@babyfmama we use the RNP whenever we put her down although she still prefers to sleep on me and so I wear her for a lot of naps.
Am I the only who doesn't always try to put my LO down for a nap, letting her sleep on me instead for fear of waking her up during the transfer? Sometimes (like right now) I just let her nap on top of me because I so don't want to have to get her sleeping again if she wakes up. She's like a little dictator and I'm scurred!
@babyfmama we use the RNP whenever we put her down although she still prefers to sleep on me and so I wear her for a lot of naps.
Am I the only who doesn't always try to put my LO down for a nap, letting her sleep on me instead for fear of waking her up during the transfer? Sometimes (like right now) I just let her nap on top of me because I so don't want to have to get her sleeping again if she wakes up. She's like a little dictator and I'm scurred!
Yup. While Harper sleeps great in the crib at night, it's only be used I swaddle and go through a whole routine. I don't feel like doing it for naps, so she won't settle into the crib then. She doesn't sleep I. The rnp or swing, so transferring her to those only wake her up after 10 minutes. So Naps on mom it is. That said, I haven't had a nap in 5 weeks
@LadySamLady yep. I did that with DS1 sometimes. Still did during pregnancy occasionally because it was easier to just let him sleep on my lap happily than to screw up naptime by moving him if he was sleeping restlessly.
Anyone feel like their baby doesn't like them? I swear sometimes I look at this kid wrong and she screams. But she always has a smile for her toys. I think I'm taking this fussy stage a bit personal. I just want to soothe her and make her happy, but sometimes it's like nothing works. And I makes me sad when she wants to be held facing away from me. I think I read that is a biological way to reduce getting over stimulated but it still makes me sad. Like she is happier staring at a blank wall then reacting with mama
@babyfmama we use the RNP whenever we put her down although she still prefers to sleep on me and so I wear her for a lot of naps.
Am I the only who doesn't always try to put my LO down for a nap, letting her sleep on me instead for fear of waking her up during the transfer? Sometimes (like right now) I just let her nap on top of me because I so don't want to have to get her sleeping again if she wakes up. She's like a little dictator and I'm scurred!
OMG it takes me like 30 minutes to psych myself up enough to put DS down if he falls asleep.
Anyone feel like their baby doesn't like them? I swear sometimes I look at this kid wrong and she screams. But she always has a smile for her toys. I think I'm taking this fussy stage a bit personal. I just want to soothe her and make her happy, but sometimes it's like nothing works. And I makes me sad when she wants to be held facing away from me. I think I read that is a biological way to reduce getting over stimulated but it still makes me sad. Like she is happier staring at a blank wall then reacting with mama
Haha, yes! DD would cry every time I tried to sing to her . And now that she's older I KNOW she hates my singing because she'll just say "mommy, stop!". It's sad.
Anyone feel like their baby doesn't like them? I swear sometimes I look at this kid wrong and she screams. But she always has a smile for her toys. I think I'm taking this fussy stage a bit personal. I just want to soothe her and make her happy, but sometimes it's like nothing works. And I makes me sad when she wants to be held facing away from me. I think I read that is a biological way to reduce getting over stimulated but it still makes me sad. Like she is happier staring at a blank wall then reacting with mama
What toys is she liking at this age? Every time I try to introduce one to DS, he couldn't care less.
Anyone feel like their baby doesn't like them? I swear sometimes I look at this kid wrong and she screams. But she always has a smile for her toys. I think I'm taking this fussy stage a bit personal. I just want to soothe her and make her happy, but sometimes it's like nothing works. And I makes me sad when she wants to be held facing away from me. I think I read that is a biological way to reduce getting over stimulated but it still makes me sad. Like she is happier staring at a blank wall then reacting with mama
What toys is she liking at this age? Every time I try to introduce one to DS, he couldn't care less.
Her activity mat. She loves the toys that dangle. she will punch and kick them for an hour.
@babyfmama we use the RNP whenever we put her down although she still prefers to sleep on me and so I wear her for a lot of naps.
Am I the only who doesn't always try to put my LO down for a nap, letting her sleep on me instead for fear of waking her up during the transfer? Sometimes (like right now) I just let her nap on top of me because I so don't want to have to get her sleeping again if she wakes up. She's like a little dictator and I'm scurred!
OMG it takes me like 30 minutes to psych myself up enough to put DS down if he falls asleep.
My level of risk taking is correlated to the amount of sleep I've had lol. The less sleep the less risky I am.
Anyone feel like their baby doesn't like them? I swear sometimes I look at this kid wrong and she screams. But she always has a smile for her toys. I think I'm taking this fussy stage a bit personal. I just want to soothe her and make her happy, but sometimes it's like nothing works. And I makes me sad when she wants to be held facing away from me. I think I read that is a biological way to reduce getting over stimulated but it still makes me sad. Like she is happier staring at a blank wall then reacting with mama
Just wait until she's 2.5 and you do something you think is really awesome and then she looks at you and says, "but I don't even like you". good stuff!! Haha
LO... Why must you take all your long naps in the middle of the day when I can't fall asleep and when I have to get things done? Last night was a horrible sleep night for DS and I actually fell asleep pumping this morning. Of course I woke up when DS decided to wake up again...
Anyone feel like their baby doesn't like them? I swear sometimes I look at this kid wrong and she screams. But she always has a smile for her toys. I think I'm taking this fussy stage a bit personal. I just want to soothe her and make her happy, but sometimes it's like nothing works. And I makes me sad when she wants to be held facing away from me. I think I read that is a biological way to reduce getting over stimulated but it still makes me sad. Like she is happier staring at a blank wall then reacting with mama
Just wait until she's 2.5 and you do something you think is really awesome and then she looks at you and says, "but I don't even like you". good stuff!! Haha
Or when DD says "I don't like you. I like daddy." ALL. THE. TIME. I get it, you don't have to keep reminding me.
Just came across a channel called Pop that plays Beverly Hills 90210...and has another show with New Kids on the Block. I feel like a tween again!! Aaannnddd there goes what productivity I had while on maternity leave!
Just came across a channel called Pop that plays Beverly Hills 90210...and has another show with New Kids on the Block. I feel like a tween again!! Aaannnddd there goes what productivity I had while on maternity leave!
Anyone feel like their baby doesn't like them? I swear sometimes I look at this kid wrong and she screams. But she always has a smile for her toys. I think I'm taking this fussy stage a bit personal. I just want to soothe her and make her happy, but sometimes it's like nothing works. And I makes me sad when she wants to be held facing away from me. I think I read that is a biological way to reduce getting over stimulated but it still makes me sad. Like she is happier staring at a blank wall then reacting with mama
Just wait until she's 2.5 and you do something you think is really awesome and then she looks at you and says, "but I don't even like you". good stuff!! Haha
Or when DD says "I don't like you. I like daddy." ALL. THE. TIME. I get it, you don't have to keep reminding me.
I just was playing house and my toddler said: "you be the mommy I'll be the daddy"
Update from my DH frustration on the PPD/baby blues board (I didn't want to put a cheer on there since it might make some ladies feel bad). dh and I have a policy that when we argue we take some time away from each other, make sure we say we love each other, and then say very validating things to each other. So I said that he works really hard all day to make sure Ezra and I have everything we need and want, that he absolutely hates being sick and he just wants to rest, that it must be very frustrating to feel like Ezra needs something and he can't give it and he probably can't wait until Ezra's on real food and he can make him a tiny breakfast burrito (his specialty) and that he was MUCH better at bed time than I am, since twice in a row he's gotten Ez down for 5 hours! And he said that was exactly how he was feeling. frankly, just the good part sounds terrible to me. I hate it when Ez is upset after eating and changing and attempted soothing so to feel like that all day must really suck. i took the day to reflect and realized I just need a little time knowing Ez is okay and not my responsibility, so I suggested he take over bed time since that's when I start to get really frazzled and he's so good at it. On my end I think I need to get better at letting his relationship with Ezra be his relationship. I do things one way, he does it another. I don't think Ezra is going to be damaged or in danger with his dad. I need to have confidence he can handle it. Tl,dr: parenting with your husband is REALLY hard, but communication is key (ugh. Cliche!)
Fussy baby clothes are a pain in the ass! I feel guilty, I have all these adorable outfits that she's already grown out of without ever wearing because I only put her in onesies and footie jams.
I just opened up two new hospital bills, one for me and one for Kasper. Not sure how they're charging me $6224 after insurance for his hospital stay when my entire delivery is less than $3k?! Maybe I don't understand insurance after all.
I hold my baby captive to take naps. Pretty sure he wanted up an hour ago, but I shhhh'd him until he fell back asleep over and over. Mommy needs a nap.
I hold my baby captive to take naps. Pretty sure he wanted up an hour ago, but I shhhh'd him until he fell back asleep over and over. Mommy needs a nap.
This is me all night "shh Ezra were still asleep". Like I'm gunna convince him!
Does everyone else's baby make a leaky milk mess every time they nurse? I have to have multiple burp cloth and rags to catch all the milk and spit being dispensed.
Also, DH has taken up baby narration. This morning as I was nursing DS, he unlatched and screamed at the boob. DH said he's saying "Mommy! It fell out! Put it back!"
So my work is having an event near Disney next week. Apparently someone who was presenting or that works for one of the companies presenting is the dad of the LO who was taken by the alligator last night. They were apparently here for vacation before the event. I heard about this early this morning and felt absolutely devastated, but knowing this now makes me feel even worse... Needless to say I'm really glad I'm still on leave bc I'd probably be even worse if I actually had to be there.
So my work is having an event near Disney next week. Apparently someone who was presenting or that works for one of the companies presenting is the dad of the LO who was taken by the alligator last night. They were apparently here for vacation before the event. I heard about this early this morning and felt absolutely devastated, but knowing this now makes me feel even worse... Needless to say I'm really glad I'm still on leave bc I'd probably be even worse if I actually had to be there.
Just horrible. My heart breaks for that family. I know this will sound morbid but I just heard they found his body. Thanks god for that so the family can put him to rest. Such a tragedy
I had something to post about LO but he's been so fussy the past half hour due to hiccups I forgot what it was! I've been neglecting TB lately since he has been born. Mainly because I'd bump from my work computer and now that I am not working, I am not on the computer (obviously).
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
So my work is having an event near Disney next week. Apparently someone who was presenting or that works for one of the companies presenting is the dad of the LO who was taken by the alligator last night. They were apparently here for vacation before the event. I heard about this early this morning and felt absolutely devastated, but knowing this now makes me feel even worse... Needless to say I'm really glad I'm still on leave bc I'd probably be even worse if I actually had to be there.
Just horrible. My heart breaks for that family. I know this will sound morbid but I just heard they found his body. Thanks god for that so the family can put him to rest. Such a tragedy
I feel sick to my stomach every time I hear or see something about this. It's so terrifying and sad and that poor family. I can't imagine the agony they must be going through. Holding Em a little tighter to me today.
Calling all teachers: last year was my first year teaching. I got the job at a rural podunk school an hour from my house right out of grad school and it was awesome but also really challenging because of the low SES of the students and a pretty negative community. Obviously I went on maternity leave and assumed I'd come back. I've really been struggling with the idea of coming back to work and spending two hours of my day commuting when I have a baby. I just went on the website for the school district of the town I live in and there are a lot of openings within walking distance of my house. I could spend more time with my baby and frankly be more involved with my school since staying for an after school event doesn't mean coming home at 9pm and constantly being late because it takes an hour to get to work. fellow teachers, is there something unprofessional about going on maternity leave your first year and then switching schools to a closer school? I wanna get an idea of professionalism before I apply. it should be noted even the PRINCIPAL of my school left because of the parents.
Calling all teachers: last year was my first year teaching. I got the job at a rural podunk school an hour from my house right out of grad school and it was awesome but also really challenging because of the low SES of the students and a pretty negative community. Obviously I went on maternity leave and assumed I'd come back. I've really been struggling with the idea of coming back to work and spending two hours of my day commuting when I have a baby. I just went on the website for the school district of the town I live in and there are a lot of openings within walking distance of my house. I could spend more time with my baby and frankly be more involved with my school since staying for an after school event doesn't mean coming home at 9pm and constantly being late because it takes an hour to get to work. fellow teachers, is there something unprofessional about going on maternity leave your first year and then switching schools to a closer school? I wanna get an idea of professionalism before I apply. it should be noted even the PRINCIPAL of my school left because of the parents.
I'm not a teacher but my DH is a principal so I have some insight. Your principal is probably going to be annoyed. Finding teachers in the summer sucks. The best ones are usually taken by spring break. That said, your focus needs to be on doing what's best for your family. Your school will work it out.
@JoMunson Your principal may be annoyed, but at least in my area, it's pretty common to start somewhere else when returning to work or shortly after because principals notoriously screw over returning mothers' schedules. Especially since you have such a long commute, I'm sure they'd understand that it's an opportunity that you can't pass up.
This may be more appropriate for UO Thursday... I shared an image on FB about how with a lot of other man-caused tragedies there is new legislation afterwards that restricts the materials used in the crime (i.e. 9/11 & the various airline security changes, large amounts of fertilizer getting tracked after sale, etc.), but there hasn't been much change on a federal level in regards to gun control despite the many tragedies in recent years.
Aaaaaand that apparently really pissed off my BIL who now thinks I want to ban all the guns which is not the case. I don't know that he sees much difference between advocating some gun control / greater restrictions and metaphorically burning the 2nd Amendment - he posted something on my shared post asking if I wanted to disarm all citizens (I just responded saying no, it doesn't have to be all or nothing (yay moderation)). Also DH is now annoyed at me because he believes it's going to be awkward with his family and he'll have to be the one to deal with BIL being angry. So that's fun.
@JoMunson You need to take care of you/your family's needs first. My husband is in the same boat- takes a hour to get there due to traffic, high demands, horrendously behaved kids- so we both search everyday for places closer to home that he can apply to. Not sure what your school district is like, but around here there are so many political games Within our schools that I don't care one bit if he leaves after a year. But that's just me- I have a very negative view about a lot of school districts around me lol
@JoMunson You need to take care of you/your family's needs first. My husband is in the same boat- takes a hour to get there due to traffic, high demands, horrendously behaved kids- so we both search everyday for places closer to home that he can apply to. Not sure what your school district is like, but around here there are so many political games Within our schools that I don't care one bit if he leaves after a year. But that's just me- I have a very negative view about a lot of school districts around me lol
The school district I'm at is okay, but the school itself sucks. The teacher I took over for got to keep her key and she was coming in during the summer to rearrange stuff I had set out. Like I said, the parents basically ran out the principal and I always felt pressure to keep students so when one left it was very much a "what did you do?" Situation. I think I'll apply. It doesn't hurt to apply.
Last night as DS was having his usual WH, I decided to swaddle him and lay him next to me to calm down. But before I got a chance to move him, he laid there being super content. So, I left him there, eyes wide open staring at the ceiling and cooing. He did that for 30 minutes, then he started to cry so I gave him a paci. I went off to wash my pump supplies (figured I'd stop and soothe him if he cries). I didn't hear a peep and when I came back, he fell asleep! I was so shocked I had to check if he was breathing LOL
But apparently it wasn't a fluke because he did it again this morning after nursing then swaddling. Boy is super content just laying there with a paci in his mouth, he's falling asleep. Could this be the start of something amazing!?!? I hope so! Maybe it's some 6 week growth spurt but I'll take whatever break I can get
Last night as DS was having his usual WH, I decided to swaddle him and lay him next to me to calm down. But before I got a chance to move him, he laid there being super content. So, I left him there, eyes wide open staring at the ceiling and cooing. He did that for 30 minutes, then he started to cry so I gave him a paci. I went off to wash my pump supplies (figured I'd stop and soothe him if he cries). I didn't hear a peep and when I came back, he fell asleep! I was so shocked I had to check if he was breathing LOL
But apparently it wasn't a fluke because he did it again this morning after nursing then swaddling. Boy is super content just laying there with a paci in his mouth, he's falling asleep. Could this be the start of something amazing!?!? I hope so! Maybe it's some 6 week growth spurt but I'll take whatever break I can get
ETA: or maybe it's my swaddle skills
Ezra does this! Not every time but it's so surprising! I always tell DH "oh I guess I was the problem". It's hard to remember babies are people and we don't like people in our face all the time either. Sometimes we just like to sit with our thoughts.
Does everyone else's baby make a leaky milk mess every time they nurse? I have to have multiple burp cloth and rags to catch all the milk and spit being dispensed.
Also, DH has taken up baby narration. This morning as I was nursing DS, he unlatched and screamed at the boob. DH said he's saying "Mommy! It fell out! Put it back!"
Sooo leaky. It's part me, part her though. She's only 11 days old so my supply is being wild still AND she's messy. I use prefolds...tucked under my boob and under her chin. They get absolutely soaked. I use at least 8 a day!
Okay so...I have not kept up with the weekly randoms...so forgive me if I'm repeating something already discussed. A couple active members have been on my mind lately because I haven't seen them post in a long time. I know that it's the crazy newborn phase and some might check out for awhile but I have to admit I find myself worrying about people.
Okay so...I have not kept up with the weekly randoms...so forgive me if I'm repeating something already discussed. A couple active members have been on my mind lately because I haven't seen them post in a long time. I know that it's the crazy newborn phase and some might check out for awhile but I have to admit I find myself worrying about people.
Me too. I was happy to see @lalala2004 post today as I was getting worried about her too!
Okay so...I have not kept up with the weekly randoms...so forgive me if I'm repeating something already discussed. A couple active members have been on my mind lately because I haven't seen them post in a long time. I know that it's the crazy newborn phase and some might check out for awhile but I have to admit I find myself worrying about people.
This exactly. I think most of the ladies bumped from work before or at least I hope that's the case and that everyone is doing well. I know I'd love to see an update from them.
So I got my rnp set up and LO is taking his first nap in it. And of course instead of taking advantage and napping too, I'm sitting here watching him, paranoid about how quickly he'll wake back up. He seems to dig it though...
Re: Weekly Randoms 6/6
Am I the only who doesn't always try to put my LO down for a nap, letting her sleep on me instead for fear of waking her up during the transfer? Sometimes (like right now) I just let her nap on top of me because I so don't want to have to get her sleeping again if she wakes up. She's like a little dictator and I'm scurred!
She doesn't even to pretend to like me
dh and I have a policy that when we argue we take some time away from each other, make sure we say we love each other, and then say very validating things to each other. So I said that he works really hard all day to make sure Ezra and I have everything we need and want, that he absolutely hates being sick and he just wants to rest, that it must be very frustrating to feel like Ezra needs something and he can't give it and he probably can't wait until Ezra's on real food and he can make him a tiny breakfast burrito (his specialty) and that he was MUCH better at bed time than I am, since twice in a row he's gotten Ez down for 5 hours! And he said that was exactly how he was feeling.
frankly, just the good part sounds terrible to me. I hate it when Ez is upset after eating and changing and attempted soothing so to feel like that all day must really suck.
i took the day to reflect and realized I just need a little time knowing Ez is okay and not my responsibility, so I suggested he take over bed time since that's when I start to get really frazzled and he's so good at it. On my end I think I need to get better at letting his relationship with Ezra be his relationship. I do things one way, he does it another. I don't think Ezra is going to be damaged or in danger with his dad. I need to have confidence he can handle it.
Tl,dr: parenting with your husband is REALLY hard, but communication is key (ugh. Cliche!)
Also, DH has taken up baby narration. This morning as I was nursing DS, he unlatched and screamed at the boob. DH said he's saying "Mommy! It fell out! Put it back!"
I've been neglecting TB lately since he has been born. Mainly because I'd bump from my work computer and now that I am not working, I am not on the computer (obviously).
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!I feel sick to my stomach every time I hear or see something about this. It's so terrifying and sad and that poor family. I can't imagine the agony they must be going through. Holding Em a little tighter to me today.
last year was my first year teaching. I got the job at a rural podunk school an hour from my house right out of grad school and it was awesome but also really challenging because of the low SES of the students and a pretty negative community. Obviously I went on maternity leave and assumed I'd come back.
I've really been struggling with the idea of coming back to work and spending two hours of my day commuting when I have a baby. I just went on the website for the school district of the town I live in and there are a lot of openings within walking distance of my house. I could spend more time with my baby and frankly be more involved with my school since staying for an after school event doesn't mean coming home at 9pm and constantly being late because it takes an hour to get to work.
fellow teachers, is there something unprofessional about going on maternity leave your first year and then switching schools to a closer school? I wanna get an idea of professionalism before I apply.
it should be noted even the PRINCIPAL of my school left because of the parents.
That said, your focus needs to be on doing what's best for your family. Your school will work it out.
DD: 05/14/16
Aaaaaand that apparently really pissed off my BIL who now thinks I want to ban all the guns which is not the case. I don't know that he sees much difference between advocating some gun control / greater restrictions and metaphorically burning the 2nd Amendment - he posted something on my shared post asking if I wanted to disarm all citizens (I just responded saying no, it doesn't have to be all or nothing (yay moderation)). Also DH is now annoyed at me because he believes it's going to be awkward with his family and he'll have to be the one to deal with BIL being angry. So that's fun.
I think I'll apply. It doesn't hurt to apply.
Last night as DS was having his usual WH, I decided to swaddle him and lay him next to me to calm down. But before I got a chance to move him, he laid there being super content. So, I left him there, eyes wide open staring at the ceiling and cooing. He did that for 30 minutes, then he started to cry so I gave him a paci. I went off to wash my pump supplies (figured I'd stop and soothe him if he cries). I didn't hear a peep and when I came back, he fell asleep! I was so shocked I had to check if he was breathing LOL
But apparently it wasn't a fluke because he did it again this morning after nursing then swaddling. Boy is super content just laying there with a paci in his mouth, he's falling asleep. Could this be the start of something amazing!?!? I hope so! Maybe it's some 6 week growth spurt but I'll take whatever break I can get
ETA: or maybe it's my swaddle skills