@SnarkasaurusRex I agree with the others. I like Maren Katherine. I don't think its overly rhyme-y and while we are currently focused on first and middle name pairings, how often do you really say the first and middle name together in real life? I mean, other than when LO is in trouble I would be more worried that the first and last names were too rhyme-y or bouncy as with Laurel and your last name.
@BabyBlake.04.2017 oh my God I just looked it up and I think you just made the decision for us! need to discuss with DH asap. I love the meaning of Theo, how did I not even look it up before? and ours is a rainbow baby too
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
@SnarkasaurusRex I agree with the others. I like Maren Katherine. I don't think its overly rhyme-y and while we are currently focused on first and middle name pairings, how often do you really say the first and middle name together in real life? I mean, other than when LO is in trouble I would be more worried that the first and last names were too rhyme-y or bouncy as with Laurel and your last name.
That's what I was going to say...I think if it means something, that will matter most! Plus you are so zoomed in thinking about it right now, it's easy to overthink. But I can't hear a problem when I say it!
How will Maren be pronounced? I'm imagining Mau-ren (rhymes with Lauren?).
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@SnarkasaurusRex I agree with the others. I like Maren Katherine. I don't think its overly rhyme-y and while we are currently focused on first and middle name pairings, how often do you really say the first and middle name together in real life? I mean, other than when LO is in trouble I would be more worried that the first and last names were too rhyme-y or bouncy as with Laurel and your last name.
That's what I was going to say...I think if it means something, that will matter most! Plus you are so zoomed in thinking about it right now, it's easy to overthink. But I can't hear a problem when I say it!
How will Maren be pronounced? I'm imagining Mau-ren (rhymes with Lauren?).
That's what I am thinking, too. The rhyme/bounciness of the FN/LN combo is probably more of a deal breaker than FN/MN.
We would pronounce it like Mare-in (rhymes with Karen).
Okay ladies, I need some advice (I think I am just stuck in my own head because we do NOT discuss names with anyone before baby is here due to lots of things mentioned already, haha)...we are so stuck on a name for baby girl.
I would like for the MN to be Katherine after a very important family member, but that's not set in stone.
My top choice is Maren. DH loves it too and was totally on board until someone pointed out that it is a little rhyme-y with Katherine. Currently we have Juliet as a backup MN, but DS has a very, very meaningful MN and I don't know if it would be weird that DD wouldn't.
DH's top choice is Laurel. I really like this name, but our last name is two syllables and starts with a Cour- sound, so I worry that this name is too rhyme-y. The best way that I can think of to describe it is "bouncy".
I don't know if either of those things should be/really are deal breakers, but we are just not able to push through. What do you guys think?
Other names that we considered but have passed on are: Lydia, Juliet, Rosalind, Audrey, Charlotte, and Sylvia.
I adore the name Maren!! I don't think it's too rhyme-y with Katherine...but if you are stuck on that what about Maren Kate?
I just saw Dylan on a list of names girls need to steal from boys along with Maxwell, James, Riley, and like 15 others. I can't remember where that list was!
This is encouraging! Thanks ladies! My husband and I agree on exactly 0 names so far. I know we have plenty of time but, I really would like to find a name before this baby is 3 days old. Being hounded by the SS Lady at the hospital is no fun.
@BabyBlake.04.2017 I would love that list if you can find it. @KirstinH88 Her name is Harper so, very boy name turned hipster. Any suggestions welcome!
@jennielynn+ This isn't the exact list I was looking at, but it has a lot of the same boy names for girls listed. This is the celebrity version, which is I'm sure where the other list got all their ideas anyway, I just couldn't find it again!
We are team green, and cannot agree on a boys name! We have had our girls name picked out since we had DS, but boys names are so difficult to agree on. I like Declan, Ashby, and Ashton DH says no to all of them. Our combined agreed list is: Lincoln, Wyatt, Emmett, and Wesley. I'm still not sold on any of those.
My DH really wanted to name baby Anna for biblical reasons so we decided on Anna Marie. I liked the name but didn't love it, but found out today that one of my great grandmas was Anne and 2(!) of them were Anna! Plus my grandmother was Anastasia so I love that it seems that little bit more special now
@rachelmiller03 i think team greens have the hardest time because it's hard enough to agree knowing the gender, let alone having to agree on a choice for both! Good luck!!! Emmett is in our top 3, I love that name, but you have some other great options too! You'll find something that fits!!
@ekzerr that's so special to have a family connection to the name!
Oy. DH threw a little fit last night because I brought up the stuff we've discussed on here...that a FN that's a little rhyme-y with our LN might be a deal breaker for me...because I'm "not letting him have an opinion." I want to slap him, because he picked all of DS's name well before we even got pregnant, and I agreed with it because I knew it meant a lot to him and I didn't have strong feelings for a boy name either way. But now he's being whiny because I don't love his first name pick with our last name and he wants to middle name it, but I want to use a name that's meaningful to ME in the MN spot...oyyyyyy. I'm hoping it's just this 'man cold' that he's had here lately and he'll stop being such a baby about it and actually listen to the stuff I'm suggesting...we'll see.
@SnarkasaurusRex Men are babies when they are sick. PREACH on naming humans; it is hard.
@rachelmiller03 I like Lincoln and Wyatt best. It feels hard for me to excited about a name for a person I have not even met yet. I think that is why I struggle so hard and feel so much pressure. It doesn't help that my husband hates all my choices.
Yesterday my father in law was watching DH bring me some food and he made a comment about "gotta feed little Lucy." I stared at him and asked if H had told him that was on the list. He said, "no--I was just pulling a name from the air." So now I don't know whether he was picking a name he thought was silly and he doesn't like it, or what he thinks. But I wasn't going to tell anyone the name until shortly before the delivery. So if I decide on that one I'll always wonder what he was thinking. Hahaha. I just really like it still and can't get it out of my head. Frankly I don't care what he thinks. He at least had the grace not to say either way what he thought!
I had an awful dream Christmas Eve that I lost the baby right now. In the dream, his name was Abraham, which is one of our top 3.
I don't know what to do with that. If it was not such a sad dream, and a name came to me, I'd absolutely take it as a sign that it's a name we should pick. But now I'm thinking I just cross Abraham off the list...DH thinks I'm over-thinking it.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@cafedisco aw I'm sorry. That's awful. I wouldn't overthink it. Give it time and the negative feelings from the dream will maybe fade and you can rethink the name. I'm sorry your subconscious would do that to you though.
@cafedisco You are overthinking it just scientifically based on how dreams are constructed. Dreams are out of our control. However, it is totally understandable to have a bad taste in your mouth about the name now. I know I would. I agree with give it some time, especially if the name meant something to you. You could also view it as your subconscious has already decided on that name.
Thanks ladies. I'm surprisingly not really upset by the dream. I was when I first woke up, but baby has been moving around a lot lately and I know logically it was just probably a result of stress.
Trying to just not think about a name right now and see how I feel in a bit about it.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@cafedisco dont let that silly dream influence you. You will forget the dream in a few days, a week tops. And you will likely have many more nightmares, you sleep lighter, it is easier to have bad dreams. This only means one thing - that the fear of loss is on your mind, and the name is also on your mind, doesn't mean anything else!! Hope you already feel a bit better.
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I've been stressing over telling my husband's family the name we chose - Beatrix Noel, because his grandma has hated every girl name given to a grandchild/great grandchild so far.. and been really vocal about it. When we told her she just got a weird look and changed the subject. Not the best reaction, but much better than it could have been! Now hopefully she won't talk about it too much behind our backs
@JessWannaEatEverything I've been dreading any baby talk bc of names... When we found out it was a boy, my mom said "I'm glad it's not a girl. I hated all your girl names" and then proceeded to make faces while saying things like "Emilia sounds like she'd get lost at sea it's a terrible name" so haven't told her anything this time.. someone mentioned my husband's top name in front of her and she said "no it won't be that I hate it and it sounds girly."
We are naming our little girl Elizabeth Ann. She will have many options later in life of what she wants to be called (Liz, Lizann, Lizzie, Beth etc..) I think I'm going to call her Beth Ann. Also middle name is a family name.
@cafedisco I agree with the others...give it time, don't scratch it from your list yet. We decided on DS's name quickly, but only a few weeks before he was born I was having the hardest time picturing his name ON him. We weren't saying it out loud that often because we keep our names secret till birth. I kept having the name Michael pop into my head when I thought about his actual name and it started wigging me out like maybe my child was destined to be called something else and I was screwing up, told DH and went back to the drawing board for a few days, but stuck with our original choice and we still love it. I've never thought of the name Michael again.
@HappyAnjel hang in there, this sounds awful... why don't you try not mentioning names until birth, and then decide, just you and your husband. When you introduce your little boy as "hi grandma, this is xxx", I doubt she will go "oh I hate the name" - they will love him no matter what the name was!
On our end we have two top runners, and I keep changing my mind about them almost on a weekly basis. We just have to wait until little one is born. We are not telling anyone and people have not been pushing for it, thankfully.
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
@smallanimal Oh we aren't discussing names with others we learned our lesson! The girls list my mom had opinions about was from when we had our daughter (before I realized how opinionated my mom really was) and the boys name just happened to be mentioned in front of her, not by me or even in the context of it being on our list. I've actually told my mom we won't be discussing names with anyone bc of her harsh opinions.
And honestly she would 100% tell me she hated a name while holding the baby.. she's not a bad person but she's the most opinionated one I've ever met.
@HappyAnjel haha you put it so diplomatically... well, how about asking her for a list of 20-20 names as suggestions then? Maybe you'd like one or two...
I told my MIL over christmas that I am upset with her because she took all the best names for her sons already. Thankfully she took is as a joke it was, and then came with more ideas!!!
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
We hosted a Christmas dinner for friends, and the name conversation came up 3 times. One of the couples who was here had already told my husband they don't like our top name, so I was not interested in having the conversation on Christmas! I successfully avoided bringing up our top name and list of other ideas, but that didn't stop them from offering suggestions of course. This couple was stuck on the Freakanomics rules for names and how they affect future earning potential. I would rather have a name that means something to my husband and me rather than a name that might help my son earn more money in a hypathetical future situation.
I also am not telling my in laws our top name because when we told them some of our favorites before we knew gender my MIL made some very offensive comments and wouldn't drop it, so I feel as though she lost the privilege to be included in our process (she told us how our then favorite boys name Emmett was a rodeo clown and also the name of a little boy who was lynched in the south). I am not allowing her to have the opportunity to put down our absolute favorite name now that we feel set on it because of what it means to us. She can find out when he's born, and I feel like once the name is set people feel less able to criticize.
@BabyBlake.04.2017 Some people are the worst. When they share negative opinions on the names I'm like "you are literally making fun of my unborn child." We ended up sharing our names with my parents and his and they each liked one but not the other. At one point I said "I don't give a flying eff if you like them, that's their names. I'm just letting you know." On xmas eve it came up and apparently my mom had shared with some. They could only remember one so I had to share the other. Then they became the topic of conversation. "Max, like Max what? Maximilian?" ... "Just Max."... "Maxwell?"... "Just Max".... "What's Miles short for?"..."Nothing. Just Miles.".... "What kind of name is Miles?"... ??.... We're Polish so my mom says "Whats the Polish version of Miles? What do I call him?"..... "If Miles is too difficult, call him Kilometers."
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@super_sam03 "kilometers." Nice answer. Max and Miles are great. I'm sorry your family is being weird about it.
I'm glad to have had the advice from you all about not sharing with family or I would most likely have had my feelings hurt already. Or at least more than with the incident with my FIL. I do seem to be in the minority in that my MIL is being my ally and told my FIL to hush up and say nothing about names and let us pick. Early on I gave my mother suggestions and quickly realized that was a bad idea. Fortunately none of those from the early days seem to still be on the list and I will not be telling her the latest.
ETA ever since Lucy has moved to the top name in my mind I've had "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds" stuck in my head. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing! Lol.
"Max, like Max what? Maximilian?" ... "Just Max."... "Maxwell?"... "Just Max".... "What's Miles short for?"..."Nothing. Just Miles.".... "What kind of name is Miles?"... ??.... We're Polish so my mom says "Whats the Polish version of Miles? What do I call him?"..... "If Miles is too difficult, call him Kilometers."
The bold x1million!!!! Every time I meet someone new. That is my conversation about DS's name. And LOL at Kilometers!!!! Hahahahaha!!!!!
Re: Baby Names
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
How will Maren be pronounced? I'm imagining Mau-ren (rhymes with Lauren?).
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
We would pronounce it like Mare-in (rhymes with Karen).
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
@BabyBlake.04.2017 I would love that list if you can find it.
@KirstinH88 Her name is Harper so, very boy name turned hipster. Any suggestions welcome!
https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/mom.me/entertainment/17831-10-celebrities-who-gave-daughters-boy-names/amp/
@ekzerr that's so special to have a family
connection to the name!
TL;DR: naming a human is hard.
@rachelmiller03 I like Lincoln and Wyatt best. It feels hard for me to excited about a name for a person I have not even met yet. I think that is why I struggle so hard and feel so much pressure. It doesn't help that my husband hates all my choices.
Isla Jayne (eyela)band Henley Aren (Erin)
Jayne is my mom's middle name, and Aren was the name of one of my MILs twins that passed away at birth.
We want to keep 2 or 3 names until she is born.
I had an awful dream Christmas Eve that I lost the baby right now. In the dream, his name was Abraham, which is one of our top 3.
I don't know what to do with that. If it was not such a sad dream, and a name came to me, I'd absolutely take it as a sign that it's a name we should pick. But now I'm thinking I just cross Abraham off the list...DH thinks I'm over-thinking it.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
Trying to just not think about a name right now and see how I feel in a bit about it.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
Hope you already feel a bit better.
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
This kids going to college nameless.
Baby Boy due 04/07/17
On our end we have two top runners, and I keep changing my mind about them almost on a weekly basis. We just have to wait until little one is born. We are not telling anyone and people have not been pushing for it, thankfully.
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
And honestly she would 100% tell me she hated a name while holding the baby.. she's not a bad person but she's the most opinionated one I've ever met.
Baby Boy due 04/07/17
I told my MIL over christmas that I am upset with her because she took all the best names for her sons already. Thankfully she took is as a joke it was, and then came with more ideas!!!
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I also am not telling my in laws our top name because when we told them some of our favorites before we knew gender my MIL made some very offensive comments and wouldn't drop it, so I feel as though she lost the privilege to be included in our process (she told us how our then favorite boys name Emmett was a rodeo clown and also the name of a little boy who was lynched in the south). I am not allowing her to have the opportunity to put down our absolute favorite name now that we feel set on it because of what it means to us. She can find out when he's born, and I feel like once the name is set people feel less able to criticize.
Me 31, DH 32, Married 08/08
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I'm glad to have had the advice from you all about not sharing with family or I would most likely have had my feelings hurt already. Or at least more than with the incident with my FIL. I do seem to be in the minority in that my MIL is being my ally and told my FIL to hush up and say nothing about names and let us pick. Early on I gave my mother suggestions and quickly realized that was a bad idea. Fortunately none of those from the early days seem to still be on the list and I will not be telling her the latest.
ETA ever since Lucy has moved to the top name in my mind I've had "Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds" stuck in my head. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing! Lol.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17