@nda_roxybabe, yes it totally seems to be a family to family thing! It's funny because it was never really a conversation with my son and I guess I didn't realize it was a big deal to them/specifically DH. The problem is (and this is going to sound much harsher than I intend it to), I can't really think of anyone that I'd really WANT to name my child after. They are all lovely people, but it feels like I'm choosing a favorite and I don't really have one...Ruby (the middle name we are considering) is a nickname my husband has called me since we were teenagers, so it's the only one that seems to make sense to me.
@Kipperoo: Great question. I've been giving this a lot of thought lately too. Our little boy's middle name is my grandpa's. Everyone on my mom's side uses/has a middle name that's a family name. Most often it's their godparent's. My dad's side for middle name is about Half for family names and Half for names with some other special meaning. My hubbs's family (all sides!) only has a handful of people with middle names as family names, and most people have middle names with no family connection. Hubbs himself has a middle name with zero meaning to him. So to him, it's kind of strange to see my huge family with all these family-connection middle names. Hence, our son's mn has a family connection. But now, with baby #2, I'm personally feeling not so super-strong that it's necessary to be named for someone else. If the mn is a beautiful name and goes well with the fn and surname, then, that's all that matters, right?
@Kipperoo I agree with @nda_roxybabe and @SKZW It is totally family to family. Both of our kids' middle names do have family names, but that was because of us, not our family per se. I am 1 of 4 and my oldest brother is the only one with a family name (he is a Jr). Just to throw this out there, both me and my sister do not have middle names, so don't feel like you HAVE to have a MN either. I actually liked not having one growing up. And then once I got married, my maiden name became my middle name.
@Kipperoo for MH and I, it is important for some part of our kid's name to have a family connection, DD is named after my maternal grandparents. But like a pp said, each family/person is different. You go with what you like.
But it I will say, that I think Estelle Ruby has a beautiful story and will be meaningful to your little girl when she hears how she got her name.
@nda_roxybabe You're right. That happened to me in another thread I was reading. It's like TB went from 100 posts/page down to whatever smaller number. Its kinda weird.
I agree with a lot of the previous posters about the family name, @Kipperoo. Totally depends on family. Sometimes the names mean a bit more to you if you want to honor a family member who passed. Also, your own family tree could prove to be a veritable gold mine of awesome names (retro, unique, maiden...etc).
So when I was a kid, I never had a nickname...nothing was natural with my name (ie. Katherine becomes Kate...etc). We're planning on naming our baby boy with a nickname in mind. Are you guys planning on nicknames when picking out names?
Ladies I would love some input on our final two. Sibs are Benjamin and Bradley. (Don't want another "B") we just liked the names. This is either going to be Joshua Jude (nn JJ) or will go by Joshua only. or Lucas Jude ( will go by Luke or Luca) any thoughts? We talked about waiting until delivery like we did with Bradley. For him it was between Bradley and Luke. But I just think it would be nice for the boys to call this little guy by a name while we wait for his arrival.
@nda_roxybabe totally get it. It seems that people don't care for that. And I find it odd that I like it quite honestly. I refuse to shorten Benjamin and Bradleys name ever. So it's odd that I am even thinking of nicknames for this one. I think that's why Joshua is what I lean toward since I don't like Lucas as much as Luke.
@Kipperoo I agree that it depends on the traditions of the family. To me it's important to use the middle name as a way to honour someone special from my family.
@mamatowildones, I like Lucas! I was on the "no nickname" bandwagon with my son but now find myself contemplating nicknames with this little one, which is so funny. My son is Sullivan and we never call him Sully (although other people do).
@mamatowildones I actually like the nn JJ. But I could be partial because my boss's name is a double J and he goes by JJ. His son is also a double J...I like his name though.....Jagger.
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What do you think of the middle names Gordon or Clifford (after great grandpas)? I like them, but can't come up with any first names that go well. Any ideas?
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What do you think of the middle names Gordon or Clifford (after great grandpas)? I like them, but can't come up with any first names that go well. Any ideas?
Our boy name was James Gordon (after DH's dad and my brother). Kind of plain but solid and traditionally English. I still wanted Gordon for a middle name for our daughter but was vetoed.
I posted this a while ago in the Baby Names forum, but wanted to see your take. One of the few baby boy names DH and I both love is Julian...but our close family friends have a baby girl named Julia. We live about an hour away, and only see them one every other month or so, and the kiddos won't attend the same school. Also, our last name starts with a J. Would these circumstances rule out the name for you? I can't decide...haha
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I posted this a while ago in the Baby Names forum, but wanted to see your take. One of the few baby boy names DH and I both love is Julian...but our close family friends have a baby girl named Julia. We live about an hour away, and only see them one every other month or so, and the kiddos won't attend the same school. Also, our last name starts with a J. Would these circumstances rule out the name for you? I can't decide...haha
I posted this a while ago in the Baby Names forum, but wanted to see your take. One of the few baby boy names DH and I both love is Julian...but our close family friends have a baby girl named Julia. We live about an hour away, and only see them one every other month or so, and the kiddos won't attend the same school. Also, our last name starts with a J. Would these circumstances rule out the name for you? I can't decide...haha
Julian is also my #1! IMO that's not a close enough relation to not ise the name!
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We've settled(FINALLY) on Alexander Robert. Apparently Alexander is popular. But we can't let that sway our opinion. We just love the name. Big bros Benjamin and Bradley are learning to say it and its pretty damn cute.
Well we decided on Holly for a first name and are honoring my H roots by giving her an Egyptian middle name. It's been difficult because we cannot agree on one. So far our two that we like are Amina (his grandmothers name) and Amani. I like both but worried that Amani would be too rhyme-y and Amina might not go so for now we are stuck.
I really like Holly Amina (agree that Amani is a little rhyme-y and doesn't have the same feminine feel IMO) I love when middle names have family meaning!
We are still struggling for a name for our little girl. I recently came across Emilia and love it but my cousin has a daughter named Amelia. I have a big family and they live in another province and we don't see them often at all (once a year max). would this deter you from using the name?
Also, do you think it will be a constant issue with the confusion between Emilia and Amelia? Since the only difference is the slight difference in the. beginning sound.
top three names right now are: 1. Emilia Rose 2. Adalyn Rose 3. Everly Rose
We are still struggling for a name for our little girl. I recently came across Emilia and love it but my cousin has a daughter named Amelia. I have a big family and they live in another province and we don't see them often at all (once a year max). would this deter you from using the name?
Also, do you think it will be a constant issue with the confusion between Emilia and Amelia? Since the only difference is the slight difference in the. beginning sound.
top three names right now are: 1. Emilia Rose 2. Adalyn Rose 3. Everly Rose
All 3 names are beautiful! If I were in your family I might personally pause in hearing the Emilia choice b/c it is similar, and think it were the same, but would get over any confusion/comparison pretty quickly. As long as you can prepare yourself for those types of conversations at first, then there's no problem. You said you love the name, so that's all that matters.
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But it I will say, that I think Estelle Ruby has a beautiful story and will be meaningful to your little girl when she hears how she got her name.
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So when I was a kid, I never had a nickname...nothing was natural with my name (ie. Katherine becomes Kate...etc). We're planning on naming our baby boy with a nickname in mind. Are you guys planning on nicknames when picking out names?
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IMO that's not a close enough relation to not ise the name!
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ETA: I guess it's not just for him as a little boy.
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@KMD1106 Lewis is cute and classic. The only one I've ever known is a great man!
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The boy could also end up as Aaron or Jacob, but those names remind me of people so I'm leaning Eli. We'll know the sex tomorrow!
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I love when middle names have family meaning!
would this deter you from using the name?
Also, do you think it will be a constant issue with the confusion between Emilia and Amelia? Since the only difference is the slight difference in the. beginning sound.
top three names right now are:
1. Emilia Rose
2. Adalyn Rose
3. Everly Rose