@SierraMyhre I tried to figure out how to link it, but I'm on mobile this morning. If you look in the "PSA: Read First!" post that is near the top of the forum, there is a link to a long list of common acronyms. They definitely take a little to get used to, and some still pop up they I don't get right away. I second the welcome, and look forward to having you join our S16 family!
PS: Just in case, since tone in hard online , the name of the referenced post is not an admonition. That's just where the link is.
Thanks ladies. It felt so strange to not have to get up and out early this morning, and I had dreams all night about being at that office, having to pack my things and everyone staring at me, being forced to so a weird exit interview that made no sense- none of which happened, I mean yes I had to clean out my desk and my boss carried my boxes out for me, but no one was there yet really so it was discreet and no exit interview. They are telling people I resigned. What really stings is being there 5 years, some of the people I worked with I felt were like my family, and those are the ones I'm not hearing anything from. Oh well. Hopefully by tomorrow or next week my body will start to get used to being able to sleep in a little, and hopefully my boss will work with me at my full-time job. Hoping to talk to her today while she is in. It's the first time in a few years that I haven't had to be at work by 7 a.m.!
Girls, it's finally starting to feel like Spring here! DH took a half day yesterday, and got some much needed yard work done. Our garden is all ready now for planting veggies! DD and I were able to go out and play in the afternoon, and we will again today. Nice weather can't help but put me in a good mood!
Woah, I just had nearly 80 comments to catch up on. I have a lot of work to do today and a few people called out sick and so I've been asked to help a few different departments - yay! Good luck to all in the potty training battle - we are holding out until E is over 2 for sure (and this baby will be at least a few months old). My sister did the 3 day method with her twins, it worked on the girl within the first 2 days and she has maybe had 1 or 2 accidents in the year or two since. The boy had a harder time with it - either being too involved/distracted by what he was doing and forgetting to go and especially with overnights. We will attempt the 3 day method but revert to pullups if needed.. but as I said, won't be for a loooooong time.
I'm still stressed about little one scratching another kid (though daycare encouraged me that he doesn't have a mean bone in his body, he just likes to grab faces/play). They also mentioned that he sometimes tries to put the other kids' fingers in his mouth. Great. I know we couldn't fix it all in this weekend, but he's also still with a runny nose and cough and with this behavioral news it just makes this weekend trip that my husband and I have to take feel all the more wrong in terms of timing. Ugh.
@camichael84I'm jealous! Although we've gotten the sun - the 60s they forecast all week as panned out to only be high around 43. It looks beautiful out but there's still a distinct chill when you walk outside. They say the 60s are supposed to hit 'definitely' starting tomorrow and through the weekend with bright sun - so I'm really excited to look forward to the sun and warmth!
Also - my parents dropped off my sister and I for a week with my grandparents when we were little (My sister maybe 3 and me about a year old) while they went on vacation in California. My memere looked at my sister and said "I hope those diapers are for Anna, you're too old for diapers!" And in that moment my sister was potty trained. Unreal, right?? The power of persuasion, my sister refused to be thought of as a baby and they went out and bought her underwear for the week and she never looked back.
I had overnight accidents through kindergarten... my body just never woke me up to say I had to go to the bathroom. I still remember walking down the hall to my parents room and being afraid of knocking on the door to tell them I had an accident. They were very loving and kind parents, but their frustrations/annoyance with being woken/changing sheets, etc was very obvious. I spent quite a few night sleeping on my floor instead of waking them. So I guess - just keep in mind, some kiddos aren't being rebellious/stubborn, they just aren't getting the signals. 2 of my best friends wore sensors in their underwear growing up that would buzz when it started to get wet to wake the kids... probably not cool these days.
Question: There's a bunch of friends getting together to play lasertag this weekend. I've been invited to play. Their website doesn't list any health concerns about being pregnant and playing, it all states 'play at your own risk' including when pregnant. I'd like to play - but wondering if anyone has any thoughts on it. I spoke to someone at the place and they said it's ok to play/they would've played when they were pregnant but would've stayed more towards home-base and defended that instead of going through the course. Just wondering what you ladies thought.
Also - my parents dropped off my sister and I for a week with my grandparents when we were little (My sister maybe 3 and me about a year old) while they went on vacation in California. My memere looked at my sister and said "I hope those diapers are for Anna, you're too old for diapers!" And in that moment my sister was potty trained. Unreal, right?? The power of persuasion, my sister refused to be thought of as a baby and they went out and bought her underwear for the week and she never looked back.
I had overnight accidents through kindergarten... my body just never woke me up to say I had to go to the bathroom. I still remember walking down the hall to my parents room and being afraid of knocking on the door to tell them I had an accident. They were very loving and kind parents, but their frustrations/annoyance with being woken/changing sheets, etc was very obvious. I spent quite a few night sleeping on my floor instead of waking them. So I guess - just keep in mind, some kiddos aren't being rebellious/stubborn, they just aren't getting the signals. 2 of my best friends wore sensors in their underwear growing up that would buzz when it started to get wet to wake the kids... probably not cool these days.
@AnnaS930Thanks for the insight. You're right a lot of kids 'wet the bed' because there body just doesn't register it and wake them up. My dad's very sick now and having the same thing happen to him in his 60s. He's a prideful man so he obviously hates it, but it's not his doing. His body no longer registers it and wakes him up.
As to the bolded, WTF!? I can't imagine what the 'buzz' thing was in the underwear that would set it off, but heck to the no do I want that for my kid. Whether 2 or 6 they'll learn to go on the potty at their own time, not by mechanical intervention.
@LakeR2014 Are you worried about the physical activity/possibility or collision/fall or the lasers? The running, ducking, and jumping is what they are warning about. That way, if you slip or run headlong into another player, the facility is covered by providing a warning. The "lasers" are really infrared (IR) beams, just like you would find in a remote control for the TV. They won't do any harm at all to you or your baby! I say go for it, and have fun!
As to the bolded, WTF!? I can't imagine what the 'buzz' thing was in the underwear that would set it off, but heck to the no do I want that for my kid. Whether 2 or 6 they'll learn to go on the potty at their own time, not by mechanical intervention.
I have one of these for my 6-year-old to wear at night. My husband comes from a line of night wetting, and the same thing was happening to my son. He was embarrassed and we were doing a lot of laundry. Like @Annas620 said, I think you can have very loving, understanding parents who are simply exhausted in the middle of the night and maybe lose some of their diplomatic natures. I'd get that way and be a zombie about sheet changes/comforting/hugs.
We went from daily/every-other-day sheet washings to long stretches without accidents. I can't even recall his last accident and we only started with the buzzer at the beginning of February (I was getting desperate, you ladies know how pregnancy exhaustion goes). The buzz wakes him up at the first hint of moisture -- before he can fully empty his bladder -- so 9 times out of 10 he's able to make it to the bathroom before having a full-on wetting episode and the subsequent embarrassment. It's awesome to see him happy and proud about it in the morning.
I don't think I've ever said something like "no, I won't use a buzzer/bedwetting device," more I had no idea that those things existed before it became a pressing issue to our family. I don't feel bad or weird about it at all.
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@LakeR2014- I reminded my sister a few times when she was getting frustrated with her son what it felt like as the kid that just wasn't "getting it" and to go easy on him - when he would have an accident during the day he would cry about it, poor little bugger. As for your father, that must be extremely difficult. Any disease/sickness that has the body deteriorating more rapidly than the mind is so difficult for adults/elderly, it just breaks my heart.
I'm not sure what the buzzers were, but the parents were friends and both used them. Parenting at the turn of the 90s I guess?
AmMcc12 - I've been interacting with them a little bit. Talking to them, singing to them. But DS and DD have been way more into it. They both kiss my stomach at night and DD is so into it now (I think it's become more real to her since we found out the sexes) that she gives my stomach "nosies" and says "I love you baby brother, I love you baby sister" every night.
@SarahMConnors - I'm so sorry about your part-time job. I know that even a part-time job can make a huge difference in finances! I'm really glad to hear though that your boss at your full-time job is being understanding and I hope she comes through for you!
@VeraMali - Exciting! Fingers crossed for you guys!
My rant for this morning - Is it really that difficult to use your blinker when changing lanes or making a turn (especially when you're in a lane that is a straight and turn lane)?! Like, does it actually take that much energy to lift your left hand up (or just a finger or two) and flip the thing up or down? Does it hurt? Do you think I can read your mind? I absolutely cannot read peoples minds and I refuse to try. Why do you expect me to know when you're going to change lanes driving down the highway? If I could read minds, let me tell you, I'd be a lot better off financially!
@LakeR2014 I think laser tag sounds like so much fun! I always loved it. As @jabreen said, the lasers are fine, no harm there. I would be careful walking in the course because I'd assume it's dark and you don't want to trip, fall, or run into anyone. I say go for it and have fun, just be a bit more cautious.
Potty training is so different for each kid. We completely left it in my DDs hands. We did it on her terms and she was trained by the time she was 2. My nephew on the other hand they tried the same thing after see our success with it and he still isn't completely potty trained at almost 4. Totally depends on the kid.
We find out the sex Saturday. Getting the Tech to write it down as my husband can't come. We plan on waiting 3 weeks to open it as we want to find out with our whole family when they get home from holidays. I may kill me to wait.
Potty training sucks. I've been trying to train my 2 year old for a while. It was going great but then her little sister started crawling and I had to keep the bathroom door shut. So the 2 yr old can't go in and go pee by herself. So she just doesn't. She was wearing undies but I put her in pullups because I was tired of constantly cleaning up messes. And I don't really care if she isn't trained for a while.
@Soon2bemissG I don't know how you're waiting that long! DH can't come to the appt next week so my OB said he'd write it down, and I'm driving that sucker straight to my husband's work so we can open it in the car on his break.
I put up a FB status about the CDC officially connecting Zika virus as the cause of the microcephaly increase, and hoping it pushes for further research and urgency of a vaccine.
I'm side-eying the crap out of you pregnant coworker in Mexico.
I am currently devouring my leftover Pizza Hut pizza. It's cold and amazing! I am also thrilled I have more leftover for tomorrow's lunch. It'll make Friday just that much better!
I am telling my students today, and they keep asking me if I'm excited. I get that they are just clueless teens and that many people aren't when they get a positive pregnancy test, but if I'm telling you, why would you ask? If I'm not excited, what would you do then?
@jabreen at least they are kids! I've heard adults who have said that. My aunt actually asked my mom "was that planned?" when I was pregnant with my first. My husband and I are high school sweethearts so we got married young (22 &23 yo summer after graduating college), and we had our son a year later. Yes it was planned, yes we're happy...and if it wasn't...a little too late now so shut your yapper!
So my pregnancy brain got to me today. I was driving to pick up my husband for our anatomy appointment and I was sitting at a light. I was not playing on my phone or even singing along to music. I was in my own little world and ran a red light. I was going straight and the turn lane turned green and I just went and realized it halfway when I almost got hit!! I freaked out and started crying and made my husband drive the rest of the way.
Good news though. She is OFFICIALLY A GIRL. tech confirmed today so we are now team pink! Baby looked really good and the tech was happy with all the measurements. Heartbeat of 153!! so excited but I never want to drive again.
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Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
@UnwritteN12 I find myself using mom voice to tell other drivers to "use your car words!" Also my husband who will grumble grumble that he can't get over but he doesn't have a blinker on. Car words, honey!
@kosmo86Aww I'm sorry for your scare. I've definitely done that before when not pregnant, it's very nerve-wracking. It happens to the best of us. Just take the time you need to relax and calm down and you'll be fine going forward. Congrats on team pink!!! That is fantastic! Do you have a name picked out?
Guys, I'm seriously having a total blah pregnancy day! I thought my energy levels were back to normal but NOPE. Today I was smacked by the tired truck and I just cannot stay awake! I have no idea how I'm going to make it through the work day, but I'm pretty sure I'll have to leave early or risk falling asleep at the wheel. Any quick tips for getting an energy boost that doesn't involve caffeine?
I'm sort of avoiding potty training my little dude. He'll be three at the end of May. He'll pee in the potty when he's in the mood, but has NO interest in pooping. His daycare doesn't have changing tables for kids his age...they kind of expect them to train with all of their friends. My guy couldn't care less. Yay for not giving into peer pressure?
I'm a teacher, so I'll have some time off soon for summer. I'm hesitant to REALLY potty train, though, because I'm afraid he'll regress when the baby gets here.
@geminigirl16 - Got mine today too. I brought in my son yesterday to visit, and today a coworker says "Your son is so cute! I'm sure this one is too!" as she rubbed my belly. Ummm, this one is probably pretty alien right now, but thanks - now remoooooove your hand. haha @kosmo86 - I had a prego-brain, not paying enough attention in the car for zero reasons last week. I was driving home and a car in front of me had slowed down, I assumed (as cars always do in this exact spot) that they were waiting to turn left to go to the post office... so, I started to go to the right to go around them. Luckily the speed limit on this road is only 35, as I started to pull up next to this car to pass them I realized that the car was stopped because 2 tweens were crossing the road on a crosswalk right in front of them. AHHH! Luckily I stomped the break and stopped when my car nose was just barely even with the middle of the other car but HOLY HELL! I nearly just RAN OVER SOME HUMANS!
Took forever for my heart to stop racing, and I've been a little spooked ever since.
Since we are still talking about potty training... my husband has been bringing it up since we found out I was pregnant for #2. Unless McKenna starts showing some serious signs, I have no intention of starting potty training before 2 (she's 19 months today). Since the baby is due right before her 2nd, birthday I've been putting the thought of potty training out of my mind for a bit. I would have wanted to introduce the potty to her right after her birthday, but with a newborn in the house and her having a new sibling, it just seems like the wrong time now. I wanted to start before 2.5, but right now that's sounding the best to me.
I have some potty training experience from working in childcare, and the main thing I learned is every child is different and train on their own schedule. Some do it quick, some take months and months and then still frequently have accidents.
@camichael84- Same with my husband, though not recently. He had said a few times when we were about to start trying to get pregnant "I just don't want 2 kids in diapers" ... why?? Is that just something he heard somewhere and now he's repeating it? We split diaper changes pretty evenly, and let me tell you - diapering/changing diapers is a whole lot less stressful than the mess/frustrations that potty training can bring. We got pregnant within the first cycle or two of trying (versus a year for Emmett) so now he'll be 21 months when #2 arrives. We will most certainly have 2 in diapers, and probably for 6 months or more. I'm not worried, just trying not to make huge changes right before/when baby arrives. I'd rather not - be taking away a pacifier at that time (he doesn't happen to use one), be transitioning to a big boy bed, potty train, etc etc. Trying to maintain SOME level of normalcy for him when his world is turned upside down
If I had access to the picture at work I would post it...but when we were potty training our son we had a minor setback. Ben decided to put his potty seat on his head. It slipped right on and then he ran up to me screaming because it wouldn't come off. We tried everything and that sucker wouldn't budge! DH was doing work outside, so I called him in and he brought these heavy duty pruning sheers with him. We had to cut it off from around his neck. He didn't like his potty seat for a awhile after that.
Ladies am I insane for scheduling my a/s on Friday the 13th?!?! That is the earliest they can get us in and I'm anxious and want to think no big deal, but then the superstitious side of me creeps in...
@AmMcc12 - my son was born on December 13, ended up being 12/13/14 and since then I've considered the 13th a lucky day for me (was scheduled for induction on the 14th). Friday the 13th? Pssh, no big deal lady. Take the earliest date you can get!
@kosmo86and @AnnaS930 Ah! How scary to hear of both of your close calls in vehicles! Glad to hear crisis was averted in both situations! And yay! to Team Pink Kosmo!
@Pilotswifey My DD has absolutely no interest in pooping on the potty, either! She is 2.5 yo and has been fully potty trained (for pee) since right around her second birthday. She has been wearing regular undies since then as well...no worries about pee because she knows to go to the potty but also no worries about poop because now she just REFUSES to go, in general! She holds it for days on end and finally, finally will go in her diaper at night when she's relaxed and can't hold it in any longer. It's making us all miserable (she's in pain and therefore crabby and there's nothing we can do except patiently deal with a crabby toddler)! I think the pooping problem is a result of me pushing too hard. (When she was peeing so well, I pushed the pooping and would force her to sit on the potty.) Weeellll, forcing a stubborn toddler to do anything is a baaaad idea and we're paying for it now. So I get the Mom Guilt...though for different reasons. About three months ago, we stopped pressing the issue. We don't even talk about it anymore because it would upset her so much. Slowly, slowly I see her coming around but I know it's a long road ahead.
Agree with @AnnaS930. @AmMcc12The 13th has always been a lucky number for DH and I. We always look at is a good date and I'm actually predicting/hoping our baby is born on 9/13 to have that birthday. To us the 13th is fantastic. If I could've waited the extra week and had my a/s on the 13th I would've but having the opportunity to have it earlier...yea desire to see the baby won out on that one
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PS: Just in case, since tone in hard online , the name of the referenced post is not an admonition. That's just where the link is.
Good luck to all in the potty training battle - we are holding out until E is over 2 for sure (and this baby will be at least a few months old). My sister did the 3 day method with her twins, it worked on the girl within the first 2 days and she has maybe had 1 or 2 accidents in the year or two since. The boy had a harder time with it - either being too involved/distracted by what he was doing and forgetting to go and especially with overnights. We will attempt the 3 day method but revert to pullups if needed.. but as I said, won't be for a loooooong time.
I'm still stressed about little one scratching another kid (though daycare encouraged me that he doesn't have a mean bone in his body, he just likes to grab faces/play). They also mentioned that he sometimes tries to put the other kids' fingers in his mouth. Great. I know we couldn't fix it all in this weekend, but he's also still with a runny nose and cough and with this behavioral news it just makes this weekend trip that my husband and I have to take feel all the more wrong in terms of timing. Ugh.
I had overnight accidents through kindergarten... my body just never woke me up to say I had to go to the bathroom. I still remember walking down the hall to my parents room and being afraid of knocking on the door to tell them I had an accident. They were very loving and kind parents, but their frustrations/annoyance with being woken/changing sheets, etc was very obvious. I spent quite a few night sleeping on my floor instead of waking them. So I guess - just keep in mind, some kiddos aren't being rebellious/stubborn, they just aren't getting the signals. 2 of my best friends wore sensors in their underwear growing up that would buzz when it started to get wet to wake the kids... probably not cool these days.
As to the bolded, WTF!? I can't imagine what the 'buzz' thing was in the underwear that would set it off, but heck to the no do I want that for my kid. Whether 2 or 6 they'll learn to go on the potty at their own time, not by mechanical intervention.
We went from daily/every-other-day sheet washings to long stretches without accidents. I can't even recall his last accident and we only started with the buzzer at the beginning of February (I was getting desperate, you ladies know how pregnancy exhaustion goes). The buzz wakes him up at the first hint of moisture -- before he can fully empty his bladder -- so 9 times out of 10 he's able to make it to the bathroom before having a full-on wetting episode and the subsequent embarrassment. It's awesome to see him happy and proud about it in the morning.
I don't think I've ever said something like "no, I won't use a buzzer/bedwetting device," more I had no idea that those things existed before it became a pressing issue to our family. I don't feel bad or weird about it at all.
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I'm not sure what the buzzers were, but the parents were friends and both used them. Parenting at the turn of the 90s I guess?
@SarahMConnors - I'm so sorry about your part-time job. I know that even a part-time job can make a huge difference in finances! I'm really glad to hear though that your boss at your full-time job is being understanding and I hope she comes through for you!
@VeraMali - Exciting! Fingers crossed for you guys!
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I'm side-eying the crap out of you pregnant coworker in Mexico.
@jabreen at least they are kids! I've heard adults who have said that. My aunt actually asked my mom "was that planned?" when I was pregnant with my first. My husband and I are high school sweethearts so we got married young (22 &23 yo summer after graduating college), and we had our son a year later. Yes it was planned, yes we're happy...and if it wasn't...a little too late now so shut your yapper!
Good news though. She is OFFICIALLY A GIRL. tech confirmed today so we are now team pink! Baby looked really good and the tech was happy with all the measurements. Heartbeat of 153!! so excited but I never want to drive again.
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Guys, I'm seriously having a total blah pregnancy day! I thought my energy levels were back to normal but NOPE. Today I was smacked by the tired truck and I just cannot stay awake! I have no idea how I'm going to make it through the work day, but I'm pretty sure I'll have to leave early or risk falling asleep at the wheel. Any quick tips for getting an energy boost that doesn't involve caffeine?
I'm a teacher, so I'll have some time off soon for summer. I'm hesitant to REALLY potty train, though, because I'm afraid he'll regress when the baby gets here.
Yay, Mom guilt.
@kosmo86 - I had a prego-brain, not paying enough attention in the car for zero reasons last week. I was driving home and a car in front of me had slowed down, I assumed (as cars always do in this exact spot) that they were waiting to turn left to go to the post office... so, I started to go to the right to go around them. Luckily the speed limit on this road is only 35, as I started to pull up next to this car to pass them I realized that the car was stopped because 2 tweens were crossing the road on a crosswalk right in front of them. AHHH! Luckily I stomped the break and stopped when my car nose was just barely even with the middle of the other car but HOLY HELL! I nearly just RAN OVER SOME HUMANS!
Took forever for my heart to stop racing, and I've been a little spooked ever since.
I have some potty training experience from working in childcare, and the main thing I learned is every child is different and train on their own schedule. Some do it quick, some take months and months and then still frequently have accidents.
I'd rather not - be taking away a pacifier at that time (he doesn't happen to use one), be transitioning to a big boy bed, potty train, etc etc. Trying to maintain SOME level of normalcy for him when his world is turned upside down
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@Pilotswifey My DD has absolutely no interest in pooping on the potty, either! She is 2.5 yo and has been fully potty trained (for pee) since right around her second birthday. She has been wearing regular undies since then as well...no worries about pee because she knows to go to the potty but also no worries about poop because now she just REFUSES to go, in general! She holds it for days on end and finally, finally will go in her diaper at night when she's relaxed and can't hold it in any longer. It's making us all miserable (she's in pain and therefore crabby and there's nothing we can do except patiently deal with a crabby toddler)! I think the pooping problem is a result of me pushing too hard. (When she was peeing so well, I pushed the pooping and would force her to sit on the potty.) Weeellll, forcing a stubborn toddler to do anything is a baaaad idea and we're paying for it now. So I get the Mom Guilt...though for different reasons. About three months ago, we stopped pressing the issue. We don't even talk about it anymore because it would upset her so much. Slowly, slowly I see her coming around but I know it's a long road ahead.