DD (3) asked if baby brother will have a "jina" like her or a "long jina" like the 2 baby boys at the babysitter. I am calling penises "long jinas" for now on LOL
He slept for about an hour and a half then woke up and is now napping on me. I'm enjoying the sweet cuddles and hope he is in a better mood when he wakes up. His transition to toddler has been hard I feel like. And I know he's really going to struggle when this baby comes. He's such a snuggler and mama's boy. DD will be my little helper.
This is my first pregnancy staying home. I worked a full time desk job with the other two. And I remember being miserable at my desk and exhausted but staying home and being pregnant is a whole new level of hard for me.
For those of you with little boys that take off all of their clothes while pooping, some boys never grow out of it... DH has to take his shirt off. If I walk into our bedroom and see the bathroom door closed and his shirt lying on the bed then I know he needs some privacy men are just little boys that got older.
@JessyKV good for you for putting taking care of yourself before taking care of the house. SAHMs unite!
This is my husband too!! I figured this out several years ago when we were dating in college, and he drunkenly texted me from a wedding reception bathroom to tell me that he couldn't get his tie re-tied. I still giggle about it!
We're still packing to move this weekend, which is stressful enough, but DH is having a really hard time with being able to declutter because he's so damn nostalgic about everything.
We agreed a few days ago that it doesn't make sense to keep the Christmas tree that he still has from when he was a kid, and just now when I starts talking about listing it online to get rid of, he got really sad about it. When I re-listed all the reasons we had talked about why it made sense to get rid of (including its a pain in the ass to move, not to mention assemble, and will not be used for at least 2 year since we are moving in with his parents who already have a replacement tree) it upset him enough that he told me I was "making him feel dumb about it", and he's decided he needs to go for a nap instead of continuing packing.
@CapricaAndrea Sounds like a perfect time to list the tree online then! Seriously though, I get it. Going through things can be tough, but I have moved so many times that all I keep is "memories" that fit into a couple of storage totes. Maybe draw a line on how many things can move with you if this continues to be a walk down memory lane and he's having trouble parting with things? If it were my hubby I would be listing that tree online and then waking him up from his nap because no way would my pregnant self be packing alone!!! Sorry if I sound harsh. I am just losing my patience more and more as I get further along! I used to be so even tempered...
As far as men undressing to use the restroom... any Seinfeld fans here? There was an episode about that with George doing the same thing.
@MKRLTX oh it's still being listed, and I don't think it's necessarily that fact that's bothering him, it's more the whole thing where apparently I made him feel dumb about being nostalgic, even though all I did was list the exact same reasons we'd already agreed upon.
I feel like it's getting to the point where all I ever post about on here is how his anxiety and depression have reached peak levels in the last few weeks which has caused tension between us about nearly every topic we ever try to discuss. I'm crossing my fingers that in a couple weeks after we move and he's left his stressful job that things will de-escalate a bit, because right now reading the July thread about how baby changes your relationship terrifies me, since I feel like we're already starting out with a big rift between us.
@CapricaAndrea I worry about how the baby will change everything too. I haven't read the July thread, but I have been spending more of my time in therapy taking about how to include my husband in more decisions and share responsibilities since my default is to control everything.
@MKRLTX there is a similar one in "The Office" Oscar: What are you doing? Kevin: I’m trying to decide if I have time to pee. Oscar: How long do you take to pee? Kevin: The peeing is fast, Oscar. It’s getting my tie back on.
I've known a few sailors in my career who were raised that when they went #2 they had to shower afterwards. I have no idea how they've survived in the navy much less in life unless they have their bodies trained to only go when it's shower time.
@Mother0fDragons keep your head up. I know how difficult it can be learn there might be/or is an issue with your little one. Stay positive and know that modern medicine is amazing and can do a lot if she has an issue.
I know I shouldn't, but I can't keep from stalking my registry, and someone just bought the car seat! Yay! One less expensive thing we have to buy!
I did this for our wedding... and I'm doing it again now lol you're not the only one dear! I hate surprises and I like to know what I need to start budgeting for.
Question: when someone posts about a situation that isn't positive or may need some feelings from the group, is it insulting for me to put "prayers for you?" Since they may not be religious? I am, so it's natural for me to say that. I have been trying to be conscious of it, but does it really matter?
Question: when someone posts about a situation that isn't positive or may need some feelings from the group, is it insulting for me to put "prayers for you?" Since they may not be religious? I am, so it's natural for me to say that. I have been trying to be conscious of it, but does it really matter?
I'm not religious, but I would recognize that anyone saying that meant it as well wishes and sympathy, so it wouldn't wouldn't bother me, though I'm sure some people might get up in arms about it.
@Mother0fDragons sorry to hear, hopefully they'll get your US moved early with no problems. Sending good thoughts your way
Wait, wait, wait - nurse who SHAVED YOU. I did not consider this a possibility! Wtf. Is this only with csection???
@EmeraldNC. I remember during my first pregnancy my dental hygienist cleaning my teeth while explaining how back in the day they would shave EVERYONE before any delivery because they thought the hair was unsanitary. She went on and on about being shaved by the nurse, being induced, nothing happening, being sent home, the pain of the hair starting to grow back before going in a week later to do the process again. I was like this can't be real. Is this woman real flossing my teeth while discussing her vagina being shaved?
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
@Wino0920. It doesn't bother me either. Well wishes are well wishes.
I am watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse with DS and Mickey is looking for a triangle bush. "Where is the triangle bush? Can you find triange bush?" I just can't.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
Have you ever been called by a non 7 digit number? 888-04 just called me. She said she was with the government. Then asked if my mother was with me. When I said no she said she would call back later. What in the world???
Have you ever been called by a non 7 digit number? 888-04 just called me. She said she was with the government. Then asked if my mother was with me. When I said no she said she would call back later. What in the world???
We just received word that there are more scams going around involving Social Security, IRS, and Dept. of VA, just don't give out any info, obviously.
Thanks, ladies. I'm sure it'll be ok it just seems that this little one keeps being a little one and as much as I love ultrasounds and seeing her I like not stressing about possible health issues way more. Especially cardiac related since that's the whole reason we follow high risk (I had a heart defect at birth).
Watch her come out like 10lbs.
@Wino0920 good question. I always worry I'll offend someone with my prayers so I usually omit the phrase unless they specifically ask
@Wino0920 I find there's a distinction between "prayers for you" and "I'm praying for you". First option is totally fine by me, the second would hit me personally the wrong way - but if someone has said "please pray for us", that's totally different.
@Mother0fDragons Just to ease your mind, DD had fetal arrrythmia and I had to be monitored more frequently. I was even sent to he hospital over night for monitoring twice, and induced early. All that to find out the arrhythmia was due to the fact that her cord was around her stomach and she was rolling on it!
Hope yours turns out to be nothing as well! I know how stressful it is!
@Wino0920 I find there's a distinction between "prayers for you" and "I'm praying for you". First option is totally fine by me, the second would hit me personally the wrong way - but if someone has said "please pray for us", that's totally different.
May I ask what the difference is? To me, they sound the same so I'm just wondering.
Now I'm super worried I've offended ladies on this board at one time or another with "I'm praying for you."
Please just know if I've ever said that to you, it's because I've literally read your post, it touched me in some way, and I stopped right then and there and said a quick prayer for you. I'm a person who prays constantly about things, because I have such bad anxiety, it seems to help me relieve it better.. I've only ever meant it with the best intention.
@Wino0920 I find there's a distinction between "prayers for you" and "I'm praying for you". First option is totally fine by me, the second would hit me personally the wrong way - but if someone has said "please pray for us", that's totally different.
May I ask what the difference is? To me, they sound the same so I'm just wondering.
Totally fair question that is taking me a while to sort out in my head - it's not an "obvious" distinction, clearly. I *think* that it's due to being raised Jewish where that's just not something my family or others I know with a similar religious background would ever say. I don't consider myself religious at this point in time, and having someone saying they're praying for me makes me feel somewhat uncomfortable (even though I know that's entirely not the intent, and they may or may not be actually praying on my behalf). The more simple "thoughts and prayers" feels less personal / religiously oriented, if that makes any sense.
Apologies if I've offended anyone here - or accidentally veered into UO territory. I appreciate the diversity of our opinions and backgrounds here, and don't want anyone feeling stifled by what I'm saying - especially since it is likely a minority opinion.
@EmeraldNC Just saw your post - I can only speak for myself, but no offense ever taken when someone has said it to me (either on the internet or IRL), and I would say a sincere "thank you" for it. This is totally my issue which I'm now sitting and pondering.
@Wino0920. It doesn't bother me either. Well wishes are well wishes.
I am watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse with DS and Mickey is looking for a triangle bush. "Where is the triangle bush? Can you find triange bush?" I just can't.
Mickey's Road Race? That's the only episode on Netflix (or it was 3 years ago). I had to leave the room while Mickey was looking for the triangle shaped bush. It's like they do it on purpose.
I am not religious, so I don't say thoughts and prayers, because it would be false, but it never offends me if somebody says it to me. It's all positive vibes.
Re: Weekly Randoms 3/27
He slept for about an hour and a half then woke up and is now napping on me. I'm enjoying the sweet cuddles and hope he is in a better mood when he wakes up. His transition to toddler has been hard I feel like. And I know he's really going to struggle when this baby comes. He's such a snuggler and mama's boy. DD will be my little helper.
This is my first pregnancy staying home. I worked a full time desk job with the other two. And I remember being miserable at my desk and exhausted but staying home and being pregnant is a whole new level of hard for me.
We agreed a few days ago that it doesn't make sense to keep the Christmas tree that he still has from when he was a kid, and just now when I starts talking about listing it online to get rid of, he got really sad about it. When I re-listed all the reasons we had talked about why it made sense to get rid of (including its a pain in the ass to move, not to mention assemble, and will not be used for at least 2 year since we are moving in with his parents who already have a replacement tree) it upset him enough that he told me I was "making him feel dumb about it", and he's decided he needs to go for a nap instead of continuing packing.
Sorry if I sound harsh. I am just losing my patience more and more as I get further along!
I used to be so even tempered...
As far as men undressing to use the restroom... any Seinfeld fans here? There was an episode about that with George doing the same thing.
I feel like it's getting to the point where all I ever post about on here is how his anxiety and depression have reached peak levels in the last few weeks which has caused tension between us about nearly every topic we ever try to discuss. I'm crossing my fingers that in a couple weeks after we move and he's left his stressful job that things will de-escalate a bit, because right now reading the July thread about how baby changes your relationship terrifies me, since I feel like we're already starting out with a big rift between us.
So now we are trying to move up our high risk ultrasound we had scheduled for the end of April for a second fetal echo.
Oscar: What are you doing?
Kevin: I’m trying to decide if I have time to pee.
Oscar: How long do you take to pee?
Kevin: The peeing is fast, Oscar. It’s getting my tie back on.
I had no idea how common it was for men to take their shirts off while going to the bathroom, and I completely forgot about that Seinfeld episode!
@Mother0fDragons keep your head up. I know how difficult it can be learn there might be/or is an issue with your little one. Stay positive and know that modern medicine is amazing and can do a lot if she has an issue.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
@Mother0fDragons sorry to hear, hopefully they'll get your US moved early with no problems. Sending good thoughts your way
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
I am watching Mickey Mouse Clubhouse with DS and Mickey is looking for a triangle bush. "Where is the triangle bush? Can you find triange bush?" I just can't.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
Mom to Madison- 5 and Lillian 2....and now surprise baby #3!
We just received word that there are more scams going around involving Social Security, IRS, and Dept. of VA, just don't give out any info, obviously.
Watch her come out like 10lbs.
@Wino0920 good question. I always worry I'll offend someone with my prayers so I usually omit the phrase unless they specifically ask
@Wino0920 I find there's a distinction between "prayers for you" and "I'm praying for you". First option is totally fine by me, the second would hit me personally the wrong way - but if someone has said "please pray for us", that's totally different.
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
Hope yours turns out to be nothing as well! I know how stressful it is!
Please just know if I've ever said that to you, it's because I've literally read your post, it touched me in some way, and I stopped right then and there and said a quick prayer for you. I'm a person who prays constantly about things, because I have such bad anxiety, it seems to help me relieve it better.. I've only ever meant it with the best intention.
Apologies if I've offended anyone here - or accidentally veered into UO territory. I appreciate the diversity of our opinions and backgrounds here, and don't want anyone feeling stifled by what I'm saying - especially since it is likely a minority opinion.
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
BFP #1 6/13 DD 3/14
Mirena 10/14-5/16
BFP #2 9/2/16, CP confirmed 9/8/16
BFP #3 10/10/16 EDD 6/22/17
I think it's fair to say most people understand a sentiment is a sentiment and no one takes offense. At least on this board.