Also another annoying thing about new grandparents, why do they think babies are so freaking hungry? And they give them the most inappropriate food options. I was at a birthday party and my poor friend was practically prying the lemonade away from her 9-mo because her mom kept giving her "tiny sips" along with donuts and other sweets they had there. My friend kept saying, "mom, please stop," but her mom just kept doing it. My ILs do the same thing all the time. No boundaries.
@justaudrey Apparently family tradition in my family is to give a baby a chips ahoy cookie, soaked in milk, on the first day home from the hospital. I am going to have to watch my dad like a hawk... I already told him I am not doing it. My grandparents gave it to him, he gave it to me... This is one family tradition we will NOT be carrying on. I'm debating just lying to my Dad and telling him I did give the baby a freaking cookie, so he doesn't do it behind my back. I'm all for his first taste of refined sugar being his first birthday cake.
@AliKay20 because of the company I work for I would need to tell my boss that I am applying for something within the company before applying( to get his blessing)... just how our company culture works because they will call him. I spoke to my husband about it... we plan on taking 6 months or so after I return to work to just relax back into a routine.. esp with pumping and then I will look for something... he will keep his eye out and I will take the minimum amount of classes a yr to stay untaxed... rolling with the punches i guess
@bookhousegirl My mom was apparently horrified 30 years ago when this happened to me... I think there were different perceptions on introducing solids 60 years ago when this tradition got started. And of all things... a freaking cookie? My husband is Scottish, (first generation American) and culturally there is already a problem with sweets.... I don't need to predispose my son any more to cookie addiction.
Ok, seriously, these BHs are getting so freaking strong but doing nothing. It just felt like it was trying to push the baby up through my throat. Wtf. I'm officially over it! Ready for baby to come.
@SkiChic626 my Doula told me that BH can be helpful... even though it doesn't feel like it. She told me when I have them to do some deep squats through them to help them be effective at doing "something"
People keep either asking me how much weight I gained.... or commenting on my weight ... or complaining about some pregnant women who gain x amount.... I used to be one of those people that thought I could control my weight gain.... shit happens...I've still gained a "healthy" amount... but its like wow... I remember some stupid shit I said to my sister in law when she was pregnant...
@SkiChic626 my Doula told me that BH can be helpful... even though it doesn't feel like it. She told me when I have them to do some deep squats through them to help them be effective at doing "something"
Same here. I got a yoga ball to sit on when I get them because my pelvis feels so sore. These dumb BH must have done something since I was 90 percent effaced and a little dialated at my appointment two days ago. I kinda hate getting them though because they squeeze my bladder...as if I'm not peeing a lot already....
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
We live in the sticks, and loosing power means we have no heat, no water. A full home generator was quoted at roughly the same price, and the power wall does not need fuel, and would last a minimum of 6 hours... Long enough to figure out if we need to head to my parents or a hotel. The rep from the power company said if we only run the bare essentials, (the pellet stove, well pump, and fridge) he thinks it could go for much longer. And we can finance the power wall through our power bill. Eventually I want to put solar panels on our roof, which would work with the power wall - charging the power wall during the day for a longer outage.
With the baby, I feel like we need something to keep the power on, and the fact this doesn't require maintenance, fuel and is seamless (plus being able to lease it for $30 / mo) makes it sound like an affordable alternative.
Is anyone putting planning on buying a gift for their doctor for the delivery? We are planning to buy our doula a 10$ gift card to Dunkin with a thank you note and a yankee candle...
not sure if we should do something for the office at my 6 week check up... a nice thank you card with some cookies or if I should pack a gift card for the doctor who ends up delivering me with an empty thank you card for me to fill out when I know who it is.
I figured after the baby is born DH can run out to dunkin and get a box of joe for the nurses w/ some munchkins...
these are things I feel like we need to do...is anyone else doing them?
@katm89 We planned to get doughnut or cookies from the local bakery that is down the street from the hospital for the nurses. I am not sure what to do for my Dr.'s office though--maybe a gift basket of goodies?
@SkiChic626 my Doula told me that BH can be helpful... even though it doesn't feel like it. She told me when I have them to do some deep squats through them to help them be effective at doing "something"
Lol if I did that I'd have the tightest butt any pregnant woman ever had! I've been getting them several times an hour for weeks now. They were just extremely strong yesterday, though!
I think the labor buddy sign up and list should be un-pinned since (hopefully) we all know now. I think the "All things postpartum" thread should be pinned. What is everyone's opinion on this before I ask?
@jamiesc58 Definitely agree that we don't need the labor buddy stuff up there anymore. But I'm torn on the postpartum thread being stickied. Probably wouldn't hurt, but I foresee that soon being broken down into several other threads like Baby Sleep, Feeding, Baby Symptoms/Questions, Baby Blues/PPD/PPA, plus the Postpartum recovery thread. I guess that still means it should be stickied; I just hope we get some more specific threads established rather than that one thread being a giant grab bag for everything post delivery.
Pretty low key this year. Last year my girl friends combined celebrating turning 30 with my bachelorette so we went all out - went to a casino, a concert, dancing, and stayed at a fancy hotel and laid by the pool the whole next day.
This year I think the plan is to go see Finding Dory, then walk around the mall and hope I go into labor #marriedlife
@SkiChic626 you just kind of get into the deep squat position and stay there... u don't actually do squats... below is a picture of what my doula told me to do
@Katm89 I made some gift bags for the nurses/doctors (3 bins each with 15 bags) and we put out 1 bin when I was in delivery, one on the first day in the post-partum unit, and one for the second day in the post-partum unit. They all said thank you and seemed appreciative. I made the bags all with things from Dollar General: chap sticks, tissues, hand sanitizer, candies, gum, and hair ties. Cost about $1 per bag, so it was a bit pricey.
Donuts would probably be cheaper!
I also made and froze cookie dough with the intention of baking the cookies in early labor at home. That didn't happen. But now DH and I have tons of cookie dough and we've been making cookies like every night!
@entropicallyfavored I never thought about having stuff to bake cookies for before we go to the hospital! What s good idea... DH loves baking.. and I love the smell
@SkiChic626 you just kind of get into the deep squat position and stay there... u don't actually do squats... below is a picture of what my doula told me to do
Oh thank god, I am going to start trying that, but there is no way I have the energy to be doing up and down squats all day long!
I can't keep track of days and times anymore. How is it already Friday? Days and nights seem to be the same as previous ones. Maybe it's the routineness of this whole new normal.
@AliKay20 - The last few weeks of pregnancy already feel like groundhog day to me... I can't imagine how it's going to feel with a newborn!!!
Also, so we've been on 4 daycare waitlists since JANUARY and haven't gotten in anywhere. Baby is arriving no later than next Thursday, so we need childcare no later than like October 25. Well, I got an email today that one of the centers may have an opening.... a family has said they are likely moving in October, and we're top of the wait list. Fingers crossed!!! We should know next week. And next week I totally have a calendar to-do to start the nanny hunt if we're not into a daycare yet. Who knew daycare waitlists for infants were so intense???
I feel so behind on here! It's been tough to find the time to be on here for more than a few minutes at a time with the baby here now. It didn't help that Levi developed jaundice the day after coming home, which resulted in more steps to every process for 3 days and lots of stress. But now he's getting better and gaining weight, and I'm getting decent at multitasking while nursing, so maybe I'll have more time now?! I can't believe how many more babies have come this week and how close so many of you are to scheduled inductions and sections! Anyway, my random is my mom packed her stuff up and went home today. She's been staying with us since we came home monday and has been extremely helpful with my two older kids. She had said a long time ago she would stay for a week. She actually tried to get out of it the first night we were home... but she stayed and helped and I know I'm going to miss that help come monday, but I'm also so relieved. She's not much for cooking or cleaning, so no decent meals were made for anyone while she was here. I also still had to do most of the cleaning, and pick up after her more than I should have.to clean up after any adult. Ugh. I'm glad to have my house back and in my control lol. She let's my kids get away with everything. It's going to be harder, but I'm still looking forward to alone time with my family now. Wish me luck though! The next few weeks are going to get chaotic!
I love me some skin to skin with baby A after nursing but that also leads to me shopping on Etsy (mostly eye shopping- let's be real; DH is on shopping patrol at all times) after some time. She sleeps for a while and I feel like I'm in heaven with her on my chest, browsing through all the pretty bows and cutesy baby goodies galore! If this isn't the perfect moment, I don't know what is!
I love me some skin to skin with baby A after nursing but that also leads to me shopping on Etsy (mostly eye shopping- let's be real; DH is on shopping patrol at all times) after some time. She sleeps for a while and I feel like I'm in heaven with her on my chest, browsing through all the pretty bows and cutesy baby goodies galore! If this isn't the perfect moment, I don't know what is!
I can't wait for this! I have so many cute bows saved from PoshPeanutKids it's not even funny.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Zomg. FIL on his way to visit baby. Mind you, we have not spoken to his wife (my pitiful MIL) since last Thanksgiving. I am too exhausted for drama. He is pretty chill for the most part but I've a feeling he is coming not just to visit but see if there's any intervention he can do to reunite his son with his mom. No can do - no crazies allowed in our lives. I've tolerated her for 7 years and she is honestly very toxic to be around.
I guess I'll look somewhat presentable and shower for once. This visit shall be interesting to say the least.
Today is my baby shower and I am not excited about it at all. I'm grateful to my mother in law for putting it all together. I'm grateful to everyone who will show up and bring gifts. But I am having some serious anxiety over the whole thing and I don't really know why. Oh well. I'm going to try to relax and enjoy celebrating this little one.
Re: Randoms 7/25
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
I'm debating just lying to my Dad and telling him I did give the baby a freaking cookie, so he doesn't do it behind my back.
I'm all for his first taste of refined sugar being his first birthday cake.
Wow that's quite ridiculous!
And of all things... a freaking cookie? My husband is Scottish, (first generation American) and culturally there is already a problem with sweets.... I don't need to predispose my son any more to cookie addiction.
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
That and our lack of a name is stressing me out
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Does anyone have a Tesla powerwall?
We live in the sticks, and loosing power means we have no heat, no water. A full home generator was quoted at roughly the same price, and the power wall does not need fuel, and would last a minimum of 6 hours... Long enough to figure out if we need to head to my parents or a hotel. The rep from the power company said if we only run the bare essentials, (the pellet stove, well pump, and fridge) he thinks it could go for much longer. And we can finance the power wall through our power bill. Eventually I want to put solar panels on our roof, which would work with the power wall - charging the power wall during the day for a longer outage.
With the baby, I feel like we need something to keep the power on, and the fact this doesn't require maintenance, fuel and is seamless (plus being able to lease it for $30 / mo) makes it sound like an affordable alternative.
not sure if we should do something for the office at my 6 week check up... a nice thank you card with some cookies or if I should pack a gift card for the doctor who ends up delivering me with an empty thank you card for me to fill out when I know who it is.
I figured after the baby is born DH can run out to dunkin and get a box of joe for the nurses w/ some munchkins...
these are things I feel like we need to do...is anyone else doing them?
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016
@Car0liiine Thanks!
Pretty low key this year. Last year my girl friends combined celebrating turning 30 with my bachelorette so we went all out - went to a casino, a concert, dancing, and stayed at a fancy hotel and laid by the pool the whole next day.
This year I think the plan is to go see Finding Dory, then walk around the mall and hope I go into labor
#marriedlife
Donuts would probably be cheaper!
I also made and froze cookie dough with the intention of baking the cookies in early labor at home. That didn't happen. But now DH and I have tons of cookie dough and we've been making cookies like every night!
@AliKay20 - The last few weeks of pregnancy already feel like groundhog day to me... I can't imagine how it's going to feel with a newborn!!!
Also, so we've been on 4 daycare waitlists since JANUARY and haven't gotten in anywhere. Baby is arriving no later than next Thursday, so we need childcare no later than like October 25. Well, I got an email today that one of the centers may have an opening.... a family has said they are likely moving in October, and we're top of the wait list. Fingers crossed!!! We should know next week. And next week I totally have a calendar to-do to start the nanny hunt if we're not into a daycare yet. Who knew daycare waitlists for infants were so intense???
Anyway, my random is my mom packed her stuff up and went home today. She's been staying with us since we came home monday and has been extremely helpful with my two older kids. She had said a long time ago she would stay for a week. She actually tried to get out of it the first night we were home... but she stayed and helped and I know I'm going to miss that help come monday, but I'm also so relieved. She's not much for cooking or cleaning, so no decent meals were made for anyone while she was here. I also still had to do most of the cleaning, and pick up after her more than I should have.to clean up after any adult. Ugh. I'm glad to have my house back and in my control lol. She let's my kids get away with everything. It's going to be harder, but I'm still looking forward to alone time with my family now. Wish me luck though! The next few weeks are going to get chaotic!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I guess I'll look somewhat presentable and shower for once. This visit shall be interesting to say the least.