Publicly Announcing

kmornelas29

When do you ladies plan on publicity announcing your pregnancy? 

I know some do the minute they find out, with my first the doctor said after 8 weeks were pretty solid, but I know some wait until 12 weeks or plus! Im on the fence about just openly telling everyone and keeping it in. 

What are you guys doing? Has anyone openly told? Some waiting it out? Reasoning behind your decision? 

Cant wait to hear your thoughts! 

PleaseSendPicklesNow

I'm so excited, I want to tell the world NOW. But my husband wants to wait until 12 weeks have passed AND genetic test results come back, and I'm going to honor his wishes. Our first child died of a rare genetic syndrome when he was 3 weeks old, and there is a 1-3% chance our future children could have the same syndrome. We're optimistic, but realistic. I'm counting the days until I can announce, though.

rockinro_17

I usually tell pretty early on. But my co-workers might flip this time. This will be my 3rd maternity leave in 5 years. Eek! So I'm going to wait as long as possible. Unfortunately I show super early because I have no torso and this is my 4th baby so they'll probably guess before in even get to 8 weeks I will wait until I get blood work done before I tell the majority of my family but may also wait on that too. I have a lot of sisters and sometimes they spaz and 4 kids is going to seem like an awful lot to them. Strongly considering showing up to a family get together mid summer and seeing who has the balls to be the first one to ask if I'm pregnant. I think it'd be really funny.

babymish

I'll be hanging on for 12 weeks. Our parents and siblings know, but everyone else will be told once we feel we reach that 2nd trimester mark.

mommac2017

I would love to shout it from the rooftops right now! But DH is much more private. We suffered a MMC in September and really struggled to compromise on how to deal with it. I wanted to be open about it and he didn't want to tell anyone. 

We have told only a few people right now (my parents, my sister, our pastor). We will be telling his parents after our 7 week appointment. Then everyone else after the 12 week appointment. We will post on Facebook once we have told everyone we want to tell in person. 

verily

I plan to announce at the end of my first trimester. I like the idea of waiting until the genetic test results.

Only a very small number of people know right now (DH, my personal trainer, and one coworker who has been my cheerleader to see an RE). I haven't told any of my family members yet and certainly will not be telling DH's parents until the last minute (MIL loves her histrionics). 

RileyG2218

tw..I felt I had to tell my DM and HR manager very early (about 6 weeks) because we were going on a 2 day meeting where there would be drinking at night.  Everyone knows my love of wine so they would have know regardless of me telling them.  Unfortunately, I ended up missing the meeting due to a death in the family and then went the next week to our ultrasound and found the baby had stopped growth at 6 weeks.  I will not tell anyone family included until 12 weeks.  The only people I have told was my O14 moms that were from the bump and are now in a private FB group.  They have been amazingly supportive through my journey. 

emwj10187

I don't think I'm going to do a public announcement, like on social media. Just a personal preference. Telling close friends and family. I've told some already. Im 6 weeks today.

mylittleversailles

I'm not doing a public announcement. I think back to every surprise pregnancy announcement that made me bitterly sob over the past twelve months and I just can't. I've told my grandmother and one close friend (but only cause she'd ask riiiight about now if the Clomid worked), as well as people I know online. Not that I don't want to tell EVERYONE all the time because I hate keeping happy news from the people I love.

If we're lucky enough to get there, we'll tell some other closer friends when it gets too hard to hide (if they don't notice beforehand everyone knows about our loss and subsequent journey) with a quick bit sent privately about Thanksgiving being cancelled on account of the baby we're having. Canadian Thanksgiving in the second Monday of October and we always, always host a big thing. Best reason ever to miss out on my favourite holiday.

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EmEeGee

We won't tell anyone before 12 weeks. Probably won't tell my family till we see them around 16 weeks because my stepmom is THE worst and she will tell every person she knows within 24hrs. I may have to tell some people at work if I have to (I'm a nurse and some patients can't have pregnant caregivers for certain reasons), but I'll hold off until I can't. Of course my closest friends from my last BMB already know.  

JimmyNJodi

Not until probably St. Patrick's day. 

ZukiWife

We're telling our parents this weekend and will be travelling back to my home town in March to tell my grandparents and one close aunt. We're going to publicly announce right after telling them because I know there's no way they'll keep it to themselves once they know. We'll be about 10 - 11 weeks at the time so it's not that far off from the end of the first trimester anyways. 

sdarling2010

With my first pregnancy I was all about waiting until 12 weeks. Told our parents at 8 weeks and saved everyone else until 11 weeks, with a social media announcement at 12 weeks. 

This time, I can't keep my mouth shut! I just have this overwhelming feeling that this little one is already loved, even though it's only the size of an appleseed so far. We've told our parents, 2 very very close family friends and my best friends. We will wait to tell everyone else (and possibly on social media) until 12 weeks! 

ksf13

I'm thinking we will announce on our 7th  marriage anniversary on March 8th. I'll be a little over 9 weeks. We actually announced with my daughter 4 years ago today and I was 9 weeks then too 6

jellybellykelly

We are gonna announce are 1st pregnancy on mothers days. We will be about 12 weeks. I think itll will be an awesome suprise for my mum in law as its her 1st grandchild. Weve bought this teeny little photobook keyrings and printed pictures of storks carrying babies. I i just hope she gets what it means when she opens it

ehepner

With my last 2, we told our parents right away but didn't make it public until 12 weeks.  I waited until 20 weeks to post on facebook.  With this baby, I plan on waiting until my dating u/s (9 weeks, 5 days and when we see the heartbeat) to tell anyone.  

sjohns908

We told our parents right away with our first two and waited about a month with the third. The last pregnancy was after two chemicals, so I didn't want to share the news until Christmas, which would have put us at 14 weeks. The only family member that knew was my mom because she was at my house every day and I'm sure she would have figured it out by me being so tired and feeling like crap. Unfortunately, we lost that baby the week of Thanksgiving and, personal preference, I was glad that nobody else knew. It was easier for me knowing that his parents hadn't gotten attached and it was less people that needed to grieve with me, if that makes sense. 

This time, I would still like to wait until 2nd tri to tell family or the world. I haven't even told my mom yet this time and will probably hold off since she's not over every day like last time. However, we're going to Vegas next month and I'll be 12 weeks. We're going with a friend and I'll need to tell her because I won't be able to partake in the large amount of drinking I'm sure she has planned lol. 

mamabear148-2

We're telling my immediate family tonight, and his next weekend while we're on a mini vacay with them. We'll probably wait til close to the 12w mark to make it public on social media. Most of our friends will find out by the 8w mark when they realize we're suddenly not at a destination wedding we've been planning on attending for a while. Doc's orders we skip it (It's in the Caribbean)

TreeTrunkss

We have pretty much told everyone we see on a daily basis. We will announce on social media after my first appointment at 8 weeks. We have 3 other children, and I am thinking of having them hold chalkboards with their bdays written on it, then having a chalkboard near the ultrasound pic with "Due in October". All the kids will have shocked faces. 

Cythe

After almost 3 years TTC I was so excited to tell my close friends and family when we got pregnant last fall. Untelling everyone was really hard so we will be waiting.

s_corrigall

With my last pregnancy I told our families, my best friends, and my boss around 7 weeks and then waited until after the 12 week ultrasound to go public. I was hoping to do the same thing this go around, but I have been publicly outed on three different occasions now, and all by men!
The problem with being known as a very social drinker is that if you start skipping drinks after work, or dinners with friends everyone knows; but if you go and make a deal with the waitress to bring you a non-alcoholic beer in a pint glass, there's always some loud mouth dude that insists he knows what you're drinking and where to find it. Just last night I was at a sound check for a gig (I'm in a band) and was offered a beer, I said no thanks, not right now and my bass played yells out "what are you pregnant?". WTF?! Has anyone else been outed?

So long story short, I'd like to wait until 12 weeks, but I'm sure everyone will already know by then.

ForwardnBackward

I've started sharing with people already.... mostly because I can't keep my own secrets.  I've told my office mates (3 gals), my older sister, my MIL, my best friend, a past colleague, and 3 current colleagues.  And my pee stick has barely dried.

purplestarz

With my first we waited to tell everyone until 12 weeks. I would do the same again, but we are visiting my mom out of state when I'll be about 10 weeks and it would be a good time to tell them in person. Plus my whole family is way into wine and would question why I wasn't drinking. So, my goal is to hold out to tell everyone until then at least. However, we have other family and friends visiting and staying with us between now and then. Not to mention friends we see almost weekly and these gatherings always involve alcohol. I'm going to have to be sneaky and make DH drink my drinks (he won't mind lol) since I can only pull the "I have a headache" excuse so many times!

Mamabear11

I told DH and my best friend when I found out last week. I was waiting till my first u/s before telling family but couldnt hold it back anymore around my mom so I spilled the beans tonight to my parents! Hoping I can keep it in for a few more weeks before telling anyone else!

AlandkeriA

I found out on a Friday night in the ER following a really serious car accident. I told my family that same night and we announced it to our church that following Sunday,lol. Our church was praying for us because of the car accident and so we just let them know that not only did God protect us, but we found out some awesome news! My church is like my second family though, and we have been wanting children for over two years now, so everyone is really excited. 

I don't know when we will announce it on social media, I guess whenever my husband wants to. It's not a big deal to me one way or another.

kmornelas29

After hearing everyone, I think I may wait a little. I have told immediate family, but I just feel not very ready to post it on social media yet, lol. It's weird for me, cause I'm always on it! Thanks for sharing everyone! 

nhoover88

I just told my immediate family yesterday and a surprise! We asked everyone not to  post anything on social media until near the end of March, which will be around the 12 week mark.

kitty4scott

Last time, we waited until 12+ weeks to tell our family. It was easy to wait because we were traveling outside of the country. I missed a lot of work or often ran to the bathroom while at work, so I also told my boss around the same time. I didn't post it on FB until our son was born.

This time, we haven't told anyone yet. Well, my chiropractor knows, as does my best friend. We won't be telling family until 16 weeks this time (as that is when we will go home to see them). I intend to not tell my boss or coworkers for as long as I can get away with not telling. 

jessafishy

I'm planning to get DS a "Big Brother" t-shirt and have him wear it next time we are at our parents' houses. I'll tell work in early April and probably do a "public" announcement around Easter.

VLillyV

I'm going to hold out likely until 12wks or more if I can help it! That includes my parents too. I will tell my MIL because she lives with us and is a wonderful woman and support. Then, I will tell my office manager. She's got to know and is a stellar help. I doubt that anyone else in my court will be stoked, including bosses! I'm gonna ride the happy wave as long as I can!

@Jessafishy - I'm likely riding that train with you! Not a bad idea! Everyone I know is religious so I bet that Easter will help make it pretty  

grkgdss00

I'm going to wait until our first appt at least, make sure it's viable and then tell family. Friends and public probably 12+ weeks.

dogperson11

With my daughter we told family and a few close friends pretty early (5 weeks) and then announced publicly at 8.5 weeks, right after my first OB appt and ultrasound. This time we've told some close friends and will tell our families sometime next week (neither family is local so just depends when we FaceTime). We won't announce on social media this time until 12 weeks because of my job. We also haven't told our daughter (2.5) because we're afraid she'll tell EVERYONE she sees.

azerimama

With my 1st child, we waited until 12 weeks. This time, we will likely wait until we hear the heart beat (likely around 10 weeks). I would love to tell sooner, but my best friend suffered 8 miscarriages, so I'm super nervous about having to untell people....

ShakeUpTampa

I have told a handful of people who know about last years miscarriage, I am not telling my best friend or any of our family as long as possible. Right now my sister is pregnant with twins and I don't want anyone thinking we are trying to overshadow them in anyway (Yes, that would be thought by some of these types of people) The hard part about it is....her boyfriend is my husband's younger brother....so we share both families ....If I can hide it until after her kids are born in April/May depending on circumstances and maybe even longer that would be better in our eyes. The way I had to find out about her pregnancy and then details are a bit emotionally draining. I want to be the best Auntie ever and my son is so excited to have cousins but we are just absorbing the fact we finally got pregnant after trying to long. 

kmornelas29

@ShakeUpTampa what!? Sisters marry brothers!? Crazy. Hope the in laws like each other, ha. 

ashcakes921

I want to tell everyone! This is hopefully our rainbow 

**TW** after losing a baby at almost 16 weeks, well within the "safe zone", I don't feel so strongly about the 12 week rule. A week after we publicly announced our pregnancy after 14 weeks, we had to take it back. Which was hard because peple were still congratulating us

roo_baby

We are planning to tell our immediate family next week after the ultrasound (assuming all goes well) and close friends shortly after. Not sure if we will post on social media - if they aren't close enough friends to talk on the phone or hang out in person, they probably don't need to know what's happening in my uterus.

*TW* Any advice for telling friends or family members who have experienced loss and have not had their rainbow yet? We have a couple of people in our lives who are in this situation. I know they will be excited for us no matter what, and I know they will be sad about their own loss no matter what, but is there is a way to make it sting a little less? I know it's a fine balance between hurting people by including them in our excitement and hurting them by not including them fully. *end TW*

jessafishy

@roo_baby I have heard conflicting advice on that. Some people say to tell them via text/email so they can react however they need to without hurting your feelings. Some people would rather be told in person. 

I definitely think you need to tell them ahead of time so that they aren't surprised by hearing it from someone else and have time to process the information before they are confronted with it by someone in person.

mommac2017

@roo_baby, as someone who has had a MC, here is my advice:

1) Do not tell them in a public setting. Don't tell them in front of a large group of people. Because as happy as they are for you, they will want to cry a little. And you need to give them that space to do so. 

2) If you choose to tell them in person, be respectful of when/timing. I had someone tell me and then stay in my house for an hour and a half. Which meant I had to sit with them and hold back my emotions for an hour and a half, and then I bawled as soon as they left. I had someone else tell me at a party, that I was hosting!! So not only was I stuck in front of all my friends, but I was the host so I couldn't exactly leave my own party! I went and cried in the bathroom for a while. 

3) No matter how you tell them, just know that they may not have the same reaction that others have. They are probably VERY excited for you. But a part of them is going to be jealous/angry that it's not them. So just be respectful of their emotions. 

PleaseSendPicklesNow

@roo_baby  I commend you for being sensitive to loss moms!  You sound like a good friend.  Not everyone reacts in the same way,  or wants to be told in the same way. But this is what worked when a friend broke her news to me last month, before I got my BFP. First, she told me before she told the rest of our friend group. She didn't want me to accidentally find out from them. I felt kind of special because I got to know first, and that took the sting away a little bit. She told me online, while we were IMing back-and-forth. It was great, I could tell her the honest truth, that I was thrilled for her. But I could also curl up on my bed and cry without being seen. 

PleaseSendPicklesNow

@ashcakes921 I'm with you!  After something bad happens, it feels like there is no point when it's 100% safe to announce. Last time we didn't get bad news until the 20 week anatomy scan, and we didn't get the diagnosis until 24 weeks.

We publicly announced the pregnancy  at 16 weeks. We thought we were safe by then. My sister really pissed me off and hurt my feelings when she told me she thought I made a mistake by announcing too soon. Too soon? I had to announce because I had a big obvious bump! Grr!