which I certainly didn't want to hear. My H has a bigger head and talking to his mom over the weekend we found out he was also 9lbs, so it's not looking good for me!
@MKRLTX oh that is the best part. She wasn't pregnant. I should have mentioned that it was a general waiting area (lab work, mammograms, ultrasounds, etc)
@Elyse1384 a chocolate croissant sounds way better than lunges. Hope your appointment goes well! @MKRLTX eeek! My dad has a HUGE head and was 11lbs 11oz when born. Many cousins have had large headed 9 and 10lb babies. My SIL went to the Ped with my oldest nephew when he was three months and said, "So now have we discussed his unusually large head?" I feel your pain. @EmeraldNC I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I hope things start to look up for her and you are able to relax some. All the good vibes heading to you! @krex-2 decorating is the best part!!
Some of my family is on a cruise and most of my friends are on Spring Break and I'm over here wondering why I didn't get into teaching...
4 day work week this week! It is the start of our standardized tests and 6th grade goes first so I will be missing students from my classes all week. I can't say I am sad about smaller classes and one less day of work.
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@FSUNole31 4 day work week here too! And today my students are all on a field trip, so I actually have time to get things done (ya know... like bump! lol) and then Wednesday they have specials (art, music, pe, library and computer) so I won't have them that day either! Woo hoo!
As most of you know, I don't have a great relationship with my mom. And actually had decided to cut her out of my life altogether after a recent incident where she began her emotional abuse and manipulation again. Well, Thursday night my sister (who has the same type of relationship with my mom) called me in tears and said "somethings really wrong with mom, and I think we need to get her to the hospital." After talking to my aunt (mom's sister) and then my mom... It was clear that she was off her medication (she is bi-polar) and in an extreme manic state. It was nothing like I have ever seen/heard and my degree is in psychology!! Anyways... although I dislike this woman that I can almost bare, I talked her into going to the doctor and the doctor recommended she go to the ER for a psychological evaluation. Long story (just a tad shorter) she has been committed. It looks like she will be in there for some time... and she is still very much manic. She goes from being grateful my sister and I made her go, to mad in the matter of seconds. She also is using her ability to call us (I had no idea this was allowed in the psych ward) to manipulate my sister and I (can you do this and that for me, when are you coming to visit, will you bring me this and that, look what you did to me, etc.) so, needless to say... I. AM. EXHAUSTED.
And my blood pressure has been high (shocker!) Anyways... if you are the praying type, please say a prayer for me and my family. This is something I never thought at 30 (and my sister at 27) would be having to deal with. It is like taking care of a very sick parent.
I am really sorry you are going through this. I have a similar relationship and situation with my mom and when she was admitted the first time she did the same things your mom is doing. I was also pregnant with blood pressure issues and decided that I did my best to get her better by admitting her, the rest was on her and I cut communication. The hospital is going to take care of all her needs, stop feeding into her control game by answering the calls and doing what she asks. Put this on her and the hospital. In the long run you will save yourself heartbreak and headaches.
One of my best friends is finding out the sex of her baby today and keeps saying she "doesn't know what she'll do if it's another boy." (She has one son already) I'm trying really hard to be supportive but also want to shake her- I knew you guys would understand my rage and I just had to vent. Like... GET A GRIP. This is someone who's gone through the whole IVF circus. You'd think she would have some perspective but ugh, I guess not.
I'm also in the four day work week club! We have every other Friday off due to not using our built-in snow make-up days!
@MKRLTX I am right there with you! I had a growth scan a few weeks ago after measuring ahead at my previous appointment. Her overall size/weight was in the 60th percentile, but her head was in the 90th! At my appointment on Friday, my fundal height was measuring at 36 weeks, so I have another growth scan next week.
@Elyse1384 I wish I had a chocolate croissant while waiting for my ultrasound this morning. All I got to have was orange glucola
@EmeraldNC I'm sorry you are having to deal with that, It's a lot for any kid to have to see their parents struggling, let alone to do that while you are pregnant and worry about how that emotional stress will impact things. I hope they can get her to a more regulated state quickly.
I took a half day so I could do my ultrasound and glucose test this morning. I've been here a whopping hour and have gotten nothing done. I should've taken the day off. I am exhausted right now and I'm feeling slightly useless. But I have minimal sick days so I didn't want to use them now.
@EmeraldNC thoughts and prayers sent your way. Keep your head up!
I really really wish I took the day off. The weather is so beautiful today! At least it was also really nice yesterday, but I think I'll just go stand outside randomly throughout the day.
I'm so tempted to call in sick tomorrow @danij0. It's going to be close to 80 here! But I have 2 meetings (which can be covered by someone else). We'll see, I really should save my sick days for maternity leave, but I'm somewhat selfish sometimes.
@EmeraldNC i feel for you! Have you ever done a class put on for the families? I deal with similar situations with my sister. She has been in and out of private and public facilities. As of now, I have zero relationship with her. Zip! Which has to be harder for you since this is your mom. Going to one of the facilities week long family retreats is what helped me the most. They helped me figure out what that I can't feel guilty, and what my boundaries were with my sister.
I'll be praying for you guys @EmeraldNC I know how stressful this can be. My dad has bipolar disorder and schizophrenia and regularly goes off his medication. He has been hospitalized several times. If you need anyone to talk to about it feel free to PM me. ❤️
@EmeraldNC Im sorry you and ypur family are going through this. Hopefully she stabilizes and you can set safe boundaries for everyone. Praying for you guys!
@EmeraldNC I'm so sorry about your mom. My dad has been dealing with similar issues for as long as I can remember. He has been admitted to a few different hospitals. It's stressful every time. I'll be thinking of you.
Went and picked up my gd supplies. Then went to the park with DD2. My allergies are going crazy now. I.cant.breath.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@EmeraldNC It's pretty great! The only downside is on snowy years. For the past three years, we had to go a week or more extra at the end of the year after using up all of our built-in snow days and then some.
Did anyone send a boundary setting email regarding what will happen after baby is born to family? My parents will be staying with us and my in laws will be flying down and staying at a hotel as soon as they find out I'm in labor. We have no problem with the visitors, and it won't work to stager bc SIL is due two weeks after me and this is their first grandchild, but after our class at the hospital yesterday I have been thinking of sending an email out to set expectations as far as visiting and what to expect. I know that our parents are excited, but I want to reiterate that there will be a lot of BFing and napping going on and that I will likely kick everyone out of the room at the hospital during feedings etc. Also when we get home, getting into our new routine is the top priority and everyone is welcome to sit around and look at the baby, but I'm sure I'll be spending a lot of time with feedings. Did anyone do something like this and if so, how did it go over? Anyone else planning to?
@MKRLTX I always thought there was no way on earth I'd breastfeed in front of, say, my FIL, but by the time DD was about 12 hours old I no longer gave any fucks. My attitude was basically "if you're in my house or hospital room, and you don't want to see it, get to stepping, because this is happening." I truly never thought I'd breastfeed in public without a cover, but I did that a lot too. You may not even care by the time the kid is outside of you.
I didn't send an email, we just told our parents the plans. my in-laws left as soon as we told them I was in labor because they have just an 8 hour drive and we needed someone to be at the house with the cats. My mom came the day I got home from the hospital (she figured she'd be more useful once we were home, which is true). She flies usually or has a 10-11 hour drive, and she works (the in-laws are business owners who have a lot more flexibility), so she can't just leave on a whim. My mom stayed about 10 days and then when she left my in laws came back for a few days. We had people in the house with us for 2 weeks probably. I don't know what we'll do this time...the in laws will still come first so they can watch DD, but I suspect I might want more help this time what with the toddler to care for. I totally judged my SIL for having her mom stay with her for the first month after #2 was born (her in laws live 30 minutes away and her parents have to fly to get there), but I completely understand it now. MIL is awesome, I would let her live with me forever and clean my house/make me dinner/watch my kid. We always tell them to come whenever they want and stay as long as they want, but they feel like they're imposing. I want to be like I AM NOT JUST BEING NICE PLEASE SERIOUSLY COME ALL THE TIME haha.
@MKRLTX We didn't send an email, but my brother and SIL did when they had their first. No one thought it was weird - it was helpful for grandparents to know what to expect. Definitely do it if you feel it will make you more comfortable!
We make it pretty clear that visits are fine, but they must be short and I won't get baby up just to be ooohed and ahhhed over. I would also go crazy if someone stayed with us!
We also don't tell anyone that I'm in labor before baby is born. MIL is not a fan of this at all, but she wouldn't be able to keep the news to herself. I'm a fairly private person and we don't feel that anyone really needs to know other than whoever is staying with DS (probably my mom because she won't tell anyone).
I would never, ever, in a million years, BF in the same room as my FIL...but I also am not really comfortable nursing with anyone in the room other than nurses/LCs and DH! No public nursing for me. But comfort levels differ.
I was discharged from high risk! Arrhythmias were benign, second echo looked great. And she's growing well and is perfectly average. They compared her growth to my son and she is slightly ahead of where he was. So no growth concerns! Glad to have that behind us!
I've never really thought about sending an email, but I also believe I have family that would respect my wishes and wouldn't just pop in and disrupt things and would try to be sensitive.
Neither of our parents will be coming until after the baby is born unless they happen to buy their tickets ahead of time and I go super late. I'm having my baby at a birth center, so I won't be in a hospital or anywhere other than home for multiple nights unless something goes wrong. I haven't talked to H about what we'll do when I go into labor. I like the idea of just texting our parents and letting them know and that we won't be answering our phones so they can pray for us and not telling anyone else until after and potentially after we're already home. I do have other extended family in the area, including some I'm really close to, but at this point, I would prefer if no one came to the birth center. We'll see if I change my mind.
I wouldn't mind too much if my sister came, but I would feel much more uncomfortable with my SIL. I like her fine, but I would feel uncomfortable and worried about offending her if we asked her to leave, while I would be fine saying that to my sister. And based on past experiences, she's (SIL) not the best at taking a hint.
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@Elyse1384 agreed, there are some very weird people. Takes all kinds of kinds?
Shock of all shocks, my TB test came back negative. However, the doctor's office also appears to have "misplaced" my adoption paperwork, so I'm giving them until noon to get their shit together before I lose it.
We're coming up on the finish line for our basement remodel! We have a friend coming in for the weekend next weekend (after Easter) so we have a clear "must be finished with the guest room by then) date. I'm excited to decorate!!
@krex-2 Completing projects always feels so good...and then you get to decorate!
We had an ultrasound on Friday and found out that our little girl's head is trending in the 97% percentile and she is about 2 weeks ahead, which I certainly didn't want to hear. My H has a bigger head and talking to his mom over the weekend we found out he was also 9lbs, so it's not looking good for me!
As most of you know, I don't have a great relationship with my mom. And actually had decided to cut her out of my life altogether after a recent incident where she began her emotional abuse and manipulation again. Well, Thursday night my sister (who has the same type of relationship with my mom) called me in tears and said "somethings really wrong with mom, and I think we need to get her to the hospital." After talking to my aunt (mom's sister) and then my mom... It was clear that she was off her medication (she is bi-polar) and in an extreme manic state. It was nothing like I have ever seen/heard and my degree is in psychology!! Anyways... although I dislike this woman that I can almost bare, I talked her into going to the doctor and the doctor recommended she go to the ER for a psychological evaluation. Long story (just a tad shorter) she has been committed. It looks like she will be in there for some time... and she is still very much manic. She goes from being grateful my sister and I made her go, to mad in the matter of seconds. She also is using her ability to call us (I had no idea this was allowed in the psych ward) to manipulate my sister and I (can you do this and that for me, when are you coming to visit, will you bring me this and that, look what you did to me, etc.) so, needless to say... I. AM. EXHAUSTED.
And my blood pressure has been high (shocker!) Anyways... if you are the praying type, please say a prayer for me and my family. This is something I never thought at 30 (and my sister at 27) would be having to deal with. It is like taking care of a very sick parent.
@MKRLTX eeek! My dad has a HUGE head and was 11lbs 11oz when born. Many cousins have had large headed 9 and 10lb babies. My SIL went to the Ped with my oldest nephew when he was three months and said, "So now have we discussed his unusually large head?" I feel your pain.
@EmeraldNC I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I hope things start to look up for her and you are able to relax some. All the good vibes heading to you!
@krex-2 decorating is the best part!!
Some of my family is on a cruise and most of my friends are on Spring Break and I'm over here wondering why I didn't get into teaching...
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@EmeraldNC, you poor thing!! Sending lots of positive thoughts your way, and I hope your mom stabilizes soon. Huge hugs!
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
One of my best friends is finding out the sex of her baby today and keeps saying she "doesn't know what she'll do if it's another boy." (She has one son already) I'm trying really hard to be supportive but also want to shake her- I knew you guys would understand my rage and I just had to vent. Like... GET A GRIP. This is someone who's gone through the whole IVF circus. You'd think she would have some perspective but ugh, I guess not.
@MKRLTX I am right there with you! I had a growth scan a few weeks ago after measuring ahead at my previous appointment. Her overall size/weight was in the 60th percentile, but her head was in the 90th! At my appointment on Friday, my fundal height was measuring at 36 weeks, so I have another growth scan next week.
@EmeraldNC I'm sorry you are having to deal with that, It's a lot for any kid to have to see their parents struggling, let alone to do that while you are pregnant and worry about how that emotional stress will impact things. I hope they can get her to a more regulated state quickly.
I really really wish I took the day off. The weather is so beautiful today! At least it was also really nice yesterday, but I think I'll just go stand outside randomly throughout the day.
Went and picked up my gd supplies. Then went to the park with DD2. My allergies are going crazy now. I.cant.breath.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@MKRLTX I always thought there was no way on earth I'd breastfeed in front of, say, my FIL, but by the time DD was about 12 hours old I no longer gave any fucks. My attitude was basically "if you're in my house or hospital room, and you don't want to see it, get to stepping, because this is happening." I truly never thought I'd breastfeed in public without a cover, but I did that a lot too. You may not even care by the time the kid is outside of you.
I didn't send an email, we just told our parents the plans. my in-laws left as soon as we told them I was in labor because they have just an 8 hour drive and we needed someone to be at the house with the cats. My mom came the day I got home from the hospital (she figured she'd be more useful once we were home, which is true). She flies usually or has a 10-11 hour drive, and she works (the in-laws are business owners who have a lot more flexibility), so she can't just leave on a whim. My mom stayed about 10 days and then when she left my in laws came back for a few days. We had people in the house with us for 2 weeks probably. I don't know what we'll do this time...the in laws will still come first so they can watch DD, but I suspect I might want more help this time what with the toddler to care for. I totally judged my SIL for having her mom stay with her for the first month after #2 was born (her in laws live 30 minutes away and her parents have to fly to get there), but I completely understand it now. MIL is awesome, I would let her live with me forever and clean my house/make me dinner/watch my kid. We always tell them to come whenever they want and stay as long as they want, but they feel like they're imposing. I want to be like I AM NOT JUST BEING NICE PLEASE SERIOUSLY COME ALL THE TIME haha.
We make it pretty clear that visits are fine, but they must be short and I won't get baby up just to be ooohed and ahhhed over.
I would also go crazy if someone stayed with us!
We also don't tell anyone that I'm in labor before baby is born. MIL is not a fan of this at all, but she wouldn't be able to keep the news to herself. I'm a fairly private person and we don't feel that anyone really needs to know other than whoever is staying with DS (probably my mom because she won't tell anyone).
I would never, ever, in a million years, BF in the same room as my FIL...but I also am not really comfortable nursing with anyone in the room other than nurses/LCs and DH! No public nursing for me. But comfort levels differ.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
Neither of our parents will be coming until after the baby is born unless they happen to buy their tickets ahead of time and I go super late. I'm having my baby at a birth center, so I won't be in a hospital or anywhere other than home for multiple nights unless something goes wrong. I haven't talked to H about what we'll do when I go into labor. I like the idea of just texting our parents and letting them know and that we won't be answering our phones so they can pray for us and not telling anyone else until after and potentially after we're already home. I do have other extended family in the area, including some I'm really close to, but at this point, I would prefer if no one came to the birth center. We'll see if I change my mind.
I wouldn't mind too much if my sister came, but I would feel much more uncomfortable with my SIL. I like her fine, but I would feel uncomfortable and worried about offending her if we asked her to leave, while I would be fine saying that to my sister. And based on past experiences, she's (SIL) not the best at taking a hint.