UNPOPULAR OPINION THURSDAY!

sarah0985

Since last weeks went so well! Let's have some real conversations and debates! Give us your best ones. 

NurseK2016

I'm sure I'll make some enemies with this one...I really don't like when people announce their babies  name before they deliver. I can understand telling your family and close friends but not posting it on Facebook. I feel like it takes away any surprise when the baby is born Sorry to everyone who does this, not trying to offend just giving my UO

Edited: because I really don't mind a gender/genital reveal...

Jens_Hoes

@NurseK2016 My UO is similar to yours...  I don't like it when people post excessively on Facebook/Instagram/Social Media about their children/dogs/food/ whatever.
I understanding sharing updates with friends & family, but posting it on social media feels incredibly attention seeking to me.  I try to avoid Facebook for that reason

Candy_bandit

Oooh I thought I didn't have one but after reading those I totally do! I like social media baby posts, I'm the psycho that straight up made my kid a Facebook page so she could be tagged. I don't regret it at all, it's sweet having all the pictures in one place- I didn't use her full name, it's private and no one has access to share any of the pics I post. It's like the most comprehensive baby book ever. I figured when I was pregnant I would do it, because I didn't want to be that person posting pictures all the time on my page, seemed a good compromise since only family are her "friends" who always ask for more pictures.
Another one- I hate when people post things about their kids potty training, pictures in the bath, embarrassing stories. Even for me the over sharer I feel bad for the kiddos h

starphish18

@NurseK2016 I can see your point. I think some people probably want to get dibs out on their name if they know other people who are also pregnant, though. Personally, hubbs and I already have a girl name picked out, but we haven't told a soul. I'm afraid to jinx it, because our favorite boy name became popular last year (Liam). No clue what we'd name a boy at this point.

My UO. I hate baby talk. Sorry, it drives me nuts. I'm pretty sure I'll be speaking to my kid like a tiny adult. 

mcvgal

I think those bottomless baby sandals are the dumbest thing ever. I love to crochet and have made several booties and sandals as gifts, but what is the point of a "shoe" without a sole?!

RedBreast35

Welp, I'll go.  
I really don't like the lack of board organization on this BMB so far.  I know there have been several ladies who expressed that they were on a different BMB in the past that was more of a free-for-all and liked it, but I just can't get a good feel for this place yet and I think that's why.  It seems like there are only a few threads where actual conversations have really happened and a lot more threads with only a few replies that just kind of dwindle and go away.
I'm type A.  I can't help it 

Also, +1 on disliking too much sharing on social media.  

sarah0985

RedBreast35 said:

Welp, I'll go.  
I really don't like the lack of board organization on this BMB so far.  I know there have been several ladies who expressed that they were on a different BMB in the past that was more of a free-for-all and liked it, but I just can't get a good feel for this place yet and I think that's why.  It seems like there are only a few threads where actual conversations have really happened and a lot more threads with only a few replies that just kind of dwindle and go away.
I'm type A.  I can't help it 

Also, +1 on disliking too much sharing on social media.  

I LOVE YOU! 

You're my favorite. So many speshul snowflake threads and hardly any real participation!!!

bacorrea

@starphish18 baby talk is the worst. 

slam1110

@RedBreast35 @sarah0985 Add me to the UO of how the board is looking.  Definitely agree on the lack of communication!  I am hopeful though, it seems to be getting slightly better?  At least with the organization.

My UO - We need more snark on this board! It's sad when I have to lurk other boards to get my snark fill!

RedBreast35

right back atcha @sarah0985

pshaortao

I'm with you ladies. I loved the snark on my board even if I was too nice to get in on it. I did not hold back on my eating popcorn gifs though! It seems like were just all sitting around waiting for something to happen but were complaining instead of doing. Shall we ramp it up without violating TOU?

sarah0985

@pshaortao I agree. I definitely feel like I'm just sitting complaining but I feel like I can't snark on a potential loss thread. I would never wish a loss on anyone and I know I feel anxiety everyday worrying about a loss.
The one I actually did correct (the one with pictures. Ugh) got deleted. 
 I feel like a lot of these girls could get more support if they conversated on mutual threads. a lot of them are having similar signs and symptoms. 

CherryBananas

@pshaortao @sarah0985 me too! I still lurk on my last BMB to get my snark fix because nothing is happening here yet. I have all these awesome gifs just collecting dust on my phone 

lildropofheavn23

My UO is that I do not care about Brad & Angelina - I'm tired of reading about them on every website I go on! I don't care how they split their millions of dollars. I don't care who gets custody!

starphish18

In regards to the board organization, I know I was just super confused about it. There's that one post about how it should be organized, but even that wasn't very clear to me. I've kind of just been trying to go with the flow, figuring the veterans here would lead the way. 

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot

slam1110 said:

@RedBreast35 @sarah0985 Add me to the UO of how the board is looking.  Definitely agree on the lack of communication!  I am hopeful though, it seems to be getting slightly better?  At least with the organization.

My UO - We need more snark on this board! It's sad when I have to lurk other boards to get my snark fill!

Team More Snark!! This may already be obvious. If I wanted butterflies and sunshine, I'd go to BBC or the FB group. 

Squirtgun

Yes! I miss snark and actual conversations!!  There are over 250 posts in the intro thread... Where is everyone? 

sarah0985

Squirtgun said:

Yes! I miss snark and actual conversations!!  There are over 250 posts in the intro thread... Where is everyone? 

That's how I feel. The ticker changes are almost silent. 

MamaMiller

I absolutely can't stand when people wear pajama bottoms in public....I secretly judge all that do it. Get a life and put some pants on!

pshaortao

I think this board is just figuring out it's "footing" or whatever you call it, but I don't think it will be much longer before it does. At least I hope not! So with that said...

 

vrj0522

I dislike the posts where people talk about being worried about something and ask if others had a positive outcome with a similar situation. My situation is not the same as yours so I can't tell you how yours is going to go. I usually don't say anything because I know the poster has to be worried and stressed but it does bug me. I usually just scroll by or get out of the post. 

vrj0522

I also miss snark but I don't know where the line is with all the new rules. I haven't been on here for over a year so I don't know how much is actually allowed and what constitutes breaking TOU. 

mamagain520

Here goes

slam1110

@vrj0522 I just have to say that every time I see your avatar, it looks like a balding man in a pink suit. So that is what I picture you look like now...you're welcome.

ShadeofGreen816

@RedBreast35 I'm with you a little. I'm not too concerned about the lack of organization but I feel like there's not a lot of interaction going on and I don't like that I'm not really getting to know anybody. I think that in just my short time on TTGP I got spoiled by the sense of community. How do we fix this? I don't know!

ETA I opened this thread and then went and ate lunch and saw a couple of patients so I was so behind! I'm ready for all the snark and to actually get to know some of you!

pshaortao

vrj0522 said:

I also miss snark but I don't know where the line is with all the new rules. I haven't been on here for over a year so I don't know how much is actually allowed and what constitutes breaking TOU. 

Same here. I remember the changes happened after my BMB had their babies and it just kind of blew up. 

What I do know that will break TOU:
- Omg so and so, am I pregnant?
- Unappropriate photos: pee sticks, bodily fluid, and the forbidden mucus plug
- I'm guessing this one... swear words at another bumpie. No idea if GIFs count unless someone personally flag them

Anybody else? Otherwise, I will take my chance.

Squirtgun

pshaortao said:

vrj0522 said:

I also miss snark but I don't know where the line is with all the new rules. I haven't been on here for over a year so I don't know how much is actually allowed and what constitutes breaking TOU. 

Same here. I remember the changes happened after my BMB had their babies and it just kind of blew up. 

What I do know that will break TOU:
- Omg so and so, am I pregnant?
- Unappropriate photos: pee sticks, bodily fluid, and the forbidden mucus plug
- I'm guessing this one... swear words at another bumpie. No idea if GIFs count unless someone personally flag them

Anybody else? Otherwise, I will take my chance.

For some reason this BMB doesn't  have "the bump guidelines" pinned to the top. Go over to TTGP or somewhere just to see that post. I know it's pinned to the top over there. Maybe the tri boards as well?  

CajunSnowWhite89

slam1110 said:

@vrj0522 I just have to say that every time I see your avatar, it looks like a balding man in a pink suit. So that is what I picture you look like now...you're welcome.

Me too! Lol. Is that not what her avatar is? I'm on mobile and its SO small.

I'm also kind of waiting around for the board to get its footing before posting. i just don't feel like I have anything to contribute to most of the discussion.

renee6465

vrj0522 said:

I also miss snark but I don't know where the line is with all the new rules. I haven't been on here for over a year so I don't know how much is actually allowed and what constitutes breaking TOU. 

I am completely with you on this. I need to look at TOU and see what the changes are. I remember it happening towards the end of the time I spent on TB last time so I don't know much about it. I am guessing @pshaortao is close on her bullets. Those are probably the important ones at least?

Kipperoo

Agreed with everyone that our community seems a little...sad and under developed. I'm hoping that things will ramp up when there isn't so much uncertainty. Maybe people are hesitant to contribute because they don't want to become part of a community they may have to exit? IDK...I'm hoping it turns around though! 

My UO is...I think professional pics of sleeping babies are creepy. The babies look dead and it's extra creepy to me when the parents are looking on all adoringly. And the only thing I hate more than that is maternity photos--both professional and the "look at my bump" progress on social media. Especially bare belly ones posted on social media. WE GET IT. YOU ARE PREGNANT. 

pshaortao

Squirtgun said:

pshaortao said:

vrj0522 said:

I also miss snark but I don't know where the line is with all the new rules. I haven't been on here for over a year so I don't know how much is actually allowed and what constitutes breaking TOU. 

Same here. I remember the changes happened after my BMB had their babies and it just kind of blew up. 

What I do know that will break TOU:
- Omg so and so, am I pregnant?
- Unappropriate photos: pee sticks, bodily fluid, and the forbidden mucus plug
- I'm guessing this one... swear words at another bumpie. No idea if GIFs count unless someone personally flag them

Anybody else? Otherwise, I will take my chance.

For some reason this BMB doesn't  have "the bump guidelines" pinned to the top. Go over to TTGP or somewhere just to see that post. I know it's pinned to the top over there. Maybe the tri boards as well?  

I knew I had seen it before. I stopped participating on TTGP earlier this year. Thanks!

For anybody who cares.... https://www.thebump.com/terms

achays11

I was hanging out in the TTGP board as well and miss our sense of community @ShadeofGreen816. I do feel like that board was a lot more organized as far as daily threads go. Maybe we will get back to that once everyone starts to feel a bit more comfortable with their pregnancies. Personally I don't do gifs because I am usually mobile, but I do love a good gif/gif party. 

starphish18

@Kipperoo Agree with all the things 

starphish18

Question about daily threads. Are they supposed to be only for that day...or for a week until the next one starts? 

CajunSnowWhite89

My UO is that we told all of our family about our BFP the day we found out. But we've been seeing an IF Doctor and been pretty open about it with family, so this wasn't much different to us then that. We're still holding off on telling friends and Facebook until a lot later though.

hezzer78

@sarah0985 @redbreast35 @Kipperoo

I feel pretty much the same about the organization and development here - personally, I've been hesitant to participate a lot until I'm sure I'll be sticking around. I've been lurking and reading, just not posting much lately.  I know that's contributing to the issue, but I feel that's probably better for my sanity at the moment..

@pshaortao I'd say you're probably pretty close with what you said - those are the reasons I've seen in the past.

I don't have an UO at the moment...but I'm sure I'll think of something

sarah0985

@hezzer78 I think it's mostly all the people making threads and commenting on the loss threads ( ) but not really participating elsewhere. 

Luckyu317

I hope this isn't an UO, but: Photos of Bodily discharge, no matter which part of your body it comes from, do Not belong here. Or anywhere on social media. Would you walk up to a random group of strangers, show them the toilet paper, and ask them what it means? No..then don't do it here. Save that shit for you Doctor (they don't really want to see it either). #teamsnark,

jatwal128

@redbreast35 thank you!!!! I'm glad someone said it. 

I noticed the lack of real conversation too and hopefully it'll work itself out with time. But I'll answer a question or respond to someone and then crickets...not that i need a 'thanks' or a response to everything, but it's hard to interact with people when it's one-sided. 

As far as board organization, what if we started a daily randoms thread? It could be where we put all the random questions and chatter instead of starting new threads for each concern or comment.

ETA: Ignore me, we have a randoms thread ...so what if we actually start using that instead of starting new threads for each concern or comment??? Or a randoms thread specifically for pregnancy related comments and questions that don't fit anywhere else?

MoshiMoshi7

I don't mind when people post about their kids on social media all the time because I assume they are like me and don't live close to their families and still want to share their children's lives with them.

I agree about the lack of community here, but I think it might be that it's too early for people to feel comfortable enough to jump in.

My UO: I much prefer to drive a manual than an automatic.