Does anyone else get distracted by their baby kicks? Several times today at work I've realized I'm kicked back in my chair just watching my stomach dance.
@JessyKV, I have to dip them in peanut butter to tolerate them. Or I've been eating Larabars daily too, they're made with dates, so I assume it's the same concept.
I didn't even think of this! I already eat Larabars daily so I'm good! I never tried evening primrose or red raspberry leaf tea last pregnancy, so will be trying them out this time just for comparison.
This sounds ridiculous but it hit me tonight, "you are pregnant. In 2 months there will be a new person in your family."
It made me a little sad. I can't wait for our daughter to join us but we have been a family of 3 for almost 4 years. My son is my baby, my whole world. I am going to miss that. Once she is here, I will be wondering how we ever lived without her but still....
Sorry, feeling all deep and emotional tonight.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
@kahlan82 I've been having moments of this as well, where I feel guilty for soon having to divide my time and attention. I try to snap myself out of it by thinking about what a wonderful gift we are giving to DD in giving her a sibling.
@kahlan82 and @doodleoodle, I'm having the same feelings. I'm so worried to divide time and I don't want DS to stop being the "baby". If this baby is colicky like he was, how will I be able to always be there when he needs me? Then poor DD goes one more step down the ladder because she's older and self-sufficient. The balance is tough.
My good friend says she loves all her children the same but for different reasons. That helped my brain but I guess I didn't realize how big a change this would be. Having our first now that was a huge change but the second? I guess it is too.
I tried to explaim it to DH tonight. He wasn't getting it. Sometimes I think being a man would be easier.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
+1 to all the emotions about adding a baby to our family. DS is so independent and does so well, but my heart occasionally aches when I think about the times he's going to want/need me and I may not be able to help him right away. I've cried quite a few times over this.
I posted over the weekend about my brother being hospitalized with crazy neurological symptoms. The doctors have ruled out a lot of things, but they still don't have a diagnosis. They've been testing him like crazy (two MRIs, lots of blood tests, a couple days on an EEG, a spinal tap...), and so far nothing has come back with a clear explanation. They have him on a higher dose of a seizure medicine he's been on for a few months, but the neurologists don't think that the majority of his symptoms are caused by seizures. The theory right now is that it may be an autoimmune encephalopathy, but the test for that on his sample from the spinal tap takes a few days, I guess. Apparently that would be treatable though, so they started the treatment for it this evening. He's still having a lot of really terrible and confusing symptoms (hallucinations sometimes, screaming and panicking for hours at a time sometimes, and totally nonverbal at other times), but I am kind of hopeful that this new theory could be right and he will be ok in a few days.
I didn't get to see him today, because I have a cousin from Norway who is visiting until Sunday. She was supposed to stay at my parents' house, but that's obviously not happening with one of them at the hospital 24/7, so she's at my house. It's the worst timing ever, but I'm trying to make the best of it. She's great and totally understanding, so I may try to get to the hospital for a while tomorrow night even though she will be here.
Eta- Sorry my only posts are AW this week. I'll get back to not being a shitty community member soon. I promise.
Add me to the feeling weepy about adding another, though I do want to say that each time I stressed or cried about it each pregnancy, my children have totally been fine and adapted beautifully, but I still can't help but feel like I'm turning their world upside down.
Plus one to the weepy about adding another. My oldest is excited and she can't wait to help. My 2 yo on the other hand is super attached to me. She calls herself 'mommy baby'. Being a sahm means we are super close and I just have no idea how she will react to the change. I'm excited, but I'm terrified at the same time.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
@ellie111227 continuing to send positive thoughts your way. Im sorry your brother is so sick.
Im also feeling sad/guilty about how the new baby will impact my son. Hes my little buddy, my sweet baby boy, his daddys world and I dont want him to feel like hes any less of those things. Hes 2 so I know he'll be fine but it just feels so bittersweet.
The guilt set in for me last week too. DD is always commenting on my clothes and how she is going to ask for the same thing for Christmas so we an match. I bought a few matching things for us and she is super excited. I also told her that this is just for Mommy and her since baby brother would not have girl clothes like us. She is such a Mamas girl, but she is also super excited for baby brother to come. To be honest, before I got pregnant, I also felt guilt over not giving her a sibling when she wanted one SOOOOOOO badly. So basically, no matter what I have Mom guilt LOL
@ellie111227. I hope they get you some concrete answers soon.
Mommy guilt is the worst. I have such a hard time "allowing" myself to take a break. DS is also super excited about DD coming. This is one place where I think them being different sexes might help. Maybe he won't see her as competition as much. Of course, I am basing this on nothing. Personality and age probably have more to do with it.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
I was pretty weepy when I went from 1 to 2. I would try to imagine loving another the way I loved #1 and I would get so sad thinking about not being able to give her us 100%. It is such a futile thing to worry about. Maybe that's why this time I am so not worried about it. They have each other and they already know what it's like to have a sibling. Plus, they are so excited about this baby. So, I am glad to report that I have no worries about bringing home this new baby to my kids!
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
I'm also weepy about bringing another baby into the mix. I know it will all work out and we will be one big happy family. But I'm wondering about the logistics. How do you balance a 22 month old with a newborn while on maternity leave? It's just going to be the three of us during the day and that's scary!
Question: with the caveat of "Ask your doctor" and "It's a personal decision" being the top 2 answers, any thoughts on taking a 4-5 hour car trip (each way) about 2.5 weeks before my due date? I think it's going to have to be a last minute decision, and I would be with DH/DD (and going to where my parents live, and the whole trip is down the East Coast, so always pretty close to cities/hospitals). I'm fully aware that I'll end up rather uncomfortable, and just wondering if anyone else has done (or is considering) something similar.
@c1tym0m22 we have a cabin about 4 hours away and normally we go in mid May to help DH's parents open up for the spring/summer. And normally we would go Memorial Day weekend also. This year we are not going just in case I go in to labor super early. I'm not due until June 25, but we are being cautious! I even checked to see if the hospital up there is in network and it is not. I don't even think DH is going in mid May to help out. So personally, I wouldn't go. Unless the hospitals you will be near are in-network!
@c1tym0m22 I would just be nervous that I'd go into labor somewhere that doesn't have all of my information and it would be a more stressful experience. My doctor said travel was fine up to 36 weeks, so even though I would love have one last getaway over Memorial Day weekend, we will be staying put. I would probably get copies of your records from your OB if you do decide to go and make sure you know which hospital near your parents you'd want to end up at if you did go into labor.
@c1tym0m22, another thing to consider is if baby ends up in the nicu for some reason and can't be transported for a while. You might have to stay wherever you are longer than planned.
@merrylea and @alm52386 Thankfully, my insurance will cover me having the baby pretty much anywhere at roughly the same cost to me (for which I'm incredibly grateful).
@MKRLTX Excellent point re: records. Would want to ask my ob about that too!
@LAMCH1980 Great point re: NICU. If it wasn't heading to where my parents live, I wouldn't be considering it for that very reason.
Hmm. This is seeming like a bad idea the more I think about it. (And for the last bit of context: it's for a memorial service for my best friend's mom. We've been friends since high school, and her mom hosted my bridal shower, so she was pretty important to me too. I know my friend will understand if I'm not there, but I'd like to be.)
I am so glad to read that I am not the only one struggling with adding another child, and being worried I am going to rock DD3's world. She is the baby, and I very much struggle with her NOT being the baby anymore.
Question: with the caveat of "Ask your doctor" and "It's a personal decision" being the top 2 answers, any thoughts on taking a 4-5 hour car trip (each way) about 2.5 weeks before my due date? I think it's going to have to be a last minute decision, and I would be with DH/DD (and going to where my parents live, and the whole trip is down the East Coast, so always pretty close to cities/hospitals). I'm fully aware that I'll end up rather uncomfortable, and just wondering if anyone else has done (or is considering) something similar.
I went to my sister's wedding at 38.5 weeks with DD. it was a 10 hour drive, and we only stayed for like 36 hours. I didn't finalize plans to go until the day before we were leaving (asked my doctor), and I had a backup plan up there just in case...it was in my hometown and a friend from HS is an OBGYN there who is in-network with my insurance, so I had her on call just in case. I figured if I had to deliver there and was stuck staying there a while it wouldn't be a big deal, as my entire family is still in the area and DH's family is only 2 hours away, so it would actually be kind of convenient. We were a little nervous about me going into labor during the drive, but we took the chance. I was very uncomfortable in the car, but it was fine.
If you have contingency plans in place, I would go...it sounds like an important event, and 4.5 hours isn't a HORRIBLE drive - you can go up and back in one day if you really want to. but I'd schedule your weekly doctor appointment for the day before to get final clearance. For me, I hadn't dilated at all yet, so I figured I still had plenty of time (however I also hadn't dilated at all at my appointment at 39+3 and I went into labor at 39+6, so that may not have been the best indication of anything).
As far as the new dynamic the baby will bring, I've had moments thru out this pregnancy about feeing guilty how it will effect ds. He's 17 months old and he is so clingy that I'm actually hoping this baby will be the little push he needs to be able to not be totally attached to me 24/7. Like oh mom is nursing baby again that's not fun I'd rather play with my toys. Instead of now he will not leave my side no matter what. If anything I feel a little guilty about this upcoming baby not being able to receive the same attention that I have given my first.
I've also been thinking about adding a new baby to to the mix and what it's going to do to my DD. It's been just her for 5 years and she and I are really close. When I was putting her to bed the other night she was lamenting that I'm not going to have any time to take care of her anymore when the baby comes, which made me feel awful that this was something she thought about! I'm done my internship May 12th and due June 15th, so I told her we'll make a list of all the stuff she wants to do just me and her before the baby comes.
+1 to feelings about adding another LO to the mix. I worried about this when I was pregnant with DD and didn't want DS to feel cast aside in any way. I was pleasantly surprised by how my heart multiplied instead of divided. Remembering that has helped me enjoy this pregnancy more because I know it won't change anything I feel for DS and DD. That said, I do feel crazy mom guilt at times if DS thinks I'm ignoring him while tending to DD. DD has only ever known "splitting" mom's attention, but DS had me all to himself for 20 months. At night though when I tuck him in, I always say "You know why you're so extra special? You made me a mommy". He loves that and I think it helps remind him that a growing family doesn't mean less love for him.
Asked my OB about RRL tea today. She didn't seem to have an opinion but said if I wanted to try it then she thought it was fine.
Being a FTM I don't have anything to add to the adding a baby to the mix, but DH and I have been together 10 years and married 6 and I get a little sad when I think about it not just being the two of us anymore. We're excited, but its obviously going to be a huge change.
My belly has been measuring 1.5-2 weeks ahead at my appts lately. Did anyone else measure consistently big, and did it affect when you actually gave birth? OB says we wouldn't actually change the due date until we see how baby measures at the 36 week ultrasound.
Re: Randoms 4/10
ETA: After reading through I think I will also say no to dates.
I never tried evening primrose or red raspberry leaf tea last pregnancy, so will be trying them out this time just for comparison.
ETA: it was March. Don't mind me, I'm dumb.
It made me a little sad. I can't wait for our daughter to join us but we have been a family of 3 for almost 4 years. My son is my baby, my whole world. I am going to miss that. Once she is here, I will be wondering how we ever lived without her but still....
Sorry, feeling all deep and emotional tonight.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
~Everyone Welcome~
I tried to explaim it to DH tonight. He wasn't getting it. Sometimes I think being a man would be easier.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
I didn't get to see him today, because I have a cousin from Norway who is visiting until Sunday. She was supposed to stay at my parents' house, but that's obviously not happening with one of them at the hospital 24/7, so she's at my house. It's the worst timing ever, but I'm trying to make the best of it. She's great and totally understanding, so I may try to get to the hospital for a while tomorrow night even though she will be here.
Eta- Sorry my only posts are AW this week. I'll get back to not being a shitty community member soon. I promise.
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
Im also feeling sad/guilty about how the new baby will impact my son. Hes my little buddy, my sweet baby boy, his daddys world and I dont want him to feel like hes any less of those things. Hes 2 so I know he'll be fine but it just feels so bittersweet.
Mommy guilt is the worst. I have such a hard time "allowing" myself to take a break. DS is also super excited about DD coming. This is one place where I think them being different sexes might help. Maybe he won't see her as competition as much. Of course, I am basing this on nothing. Personality and age probably have more to do with it.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
BFP #1 9/1999. DD Born 6/7/2000
BFP #2 10/2011. EDD 7/11/12. MMC discovered 11/2/11. D&C 11/4/11.
DX PCOS 10/2012.
BFP#3 1/11/13. DS Born 9/17/2013
BFP#4 9/30/17. Grow baby grow!
~Everyone Welcome~
@MKRLTX Excellent point re: records. Would want to ask my ob about that too!
@LAMCH1980 Great point re: NICU. If it wasn't heading to where my parents live, I wouldn't be considering it for that very reason.
Hmm. This is seeming like a bad idea the more I think about it. (And for the last bit of context: it's for a memorial service for my best friend's mom. We've been friends since high school, and her mom hosted my bridal shower, so she was pretty important to me too. I know my friend will understand if I'm not there, but I'd like to be.)
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
I went to my sister's wedding at 38.5 weeks with DD. it was a 10 hour drive, and we only stayed for like 36 hours. I didn't finalize plans to go until the day before we were leaving (asked my doctor), and I had a backup plan up there just in case...it was in my hometown and a friend from HS is an OBGYN there who is in-network with my insurance, so I had her on call just in case. I figured if I had to deliver there and was stuck staying there a while it wouldn't be a big deal, as my entire family is still in the area and DH's family is only 2 hours away, so it would actually be kind of convenient. We were a little nervous about me going into labor during the drive, but we took the chance. I was very uncomfortable in the car, but it was fine.
If you have contingency plans in place, I would go...it sounds like an important event, and 4.5 hours isn't a HORRIBLE drive - you can go up and back in one day if you really want to. but I'd schedule your weekly doctor appointment for the day before to get final clearance. For me, I hadn't dilated at all yet, so I figured I still had plenty of time (however I also hadn't dilated at all at my appointment at 39+3 and I went into labor at 39+6, so that may not have been the best indication of anything).
As far as the new dynamic the baby will bring, I've had moments thru out this pregnancy about feeing guilty how it will effect ds. He's 17 months old and he is so clingy that I'm actually hoping this baby will be the little push he needs to be able to not be totally attached to me 24/7. Like oh mom is nursing baby again that's not fun I'd rather play with my toys. Instead of now he will not leave my side no matter what. If anything I feel a little guilty about this upcoming baby not being able to receive the same attention that I have given my first.
Being a FTM I don't have anything to add to the adding a baby to the mix, but DH and I have been together 10 years and married 6 and I get a little sad when I think about it not just being the two of us anymore. We're excited, but its obviously going to be a huge change.