- the daycare discussion makes me sad. We are going to end up paying anywhere between $1700 and $2200 just for one child. We aren't going for top of the line either, just some place safe. It's just crazy here,with everywhere already having a wait list. I'm just hoping we get off a wait list at one of the cheaper places opposed to the most expensive.
Yup. Boston prices are insane. We paid $1400 a month for a toddler. In a home daycare. Centers would have been even higher. Thank goodness we're moving and prices will be going waaaaay down.
@Gingersnap your H sounds like a real stand up guy in many ways. I honestly don't understand how nobody approached the poor man crawling on the ground, like... Wtf?!
Yeah, our country's daycare situation is awful. Prices are insane, but the teachers who do this important work are so drastically underpaid. High quality childcare is so, so important for children's futures and we give it no support.
We've accepted a kind, unexpected offer of grandma care, at least initially. I have my concerns about how long my MIL will want to come to our house for, and we're less comfortable with the baby going to hers, but I do trust her to follow our wishes and treat the baby wonderfully. FT infant for us would have been $900-$1,400. Even if we just get a few months out of it working with MIL, that will be great. I may need to hire a sitter for one day, which I expect to cost $15/hour. After taxes, I won't profit much that day.
Second,I have the craziest story about our temp covering for shitty pregnant
girl. So she's 44 and has a 26 year old son and a 2 year old son. Her
2 year old's dad has a DOZEN children from 5 women. They are no longer
together and he has another younger kid with a lady he lives with now, but the temp
wants to have another baby so her son isn't alone. So since he cheated
on her with his lady, she thinks he should cheat on this lady with her to
get her pregnant again.
Then she tells me that in 3 years she got pregnant by this
guy 3 times. The first was a chemical pregnancy and the second had
trisomy 18, but she carried it to term and he died the day he was born,
but that was the god fearing in her to not terminate that pregnancy,
then 6 months later she got pregnant for the third time and that's her 2
year old.
WTFBBQ. I get terminating a pregnancy that isn't going to make it isn't for everyone, but I mean how is that worse than sleeping with a man who lives with another woman to get pregnant.
I have a child over 20 and a 3 year old. I am under 40 but I might even have another over 40. I can't agree with the cheating/revenge baby making but the age difference is pretty normal to me.
Hopefully they decide their revenge pregnancy isn't a good idea. Why are people like that?
I have a child over 20 and a 3 year old. I am under 40 but I might even have another over 40. I can't agree with the cheating/revenge baby making but the age difference is pretty normal to me.
Hopefully they decide their revenge pregnancy isn't a good idea. Why are people like that?
oh I'm not judging the age gap. I get at 44 your clock is basically running out (I mean my clock has run out at 34), but maybe buy some sperm or something. She just didn't want to have 3 fathers for 3 kids.
@PerraSucia I am with you on that. A nice donor would be so much preferable to a revenge cheat baby with an unavailable man. And fun explaining that to then as they get older. Doing it is bad enough, telling you about it is crazy.
In happier news, I got a good tip that Target baby clearance is really great right now, and that was definitely the case. I picked up some summery stuff in 3-6 and 6-9 mo sizes. It was tougher there without knowing the sex than most other places I've looked, but I managed to find some gems anyway. They'll do things like take a teal sleeper that would really work for any baby and write "Daddy's Little Guy!" on the pocket and stuff like that. So annoying, and pretty ironic since they took so much heat recently for removing gender distinctions from their toy department.
This is hilariously true. Let's remove all the gender distinctions!!11!1 Except for on all kids clothing. I get it, it's the brand of clothes the store sells but I wish there was more gender neutral stuff. I see so many things that could go either way for a boy or a girl until I get closer and see some sort of gender defining icon or saying.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
You won't find much nursery stuff in red because it's not considered a "soothing" color, I read a thing about nursery decor when I was KU with Vi and remembering them not recommending it @HeatSparks
I was just telling H today that I think I may be done feeling sick as I've had no nausea or fatigue for about a week. Well, jokes on me. I just almost threw up in a parking lot and have a killer headache and fatigue. I jinxed myself.
@heatsparks I agree with your gut for the invites.
@ohstars I am a dirty lurker on the randoms too. I try and comment from time to time but I don't feel like I completely belong, so I lurk more than I comment.
A couple of random's for me. I finally been able to find the heartbeat on my home Doppler. And I officially have 2 OBs I like and am having issues deciding who to stay with. Ugh.
Gah. I don't know where to put this so Randoms thread it is. I just finished watching stranger things and so. Many. Questions. *SPOILER WARNING* in case people haven't seen it. What happened to Eleven??? She was my favorite character, is she just stuck on the other side?? Is that why Hopper put those eggo's in that box? Why is Will still coughing up worms? Is he being pulled back? Is eleven stuck with that monster or did she kill it? Also I'm disappointed because it was so short. Only 8 episodes boo.
I don't think a whole thread should be started for this but I have a question. In a couple weeks we are going to the beach. Normally I just go barefoot in the sand, but my kids love looking for seashells. We usually end up walking right down the thickest areas with the shells and my toes always get cut up. I don't really like wearing flip-flops because my feet end up wet and sliding around and cause me to trip occasionally and I don't feel like doing it right now. What kind of shoes would someone recommend to wear for that? If I wear tennis shoes will the sand get down in my socks and shoes? I've never worn "water" shoes, would they be appropriate for just strolling in the seashells? What do you guys wear or do I need to just suck it up lol
@kswiger06 If you don't have many options, I would just wear sneakers you don't mind possibly getting a little sandy and/or damp. Wet flip flops are the worst!
@GlitterDragon I think she's stuck but has figured out how to get things from the box. I think the monster is still alive inside will. But like not fully formed like it was, but a new baby version.
@GlitterDragon I think that the monster was like absorbing things into its being more than straight eating them. That's why it was going down his throat and sustaining him. Like uhm the Borg? And I think part of the monster is still inside him and growing and that's why he's coughing parts up.
@perrasucia ah ok. Now that you mention it that makes sense. So theoretically that "papa" guy could still be alive as well. And is it just me or did that monster have a face like a really gnarly vagina?
Re: Weekly Randoms (8/8)
@MommaBean happy birthday!
I honestly can't believe how much most of you pay for daycare. It makes me sad, like its fucking crazy.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
We've accepted a kind, unexpected offer of grandma care, at least initially. I have my concerns about how long my MIL will want to come to our house for, and we're less comfortable with the baby going to hers, but I do trust her to follow our wishes and treat the baby wonderfully. FT infant for us would have been $900-$1,400. Even if we just get a few months out of it working with MIL, that will be great. I may need to hire a sitter for one day, which I expect to cost $15/hour. After taxes, I won't profit much that day.
Second,I have the craziest story about our temp covering for shitty pregnant girl. So she's 44 and has a 26 year old son and a 2 year old son. Her 2 year old's dad has a DOZEN children from 5 women. They are no longer together and he has another younger kid with a lady he lives with now, but the temp wants to have another baby so her son isn't alone. So since he cheated on her with his lady, she thinks he should cheat on this lady with her to get her pregnant again.
Then she tells me that in 3 years she got pregnant by this guy 3 times. The first was a chemical pregnancy and the second had trisomy 18, but she carried it to term and he died the day he was born, but that was the god fearing in her to not terminate that pregnancy, then 6 months later she got pregnant for the third time and that's her 2 year old.
WTFBBQ. I get terminating a pregnancy that isn't going to make it isn't for everyone, but I mean how is that worse than sleeping with a man who lives with another woman to get pregnant.
edited: for typosHopefully they decide their revenge pregnancy isn't a good idea. Why are people like that?
I want ant to do this nursery in red. I'm thinking strawberry-patch themed, but red and white in general. I'm currently obsessed with red.
It it is impossible to find red nursery anything. Dumb.
@PerraSucia I don't even know what to say to that. No part of the idea seems good. Just no.
Well, jokes on me.
I just almost threw up in a parking lot and have a killer headache and fatigue. I jinxed myself.
@heatsparks I agree with your gut for the invites.
@ohstars I am a dirty lurker on the randoms too. I try and comment from time to time but I don't feel like I completely belong, so I lurk more than I comment.
@perrasucia DED at blood splatter stick ons.
A couple of random's for me. I finally been able to find the heartbeat on my home Doppler. And I officially have 2 OBs I like and am having issues deciding who to stay with. Ugh.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
*SPOILER WARNING* in case people haven't seen it.
What happened to Eleven??? She was my favorite character, is she just stuck on the other side?? Is that why Hopper put those eggo's in that box? Why is Will still coughing up worms? Is he being pulled back? Is eleven stuck with that monster or did she kill it? Also I'm disappointed because it was so short. Only 8 episodes boo.
I love mine
https://www.mysaltwatersandals.com/womens-original-tan.html
I hope it's not too long before season 2 comes out!
So many vagina faced monsters...