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{{{Thankful Thursday}}}

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  • Aera11Aera11 member
    I am thankful for the thunderstorm happening right this minute.  

    For days like today, when my motivation was negative and I had the luxury to carpe diem that feeling.  Being self-employed has many perks and I am forever grateful for those.  DH is in a semi-similar work situation, where he was a lot of flexibility and so we met for an impromptu lunch today.  

    Vacations.  We had been holding off because we didn't want to make big travel plans for the future if I were pregnant, etc...so since that isn't an issue, I feel like maybe if we book a trip to Europe then I'll get KU and we'll have to cancel... One can hope :) 
  • @KarenBeth714 I do Orange Theory Fitness- they are nationwide and there are gyms all over the U.S. It consists of circuit training on the rowing machine, treadmill and various floor exercises with a TRX, and weights. 
     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
  • I need to spend a couple of minutes being grateful today because I am feeling pretty frustrated. So, in an effort to pull myself out of the pits:

    I am grateful for air conditioning.
    I am grateful for the fact that I live in the low country, am surrounded by beautiful salt marshes and am minutes from the ocean.
    I am grateful for my fur babies. Dock, the smallest dog is such a cuddler and his nuzzles can go along way in improving my mood.
    I am grateful that I started and am enjoying a summer book that I got for free through Amazon Prime.
    I am grateful for Amazon Prime.
    I am grateful for enchiladas.
    I am grateful for avocados.
    I am grateful for pineapple.
    I am grateful for smoothies.
    I am grateful for everything bagels. With cream cheese.
    I am grateful for so much more food (like skittles and potato chips and banana bread), that I could go on and on.... but, I'll stop. 
    I am grateful for you ladies and this outlet, which has saved me from feeling so very alone more than once. xoxo

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • @fivetimesnoluck I am always grateful for amazon prime! Such a magical service.

    Today I am thankful for:
    My family
    My Mom's iced tea that she made a big batch of for me today.
    Fresh corn on the cob.
    Local produce especially tomatoes and cucumbers.
    Flattering workout clothes.
    Science for helping me make a human.

  • @fivetimesnoluck and @BornReady - I love Amazon Prime and am always really confused when people don't understand the point. I buy so many things on Amazon.
    Today I am thankful for many things:
    My DH
    My mom and dad
    My fur babies - Meli and Daisy
    My BFF
    My SD
    My promotion! Just got the call today. So excited and nervous.
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • Aera11Aera11 member
    @fivetimesnoluck I'm loving your list :)

    @BornReady OMG, corn...that is my favorite summer veg hands down!

    Today I am thankful for a lunch date with my husband.  

    Heading up north tomorrow for the weekend.

    The freedom that we have.  I've been watching the DNC all week and regardless of anyone's political stance, it is a great reminder of what country we live in and we have so much to be thankful for.  I need to remind myself of that more often..
  • Uh-oh I'm not an Amazon-er...eeek, sorry ladies. I guess maybe I have to give it a shot for Christmas time. 

    Today I'm thankful for:
    -DH; the man who used to go to church just to please me and is now texting me pick-me-up bible verses
    -Sales at Michaels craft store
    -Our Roku that has all the seasons of Friends  :smile:
    -The knowledgeable ladies in this community who I should go see instead of my OB
    -My fur baby who is curled up on my lap right now bc we're having a thunderstorm 



    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • Happy Thursday!

    Today, I am thankful for...
    -Hot tea in the morning.
    -The movie Field of Dreams, I'm listening to it in the background while cleaning up this morning and it just makes me happy.
    -Morning dog walks in the sun.
    -All of the good things in my life, I sometimes forget about during this lovely process.
  • Happy Thursday!

    today I am thankful for:

    •a better attitude -- the last few days were kind of rough and I woke up today feeling better and more like myself.
    •brunch dates with friends -- I'm off to meet a friend who's in from out of town and her new baby.
    •snoozing bunnies -- I'm getting ready and they're both sound asleep on the floor, one snoring 
    •vacations -- I've finally decided I can't wait to plan trips, we just need to book them and if I end up pregnant, no big deal 
  • Happy Thursday!

    I love this board by the way!

    Today I am thankful for:

    *My DH- loves to make me laugh. I am thankful for his sense of humor

    *My sister

    *Uplifting Christian music

    *Crockpots-I plan to cook a yummy roast today

    *Time to scrapbook today...I am working on pictures of my husband and me. So therapeutic and relaxing!

    *19 days until our vacation to Disney!! 
    Me: 34     DH:33
    Married: March 2008
    TTC: Jan 2016
    BFP: 6/9/2016.   MC: 6/20/2016
    TTAL: Aug 2016
  • I am grateful for my DH for a bazillion different reasons.

    I am grateful for all of you.

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • Today I'm feeling more thankful than the last couple weeks. I'm thankful for...

    *Christian infertility blogs that help put this frustrating journey in perspective. One girl wrote about how maybe this journey is educating you so you can help others. I'm very outspoken about our miscarriage and IF struggles so I'd like to think maybe I can help other women who silently sturggle 

    *My awesome DH who bought me Patriots vs Seahawks tickets after my crappy two week stretch!! Can't think of many better things than watching Tom Brady live...he's so yummy  :*

    *Sisters that travel 4 hours to come visit for a few days!

    *My former assistant coach who is coming to have dinner with me tonight
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • I am thankful for:

    My DH - I am fortunate to have him.
    My SD - while it is difficult at times, I am lucky that she likes me and doesn't try to cause problems between her dad and me.
    My mom - she is very supportive and always there for me.
    This community - for the information and the support so generously given.

    Happy Thursday!
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • today I am thankful for my best friend of 20+ years. we don't see eachother very often anymore but we have having dinner tonight and it'll be so nice to relax and catch up.
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • Today I'm thankful that my best friend came out of a bad accident on Saturday mostly unharmed. And that we got to meet our favorite author at a book signing yesterday!

    I'm also thankful for distractions during my TWW. And that I still feel hopeful for a good outcome while TTCAL.
    **Formerly @aliciabhen**
    Me: 26 DH: 24
    Married: November 2015  <3
    TTC#1: January 2016
    BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
    Computer Hope
  • **lurking**

    Happy FET day, @BornReady! I'm so incredibly excited for you!! I hope the TWW is kind to you and you get to join us soon!
  • Happy FET day @BornReady! Sending good vibes your way!
  • Excited for you, @BornReady!! All my things are crossed.

    Today I am grateful that my husband speaks construction. Our kitchen renovation (due to water damage) is really intimidating to me, but thankfully because he used to work in carpentry, he can manage this project and also can do some of the work himself which will save us some money!

    I am also grateful for yoga. I went last night after not going for almost three weeks and when I was done, I felt simultaneously lighter and stronger.

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • today I am thankful for my DH. He knew how upset I was yesterday with my super early AF and went out of his way to make me smile last night and gave me extra love. He also made me homemade mac and cheese which always helps everything. He's been my rock and I am so lucky to call him mine.
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • Good luck with your transfer @BornReady!

    Today I'm thankful for:

    1)Ovulating on day 17 (even if it did mean we missed our FW) bc just maybe that will mean that I'm starting to get back to normal. And we'll have an extra cycle in 2016.

    2)Supportive friends who pray for us and send us supplements that worked for them 

    3)Christmas movies and craft fairs

    4)Lunch dates with my former players 

    5)DH, always DH
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • Good luck today @BornReady!!  Sending good vibes for a successful FET!!

  • **lurking**

    Best of luck today, @BornReady!! :smile: My fingers are crossed for you!
  • @brooklyngirl18 What a good hubby with the homemade mac and cheese! My mom's mom made the best homemade mac and cheese and it is my ultimate comfort food to this day. Such good memories. My grandmother always paired it with peas and her meatloaf, which seems like an odd combination, but is still a family staple meal at my parent's house, a homage to nanny!
  • Yay! What a great post! Today I'm thankful for:

    * a great RE who came up with a great plan

    *my best friend from college is coming this weekend and we are having a big sleepover with 10 ladies! It's gonna be a blast!!!

    *tomorrow is Friday and will end this long work week!

    *my husband for being his normal awesome self! He was so happy to see me feeling positive and upbeat about our new plan!
    Jennifer
    Charlotte, NC
  • I've actually been so down in the TTC dumps lately I've avoided this thread and had 73 to read through. It was a good reminder of how strong all you ladies are and that I shouldn't have a pity party just because it's getting hard. 

    Im thankful to finally move forward and try again

    this week especially I am thankful for the bond I share with my older brothers. We are planning concerts together next year and even a big family vacation tondosney world now that they are both married with 6 year old step daughters. We are in our 30s and excited about bunking together and riding rides and getting a whole week of family time next year. They also know every step of our struggles and are more supportive than I ever imagined considering it's their baby sister's reproductive organs and they realize how much DH and I are havin to get it on. 

    I I am thankful for running. I took most of this year off from my first BFP to post loss depression. It's doing wonders and I am finally starting to feel like "me" again for the first time in all of 2016. 

    I am also thankful for YouTube (don't judge) so I can stream back seasons of my favorite British baking reality show. It's a fun way to spend my off day cooking 
    Me: 30     DH: 31
    Married: 11.12.11
    TTC: Nov 2015
    BFP #1: 1.22.16                 MMC: 2.29.16 ( tetrasomy 11, partial deletion 1, XXX)
    D&C: 3.2.16
    BFP #2: 4.14.16                 CP: 4.17.16
    BFP #3: 6.10.2016             CP: 6.17.2016
    RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear
    Chromosome karyotype- Normal both me and DH
    Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin
    Clomid + TI Cycle #1: pending  8.15.16
    Fur mom to 2 sled masters: an Alaskan malamute and a malamute wolf hybrid 
    half marathon running, surgery loving trauma hand and reconstructive plastic surgery PA-C
    PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006

  • @SnobunnieMel I've heard such good things about that baking show. I need to watch it. I think it's also on Netflix. That's so great that you have a close bond with your older brothers! I'm close-is to 2 of my 3 brothers, but we don't talk too much about my TTC issues.

    I went to a great conference this week which was great because sometime it takes being with people who you don't directly work with to hold up a mirror to your face to show you the great work that you do. It's hard when you get mired down in the day to day and miss the big picture. I'm thankful that I have a job where I'm able to do good things and get paid well and have amazing benefits. I'm living my 23 year olds self's professional dream. 
  • @chloe97 That's awesome about the conference. I get down on myself about a lot of things, including going to grad school instead of TTC right after getting married. I forget what a luxury it is to love your job and make money doing it. So important. 

    @SnobunnieMel That's great about the family trip! I have 2 siblings and we all took a trip to Disney last December with our parents, grandkids etc. It was so much fun.
  • @BornReady I know I'm late but I hope the FET went well! I have my fingers crossed so hard for you.
    **Formerly @aliciabhen**
    Me: 26 DH: 24
    Married: November 2015  <3
    TTC#1: January 2016
    BFP: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
    Computer Hope
  • BornReadyBornReady member
    edited August 2016
    Happy Thursday!

    Today I am thankful for...

    Good co-workers. I had one co-worker bring me a bunch of eggs from her chickens yesterday and another veggies from her garden. I've worked in some places with awful co-workers and it makes such a difference to actually enjoy them.

    Rain! Or at least I hope rain. We've had a serious drought this summer and things are looking pretty thirsty. Hopefully, these big clouds deliver.

    Community... I'm going to a community clambake for a new group of people just moving into our community. It's a way to welcome them and introduce people to one another. So excited for lobster.

    edit to add:
    I mentioned the kindness rocks project in my area in another post. Today this was the one posted on their Instagram... Always a good message for me to receive!


  • - DH. He's always there for me, even if he's sometimes mystified by my worrying. His work has been stressing him out a lot lately, so I hope I've been there for him too. 

    - Yoga. I just recently went back. I got emotionally soured on it for a while- I was going to go to my first prenatal class at my studio the night I found out about my mc. But now I feel like I'm in a better place and I can view it in a healthier way. 

    - Game nights. We don't have a lot of friends in our new state, but we have a few that come over and play board games with us once a month or so and it's very relaxing. 
  • @lin0442 love my yoga as well! And last night went back for some pilates- yoga hybrid class which was a good mix of body and mind awareness, which I need right now for sure.

    - Today, as I try to focus on positives, I am thankful for my insurance. I've had access to the best doctors and most of what I will need for right now will be covered.
    -our supportive mamas. My mom and mil have been amazing lately in helping us through our next steps.
    - Our park. We live right next to a pretty big park in the city, right on the water. I walk the dogs there every day along the water. Nice to have such a big green area close by - I don't think I would survive here without it.
    Me:35, DH 37  ~ Married July 2014
    ttc July 2015 ~ bfp Nov 2015 (cp)
    bfp Dec 2015 ~ (tfmr 17wk, March 2016, genetic disease)
    ttcal May 2016
  • I am thankful for DH for sure. He has put up with my crazy for over 10 years now. We celebrate 5 years of being married next month. He has been nothing but supportive during this horrible situation and just always knows how to make me feel better. I think somehow this has brought us closer together. 


  • I'm thankful for my loving and supportive DH. I would do anything in my power to save him from the crap we've gone through in the last 8 months, but since I can't, I'm so incredibly grateful that he's the one walking beside me.

    I'm also thankful for puppy kisses and the fact that my puppy runs and launches himself into my arms when he hasn't seen me in awhile. 
  • @RiverSong15
    what kinda puppy? I have two Australian Shepherds. 
  • @RiverSong15 Aren't puppies the best?!? I've never had a pet before so this is all new to me.
    @BornReady I love that kindness rock. Sometimes we all need to hear that message.

    Today I bought a card for my husband since our first anniversary on Monday and I started to think about what I wanted to write in it. I'm amazed that when I think back over the last year how I can honestly say, despite 2 agonizing losses, that I've never been happier in my life. So today I am thankful for my marriage, not just DH, but the actual covenant that DH actively participate in everyday. There is something about knowing that we made a promise never to give up on each other that brings me a sense of peace and security. 


  • @chloe97 That's such a lovely sentiment. There really is something so great about a marriage that people work at. DH and I lived together for 5 years before we got married, and the 5 years we've been together since then have been difficult but our relationship has gotten better through all of it. I liked living together, but the commitment of marriage really enhanced our lives. Happy anniversary to you both!
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