I'm not feeling too bitchy today, but there are 2 things that have annoyed me lately. 1. Don't comment on how big (or small!) a woman in her 3rd trimester is. Just leave it be. Lady at CVS who told me you "weren't even 1/2 that size at 9 months", you REALLY didn't need to follow it up on my next trip there with a "still going strong, huh?" comment. I've got 2 months left! I better be going strong.
2. Just because there's all kinds of new baby gadgets now a days you didn't have when you had a baby doesn't mean they're a waste of money or pointless. Yes Mom, you didn't use a special cup to pour water on my head for baths and you didn't need a nose freida or whatever else. Well, to me they're improvements in baby care and I want them. Still love you, but let me have a 2017 baby, not a 1980's baby.
@RedInLove@WombThereItIs +1 for organizing my groceries in my car and on the checkout line so that they go in the bag the "right" way. I actually prefer to bag my own stuff.
I'm so glad I'm not the only Type-A that organizes groceries to essentially manipulate the bagger! Too bad it often doesn't work.... but MH makes fun of me for doing it. Of course he is the most Type-B (is type C a thing because he would be that) person and doesn't even think about organization if basically anything!
@starphish18 I prefer self-checkout! My regular grocery store doesn't have it though.
@Jens_Hoes I spend so much time basically sorting everything again. Makes me wonder, if I just chuck it all up on the belt in random order, would they bag it correctly?
@nda_roxybabe I hate overloaded bags too. I bring a ton of reusable bags every time. If I spend over $100 and you use less than half my bags, you are wrong.
@CarmCeG That is ridiculous! Grown adults can be so damn petty. @Jens_Hoes That sucks about the motor and the cancelled flight. Is your family at least stuck there with you, or do they have flights going elsewhere? @nda_roxybabe I'm starting to get "whoa, about to pop!" comments as well. I don't mind my family and friends making comments (especially because they're starting to prepare me for the very real possibility that I'll deliver early...I'm tiny and this kid is probably going to run out of room), but from random strangers? Come on, folks!
I'm just over here waiting to see if I'm going to come down with the "stomach bug of DOOM" that I was possibly exposed to over the weekend. A friend of mine whose husband was out of town was violently ill and needed help with her toddler (and getting to urgent care, getting medicine, etc.). She thought it was food poisoning--and we're all still crossing our fingers that it was!--but she found out this morning that nobody else at work (where she thought she was exposed via a catered meeting on Friday) got sick, so...sigh. I guess I'm bitching about the uncertainty/waiting, combined with my phobia of vomiting and the likelihood that I would need to go to the hospital to keep hydrated (she couldn't keep anything down for 24 hours--it was ROUGH). We left their house around 9:30 PM on Saturday so tonight will mark 48 hours since the last exposure...hoping that H and I make it through!
WHY IS THERE NOT A CADBURY EGG IN MY MOUTH RIGHT NOW????
@nda_roxybabe I agree people need to keep their comments to themselves. And yet...when I am not pregnant I try to be complimentary but who knows how it comes off.
+1 for anger issues over bagging. I'm a CSM at a grocery store....and I will walk around and re-bag groceries for customers as they are checking out. It drives me nuts the way some of my cashiers bag.
I'm currently sitting in an ER waiting room because my headache exploded into an awful migraine. Some little kid sitting right next to me is blasting music on Grandpa's phone and dancing. Kill me now.
+1 for organizing my groceries in the bag a certain way! Part of the reason is when I get home I know which bags need to be put away first in the fridge/freezer so that if something comes up that I need to help either kid with, I can know that my cold food isn't going to spoil!
@Kipperoo I totally get you on the no gifts from SILs but they expect them from you in return. DHs family has not bought a single thing for this LO. His mom never ever buys things for my kids unless it's their birthday, but she spoils my SILs kids rotten. One time my ILs were in town visiting us and my MIL bought new outfits for 3 of my nephews (there are 9 grandchildren total) when we were all out shopping IN FRONT OF ME. Like hellooooo! Way to pick favorites...
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
This kid just just stomped on my foot while dancing around, and then growled in my face (he's listening to a song called "these are the sounds that the animals make")
@hp_momma that situation would make my blood boil. if it makes you feel a certain way, then imagine how it makes your little ones feel.. reminds me of my grandma and her favorites *rolls eyes*
@hp_momma that situation would make my blood boil. if it makes you feel a certain way, then imagine how it makes your little ones feel.. reminds me of my grandma and her favorites *rolls eyes*
Yes! My oldest niece is 10 and she already tells her mom "grandma buys more stuff for the twins". The rest of the grandkids are younger so I don't think they see it just yet, but I know they will start picking up on it soon.
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@SparkySunDevil I feel like now is an appropriate time to stomp his foot, yank away the cell phone (possibly smashing to bits underfoot), and make a loud comment about how a child and parent/guardian should behave in public. Man, my mind sure can dream....
@SparkySunDevil I feel like now is an appropriate time to stomp his foot, yank away the cell phone (possibly smashing to bits underfoot), and make a loud comment about how a child and parent/guardian should behave in public. Man, my mind sure can dream....
One can certainly dream. I'm finally back in a room. Much quieter than it was
@hp_momma I know the feeling. My ILs see my niece way more often than DD. In fact, they haven't traveled to us in over a year and a half. In that time, we've traveled to them twice. They watch my niece for a week at a time several times a year and buy her stuff all the time. My MIL actually bought something off DD's Amazon xmas registry for my niece. (side note: we make DD an amazon registry for xmas while we are in other stores. If she asks us for a specific toy in Target, now she asks to put it on her christmas list.) So DD had asked for an Elena dress up outfit for Christmas. I went to buy it off her registry, saw it was purchased, and got something else. Later, SIL sends us a video of the nieces and nephews opening our xmas presents and I see niece open the Elena gown from MIL in the background. I know it was just MIL not knowing how to properly Amazon, but it still irked me. She also bought DD something else off her list that was already purchased. I wasn't going to say anything but DD spilled the beans so MIL told us to return it. AND THEY NEVER GOT HER ANYTHING ELSE. I feel like my DD is missing out on the grandparent experience my nephews and niece get.
WTF grocery store bagger guy. When I sort my cart by like items so that I can put them in the belt sorted, I expect they'll be bagged as such.
Example #1. I bought 1 lemon, 1 lime, and 2 bananas, along with packaged precut fresh pineapple and watermelon. One bag? Nope. Spread over 5 bags. And the bananas were in 2 different bags!!
Example #2. A package of deli cheese, a bag of snack cheese, and a small container of dip. Three different bags.
Example #3. Two boxes of frozen fish, 2 bags of frozen foods, and 4 boxes of frozen meals. All spread out and intermixed with things like pasta, my bread, and something produce.
Example #4. I had five canned items, plus a couple bottled items. Two different bags, intermixed with some meats and pantry.
ALSO! Why you no use the two heavy duty woven bags for all the milk (3 half-gallon cartons, 1 gallon jug) and cream (half-gallon carton)? He split them up into my flimsy nylon bags and packed my good bags with lightweight items. DUDE WTF?!?
Put the fridge stuff together. Put the frozen stuff together. Put the produce stuff together. Meats. Cans and bottles. Shelf-stable pantry packages. Softs and squishables. Chemical Industrial. That way we can drop bags where that stuff will go instead of having to unpack every bag in the counter looking for the perishables first.
I'll jump on the annoyance around gift giving bandwagon...I have never been a fan of baby showers and was basically forced by my mom into a shower for my DS. Because our family lives on the other side of the country, the shower requires flying, so I was able to convince her that a shower for this baby girl was not necessary. Also, I think that it's important to point out that I have NO expectations of people buying me anything for this baby...BUT...my husband has 5 sisters. They have had 10 kids between them and one of them just had twins in December and had 3, yes 3, showers that I was invited to and sent a gift for each one.
Wat!!! She had 3 showers and you were invited to and sent gifts for each?? You're such a nice person! (Wanna come to mine? lol) Surely they can't count on the same person giving 3 gifts for the same occasion just because they invited them to 3 events?? I'd go to 1 and give 1 gift. That is nuts! Lol
Here's one: If I email you with a question, I want you to email me back. I do NOT want you to call me regarding it. Unless of course it's something that requires a bit of explanation where phone is better.
I would also like to add a bitch that I wish I was in upstate NY right now. One of my cousins posted abut a garbage plate and now that's aaaaall I can think about. Damn Colorado and their non garbage plate eating ways.
Ha, no kidding! People think garbage plates sound gross but they were a staple at pretty much all the summer picnics I went to growing up. I recently read an article about a fancy brunch place that introduced "upscale" garbage plates and I chuckled because, well, no, that won't work, haha.
@RedInLove: My fav grocery store actually spends the time & effort to train their cashiers on how to properly pack up groceries. All of the employees take pride in doing a good job and you can tell that the entire front end works as a team and wants to do everything correctly, not just shuffle people through quickly. They always ask if you'd mind if they add unlike items to certain bags. It actually makes shopping there pleasant! And they never let a register aisle get to more than 3 people deep; they always open more registers.
@Kipperoo - I think that would agitate me, as well. Neither my sister or my sister in law (brother's wife) have asked me a single question about this pregnancy or any celebrations pertaining to it. Granted, I'm not having a shower, but the lack of interest all around is frustrating. Especially considering the ridiculous DEBACLE of showers my sister in law had for both my nephew and niece. I don't even want your damn gifts, but how about you acknowledge that I'm pregnant? That would be cool.
Yes!! I think you nailed it--it's the lack of acknowledgement that's bothering me. And, as I mentioned, we live on the other side of the country, so who knows when they will see this baby. I was pulling together a "names and faces" book for the baby (as I did with my son), and none of them could even be bothered with sending me updated pics of their families, so I just had to pull them from Facebook. I know they are busy with their own families, but come on...
Today's MBF goes out to my horrendous heartburn! I might just rip out my throat. If I thought puking would make it better I would do it. And that's something from me - I'm terribly afraid of puking.
I always go through self checkout at stores when available so I can bag my groceries how I want them bagged. Also, the cashier's/baggers in the town I live in are very slow, which is aggravating. Self checkout is much less of a hassle!
My bitchfest is to my sister's ex-boyfriend. My sister drove 4 hours yesterday to visit her bf of 2 years. He proceeded to break up with her out of the blue when she got to his house. My sister then had to drive 4 hours back home, crying the entire time. WTF dude, what a jerk move. If you're going to break up with someone in a long distance relationship at least do the decent thing and do the driving to do the breaking up and not make the other person suffer more.
On a not bitchy note, my husband randomly texted me today to tell me thank you for the house work I did this weekend. It was normal house work like laundry and the dishes, but his text made me really happy and reminded me that I am very lucky to be married to such a great guy.
@hp_momma that situation would make my blood boil. if it makes you feel a certain way, then imagine how it makes your little ones feel.. reminds me of my grandma and her favorites *rolls eyes*
Yes! My oldest niece is 10 and she already tells her mom "grandma buys more stuff for the twins". The rest of the grandkids are younger so I don't think they see it just yet, but I know they will start picking up on it soon.
Sorry, I'm a really dirty lurker, but I have this issue with my mom. My niece is 11, her dad also has 2 step kids, my LO is 1, and my other brother's daughter is 2 months old. For as long as we have been alive, my mom always tried to make every holiday equal. My brothers and I got the same number of presents with the same price range, and all the nieces and nephews got the same number of presents with the same price range. When my brother's two step kids came into the picture (they're 9 and 7) it started to change. My mom still bought equal amounts of gifts, but theirs were much cheaper. Then eventually, it became that they got like 1 $20-30 toy and that was it while the 11 year old was getting 10-12 gifts costing hundreds of dollars. Fast forward to this year, my 11 year old niece got 11 gifts, including a $150 Fitbit she's already lost, the step kids got 2 small and relatively cheap gifts each, and my LO for five gifts-- four were on clearance for less than $10 a piece, the fifth was an outfit I BOUGHT that she took out of my bag without my knowledge and wrapped up. Now, I don't care how much you spend for a holiday. My kid is happy with $1 pushcars. But to so blatantly play favorites makes my blood boil. There is no reason for her to treat the step kids or my LO like she does. Oh, and she threw a fit when I spent $5 on a small gift for my 2 month old niece so that her parents would have a gift "for her" that they could open on Christmas Day. She was pissed because "she isn't even here yet!!" Well, no duh, Mother, but they did the same for me last year so I'm returning the favor...
ugh, sorry to hijack the thread. Just saying I get it and I feel the same as you.
@SKZW is your favorite grocery store Wegmans? Because I moved away years ago and I still complain to DH about how much better Wegmans is than every other store.
I love all the references to Rochester! I lived there for five years for college. I had the garbage plate only once but I remember it was surprisingly good. I could go for one now.
Not a BF but more of a WTF. We just found out tonight that we have a 4 months old niece. Even MIL didn't know. She only gound out because she got a phone call about a 4 months checkup and she was legitimately confused. SIL had pretty much shut the family out for over a year now but it was still a shock that she never told any of us. She has two older kids that are around 15 and I think 11?
@RedInLove: My fav grocery store actually spends the time & effort to train their cashiers on how to properly pack up groceries. All of the employees take pride in doing a good job and you can tell that the entire front end works as a team and wants to do everything correctly, not just shuffle people through quickly. They always ask if you'd mind if they add unlike items to certain bags. It actually makes shopping there pleasant! And they never let a register aisle get to more than 3 people deep; they always open more registers.
And its not a dream??!? This store would get all my grocery business!!!
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
I definitely relate on the favoritism. My stepmom heavily favors her own kids, and my (step)brothers two kids more. We don't do Christmas together as a family, because they buy so much for my niece and nephew, and one gift for each of my girls (which is PLENTY for them. But don't spend 100's on the others, and $20 each on my girls). This last Christmas, they gave us this huge speech about how they couldn't afford Christmas gifts. That's cool, I get it. But they bought tons of crap for my brothers and niece/nephew, and we got a $25 gift card. (They bought one of my brothers an effing motorcycle). It's not about the gifts for me. I could care less. But my oldest noticed this last year.
First day of daylight savings so kids are exhausted as am I, my aide called out sick and we don't have subs, several kids came in hours late which disrupted class, one kid projectile vomited, I had promised a pizza party for kids who met their goal and had to scurry around to get it set up, and ended up working 13+ hrs because it's the end of the quarter, extra things are due, and there was no time/break during the day. Did 9,500 steps just at school and fitbit says I worked out for 2.5 hours. Thank goodness my coworkers were kind enough to check in on me for bathroom breaks.
I have a petty bitchfest left over from Friday--I work primarily remotely and my colleagues are also mainly remote, and our whole organization comes together once a month for a long day of meetings. This past Friday was my last day of attending in person--it's a 2-hour commute to the central office so by the next one I'll be 9 months, and the next one is right around my due date. And I was a little bit surprised that there wasn't a token gift or, idk, a card or something from my division? Especially since last time there was a baby in our division I spearheaded the effort for gift purchasing, funds collection, card-signing, etc--that colleague has since left the organization, and she's a close friend coming to my baby shower this weekend anyway, it's just that I had hoped I had modeled professional civility behavior for the others in the division. My supervisor did announce at the end "oh hey this is the last time Cato99 will be on campus before the baby" and ppl were like "good luck!" but, like, at least offer to buy me a cookie
@MoshiMoshi7: you know it! Wegman's is the very best grocery store, hands down. When I moved a few states away, too, I asked some locals "where's the good grocery store?" and they're like "Giant?" and I was very sad walking into that place (and the 3 other chain stores). My long-ago non-pregnant self could not abide by smelly meat departments. Ugggh. Still can't.
@RedInLove: You're in NH, right? The closest Wegman's to you would be Burlington, Mass, and I know that's not even remotely close. But next time you're in the mood for a grocery store day-trip, I highly recommend checking it out! I'm a regular at the Northborough location and will provide guided tours if requested.
@MoshiMoshi7: you know it! Wegman's is the very best grocery store, hands down. When I moved a few states away, too, I asked some locals "where's the good grocery store?" and they're like "Giant?" and I was very sad walking into that place (and the 3 other chain stores). My long-ago non-pregnant self could not abide by smelly meat departments. Ugggh. Still can't.
@RedInLove: You're in NH, right? The closest Wegman's to you would be Burlington, Mass, and I know that's not even remotely close. But next time you're in the mood for a grocery store day-trip, I highly recommend checking it out! I'm a regular at the Northborough location and will provide guided tours if requested.
@SKZW I am in NH, actually on the MA border so Burlington isn't completely out of range for me. I probably wouldn't buy anything frozen, but it might make for a fun trip one day! I don't believe I've been in a Wegman's yet, either.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
@SKZW ohhh how I miss Wegmans. When we lived in Philly we would go to NJ and go there. Best store ever! We would get lunch or dinner and then spend a long time grocery shopping. I miss that store so much. It was so clean, had so many food options and just amazing all together. I still use my Wegmans grocery bags and they make me sad that I can't actually go to the store.
Can I continue my bitchfest into Tuesday? I hurt my ankle last week, but it wasn't too bad. Then on Sunday, I stepped wrong and pulled some tendons so I'm in a super- sexy boot. Then around 2 am, I woke up to a beastly charley horse in the other leg and couldn't go back to sleep. My calf feels like it's on fire still. I'm exhausted and don't want to go to work. Can I opt out of this day?!?!?
Re: Monday bitchfest
1. Don't comment on how big (or small!) a woman in her 3rd trimester is. Just leave it be. Lady at CVS who told me you "weren't even 1/2 that size at 9 months", you REALLY didn't need to follow it up on my next trip there with a "still going strong, huh?" comment. I've got 2 months left! I better be going strong.
2. Just because there's all kinds of new baby gadgets now a days you didn't have when you had a baby doesn't mean they're a waste of money or pointless. Yes Mom, you didn't use a special cup to pour water on my head for baths and you didn't need a nose freida or whatever else. Well, to me they're improvements in baby care and I want them. Still love you, but let me have a 2017 baby, not a 1980's baby.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
+1 for organizing my groceries in my car and on the checkout line so that they go in the bag the "right" way. I actually prefer to bag my own stuff.
23 y/o;
[05/06/17]
First time mommy
90% of the way there
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@Jens_Hoes I spend so much time basically sorting everything again. Makes me wonder, if I just chuck it all up on the belt in random order, would they bag it correctly?
@nda_roxybabe I hate overloaded bags too. I bring a ton of reusable bags every time. If I spend over $100 and you use less than half my bags, you are wrong.
@WombThereItIs Solidarity, my friend!!
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
@Jens_Hoes That sucks about the motor and the cancelled flight. Is your family at least stuck there with you, or do they have flights going elsewhere?
@nda_roxybabe I'm starting to get "whoa, about to pop!" comments as well. I don't mind my family and friends making comments (especially because they're starting to prepare me for the very real possibility that I'll deliver early...I'm tiny and this kid is probably going to run out of room), but from random strangers? Come on, folks!
I'm just over here waiting to see if I'm going to come down with the "stomach bug of DOOM" that I was possibly exposed to over the weekend. A friend of mine whose husband was out of town was violently ill and needed help with her toddler (and getting to urgent care, getting medicine, etc.). She thought it was food poisoning--and we're all still crossing our fingers that it was!--but she found out this morning that nobody else at work (where she thought she was exposed via a catered meeting on Friday) got sick, so...sigh. I guess I'm bitching about the uncertainty/waiting, combined with my phobia of vomiting and the likelihood that I would need to go to the hospital to keep hydrated (she couldn't keep anything down for 24 hours--it was ROUGH). We left their house around 9:30 PM on Saturday so tonight will mark 48 hours since the last exposure...hoping that H and I make it through!
@nda_roxybabe I agree people need to keep their comments to themselves. And yet...when I am not pregnant I try to be complimentary but who knows how it comes off.
@Jens_Hoes that sucks about your car
I'm currently sitting in an ER waiting room because my headache exploded into an awful migraine. Some little kid sitting right next to me is blasting music on Grandpa's phone and dancing. Kill me now.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
@Kipperoo I totally get you on the no gifts from SILs but they expect them from you in return. DHs family has not bought a single thing for this LO. His mom never ever buys things for my kids unless it's their birthday, but she spoils my SILs kids rotten. One time my ILs were in town visiting us and my MIL bought new outfits for 3 of my nephews (there are 9 grandchildren total) when we were all out shopping IN FRONT OF ME. Like hellooooo! Way to pick favorites...
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@hp_momma that situation would make my blood boil. if it makes you feel a certain way, then imagine how it makes your little ones feel.. reminds me of my grandma and her favorites *rolls eyes*
23 y/o;
[05/06/17]
First time mommy
90% of the way there
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
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1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
@RedInLove: My fav grocery store actually spends the time & effort to train their cashiers on how to properly pack up groceries. All of the employees take pride in doing a good job and you can tell that the entire front end works as a team and wants to do everything correctly, not just shuffle people through quickly. They always ask if you'd mind if they add unlike items to certain bags. It actually makes shopping there pleasant! And they never let a register aisle get to more than 3 people deep; they always open more registers.
Just realized I commented on 2 Rochester icons.
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
My bitchfest is to my sister's ex-boyfriend. My sister drove 4 hours yesterday to visit her bf of 2 years. He proceeded to break up with her out of the blue when she got to his house. My sister then had to drive 4 hours back home, crying the entire time. WTF dude, what a jerk move. If you're going to break up with someone in a long distance relationship at least do the decent thing and do the driving to do the breaking up and not make the other person suffer more.
On a not bitchy note, my husband randomly texted me today to tell me thank you for the house work I did this weekend. It was normal house work like laundry and the dishes, but his text made me really happy and reminded me that I am very lucky to be married to such a great guy.
ugh, sorry to hijack the thread. Just saying I get it and I feel the same as you.
@nda_roxybabe you definitely want one!
Not a BF but more of a WTF. We just found out tonight that we have a 4 months old niece. Even MIL didn't know. She only gound out because she got a phone call about a 4 months checkup and she was legitimately confused. SIL had pretty much shut the family out for over a year now but it was still a shock that she never told any of us. She has two older kids that are around 15 and I think 11?
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Thank goodness my coworkers were kind enough to check in on me for bathroom breaks.
@RedInLove: You're in NH, right? The closest Wegman's to you would be Burlington, Mass, and I know that's not even remotely close. But next time you're in the mood for a grocery store day-trip, I highly recommend checking it out! I'm a regular at the Northborough location and will provide guided tours if requested.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Married:09/14/13
Baby 2 - Due: 5/4/17