@nda_roxybabe Found it! Copying from birth plan thread in October. Sorry in advance - it's a bit long.
Pain mgmt: Unmedicated birth? IV meds? (can take the edge off but don't last long) Epidural? (and timing? right away per hospital/facility protocol? wait as long as possible?)
Baby bath: Hospital or home (not required before you leave)
Baby meds: Ok with vitamin K (prevents bleeding in new babies who have immature livers and can't vitamin K-dependent clotting factors fast enough without it), antibiotic eye ointment (to prevent badness from gonorrhea), Hep B vaccine (please just vaccinate your babies - oh wait, a totally *different* controversial topic we can wait for)
In case of c-section: Who do you want with you in the OR?
Circumcision: Yes/No
Placenta: Keep? Toss? (just so your nurse/provider doesn't toss it prematurely - they clean things up as fast as possible after all the stitching is taken care of)
Some other things to think about:
[] If you want an unmedicated birth -- Consider asking nurse not to offer pain medication or epidural, and not ask you to rate your pain (you will definitely let them know if you change your mind, but having someone ask you all. the. time. whether you are in pain can get into your head)
[] IM (in your thigh muscle) pitocin - reduces your risk of postpartum hemorrhage (heavy blood loss) by 40% (this is a big deal - the WHO [World Health Organization] has recommended this as one of the biggest lifesavers of women after birth -- even homebirth midwives carry this)
[] Cord pulsing (standard in many hospitals) - leaving your baby's cord to pulse for at least 60 seconds will reduce the risk that your baby has anemia in the first year of life
[] Delay routine baby cares (standard in many hospitals) until after the first hour to facilitate bonding / first feed
[] Ask that your baby be given nothing but your breast - no pacifiers or bottles (unless you decide to do so)
[] Ask that your baby not be taken out of your presence - no nursery stays (unless you are having too much trouble resting - then please, by all means, get 2-3 hours of sleep)
[] Routines to be aware of: congential heart disease screen (pulse oximetry - not invasive), bilirubin level, hearing screen, newborn screen (for metabolic disorders)
@Jens_Hoes@Bailey8809: Thanks for the kind thoughts! I'm at 30 weeks along (pretty much three-fourths done?) and was actually just kind of getting used to having my mom here and being on bedrest, and figuring how that'd be for the next while, then had another u/s and an appt with the ob this afternoon.
Our new plan is multi-part: 1, no more strict bedrest (yay!), but definite limited activities (can do stairs and can drive now, can't do laundry or groceries, can't shovel or vac) and mandated periods of rest (thankful I don't work in an office, or that'd be def affected, she said!), 2, twice weekly u/s monitoring and urine testing, and 3, the big one, for sure early induction... and steroid shots this Fri in anticipation, to help lung development... so now rather than being 10 weeks out, it's more like 7 or 8, yikes!! Sh*t just got real (of course said in a Bad Boys 2 way).
@kayemjay2: there's def nothing wrong with applying for another job. Just like PP have said, you have to do what's best for your family; nowadays most employers don't put effort into developing our careers; we have to do it ourselves, and often it means moving out to move up.
@Bailey8809: A gift bag of multiple items for the older sib is a great idea! For us, our new little one will be giving his older bro a present, which is this set of like 20 felted sandwich fixings to play chef, and I think he'll like it since he's really into food right now, and maybe(?) it'll keep him occupied in the hospital during visits. @mdlorenz's tips about construction paper crafts, pipe cleaners, sticker books, and other books are genius!
@SKZW I'm glad your restrictions are lighter! That's a relief for you I'm sure. If they are thinking 7-8 weeks, at least you will be term at that point! That's great!
@SKZW Glad your restrictions are slightly lifted! I can't remember if you posted your reasoning behind bedrest and earlier delivery or if I missed it?
@mdlorenz That's a really good essential list for everyone to go over before labor! I'm sure I could google this but, what's the IM Pitocin? I feel like after two deliveries I've never heard of this, is this standard in hospital births or something that people are asking for?
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Random- today I got younger daughter's hair cut by a professional for the first time. I spoke to the stylist beforehand and told her that daughter has a language delay, so she shouldn't expect her to understand anything she said to her. (You know: the basic haircut explainations they give to toddlers, look up, sit still, etc.) The stylist was AWESOME with her! She sang her little songs the whole time, and was super soothing when daughter freaked out at one point. And this was at a great clips! I was so impressed with her, and so thankful that she was the one to cut daughter's hair! I know this is super random, but I was just so relieved, and I wanted to share.
@Squirtgun: That is awesome! I love hearing things like that! And after all the examples of people not doing their jobs... how refreshing and sweet of her!
@hp_momma IM Pit is nearly universal and standard of care in both hospitals I'm at. Some people refuse it and would rather rely on oxytocin during the first breastfeed --- which is an option if you are not separated from baby immediately postpartum. I'm a pretty firm believer in whatever the WHO (World Health Organization) thinks is essential for safe birth, because they're thinking of both low- and high-resource settings and wouldn't recommend something in those lower-resource areas if it wasn't backed up by solid evidence. Most moms don't remember the shot and most providers don't really offer an alternative - it's just a given.
I just had my first bh contractions today and I also started feeling a ton of pelvic pressure, almost like baby just dropped. Weird thing is that he was breech just 10 days ago so if he is going to start moving down already, I really hope he's turned head down.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@hp_momma IM Pit is nearly universal and standard of care in both hospitals I'm at. Some people refuse it and would rather rely on oxytocin during the first breastfeed --- which is an option if you are not separated from baby immediately postpartum. I'm a pretty firm believer in whatever the WHO (World Health Organization) thinks is essential for safe birth, because they're thinking of both low- and high-resource settings and wouldn't recommend something in those lower-resource areas if it wasn't backed up by solid evidence. Most moms don't remember the shot and most providers don't really offer an alternative - it's just a given.
I'm assuming since I'm more of a "go with the flow" and "whatever the doctor recommends" kind of patient I must have been given the shot! I'll have to ask my OB at my next appointment if it's standard here (which I'm assuming it is as a military hospital...) Thanks for the explanation!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
So my husband and I have a private Amazon registry mainly for completion discount purposes. Today I got a mail that someone bought something off the registry. Checked and it's still private. And two things are bought I didn't buy (and they're sort of random so I don't think my husband did either and I don't expect it to mail if he did because he doesn't get mails when I do). Shenanigans! Shenanigans everywhere!
Ok, I had to go check my Amazon registry again for like the 20th time today (like everyday), and more things were purchased since just a few hours ago. I just have to say, I'm so incredibly surprised that most of our big ticket items have already been purchased (like stroller, infant seat, high chair, baby monitor) when invites only went out like a week ago. Thank you thank you, friends and family, for being so generous! And sorry later buyers who'll get to choose from exciting leftovers like a diaper pail or thermometer.
Also I am terrible and I can't remember her username, but did the first twin mom get to leave the hospital? I know it has a JK in her username. The one that has a DD that hadn't ever stayed the night away? Right? Was there an update I miss?
What about the other twin mom whose water was bulging? Is she staying in the hospital until babies come even though they got contractions stopped?
I am am on mobile and I am terrible at remembering usernames!
I took DD to Build-A-Bear today to build a bear for her brother. She will bring this to the hospital as a gift for him! She had lots of fun and of course we made a bear (cat) for herself!
@hp_momma: okay, so the gist is: I had a blip of high blood pressure at an appt last week, and even though it resolved at the next measurement 5 minutes later, the ob sent me for labs. Better safe than sorry, which I'm on board with. The results the next day showed lots of great values, in everything except protein in the urine. So elevated bp plus elevated protein is a sign of what I lovingly call "pre"- pre-eclampsia, and since it's a short step to pre-e, which can progress downwardly quickly, I was put on immediate bedrest until I could meet with my doc again today---and now, afterward, we plan to keep a close eye on my status (specifically, more u/s growth checks, testing levels, early induction to head off the likely-pre-e at the pass). Also my "advanced maternal age" is a factor that technically puts me in a higher risk group, even though, by itself, I never thought that was something that truly mattered. Hope that explains it further?
OK, another mystery solved on the Amazon front: he totally bought stuff. Lol. And he added some to the list (baby proofing things). No shenanigans. This time. Muahahah.
My doc got back with me and I'm going in first thing in the am for blood work and upper abdominal u/s to check liver/gallbladder. I'm hoping it's nothing but for peace of mind.
@vrj0522 I logged in this evening to make you all tell me what BH are like again, because I thought I had some earlier today and again just a bit ago. I'm not sure, I felt a lot of pressure in my pelvic area and then my stomach feels stretched tight and uncomfortable, like I am straining it.
@bacorrea that was me! I am home! Got sent home with procardia to take as needed and had an u/s today and all looks good! Dd did good too! I did update but it was a wild day for a lot of folks so it probably got buried
@SKZW Makes sense! I was assuming it was something related to pre-e but I couldn't remember if you actually posted about it. Fingers crossed your numbers/levels stay low!
Married 03.09.09 Sweet Baby H 12.21.11 Sassy Baby P 03.26.14 Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@vrj0522 I logged in this evening to make you all tell me what BH are like again, because I thought I had some earlier today and again just a bit ago. I'm not sure, I felt a lot of pressure in my pelvic area and then my stomach feels stretched tight and uncomfortable, like I am straining it.
Sounds like bh. Your stomach will tighten for a little while, on one area or all over, and then it will release. It usually feels as if baby was pushing or sitting against it but there are no baby parts to be found.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
I love how active our group is! I had a really busy day at work and wasn't able to keep up today.
@clebl24 my mom had to have her gall bladder taken out a few years ago. She would get "attacks" after eating certain types of food. Basically debilitating pain that would only subside if she laid flat for a while or threw up. FX crossed your pain turns out to be nothing.
@bacorrea we built a bear for DD before she was born and I am planning on taking her back next month to build a bear for this LO. I love the clothes that you got for their bears!
@bacorrea that was me! I am home! Got sent home with procardia to take as needed and had an u/s today and all looks good! Dd did good too! I did update but it was a wild day for a lot of folks so it probably got buried
I've officially given up on my normal shoes. I am wearing nothing but my flip flops i bought last week. I did at least buy pretty sparkly ones since i'm wearing them to work! I normally wear a size 6.5... i had to buy an 8 in flip flops!
Also I love how active our board is! I got on this morning and was amazed how many post were made since i was on yesterday. I have to catch up!
Random question. Does anyone use a website/app for private photo sharing? H and I would like to create shared albums where we can upload pics of the baby for our immediate family and close friends to check out at their convenience. I was hoping to just use Google Photos, but I don't like that anyone you've shared the album with can share the link to others. Not that they would, but accidents happen, and we want to keep our photos private. So, we're looking for a platform where our photos are private, people we invite to a shared album can look but not share themselves, and it's easy to just adds photos to the albums from our phone.
@starphish18 - I use photo sharing on iPhone to share pictures with my family, but it only works if everyone has an iPhone.
I think I might be having Braxton Hicks contractions, but I'm not entirely certain...I never had them with my son. Since about 4 this morning, I've been having cramps (not regularly timed or terribly painful) and *TMI* diarrhea. I'm thinking I should call the doctor just in case, but don't want to be that ridiculous patient.
Fur daughter: 02/2011 Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017 *formerly kayemjay*
@starphish18 The app "Tinybeans" allows private sharing and it's friendly to folks without smartphones. Plus the user interface is clean and simple which wins huge points from me.
Re: Randoms and Questions 3.13 - 3.17
23 y/o;
[05/06/17]
First time mommy
90% of the way there
Pain mgmt: Unmedicated birth? IV meds? (can take the edge off but don't last long) Epidural? (and timing? right away per hospital/facility protocol? wait as long as possible?)
Baby bath: Hospital or home (not required before you leave)
Baby meds: Ok with vitamin K (prevents bleeding in new babies who have immature livers and can't vitamin K-dependent clotting factors fast enough without it), antibiotic eye ointment (to prevent badness from gonorrhea), Hep B vaccine (please just vaccinate your babies - oh wait, a totally *different* controversial topic we can wait for)
In case of c-section: Who do you want with you in the OR?
Circumcision: Yes/No
Placenta: Keep? Toss? (just so your nurse/provider doesn't toss it prematurely - they clean things up as fast as possible after all the stitching is taken care of)
Some other things to think about:
[] If you want an unmedicated birth -- Consider asking nurse not to offer pain medication or epidural, and not ask you to rate your pain (you will definitely let them know if you change your mind, but having someone ask you all. the. time. whether you are in pain can get into your head)
[] IM (in your thigh muscle) pitocin - reduces your risk of postpartum hemorrhage (heavy blood loss) by 40% (this is a big deal - the WHO [World Health Organization] has recommended this as one of the biggest lifesavers of women after birth -- even homebirth midwives carry this)
[] Cord pulsing (standard in many hospitals) - leaving your baby's cord to pulse for at least 60 seconds will reduce the risk that your baby has anemia in the first year of life
[] Delay routine baby cares (standard in many hospitals) until after the first hour to facilitate bonding / first feed
[] Ask that your baby be given nothing but your breast - no pacifiers or bottles (unless you decide to do so)
[] Ask that your baby not be taken out of your presence - no nursery stays (unless you are having too much trouble resting - then please, by all means, get 2-3 hours of sleep)
[] Routines to be aware of: congential heart disease screen (pulse oximetry - not invasive), bilirubin level, hearing screen, newborn screen (for metabolic disorders)-------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Our new plan is multi-part: 1, no more strict bedrest (yay!), but definite limited activities (can do stairs and can drive now, can't do laundry or groceries, can't shovel or vac) and mandated periods of rest (thankful I don't work in an office, or that'd be def affected, she said!), 2, twice weekly u/s monitoring and urine testing, and 3, the big one, for sure early induction... and steroid shots this Fri in anticipation, to help lung development... so now rather than being 10 weeks out, it's more like 7 or 8, yikes!! Sh*t just got real (of course said in a Bad Boys 2 way).
@kayemjay2: there's def nothing wrong with applying for another job. Just like PP have said, you have to do what's best for your family; nowadays most employers don't put effort into developing our careers; we have to do it ourselves, and often it means moving out to move up.
@Bailey8809: A gift bag of multiple items for the older sib is a great idea! For us, our new little one will be giving his older bro a present, which is this set of like 20 felted sandwich fixings to play chef, and I think he'll like it since he's really into food right now, and maybe(?) it'll keep him occupied in the hospital during visits. @mdlorenz's tips about construction paper crafts, pipe cleaners, sticker books, and other books are genius!
@starphish all of the feels during all of the shows I watch! I'm behind in "This is Us" beacuzse im afraid I'll lose it completely!
"A day without laughter is a day wasted." ~Charlie Chaplin
@mdlorenz That's a really good essential list for everyone to go over before labor! I'm sure I could google this but, what's the IM Pitocin? I feel like after two deliveries I've never heard of this, is this standard in hospital births or something that people are asking for?
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
birth, because they're thinking of both low- and high-resource settings and wouldn't recommend something in those lower-resource areas if it wasn't backed up by solid evidence. Most moms don't remember the shot and most providers don't really offer an alternative - it's just a given.
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@SKZW - sounds like a good plan and I'm glad you'll be able to go to 37-38 weeks.
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
@Squirtgun that's really sweet
@SKZW congrats on new bed rest regimen!
@BabyMC517 lol I only know 'Bad boys 2' from 'Hot fuzz' and I quote the line from there now too! Lol
May '17 labor memes
Also I am terrible and I can't remember her username, but did the first twin mom get to leave the hospital? I know it has a JK in her username. The one that has a DD that hadn't ever stayed the night away? Right? Was there an update I miss?
What about the other twin mom whose water was bulging? Is she staying in the hospital until babies come even though they got contractions stopped?
I am am on mobile and I am terrible at remembering usernames!
OK, another mystery solved on the Amazon front: he totally bought stuff. Lol. And he added some to the list (baby proofing things). No shenanigans. This time. Muahahah.
"You ain't seen Bad Boys 2?!" ...
"Hag. Fascist." ...
and the best line:
"It's alright, Andy! It's just bolognese!"
(So further to my first post: i did manage to go back to sleep. At like 5:30. To wake up at 6:15. After waking at 1:30. I need a nap!)
1st Baby 5/12/17, Henry
"proper action and shit!"
"With respect, sir, you can't just make people disappear!" "Umm, yes I can, I'm the chief inspector."
Sweet Baby H 12.21.11
Sassy Baby P 03.26.14
Little Brother Due 05.22.17
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
@clebl24 my mom had to have her gall bladder taken out a few years ago. She would get "attacks" after eating certain types of food. Basically debilitating pain that would only subside if she laid flat for a while or threw up. FX crossed your pain turns out to be nothing.
@bacorrea we built a bear for DD before she was born and I am planning on taking her back next month to build a bear for this LO. I love the clothes that you got for their bears!
Also I love how active our board is! I got on this morning and was amazed how many post were made since i was on yesterday. I have to catch up!
I think I might be having Braxton Hicks contractions, but I'm not entirely certain...I never had them with my son. Since about 4 this morning, I've been having cramps (not regularly timed or terribly painful) and *TMI* diarrhea. I'm thinking I should call the doctor just in case, but don't want to be that ridiculous patient.
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
*formerly kayemjay*
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