A coworker of mine is due in 4 weeks. She went to her appt this week and they decided to do some extra testing bc they thought she might have pre-eclampsia. Turns out everything was fine BUT their anatomy scan at 20 weeks said girl, but now at 36 weeks she found out its a BOY!
OMG I can't stop thinking about this today- we found out yesterday that we're having a girl and I keep saying "but what if they're wrong"?!? Totally irrational, and there's nothing you can do about it but I'm hanging on to Monkey's clothes just in case!
@LizC216 - No advice from this FTM (cause I have nothing to give ) but I'm dreading that situation. I have enough problems confronting my friends with the wild dog who isn't even aggressive, but is a bit of a nutcase when she plays with my dog. Actually, I just stopped letting them bring their dog to my house, which was a really passive move. Good luck with your conversation, I hope she is receptive to what you have to say.
@blondie080300 - I use Cetaphil and I really scrub it in with a silicone scrubby pad thing before rinsing it off. It's super gentle and it works pretty well, though I tend to have drier skin. And I had no idea salicylic acid was a pregnancy no no. I thought it was benzoyl peroxide and retinol that we had to avoid?
@beachmama14 - for the longest time I was the financially stupid spouse . The problem wasn't so much that I'm an idiot who isn't aware of how much life costs, but that DH and I largely separate our finances and we both weren't involved in the process more. I had NO idea how much our monthly mortgage payments were, or how much income tax we paid each year. On the flip side, DH had NO idea how much we ate in groceries each week or how high our electric bill was each month (we basically said you pay for a,b,c, and I'll take care of x,y,z.) We've been talking about it more and it's been a real eye-opener and we're both FINALLY on the same page and can realistically tackle our financial goals. But for the longest time I was like "oh, we can buy a new house within a few years" (hahahahahaha, yeah right) or "we can definitely afford new appliances, a third car, a fancy vacation, etc" DH can be financially stupid though - he buys a lot of $10 trinkets off of amazon so I think I have to (sadly!) cancel our prime account before he drains our bank account to $0.
Wow, y'all have been busy with this thread! I've had a frustrating time lately and haven't felt like bumping much. I'm desperately trying to potty train my DD, she will be 3 in September, but it's not going well. She knows what the potty is for & will occasionally use it for a treat but otherwise just flat out refuses to do it. She's starting to outgrow the largest size pull up and I'm just at a loss. I've tried every trick that's been suggested to me but nothing seems to work.
@AnnaS930 Living in Chicagoland, we're pretty spoiled with our pizza. Pizza Hut is definitely not on the top of the list of "good" pizza around here. When we lived in WI, though, Pizza Hut WAS pizza. I actually worked at a sit-down PH and a server for a year before moving to IL. During that time, I ate PH probably 5 times a week...but since then, we have had PH maybe a handful of times. That being said, DH and I were JUST having a conversation about this over the weekend. Nothing beats PH stuffed crust or their Taco Pizza. I've had taco pizza elsewhere but it's never been the same. Sooooo good. Now I want need some. And it's 9am.
I miss Chicago pizza!!!
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I tried the new Spicy Chorizo breakfast sandwich from Starbucks and it was HEAVEN! I've had terrible heartburn but it was so worth it. My doctor would not be proud.
@veramali we ended up bribing our son. Pee wasn't a problem, he refused to poop in the potty.so if he pooped we would go to orange leaf or cherry berry for ice cream, then for each time he peed we would let him add a topping. Worked in a week for us, then we weined him off the ice cream habit. Good luck!
@PoodleDoodleOoo Definitely retinol and salicylic acid (all hydroxy acids, actually). Benzoyl Peroxide appears to be safe, though I think you're supposed to keep it to the lower percent solutions to avoid irritating sensitive skin. I have some that I used briefly before it gave me a bad rash on my chest and neck. I'd advise occasional use and some sort of scrubby thing to make sure you remove all the residue!
@marajay6 could it be related to molars breaking through? I think I remember you mentioning he was getting his. My son (20 months) just went through that a few months ago and would not go down/kept waking up crying every hour. Once we figured out it was his molars and gave him some Tylenol he was out. That could be why the bottle helped too, the warm milk may have been soothing.
I was the mom that tried to potty train and gave up. We started at, I think, 2 1/2 and it certainly wasn't an easy process. Sometimes they were all about it and others, not so much. Add to that multiple events happening over that time period that stressed everyone out and it just wasn't working. TBH, DS and DD weren't potty trained until they were about 4 1/2. I didn't feel like pushing them and fighting with them over it when I knew that it was really the one thing that they had control over. The thing that pushed them at that point was being in daycare for the first time and seeing that there were other kids (not all) that were using the potty. Once they made the decision that that's what they wanted to do, it was a pretty quick transition. And from there it was a pretty quick transition to overnight potty training. However, I realize that this approach won't work for everyone.
Anatomy scan went well! Baby looked great and is growing right on track. We are still Team Green! (I was afraid this overly active LO would show us even though we weren't looking but that didn't happen! He/she must have been sleeping and was mostly still for the duration.)
DD did pretty good. She was a little antsy and didn't really understand what she was seeing on the ultrasound screen. I figured she'd probably be confused with the grainy black/white image so we had looked at random ultrasound photos before the appointment which may have helped a tiny bit. Then, during my appointment following the u/s, she and DH waited up front. When I was done, I was told she had been quite the entertainer for the receptionists and other waiting patients while I was in there, haha!
@camichael84I keep forgetting to tell you that your daughters name is at the top of our very, very short list of girl names. It's the only one we can both agree on that we really like
@marajay6 could it be related to molars breaking through? I think I remember you mentioning he was getting his. My son (20 months) just went through that a few months ago and would not go down/kept waking up crying every hour. Once we figured out it was his molars and gave him some Tylenol he was out. That could be why the bottle helped too, the warm milk may have been soothing.
While he was showing any other signs of his teeth bothering (no chewing) we did give him some Tylenol thinking that could be the problem. It didn't seem to help. He wasn't cranky, he just wanted to play and cuddle and not be left in his crib. Then this morning he didn't want to wake up because he was so tired.
Wow, y'all have been busy with this thread! I've had a frustrating time lately and haven't felt like bumping much. I'm desperately trying to potty train my DD, she will be 3 in September, but it's not going well. She knows what the potty is for & will occasionally use it for a treat but otherwise just flat out refuses to do it. She's starting to outgrow the largest size pull up and I'm just at a loss. I've tried every trick that's been suggested to me but nothing seems to work.
I feel your pain, except my daughter is already three. I'm just following the conventional wisdom of not to push them until they're ready which sucks because I feel like she'll never be ready.
@PSUBecky23 I've tried to the whole wait until she is ready thing but like I said she is BARELY fitting into the largest size pull ups that can be bought. I don't know where to go from there if she outgrows those & still refuses the potty. The biggest thing that is making me lose my patience is that I get the very strong sense that it's not that she isn't ready to use it but that she's turned it into a power struggle between her & I. She's a very strong willed child and this is the one thing I can't "make" her do, she will agree to sit on the potty and then immediately get up and pee in the floor or pee in her training panties before I can stop her and she thinks it's hilarious. I love my daughter but she has always done this. Anything I WANT her to do becomes fun to fight me on doing, eating, drinking, using the potty, behaving in public, you name it. I really need this next little girl to be a little more mellow.
I didn't get pizza hut but made frozen pizza due to all the pizza talk lol. Today I finally scheduled my a/s, it will be in almost a month exactly. We plan on doing a sex reveal party the following weekend but now am seeing if I can go to our hometown during Memorial Day weekend and do it there. Now will I be able to not open the envelope for two and a half weeks?
@PSUBecky23 I've tried to the whole wait until she is ready thing but like I said she is BARELY fitting into the largest size pull ups that can be bought. I don't know where to go from there if she outgrows those & still refuses the potty. The biggest thing that is making me lose my patience is that I get the very strong sense that it's not that she isn't ready to use it but that she's turned it into a power struggle between her & I. She's a very strong willed child and this is the one thing I can't "make" her do, she will agree to sit on the potty and then immediately get up and pee in the floor or pee in her training panties before I can stop her and she thinks it's hilarious. I love my daughter but she has always done this. Anything I WANT her to do becomes fun to fight me on doing, eating, drinking, using the potty, behaving in public, you name it. I really need this next little girl to be a little more mellow.
I get it. Major power struggle with us too. She goes if I tell her to but if I try to take her away from whatever she's doing in order to get her to go, it's a battle of the wills.
@VeraMali FTM here so I probably don't know what I'm talking about Any way you can plan an entire weekend for your DH to take the reins on getting her to the potty every half hour or more? Obviously it would require planning and not budging (and probably bribing) but that worked for my best friend with her first. They had a power struggle and her husband did that for a weekend and talked to the LO and explained what he was doing and why he needed to learn, etc. During the week she followed through. It would also depend on the schedule you guys have.
@VeraMali FTM here so I probably don't know what I'm talking about Any way you can plan an entire weekend for your DH to take the reins on getting her to the potty every half hour or more? Obviously it would require planning and not budging (and probably bribing) but that worked for my best friend with her first. They had a power struggle and her husband did that for a weekend and talked to the LO and explained what he was doing and why he needed to learn, etc. During the week she followed through. It would also depend on the schedule you guys have.
We keep talking about taking a weekend to work on my daughter. But then we can't go anywhere all weekend. And being stuck at home for two days with my rambunctious three year old sounds like hell.
I prefer my brother's method of potty training. Bro and SIL were working on potty training my nephew and having the typical struggles. Then they went on an anniversary vacation to Vegas and left my nephew with my parents. A week later they returned home to a potty trained toddler.
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom sadly that wouldn't work for us. Daddy is Penelope's favorite but there is a reason behind that.. he has NO will power when it comes to her. If she asks for something, she's going to get it. If she tells Daddy she doesn't want to use the potty then he won't even try to take it a step further & immediately gets her the diaper she asked for.
@veramali Our son regressed after his little brother arrived. The ice cream worked, then we bring home baby and he thought no more potty. So I told him the diapers were gone and that did it. He was 3.
My new favorite food these days is yogurt parfait. Daily for a snack at work I have been bringing in vanilla yogurt, granola, and strawberries, raspberries and or blueberries. It's better than dessert to me right now. I mean it really makes me so happy!
vent: My husbands cousin is pregnant with her THIRD baby...congrats to her, i'm very happy for her...this time it's a girl (she has 2 boys)...however she is having a baby SHOWER (not sprinkle)...she of course registered for everything pink and in my opinion some worthless things (a throw pillow for $20??).
I'm having a girl this go around and would like to have some sort of celebration (but maybe just ask for [cloth] diapers) but in all honesty my little girl will be wearing any of the clothes that we already have (that don't say something like "handsome like my daddy"), or clothes that we get from friends that we know...she'll use blankets that we already have...the nursery is grey and we aren't changing anything...i guess i'm a minimalist mom?? idk. i just think it doesn't matter the color of the blanket your kid is wrapped in, or the color of washcloths used, or sheets or w/e really needs to be specific to gender...and in fact get upset when people who are expecting girls and are over at our house say "i wish i was having a boy so i could get this cool toy (a soccer goal/basket ball hoop combo)...um you're little girl can play with that toy...and ours will as well!
i guess i just have issues with gender roles/bias/stereo types...
@erinmarie86 that sounds a little overboard to me too, but I'm also more of a minimalist. I hate clutter and we have so much stuff as it is. We also have 2 boys and are expecting a little girl this time around, but I don't plan on having a shower. We have all the kiddo gear we need (car seats, stroller, highchair, pnp, etc.), and we plan on going through all our boy clothes to see what can be reused. Really all we are going to need is clothing, and I know we will get a fair amount as gifts. People love babies, so even when you don't have a shower so many people give clothes, even people you would never expect something from. We are also leaving our nursery as is because it's very neutral.
Try not to let it irritate you too much, but don't buy her a $20 pink pillow
@erinmarie86 - right there with you. This is my first but I just don't get the need for everything to be gender specific. I told my mom if it's a girl I want to paint the room teal and she was asking me how I was going to add pink into it. Ummm I'm not, I don't like pink and this baby will not remember this room so why should I have to use a color I don't like.
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glad to know i'm not alone... @SaraJuul trying to not let it get to me too much and even just typing it out sorta is helping me just let go...i think i'll buy her a cute outfit and gift card since i still don't understand what she could possibly need.
@kosmo86 teal would be cute regardless of gender! i thought of that color as well and opted for grey...i thought i would do teal accents but that never happened...again i just can't see spending money on "worthless" things like decorations :-/
So I know this is a little contradictory to what I've been posting lately...so many great things happening in life right now that I'm very grateful for...but the enormity of it all just hit me today!
DH is starting a new job (which we're finding comes with a bit of a nightmarish insurance-switching situation) and will also require him to do a week of training in CA in two weeks, we're selling a house (and scheduling inspections/repairs/appraisals with less than cooperative tenants) and getting ready for baby. Plus, my sister is pregnant and due in early May. She will be delivering in a hospital about 2.25 hours from my house and wants me there for the birth (which is awesome) but means I need to be ready to leave at the drop of a hat at any given moment...with a toddler... AND work has been insane lately (20% staff reduction but of course the workload only increases). Needless to say, I'm all of a sudden insanely overwhelmed. Just trying to breathe and take it one day at a time...but whoa!
@VeraMali oh, man, that makes sense. I feel like my husband will be the same time but I guess we'll see when this LO arrives. Good luck potty training your LO. I wish I knew the secret but potty training is one of the things that scares me the most about having a baby!
@JennM205 I am easily overwhelmed so I totally get what you are saying. Just try to take everything in stride and focus on how amazing everything will be once it's all sorted out.
@VeraMali FTM here, so I don't know anything for sure, but your daughter sounds a lot like my niece. She decided to finally use the potty for a bribe. 2 m&ms for #1 in the potty, a small handful for #2, and m&ms were reserved for being the potty treat. It got to the point where she was trying to fake going in the potty for her "emmys!"
@AlwaysAuntNeverMom I never thought about potty training in the beginning to be scared of it but I can honestly say it's the biggest parenting challenge I've had so far with my kid but you might luck up and get pne of those kids who take to it easily. My sil who has a boy who just turned one keeps trying to give me tips and doesn't understand why I haven't got my daughter potty trained yet. It's probably pretty evil of me but I can't help but find myself hoping that her son gives her at least a tiny taste of the struggle my daughter has given me, just to shut her up.
@cassloumy yea that seems to be a pretty popular method but bribery only works on my kid when she feels like it. At least I know she can't be bought I guess.
I remember my mom potty training my younger sister. She was the most stubborn kid I've ever seen. I was 5 years older than her so I remember pretty well. What worked for her was also the m&ms bribe. I can still remember her getting them in little Dixie cups when she went on the potty. We aren't there yet with my daughter, but I'm definitely not looking forward to the process!
The age a child potty trains is no reflection on the parent. But having a freaking three year old who still runs away from me when I need to change a poopy diaper definitely makes me feel like a crappy mom. Yes, potty training sucks so much.
FTM, so no potty advice, but I have a cute story about my parents potty training my sister. She had problems telling them when she needed to go, so they started setting a half hour timer on the oven, and every time it went off, she had to go try. Fast forward to a dinner party, and the oven timer goes off for the dessert while we're all sitting at the table. My sister proudly stands up in her chair and announces to everyone "That means it's time for me to poop!", jumps down off the chair, and runs off to go. Luckily, it was a pretty close friend group, not my dad's boss or something!
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The thing that pushed them at that point was being in daycare for the first time and seeing that there were other kids (not all) that were using the potty. Once they made the decision that that's what they wanted to do, it was a pretty quick transition. And from there it was a pretty quick transition to overnight potty training.
However, I realize that this approach won't work for everyone.
DD did pretty good. She was a little antsy and didn't really understand what she was seeing on the ultrasound screen. I figured she'd probably be confused with the grainy black/white image so we had looked at random ultrasound photos before the appointment which may have helped a tiny bit. Then, during my appointment following the u/s, she and DH waited up front. When I was done, I was told she had been quite the entertainer for the receptionists and other waiting patients while I was in there, haha!
I feel your pain, except my daughter is already three. I'm just following the conventional wisdom of not to push them until they're ready which sucks because I feel like she'll never be ready.
I get it. Major power struggle with us too. She goes if I tell her to but if I try to take her away from whatever she's doing in order to get her to go, it's a battle of the wills.
We keep talking about taking a weekend to work on my daughter. But then we can't go anywhere all weekend. And being stuck at home for two days with my rambunctious three year old sounds like hell.
I'm having a girl this go around and would like to have some sort of celebration (but maybe just ask for [cloth] diapers) but in all honesty my little girl will be wearing any of the clothes that we already have (that don't say something like "handsome like my daddy"), or clothes that we get from friends that we know...she'll use blankets that we already have...the nursery is grey and we aren't changing anything...i guess i'm a minimalist mom?? idk. i just think it doesn't matter the color of the blanket your kid is wrapped in, or the color of washcloths used, or sheets or w/e really needs to be specific to gender...and in fact get upset when people who are expecting girls and are over at our house say "i wish i was having a boy so i could get this cool toy (a soccer goal/basket ball hoop combo)...um you're little girl can play with that toy...and ours will as well!
i guess i just have issues with gender roles/bias/stereo types...
sorry--end vent.
@erinmarie86 that sounds a little overboard to me too, but I'm also more of a minimalist. I hate clutter and we have so much stuff as it is. We also have 2 boys and are expecting a little girl this time around, but I don't plan on having a shower. We have all the kiddo gear we need (car seats, stroller, highchair, pnp, etc.), and we plan on going through all our boy clothes to see what can be reused. Really all we are going to need is clothing, and I know we will get a fair amount as gifts. People love babies, so even when you don't have a shower so many people give clothes, even people you would never expect something from. We are also leaving our nursery as is because it's very neutral.
Try not to let it irritate you too much, but don't buy her a $20 pink pillow
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@SaraJuul trying to not let it get to me too much and even just typing it out sorta is helping me just let go...i think i'll buy her a cute outfit and gift card since i still don't understand what she could possibly need.
@kosmo86 teal would be cute regardless of gender! i thought of that color as well and opted for grey...i thought i would do teal accents but that never happened...again i just can't see spending money on "worthless" things like decorations :-/
DH is starting a new job (which we're finding comes with a bit of a nightmarish insurance-switching situation) and will also require him to do a week of training in CA in two weeks, we're selling a house (and scheduling inspections/repairs/appraisals with less than cooperative tenants) and getting ready for baby. Plus, my sister is pregnant and due in early May. She will be delivering in a hospital about 2.25 hours from my house and wants me there for the birth (which is awesome) but means I need to be ready to leave at the drop of a hat at any given moment...with a toddler... AND work has been insane lately (20% staff reduction but of course the workload only increases). Needless to say, I'm all of a sudden insanely overwhelmed. Just trying to breathe and take it one day at a time...but whoa!
And in a few months I'll be complaining about how uncomfortable baby kicks are.