I need some advice ladies

UnderAtree

When Ryan goes to his dad's house they hold him all the time. Then when he is with me its a nightmare cause Ryan will cry nonstop until I hold him. I have already talked to his dad numerous times about it but he still doesn't listen. The only response I get from him is "well then I just won't hold him any more." I feel like telling him if that's the case then I won't take him over there but then I would just end up feeling guilty that I am robbing Ryan from spending time with them.

 What makes matters worse is I am still suffering from PPD and I spend all day alone with Ryan and when he comes back from visiting there I sometimes can't handle the screaming and crying and just want to run. Even if I tell his dad this he still doesn't get it.

 

Please, any advice would help.

katie_cj

There's nothing you can do about this. It's the sucky part about co-parenting. You have different styles. His dad is not in any way harming his son by holding him too much.

There's always a couple days to re adapt when switching houses. 

I wish I could have better advice, but I don't. I suggest you stop even mentioning it, you don't want to harp over a little issue. 

I'm sorry about the PPD. That must be really rough. Are you talking to your doctor and/or taking meds to help you through it? Do you have any other support?

 

 

cbbc

katie_cj@hotmail.com:

There's nothing you can do about this. It's the sucky part about co-parenting. You have different styles. His dad is not in any way harming his son by holding him too much.

There's always a couple days to re adapt when switching houses. 

I wish I could have better advice, but I don't. I suggest you stop even mentioning it, you don't want to harp over a little issue. 

This was the hardest thing for me to get used to when I was a single parent. I'm a control freak and it was so hard for me to let go of telling Landon's dad how to take care of him.

OP, I'm sorry about your PPD. Do you have someone to help you out if you need a break? Hang in there. It does get easier! GL