@geminigirl16 Is your DH the only son? My H is an only child and never had a serious girlfriend that his parents knew so I feel like she is having a hard time adjusting to him having his own family and having to share all of these experiences with my family and friends too. We had 3 ultrasounds total and went straight to MIL first to show her the pictures and announce the sex. DH texted her pics from the 2nd ultrasound. But because I posted pics of the 3rd ultrasound on FB (the 3D pics had me so excited to share) before DH could text her, she got all mad and said she feels we should WANT to share everything with her first before the world. Good Lord....
Same with decisions for our baby shower that MIL is helping my mom and sister with. If you follow my post in the baby shower thread, you will read how sensitive she is being and unloading her feelings on DH even though we have nothing to do with the shower.
DH and I are super anxious about how much worse the sensitivities and neediness will be after the baby comes.
Oh. My. Gosh. Seriously!
I really hope it doesn't get worse. My mom was similar to this with my brother and they barely talk now (after major drama and arguments). It got worse with her and now it's a whole family drama when she's in town. She's got her own issues, though, which make her be like that. I think it depends on your DH's relationship with her but maybe it's time for him to talk to her (with you not being there) about boundaries. You guys have to take care of your own family unit before anyone else and the best time to have that chat is before baby comes. If she's receptive (even if she's not at first), things should get better and the mental exhaustion will go away!
@blondie080300 - just replied to you in the baby shower thread, lol. My husband is also an only child. I have nothing against only children in general and don't see anything outstanding in my husband that screams only child.. but for his sake (OK really for mine) I wish his mother had had some other children that we could share her with. Somehow she thinks the umbilical cord is still attached 28 years and hundreds of miles later.
@JennM205 - had missed your post with all of my useless ones I've been throwing in here this morning. Glad things have settled down. As others have said, hope that's the only eventful part of your day, now chill out uterus, another 5+ weeks until you need to be so irritated with your occupant!
@Themaritimemama - we have a lot of food because we have been expanding like crazy (faster than we can handle to be honest) over the past couple of years, and the CEO thinks that buying pizza/ice cream to celebrate every win makes up for stretching everyone so thin to cover the work it requires. No complaints here!
Also, my individual room is about 20 women and 4 men. Most/all of those women are pre-menopausal, 2 of us are pregnant.. there are a lot of period/pregnancy cravings that are fulfilled, and for some reason everyone bakes/buys for the entire room instead of just themselves.
I dont mean to brag (ok maybe I do), but the last two nights, I haven't gotten up to pee at all! I got some Diclectin from my OB last week because sleep was becoming a nightmare and someone suggested it on the symptoms thread (I think maybe it was @Bibliobebe?). Anyways, the side effect of drowsiness certainly works on me! I takes a couple hours to kick in, so I take it around 8 pm but I am sleeping through the night much better.
@kosmo86 - we are in a large office building, so the building has a cafeteria.. not just us. Our company has a few hundred employees, I would guess maybe 150+ of them work in my office? So we're not huge, but I'd say we're big enough to think "Hey.. some people are only going to be able to eat chips and cole slaw.. does that seem ok?"
@RG1 Not needing to get up to pee sounds heavenly. I get up once or twice a night. I never peed this much with my first. It's annoying. Although, on the bright side, when I'm up, stretching my hips some does help a little with my hip pain.
@RG1 Not needing to get up to pee sounds heavenly. I get up once or twice a night. I never peed this much with my first. It's annoying. Although, on the bright side, when I'm up, stretching my hips some does help a little with my hip pain.
I hear ya, I was getting up 3-4 times. So annoying. Although I usually just wandered to the bathroom half asleep. There are still some nights I have to get up, but the Diclectin has definitely helped!
Hello everyone! I just read through the last couple pages - not everything that I missed.
@JennM624 - I am glad that everything checked out fine after your scare this morning.
@seitzy3 - Could your name hesitation just be nerves or cold feet? With DS, we had agreed on a name really early on for him - I think while we were still TTC. The last month or 2 of my pregnancy I started having second thoughts. I never said anything to my husband since I knew it would frustrate him. I chalked it up to cold feet and kept the name we had agreed on. I am glad we did - it is the perfect name for my son and I would have deep regrets if I would have convinced my husband to go with something else.
I have been swamped at work (financial quarter-end), but I have tomorrow off so we can go away to the beach for a long weekend. It is my birthday gift from my husband. I am excited to see how my son reacts to the beach. He likes the pool and the sandbox, but this is something completely different.
@JennM205 glad your morning is settling down!! Come on uterus, we are all having a rough time but chill your attitude.
@AnnaS930 yeah, and what about those allergic to seafood? Yes, you have chicken...that was likely cooked with seafood, or in the same grease. Come on, people!!! Everyone likes pizza. Hahaha makes me think of Michael Scott. "Does everyone like pizza??"
@marajay6 - My son's a bit younger than yours.. he only likes pools at this point ( a little leery this year of his feet being off the bottom when in a floaty, he loved it last year), loves sandboxes and is OBSESSED with the beach. He could play in the first few inches of water for hours.. hope the same is true for your little man! ENJOY!
@JennM624 glad things seemed to have slowed down and hopefully the rest of your day won't be so eventful!!!
My random of the day- My mother is driving me crazy this week! She keeps calling or texting me before 8 am which since I don't really get to sleep well before 5 now is driving me crazy! My youngest has been sleeping till at least 9, there is no reason to be calling me so early. Also I have a job interview this morning so that should be interesting.
@blondie080300 you aren't alone. DH has been feeling stuck in a rut right now just waiting for Neil to get here, and not doing much else. I think there is an element of stress too, because due date is approaching so much faster than we could have anticipated.
It's hard because we'd normally do something to shake things up a bit, like a trip, but really we can't do much right now. I have no solution other than to talk it out. We just had a long talk about it last night and already we both feel a little better. I chalk it up to the male version of baby blues. Best of luck to the two of you, and hopefully you can connect soon!
Also, every time my husband and I see a Sbarro (truck stops), we race to be the first one to say "I'ma gonna go get me a New York slice!!"
ETA: I just HAD to see michael's facial reaction to the warehouse crew eating pizza, he looks so satisfied. And now I'm watching Office bloopers. There goes my productivity today.
@AnnaS930 I know!! I almost put after the quote *slow head nod when he sees the guys eating* Bahahaha I really want to go to New York JUST to take a pic with H eating at Sbarro and post that we are eating a New York slice. Why am I at work now?? I want to watch the show.
Random: Anyone a supervisor and ever have to deal with a super pessimistic employee? Do you address it? How?
Background: I am the supervisor for a colleague who is extremely pessimistic. As in everything out of his mouth, literally includes something bad about the company, the job, the work, and ethic, whatever that he's talking about. It's mind-numbing how someone could be so pessimistic. Not to mention on top of it, he's also a one upper. You might have 7 important emails that came in you have to get through, he has a 100. If he's done something once, he's 'done it a 1,000 times'. If there's two people copied in, 'there's a bajillion people in the email'.
Should I just let this go has a character flaw? Is there a way I can address it? I really think its his personality, but unfortunately it's starting to irritate coworkers and has become a joke around the office...
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom I am trying to coach DH on how to have that convo. with his mom. He is a people pleaser and deals with anxiety on top of that (has been taking Prozac for years). Plus he considers himself not very skilled in the art of communication to begin with so the idea of having a chat (or confrontation as I am sure he feels it will be) makes him even more stressed and anxious. But I agree with you and told him last night we have to start setting boundaries now before the baby comes. Hopefully he will at least feel more prepared for the next rant she goes on to try and stick up for himself and be honest with what he is feeling.
@JennM205 That sounds like a very scary morning! I am so glad things seemed to have calmed down now.
@AnnaS930 I am sorry to hear about your seafood lunch! I am just imagining the smells too....ugh!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@MrsVoorhees - After my third EXTREMELY loud snort laugh at my desk, I decided I best not watch bloopers at work... so going to turn them off for now, but it will most likely be my afternoon pick me up. I don't know how they ever got successful takes, honestly. Too damn funny
@LakeR2014 I deal with some of those coworkers sometimes and it's not easy because their energy can rub off on you! I usually try to be empathic and say something like "Oh, you sound very overwhelmed." Or "If you need some help/have any questions let me know" and walk away. I can't tolerate that kind of personality for too long!
I have never felt comfortable saying something to someone for that way of being but I would assume you could ask him if everything was okay/if he needed something from you since you have noticed he has been vocalizing some distress lately. That way you come across and caring and not necessarily bashing of his oh so wonderful personality?
Why does the Tdap booster make your arm so sore??? The shot itself didn't hurt, but two days later and my upper arm still feels like it's been through an intense workout.
@LakeR2014 I'm not a supervisor, but I do have a coworker very much like the one you described. I do think it's something you should talk to him about as his leader. The guy in or company is also a joke to others, and it's spread outside of our group too. Our boss talked to him about it and told him that attitudes like that don't get promoted, and him complaining about that to everyone is only hurting him.
@MrsVoorhees Yea I think I have to breakdown and mention something to him. It's also a joke to others how many jobs he's had as a mid-40s man. Not because they know his personnel background, but because he's a one-upper he has a story to share for everything and it's always from a different job he's had. At some point everyone realized he moves on pretty regularly and unfortunately I think they all think because of this he's likely to move on soon. Either way his attitude/personality is not good for morale around the company.
Ok time for my heart to melt. Ours friends had a baby last week. Neither me or DH had EVER held a baby before so we were both freaked out to hold her. I held her in the hospital but DH was too nervous. Well the dad works with my husband and the wife brought the baby into their work today. She text me a picture of DH holding the baby! He looked like a natural! And he text me saying "felt so good. She was so cute. I just wanted to gobble her up". Hurry up September!!
Ok time for my heart to melt. Ours friends had a baby last week. Neither me or DH had EVER held a baby before so we were both freaked out to hold her. I held her in the hospital but DH was too nervous. Well the dad works with my husband and the wife brought the baby into their work today. She text me a picture of DH holding the baby! He looked like a natural! And he text me saying "felt so good. She was so cute. I just wanted to gobble her up". Hurry up September!!
@RG1 Awww that's so cute!!! My DH has held a baby twice in his life, unfortunately he has yet to master the 'natural' part, but seeing him holding one is very heart melting. Yay for your DH stepping up and doing it, it can be very nerve wracking.
I can officially say I know what contractions feel like. I'm not a fan. Like at all. Went to the MFM this morning and, when asked how I was doing, I told them very crampy. Like painful cramps. Again, never had a contraction with the first two so I'm clueless here. After being checked, he confirmed that I'm not in active labor (thank God!) but I'm definitely having contractions. Awesome. I see my regular OB tomorrow so we'll see how I'm doing then and go from there.
@UnwritteN12 Hope those are just crampy BH! Seems like a good sign that you're not in active labor. On a related note, BH didn't hurt with #1 but have been much more annoying / slightly painful this go around. Take it easy, stay hydrated, and keep us in the loop after your appointment tomorrow! Edited because words
I ate some leftover pizza for lunch, then DH called to invite me to meet him and a friend for Mexican. So here I am, 30 mins later having second lunch. At least breakfast was just fruit and coffee. Queso, here I come!
Re: July Randoms Thread
I really hope it doesn't get worse. My mom was similar to this with my brother and they barely talk now (after major drama and arguments). It got worse with her and now it's a whole family drama when she's in town. She's got her own issues, though, which make her be like that. I think it depends on your DH's relationship with her but maybe it's time for him to talk to her (with you not being there) about boundaries. You guys have to take care of your own family unit before anyone else and the best time to have that chat is before baby comes. If she's receptive (even if she's not at first), things should get better and the mental exhaustion will go away!
@AnnaS930 why does your work always have delicious food? Now I'm dying for some good seafood.
Also, my individual room is about 20 women and 4 men. Most/all of those women are pre-menopausal, 2 of us are pregnant.. there are a lot of period/pregnancy cravings that are fulfilled, and for some reason everyone bakes/buys for the entire room instead of just themselves.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@JennM624 - I am glad that everything checked out fine after your scare this morning.
@seitzy3 - Could your name hesitation just be nerves or cold feet? With DS, we had agreed on a name really early on for him - I think while we were still TTC. The last month or 2 of my pregnancy I started having second thoughts. I never said anything to my husband since I knew it would frustrate him. I chalked it up to cold feet and kept the name we had agreed on. I am glad we did - it is the perfect name for my son and I would have deep regrets if I would have convinced my husband to go with something else.
I have been swamped at work (financial quarter-end), but I have tomorrow off so we can go away to the beach for a long weekend. It is my birthday gift from my husband. I am excited to see how my son reacts to the beach. He likes the pool and the sandbox, but this is something completely different.
@AnnaS930 yeah, and what about those allergic to seafood? Yes, you have chicken...that was likely cooked with seafood, or in the same grease. Come on, people!!! Everyone likes pizza. Hahaha makes me think of Michael Scott. "Does everyone like pizza??"
My random of the day- My mother is driving me crazy this week! She keeps calling or texting me before 8 am which since I don't really get to sleep well before 5 now is driving me crazy! My youngest has been sleeping till at least 9, there is no reason to be calling me so early. Also I have a job interview this morning so that should be interesting.
It's hard because we'd normally do something to shake things up a bit, like a trip, but really we can't do much right now. I have no solution other than to talk it out. We just had a long talk about it last night and already we both feel a little better. I chalk it up to the male version of baby blues. Best of luck to the two of you, and hopefully you can connect soon!
Also, every time my husband and I see a Sbarro (truck stops), we race to be the first one to say "I'ma gonna go get me a New York slice!!"
ETA: I just HAD to see michael's facial reaction to the warehouse crew eating pizza, he looks so satisfied. And now I'm watching Office bloopers. There goes my productivity today.
Background: I am the supervisor for a colleague who is extremely pessimistic. As in everything out of his mouth, literally includes something bad about the company, the job, the work, and ethic, whatever that he's talking about. It's mind-numbing how someone could be so pessimistic. Not to mention on top of it, he's also a one upper. You might have 7 important emails that came in you have to get through, he has a 100. If he's done something once, he's 'done it a 1,000 times'. If there's two people copied in, 'there's a bajillion people in the email'.
Should I just let this go has a character flaw? Is there a way I can address it? I really think its his personality, but unfortunately it's starting to irritate coworkers and has become a joke around the office...
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom I am trying to coach DH on how to have that convo. with his mom. He is a people pleaser and deals with anxiety on top of that (has been taking Prozac for years). Plus he considers himself not very skilled in the art of communication to begin with so the idea of having a chat (or confrontation as I am sure he feels it will be) makes him even more stressed and anxious. But I agree with you and told him last night we have to start setting boundaries now before the baby comes. Hopefully he will at least feel more prepared for the next rant she goes on to try and stick up for himself and be honest with what he is feeling.
@JennM205 That sounds like a very scary morning! I am so glad things seemed to have calmed down now.
@AnnaS930 I am sorry to hear about your seafood lunch!
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
I have never felt comfortable saying something to someone for that way of being but I would assume you could ask him if everything was okay/if he needed something from you since you have noticed he has been vocalizing some distress lately. That way you come across and caring and not necessarily bashing of his oh so wonderful personality?
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