I normally go for an early gender scan at 15 weeks and I really want to wait until after that and do a gender based announcement. This is our 3rd and to be honest our families are going to be less than thrilled about this pregnancy. I'm not 100% sure I'll be able to hide it for that long thougg. The bloat this time is serious lol by the end of the day I look 6 months pregnant!
I been thinking lol. I'm only 5 weeks. If I don't get an ultrasound before easter I was thinking of announcing to my mom on mother's day. I was thinking of making 1 shadow box for each my dd and 1 for my nephew. And having 1 with a ultrasound picture saying something like, "I'll see you in October Grammy"!
I normally go for an early gender scan at 15 weeks and I really want to wait until after that and do a gender based announcement. This is our 3rd and to be honest our families are going to be less than thrilled about this pregnancy. I'm not 100% sure I'll be able to hide it for that long thougg. The bloat this time is serious lol by the end of the day I look 6 months pregnant!
I hear you on the bloat! This is our second and even this time around I can definitely tell that something is up just by looking in the mirror. Obviously baby isn't the culprit just yet, since you know, he/she is like the size of a chocolate chip; but I still had baby weight to lose (my son is 13 months) and the bloat is no joke. I had to put a couple of my dresses away, until I am ready to announce to the world. Because even though it's bloat, it's noticeable that I look different than I did last week haha.
@kstirton an nt scan is a nuchal translucency scan. They measure the space behind baby's neck and, in combination with blood tests, can give you an estimation of chances that the baby has a chromosomal disorder. In my province it's typically only done on women over 35, but I think it's different in the US?
We told my parents over this past weekend. Only because they had bought a crib to keep at their place for DS and now that he's sleeping in a regular bed, they were considering selling it. We're going up for a visit in 2 weeks and I'm thinking of telling my sister. I was at about the same stage when I told her about DS, so it makes sense.
We've told our parents and siblings. And I've told my boss at work. She knew something was up because I've been a mess for the past couple of weeks because of this nausea and lack of sleep.
We are going to visit my extended family mid April and I should be around 15 weeks so we'll probably end up telling them. Not sure If i'll be going a social announcement. Thinking of tell our friends after 13 wks.
We've already told immediate family (and two close friends), but plan to do an Easter announcement to extended family and friends. Another idea I have is to do a "we're expecting photo shoot" and then post the pictures on April 1st.
We wanted to wait til we saw our parents to tell them in person, but with us in NJ and them in MA and MD I just couldn't hold it in! Ended up telling them and a couple of our closest friends about a week after we found out, around 5 weeks.
We're still on the fence about the public announcement, prob will do it sometime around 12-14 weeks. May wait til 14 so we can do something cutesy with Easter Still trying to decide whether to find out the gender early, and if we do, whether to announce that all at once.
In terms of work....I'm currently going thru a job change from temporary to permanent (solely to get the maternity leave!) so gonna try to hold out as long as possible. Hoping that this being my first pregnancy and wearing baggy clothes will get me til week 15 or so.
@nlpurdum I am doing the same thing with work. The change should take effect (if all goes well) when I am about 16 weeks so I am keeping my fingers crossed that I'm not showing much before then. Have you thought about when and how you will tell them? I don't want to be all "thanks for converting me, btw I'm outta here in 5 months", but I also don't want to wait too long.
I'll only be 6wks tomorrow, we have our first ultrasound on Friday. We've told my inlaws and brother in law since we live with them. I've told the girls at work they know our years long struggle to get pregnant. I also work with babies in childcare so it's kind of hard to keep that a secret. My husband told his coworker friend. We haven't told my Mom or anyone on my side of the family. I'm torn of when to tell her, we've been trying for 6years. She's a blab,so I know by the next days all her friends and half her church will know. She will also get so excited and start buying a ton of baby stuff and offer way to much life advice. I really just want to get to Friday, too actually see what's going on. I'm on progesterone injections and oral Estrace since this pregnancy is from a frozen embryo transfer, so I'm nervous and very cautiously excited I don't know about the facebook announcement, I've cried too many times waking up to see on my feed ultrasound pics and positive pee sticks. We will probably announce it there at some point but not sure how exactly.
Telling your work?? When do you guys plan on telling your place of employment? I'm 7 weeks - and i'm starting to show!! I'd rather tell them because people start thinking i'm getting fat! lol
We told our families last week. I told my immediate boss and division coworkers yesterday because I've been so darn sick with this pregnancy. I called off Friday and at our staff meeting yesterday morning they were asking if I felt better. So I told them, and it has spread to the rest of the office pretty quickly. Which is fine, I told them it wasn't a secret or anything.
I thought we were going to wait a little longer to tell the world, aka Facebook, but yesterday DH asked when I was going to set up the "Big Brother 101" picture with the boys, so I think we will do that this weekend. He seems pretty excited about it.
So overall we told everyone sooner than we had originally planned, but we are both excited.
Personally, I wouldn't tell work until you're through the first trimester. Only exception would be a boss - I've always told my boss because I didn't want rumors getting to them first (like why I'm puking in the bathroom) or so they recognize that's why my brain has been a little scattered.
I won't tell anyone else until after I'm through the first trimester. I know it sounds totally debbie-downer, but having to "un-tell" people in case of a loss is the worst. I think people suspect it, but since I'm their boss, they aren't crazy enough to bring it up
BFP#1: 12/3/13 EDD 8/15/13. Heartbeat found on 12/26/13, HB gone on 1/4/13. D&C 1/7/13
BFP#2: 4/19/13 EDD 12/28/13. Team Green for pregnancy and Baby Girl arrived 12/21/13. BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
We are telling H's family this evening! I'm really looking forward to it not being a secret anymore. I'm also really looking forward to telling my family later this week because it's the first grandbaby for my parents (third for H's parents).
Personally, I wouldn't tell work until you're through the first trimester. Only exception would be a boss - I've always told my boss because I didn't want rumors getting to them first (like why I'm puking in the bathroom) or so they recognize that's why my brain has been a little scattered.
I won't tell anyone else until after I'm through the first trimester. I know it sounds totally debbie-downer, but having to "un-tell" people in case of a loss is the worst. I think people suspect it, but since I'm their boss, they aren't crazy enough to bring it up
This.
With our first pregnancy (July 2014), we told EVERYONE at 6 weeks when we found out. We were a bit naive I suppose, but didn't really think of the possibility of it ending in a MC. Well a few short weeks later, we had to un-tell everyone. I had really bad spotting the whole time, and there were a lot of warning signs now that I look back. Because of that we waited until 12 weeks to announce with our DS. This time we will do the same. As hard as it is to wait, it's harder to have every single person ask how you are and tell you that it's so awful that it happened. I would've still told a select few to have a support system but I would've definitely handled it differently.
This time is nothing like our first pregnancy, but I did have some barely noticeable spotting when I wiped yesterday and Saturday. So we are especially cautious. I don't think anything is wrong this time, but you just never know. And honestly the thought of being cornered by my husband's relatives saying how sorry they are for our "little mishap" like they did the first time, is enough to make me wait. I am very excited for our LO but I am not ready to tell the world.
I would have loved to not tell anyone until 12 weeks. That's what we've done in the past. But this time I found out when I went in for a tonsillectomy so I had to explain to everyone asking how my surgery went that I didn't end up getting it. Not everyone knows yet but most friends and family do. I have told anyone who thought to ask about how it went.
Re: Publicly Announcing
We told my parents over this past weekend. Only because they had bought a crib to keep at their place for DS and now that he's sleeping in a regular bed, they were considering selling it. We're going up for a visit in 2 weeks and I'm thinking of telling my sister. I was at about the same stage when I told her about DS, so it makes sense.
We are going to visit my extended family mid April and I should be around 15 weeks so we'll probably end up telling them. Not sure If i'll be going a social announcement. Thinking of tell our friends after 13 wks.
Another idea I have is to do a "we're expecting photo shoot" and then post the pictures on April 1st.
We're still on the fence about the public announcement, prob will do it sometime around 12-14 weeks. May wait til 14 so we can do something cutesy with Easter
In terms of work....I'm currently going thru a job change from temporary to permanent (solely to get the maternity leave!) so gonna try to hold out as long as possible. Hoping that this being my first pregnancy and wearing baggy clothes will get me til week 15 or so.
We haven't told my Mom or anyone on my side of the family. I'm torn of when to tell her, we've been trying for 6years. She's a blab,so I know by the next days all her friends and half her church will know. She will also get so excited and start buying a ton of baby stuff and offer way to much life advice.
I really just want to get to Friday, too actually see what's going on. I'm on progesterone injections and oral Estrace since this pregnancy is from a frozen embryo transfer, so I'm nervous and very cautiously excited
I don't know about the facebook announcement, I've cried too many times waking up to see on my feed ultrasound pics and positive pee sticks. We will probably announce it there at some point but not sure how exactly.
I thought we were going to wait a little longer to tell the world, aka Facebook, but yesterday DH asked when I was going to set up the "Big Brother 101" picture with the boys, so I think we will do that this weekend. He seems pretty excited about it.
So overall we told everyone sooner than we had originally planned, but we are both excited.
I won't tell anyone else until after I'm through the first trimester. I know it sounds totally debbie-downer, but having to "un-tell" people in case of a loss is the worst. I think people suspect it, but since I'm their boss, they aren't crazy enough to bring it up
BFP#3: 2/9/13 EDD 10/18/17. Team Green for Round 2!
With our first pregnancy (July 2014), we told EVERYONE at 6 weeks when we found out. We were a bit naive I suppose, but didn't really think of the possibility of it ending in a MC. Well a few short weeks later, we had to un-tell everyone. I had really bad spotting the whole time, and there were a lot of warning signs now that I look back. Because of that we waited until 12 weeks to announce with our DS. This time we will do the same. As hard as it is to wait, it's harder to have every single person ask how you are and tell you that it's so awful that it happened. I would've still told a select few to have a support system but I would've definitely handled it differently.
This time is nothing like our first pregnancy, but I did have some barely noticeable spotting when I wiped yesterday and Saturday. So we are especially cautious. I don't think anything is wrong this time, but you just never know. And honestly the thought of being cornered by my husband's relatives saying how sorry they are for our "little mishap" like they did the first time, is enough to make me wait. I am very excited for our LO but I am not ready to tell the world.