Slowly resigning myself to the new reality of max 3 hours of sleep per night, in half-hour increments. Guess my body wants to prepare for the sleepless infant stage 5 and a half months early
Ugh!! I was soooo grumpy the other night. I woke up twice during the night to go to the bathroom, and a couple other times from other things, like hunger or sore boobs from rolling over. Anyway I was lying awake thinking, "I know I'll be up like this in a few months but seriously let me get some sleep while I still can" lol I don't want my body to prep me, I'd rather get the sleep I'll soon be lacking.
@MrsLittleMac I think in the second trimester I got some decent sleep and partially through third tri.. Hopefully you'll be able to get some rest soon. And honestly, rest whenever you can because yea those newborn months are rough.
Slowly resigning myself to the new reality of max 3 hours of sleep per night, in half-hour increments. Guess my body wants to prepare for the sleepless infant stage 5 and a half months early
Slowly resigning myself to the new reality of max 3 hours of sleep per night, in half-hour increments. Guess my body wants to prepare for the sleepless infant stage 5 and a half months early
I'm finding it hard to get comfortable because I'm a stomach sleeper and while my bump is still tiny, it feels weird to lay on it. So I'm sort of a side sleeper now and it's not working for me.
@BumpasaurusRex getting a pillow for side sleepers can help immensely. I was a stomach sleeper before my son and since pregnancy and nighttime nursing, I've become a side sleeper. Getting a new pillow helped me transition.
STM's, could I get some advice on transitioning my kid from a crib to a toddler bed? I think we're going to start tonight because he climbed out of his crib this morning.
Our main issue is that he still often fights sleep at night when we put him down. Sometimes he's fine but other times he gets mad that it's bed time even if he's tired and cries it out for a few minutes before he gives up and falls asleep. I'm just worried he will consistently get up every 30 seconds, lol. I'm SCARED.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
As I was trying to go pee, I suddenly got the urge to puke and the closest thing was my sons potty. So I just puked into a kid potty while sitting on the toilet. Happy Thursday y'all!
@BumpasaurusRex getting a pillow for side sleepers can help immensely. I was a stomach sleeper before my son and since pregnancy and nighttime nursing, I've become a side sleeper. Getting a new pillow helped me transition.
I've been using my body pillow, which I'm sure will really help as the bump grows.
Maybe I can convince H to let me take over the bed with a Snoogle.
At what point is side sleeping actually important? I'm now second tri, and I can usually do it just fine, but last night being on my back was working way better for my stomach issues.
@BumpasaurusRex the body pillow worked for my bump and legs but I still found myself wanting a separate pillow for my head that was made for side sleepers. I ended up buying the nippy pregnancy pillow because it detached and I could use a normal pillow for me head!
STM's, could I get some advice on transitioning my kid from a crib to a toddler bed? I think we're going to start tonight because he climbed out of his crib this morning.
Our main issue is that he still often fights sleep at night when we put him down. Sometimes he's fine but other times he gets mad that it's bed time even if he's tired and cries it out for a few minutes before he gives up and falls asleep. I'm just worried he will consistently get up every 30 seconds, lol. I'm SCARED.
For us, we set up the new "big kid" bed and showed them in an exciting way. My kids were pretty excited because they could easily climb in and out on their own. Climbing out on their own can be somewhat frustrating if your little one doesn't want to go to bed, so what I did was lay down with my kids for a few minutes. They start calming down and getting relaxed. After a few minutes, I'd whisper to them that it was night night time and to get some rest, and id give them a gentle kiss. Then I'd gently leave the room. It really helped keep my kids from getting out of bed, or screaming and crying that they weren't ready for bed. I did it for years (seriously) with our daughter because it just turned into a nightly routine that she enjoyed. At first I would lie in there for several minutes (maybe 10?) Then it gradually got shorter to where I just gave my kids a hug and kiss and that's all, which I still do. A big concern is that, now your kid will be able to get easy access around the house. We always put a baby gate up in the doorway to be sure they wouldn't wonder around and get into stuff or get hurt if they got up while we were still asleep. If we shut their door, then before I went to bed I'd open the door and put up the gate. (Not sure if your little one can open doors, but if not it won't be long)
Slowly resigning myself to the new reality of max 3 hours of sleep per night, in half-hour increments. Guess my body wants to prepare for the sleepless infant stage 5 and a half months early
Have your tried Unisom? Safe for pregnancy
If you haven't tried Unisom I recommend it. I wasn't sleeping well and was really nauseous and my doctor told me to try Unisom and B6 for the nausea. The nausea hasn't really been helped but I'm still taking it because I sleep so much better at night. I was waking up every hour or so and it was awful.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
This is my slumber party weekend. Everyone gets here today. I was SO excited to see my girlfriends but as time has gone by Ive been like "what the fuck was I thinking 7 girls plus me is too many".
At what point is side sleeping actually important? I'm now second tri, and I can usually do it just fine, but last night being on my back was working way better for my stomach issues.
I have the same question. I am having a really hard time NOT sleeping on my back, and am also 2nd Tri
@kswiger06 thanks so much for the advice! My son can most definitely open doors and it hadn't occurred to me to put a gate at his door. That's a great idea! Will be much easier to handle the situation this way. It may even make it less tempting for him to get up from his bed.
H and I decided we will set up the new bed tonight after supper. Something tells me we won't get very much sleep in the next few days, or perhaps even weeks.....
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
STM's, could I get some advice on transitioning my kid from a crib to a toddler bed? I think we're going to start tonight because he climbed out of his crib this morning.
Our main issue is that he still often fights sleep at night when we put him down. Sometimes he's fine but other times he gets mad that it's bed time even if he's tired and cries it out for a few minutes before he gives up and falls asleep. I'm just worried he will consistently get up every 30 seconds, lol. I'm SCARED.
The first night in the toddler bed we laid her down, said goodnight and told her to stay in bed. She got up quite a few times and each time we saw her get out of bed on the monitor we would go lay her down again and remind her to stay in bed. After a handful of times she went to sleep. Every night for that first week she would get out less and less and eventually stopped. No sleep lost as we put her to bed well before we go to bed and she doesn't get up at night. We do however crack her door once we go to sleep and gate so she can get to our room but nowhere else. Good luck! It's easier than you think it will be.
I just need to rant about what happened with DH at lunch. Some background: I've tried to cut out caffeine but have a Diet Coke or Pepsi usually about once a week. Well we went to a baseball game last night and I had a bottle of Diet Coke. Today I'm really struggling staying awake bc of the baseball game I didn't get home until 11pm last night and I've been going to be at 8-8:30 lately.
Ok so back to lunch. I got a Diet Pepsi because I'm really dragging. DH sees it and says: "So you're really pounding those now?" I told him I'm exhausted and need it to get through the afternoon. He just kind of looks at me really disapprovingly. I'm like look yesterday it was 75mg which is less than have the daily allowed value and today it's 50mg which is 1/4 the value. He responds with "well SOME people think you shouldn't have ANY". I was so taken aback I just stayed silent the rest of lunch. Usually he's so supportive of me and I think having 2 sodas this week instead of 1 isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things but clearly he's been just disapproving of it all along. Sorry dude it sucks that you get to go to concerts and restaurants and order a beer or margarita while I ask for water or Sprite so yea sometimes I'm going to have a Diet Pepsi when I want or need one damnit!
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@marriedhamstermom you know this is freaking annoying. I understand you are concerned for me and my baby but that doesn't give you any right to judge me. And at the end of the day, it is MY body. My experience has been more with other family rather than my husband. For example, my aunt very kindly offered to make me kebabs which I'm very grateful for. But she said she wouldn't make them spicy because it's bad for the baby. I had an argument with her. I want spicy kabobs dammit. I can handle it. And jeez it's not they're super duper spicy to the point that I'm going to have fiery diarrhea.
@marriedhamstermom I have also tried cutting out all caffeine, but occasionally I have a pop when I want one. I get that it's super frustrating when your husband disapproves of a choice you are making. Throughout my pregnancies, my husband has made a couple comments that would infuriate others, but I just think about what he said and why he said it. My first pregnancy he was super "strict" about my caffeine intake and would give me a hard time if I even took a sip. He wasn't doing it to be mean, but because he was uneducated on caffeine during pregnancy and thought I was supposed to completely avoid it. Maybe it's worth a try to help educate your husband on caffeine during pregnancy? Other things that would bother others, is one time I was slamming dinner and going back for thirds, my husband said "whoa, how many are you eating for?" Lol it didn't bother me, I thought about it and realized he was right, I wasn't Hungry I was just gorging and it wasn't healthy. This time, my husband hasn't said anything questionable, but if he does, I will think about why he's saying it. Normally it's because he doesn't understand the facts, or because he's trying to point out that I might be overdoing it and he knows I don't want to use pregnancy as an excuse to eat terribly. Even though it hurts our feelings or just plainly annoys us, almost always our husbands are making comments out of love for us, and their unborn baby. I hope this didn't come across like I'm defending or agreeing with your husband, I totally understand what you're going through with the pop. Just hoping maybe I could offer something to possibly help. And BTW I had a pepsi last night at dinner, but I've had my mind on one all day so far so I'm about to have another lol
@marriedhamstermom that makes me so angry for you. Freaking ridiculous. My H has been a twerp about raw sushi, so he's not perfect either, but caffeine? When you're way below the conservative recommendation? That's absolutely not okay.
I'm a bad mom. I drink a caffeinated drink every day. I have
a Dr. Pepper every morning or I'm dealing with morning sickness the rest of the
day. My husband thankfully is all for it if it means I don't feel like crude
the rest of the day.
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
@kswiger06 You are more understanding than I am about that. My husband had better not be making comments on what I eat, how much I eat or when I eat. I am a responsible adult who is quite capable of making my own decisions regarding what and how much I will eat. We all each appreciate different things but if my husband wants to show he cares he can do extra housework or watch my 3 year old so I can have a shower alone.
@kswiger06 I totally get your point about he's doing it because he loves me and the baby and I agree I don't think he meant anything terrible by it. Still I think he could have phrased it better. Instead of saying "so you're pounding those now?" which is ridiculous in itself because 2 sodas spread over 48 hrs hardly counts as "pounding" he could have said "is it ok for you to be having another one after last night?". Or instead of emphasizing the "SOME people" he could have been honest and said either he doesn't or that he read something which suggests caffeine is not OK in any amount. Then we could have a constructive conversation on caffeine and come to an agreement on what we both think is OK rather than me sitting pissed off at lunch and he probably was upset too since I just ignored him for the rest of lunch. I guess I should probably tell him this and hopefully he understands and we can avoid this in the future.
@bdesterhouse I don't think having caffeine makes you a bad mom, I agree with the studies that say up to 200mg is OK. I mostly am cutting it out b/c I used to be so addicted to it that I got awful headache when I went too many hours without one. So when we started TTC I stopped cold turkey for a month and had the withdrawl for 2 weeks and then was ok. After that month I started having about 1 a week except in cases like this week where I need another one I have one and I've decided not to beat myself up about it.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@marriedhamstermom oh yes, most definitely, the wording makes a HUGE difference. "Pounding" was not a good word choice, makes me think of college kids drinking beer lol. I've seen in here before how men telling their wives/girlfriends things about what not to eat goes. (Not very well) I just thought it was similar to what I had experienced with my first pregnancy and I could use it as a way to share what I learned. And maybe offer suggestions (like helping educate family on different topics). Not just you, but others who may be just reading these threads but still going through the same issues. We have a lot of quiet people who just read. I hope you and your husband can get the constructive discussion you were talking about, so you can both be comfortable and happy
Guys, I have to tell you how proud I am with myself (and my husband for accepting it)!
I think I've mentioned before in another thread that I've been stressing out over my IL's because they are adamant about being here when baby is born and they will want to stay with us, and DH also wants them to stay with us (and every time I argue against it, he just gets butt hurt). SO, last night we were laying in bed talking about baby things and I asked if he thought his parents would let us know before they bought their plane tickets, he said he didn't know. So then I decided, I'm done asking him to side with me, I'm just going to tell him how it's going to be. So I told him, "I need you to get ahold of your parents sometime and give them a heads up that they will be needing to get a hotel. I don't want them buying their tickets on the assumption they'll be staying with us and then being mad when that doesn't happen. They have to get a hotel, they can't stay with us."....and he said "Ok, I'll let them know"...jaw, meet floor.
Guys!! THIS IS HUGE FOR ME! I've never just told somebody how things were going to be, ever, not once in my life have I done that. #pregnancyconfidence
Way to go @scifichick09 I am super happy for you and you gave them ample time to revise their plans or make new ones before the baby is born. Good Job! I also LOVE the hashtag
Re: Weekly Randoms (8/1)
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
Our main issue is that he still often fights sleep at night when we put him down. Sometimes he's fine but other times he gets mad that it's bed time even if he's tired and cries it out for a few minutes before he gives up and falls asleep. I'm just worried he will consistently get up every 30
seconds, lol. I'm SCARED.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Maybe I can convince H to let me take over the bed with a Snoogle.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I have the same question. I am having a really hard time NOT sleeping on my back, and am also 2nd Tri
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
H and I decided we will set up the new bed tonight after supper. Something tells me we won't get very much sleep in the next few days, or perhaps even weeks.....
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Ok so back to lunch. I got a Diet Pepsi because I'm really dragging. DH sees it and says: "So you're really pounding those now?" I told him I'm exhausted and need it to get through the afternoon. He just kind of looks at me really disapprovingly. I'm like look yesterday it was 75mg which is less than have the daily allowed value and today it's 50mg which is 1/4 the value. He responds with "well SOME people think you shouldn't have ANY". I was so taken aback I just stayed silent the rest of lunch. Usually he's so supportive of me and I think having 2 sodas this week instead of 1 isn't a big deal in the grand scheme of things but clearly he's been just disapproving of it all along. Sorry dude it sucks that you get to go to concerts and restaurants and order a beer or margarita while I ask for water or Sprite so yea sometimes I'm going to have a Diet Pepsi when I want or need one damnit!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
My experience has been more with other family rather than my husband. For example, my aunt very kindly offered to make me kebabs which I'm very grateful for. But she said she wouldn't make them spicy because it's bad for the baby. I had an argument with her. I want spicy kabobs dammit. I can handle it. And jeez it's not they're super duper spicy to the point that I'm going to have fiery diarrhea.
I'm a bad mom. I drink a caffeinated drink every day. I have a Dr. Pepper every morning or I'm dealing with morning sickness the rest of the day. My husband thankfully is all for it if it means I don't feel like crude the rest of the day.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
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@kswiger06 You are more understanding than I am about that. My husband had better not be making comments on what I eat, how much I eat or when I eat. I am a responsible adult who is quite capable of making my own decisions regarding what and how much I will eat. We all each appreciate different things but if my husband wants to show he cares he can do extra housework or watch my 3 year old so I can have a shower alone.
@bdesterhouse I don't think having caffeine makes you a bad mom, I agree with the studies that say up to 200mg is OK. I mostly am cutting it out b/c I used to be so addicted to it that I got awful headache when I went too many hours without one. So when we started TTC I stopped cold turkey for a month and had the withdrawl for 2 weeks and then was ok. After that month I started having about 1 a week except in cases like this week where I need another one I have one and I've decided not to beat myself up about it.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Guys, I have to tell you how proud I am with myself (and my husband for accepting it)!
I think I've mentioned before in another thread that I've been stressing out over my IL's because they are adamant about being here when baby is born and they will want to stay with us, and DH also wants them to stay with us (and every time I argue against it, he just gets butt hurt). SO, last night we were laying in bed talking about baby things and I asked if he thought his parents would let us know before they bought their plane tickets, he said he didn't know. So then I decided, I'm done asking him to side with me, I'm just going to tell him how it's going to be. So I told him, "I need you to get ahold of your parents sometime and give them a heads up that they will be needing to get a hotel. I don't want them buying their tickets on the assumption they'll be staying with us and then being mad when that doesn't happen. They have to get a hotel, they can't stay with us."....and he said "Ok, I'll let them know"...jaw, meet floor.
Guys!! THIS IS HUGE FOR ME! I've never just told somebody how things were going to be, ever, not once in my life have I done that. #pregnancyconfidence
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Way to go @scifichick09 I am super happy for you and you gave them ample time to revise their plans or make new ones before the baby is born. Good Job! I also LOVE the hashtag
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN