I'm a terrible, terrible person. This is long, but I need to get it out.
We (well, mostly my wife) have acquired a "friend" who is an adult with special needs. I say "friend" in quotes because she gets far more out of the relationship than either me or my wife does. Long story short, the connection was made by a childhood friend of my wife's, who also has special needs, who attended school with this other girl, in the area we moved to a couple years ago. Childhood friend no longer lives in the area, but this other girl does (we'll call her L), and she put my wife in touch.
Anyway. I get that L doesn't have a lot of friends, lives a pretty lonely life, and I do feel for her. She's a sweet person, but she just doesn't get that we work demanding jobs that keep us very busy (she's a bagger a local supermarket), plus we have a toddler and a baby on the way. She expects us to be able to drop everything and hang out with her. She also doesn't drive, and lives about 30 minutes away (with lots of traffic) so it's my wife who does all that driving when we do see her--pick her up, bring her to our house, drive her home.
So tonight my wife is taking her out for dinner. It's mostly to avoid all the driving, otherwise she'd becoming to our house again. I told her to try to kindly drop the hint that with me being pregnant and then a new baby, we aren't going to have time to hang out. My wife (who is an infinitely better person than I am) just kind of said something along the lines of, "Yeah, I don't really want to see her right now either, I'm tired, but it's the right thing to do."
I feel bad for L...but, we are not responsible for her! We have our own lives and family to think about. And feeling this way makes me just feel like, as I said, a terrible person for wishing she'd take the subtle "we're really busy" hints and leave us alone.
I suck.
You're not a terrible person. You guys have a child already and another on the way. You have your own responsibilities too. It is nice that you guys see her and do things with her from time to time, but it doesn't need to be a daily or a weekly thing.
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I think all of the candidates have lost me at his point. Listening to them make cheap jabs at each other just makes me feel like I'm watching a bunch of 5 year olds. And it's pretty hard to get excited about that.
@laurenmdrn16 I like your idea of listing qualifications, etc. alongside salaries. But I always loved when the local paper ran the numbers for our university, because you could see how little the teachers made compared to the administrators and coaches, and we always got a greater appreciation of the administrative assistants who make a pittance and yet do all the day-to-day stuff that keeps the school running. It was also illuminating in terms of gender-based pay gaps. And that's important for us all to know, so that we can negotiate to get a fair wage: keeping wages a secret is part of how we have such a big wage gap. But that doesn't mean you need to give names and all. "Female Professor, discipline, terminal degree, makes x amount" would be superb!
@kami09 I totally get it: I'm in academia, where getting a tenure track job is like winning the lottery and most professors work contingently for poverty wages. So to hear TT folks complaining about their salaries is a little jarring. However--that's part of the evil plan!!!! The evil plan that governments/administrators/anyone who doesn't want to pay for good education is counting on to keep schools running at minimum cost. Make life so intolerable for the lowest rungs that the folks on the higher rungs won't complain. Make highly qualified and credentialed and hardworking people work for a fraction of their worth because you're constantly letting them know "it could always be worse." Devalue the whole profession, so that the brightest and best don't complain about wages but are simply thankful to have a job. Honestly, it's like being in an abusive relationship: the people pulling the strings have gaslighted us into being grateful for their abuse!
The answer is not for teachers to stop fighting for better wages, but for all teachers to unite (unionized or not, TT or contingent) to fight *together* for wages that reflect our skills and our labor.
I'm a terrible, terrible person. This is long, but I need to get it out.
We (well, mostly my wife) have acquired a "friend" who is an adult with special needs. I say "friend" in quotes because she gets far more out of the relationship than either me or my wife does. Long story short, the connection was made by a childhood friend of my wife's, who also has special needs, who attended school with this other girl, in the area we moved to a couple years ago. Childhood friend no longer lives in the area, but this other girl does (we'll call her L), and she put my wife in touch.
Anyway. I get that L doesn't have a lot of friends, lives a pretty lonely life, and I do feel for her. She's a sweet person, but she just doesn't get that we work demanding jobs that keep us very busy (she's a bagger a local supermarket), plus we have a toddler and a baby on the way. She expects us to be able to drop everything and hang out with her. She also doesn't drive, and lives about 30 minutes away (with lots of traffic) so it's my wife who does all that driving when we do see her--pick her up, bring her to our house, drive her home.
So tonight my wife is taking her out for dinner. It's mostly to avoid all the driving, otherwise she'd becoming to our house again. I told her to try to kindly drop the hint that with me being pregnant and then a new baby, we aren't going to have time to hang out. My wife (who is an infinitely better person than I am) just kind of said something along the lines of, "Yeah, I don't really want to see her right now either, I'm tired, but it's the right thing to do."
I feel bad for L...but, we are not responsible for her! We have our own lives and family to think about. And feeling this way makes me just feel like, as I said, a terrible person for wishing she'd take the subtle "we're really busy" hints and leave us alone.
I suck.
In highschool, I volunteered every summer to be a teacher's aid for special needs students in their summer school program. I loved it, it was really rewarding, and it truly gave me insight on how special needs and developmentally challenged people live and deal with a lot of awful crap. I was close in age to a lot of the students and ended up being friends with several of them on Facebook. I feel horrible, but I had to block one of them because of exactly what you just described. It got to be too much and I couldn't handle it. It's not that he wasn't a great person, it was just that I simply couldn't keep up the level of interaction he requested of me. A few times over the years I've unblocked him and assumed he wouldn't track me down again, but he always does, which makes me feel worse. After all these years, he obviously still thinks about me and reaches out. It's a tough situation, I totally relate!
There was a wreck on the interstate the other day, and a lady was trying to merge in front of me. She had a giant Trump sticker on the back of her car. I did not let her merge. #passiveaggressive
Whenever I see people with Trump stickers I always want to stare and get a good look. I don't know a single person remotely supporting Trump. Who are these mysterious creatures??
Sadly, I work with one that I know of, probably 2. I know about one because he has a Trump sticker on his car, the other I strongly suspect because she is just as hateful as he is. I can't help but thing "But we're LIBRARIANS, we're smarter than that!"
There was a wreck on the interstate the other day, and a lady was trying to merge in front of me. She had a giant Trump sticker on the back of her car. I did not let her merge. #passiveaggressive
Whenever I see people with Trump stickers I always want to stare and get a good look. I don't know a single person remotely supporting Trump. Who are these mysterious creatures??
Sadly, I work with one that I know of, probably 2. I know about one because he has a Trump sticker on his car, the other I strongly suspect because she is just as hateful as he is. I can't help but thing "But we're LIBRARIANS, we're smarter than that!"
My office is basically all Trump supporters. Technically they prefer Cruz, but they are definitely willing to back Trump if it comes to that. They have very aggressive and angry political conversations EVERY DAY and I just sit here being a closeted liberal. Which makes me feel like a failure for not standing up for my beliefs, but just not worth arguing my point with people who will only hate me for it and treat me poorly. Best part? I'm related to most of these people.
Well, I guess my UO today, based on everything on here, is that I don't think Hilary Clinton is "evil" or a touch above "a racist, sexist pig" - in fact I think she is the most competent candidate for commander-in-chief, with the best record and the most concrete step forward for this country.
Also, apparently an UO in the wider America based on the votes on Super Tuesday, I hate that the Republican party has become three grown men making fun of each other's faces, sweat glands and penises. It's discouraging to see the predominant candidates for president on one side of the political spectrum devolve into their grade school selves and have people applaud (and laugh, and immortalize with impunity) this. I get that people are super critical of "political correctness" or whatever these days ... but is this how you want politicians, or really, any adults, to act? Particularly when those adults could be determining policy at a federal level and are tasked with leading a country that right now is in a war?
My favorite candidate is actually Kasich--someone else described him as "the only adult in the room" on the Republican side. He's the only one running a positive campaign, talking about what he will do, as opposed to making fun of his opposition.
That said, he probably won't get the nomination, so I'll be voting for whoever gets the Democratic nod. Probably Hillary. I'm not her biggest fan, but I do think she's incredibly qualified and would do a good job running the country.
Ok, I try not to get political on here, but I will today.
This may not be an UO on TB, but it definitely is where I live. I had to stand in line for 2 hours to vote on Tuesday. I couldn't help but be annoyed that I was probably surrounded by Trump supporters. And when I checked how the Republican part of the primary voted in my state the next day, sure enough, every. single. county in my state went to that gasbag.
Ugh!
I read that Google searches for "how to move to Canada" spiked after the results of Super Tuesday. Come on up north, ladies! It's cold, but it's pretty and we are super friendly!
We are super friendly!! The weather hasn't been too bad this year and you're all welcome!! I used to live in NJ before moving up here and now I'm thinking it was the best decision my parents ever made!
I actually don't mind Trump. Cruz is creepy as hell, Rubio looks like a baby, Carson (does anyone even care about him anymore?) is an idiot, and Hilary is an evil, evil person. I'd be happy with either Trump or Sanders.
What about Kasich? He seems competent. I disagree with a lot of his policies, but he is the least terrifying of all the Republican candidates to me. Mostly because he does not seem to want to institute a fascist regime (ala Trump) or a theocracy, as Rubio, Cruz, and Carson do.
I also love Hillary!! I'm not a stan, and I love Bernie too so I'm still undecided about who'll get my vote (late primary states ftw!), but I would be happy with either (or both!!!!!) of them. I'm hoping for a Clinton/Sanders or Sanders/Clinton ticket:)
Hillary's done some objectionable things in her career, but what I love most about her is that she really learns from the people who complain to her about her policy positions. She approaches every issue with an open mind and the reason she's changed her views over the years is not because of political expediency or bribery but because (as everyone who has worked with her has attested) she has engaged with people who have educated her and changed her mind. And her "flip-flops" have been the country's "flip-flops": for example on gay rights you might say that she coldly, calculatingly shifted her position on same-sex marriage to get votes, but the better answer is that the whole country made that same shift, so why should she be any different? Also, she is very active in her church (she's a Methodist) and her church has also done a 180 on that issue. If you interrogate her as to what she really believes on any issue, she always has good answers, thoughtful and multifaceted answers, to share. She's also learned from the #BLM folks and her feminism is now intersectional. What's not to like?
I really just don't get the Hillary hatred, tbh.
And for the folks who want to point to her "hawkishness" as Secretary of State, the real person to compare her to is John Kerry. Because blaming her for all the bad stuff that went down during her tenure assumes that someone else in that position could have done a better job, and that does not seem to be the case: his policies (the Obama Administration's policies) are the same. And much of that policy has been necessarily reactionary because the previous administration had caused so many issues with its neoconservative and xenophobic warmongering.
When I was younger I thought it would be awesome to be famous. Now I think it sounds miserable.
My husband always makes fun of Sia for never showing her face when she's on tv. I think it's genius. Sure, people think she's weird but what does she care? She has all of the perks of being famous ($$$) and none of the downfalls (lack of privacy, because no one knows what she looks like!)
Someone asked Sia why she covers her face and her response was "I went to target yesterday...no one noticed".
Well, I guess my UO today, based on everything on here, is that I don't think Hilary Clinton is "evil" or a touch above "a racist, sexist pig" - in fact I think she is the most competent candidate for commander-in-chief, with the best record and the most concrete step forward for this country.
Also, apparently an UO in the wider America based on the votes on Super Tuesday, I hate that the Republican party has become three grown men making fun of each other's faces, sweat glands and penises. It's discouraging to see the predominant candidates for president on one side of the political spectrum devolve into their grade school selves and have people applaud (and laugh, and immortalize with impunity) this. I get that people are super critical of "political correctness" or whatever these days ... but is this how you want politicians, or really, any adults, to act? Particularly when those adults could be determining policy at a federal level and are tasked with leading a country that right now is in a war?
My favorite candidate is actually Kasich--someone else described him as "the only adult in the room" on the Republican side. He's the only one running a positive campaign, talking about what he will do, as opposed to making fun of his opposition.
That said, he probably won't get the nomination, so I'll be voting for whoever gets the Democratic nod. Probably Hillary. I'm not her biggest fan, but I do think she's incredibly qualified and would do a good job running the country.
I was for Kasich until he patted himself on the back for women leaving their kitchens to campaign for him. That just rubbed me the wrong way...
I'm a terrible, terrible person. This is long, but I need to get it out.
We (well, mostly my wife) have acquired a "friend" who is an adult with special needs. I say "friend" in quotes because she gets far more out of the relationship than either me or my wife does. Long story short, the connection was made by a childhood friend of my wife's, who also has special needs, who attended school with this other girl, in the area we moved to a couple years ago. Childhood friend no longer lives in the area, but this other girl does (we'll call her L), and she put my wife in touch.
Anyway. I get that L doesn't have a lot of friends, lives a pretty lonely life, and I do feel for her. She's a sweet person, but she just doesn't get that we work demanding jobs that keep us very busy (she's a bagger a local supermarket), plus we have a toddler and a baby on the way. She expects us to be able to drop everything and hang out with her. She also doesn't drive, and lives about 30 minutes away (with lots of traffic) so it's my wife who does all that driving when we do see her--pick her up, bring her to our house, drive her home.
So tonight my wife is taking her out for dinner. It's mostly to avoid all the driving, otherwise she'd becoming to our house again. I told her to try to kindly drop the hint that with me being pregnant and then a new baby, we aren't going to have time to hang out. My wife (who is an infinitely better person than I am) just kind of said something along the lines of, "Yeah, I don't really want to see her right now either, I'm tired, but it's the right thing to do."
I feel bad for L...but, we are not responsible for her! We have our own lives and family to think about. And feeling this way makes me just feel like, as I said, a terrible person for wishing she'd take the subtle "we're really busy" hints and leave us alone.
I suck.
You just described a very similar situation with our neighbor. She is so sweet and loves my son to death, but she always comes over right when I am lying down or trying to get Renzo ready to go out or making dinner. And I feel bad turning her away because she really does have so much fun and my son does too, but sometimes I am just too exhausted to entertain her. I felt bad because one day she came by and said that "her staff" accidentally locked her out of the house. It was super cold and blustery so I let her stay with us for about 2 hours, trying to call someone, but she couldn't remember the phone number. Finally, when MH came home, he went over and knocked on their door and no one answered. Like 30 min later, a car comes tear-assing up the street and pulls into her driveway. MH met the woman getting out of the car who explained that she was our neighbor's "night nurse" and got caught in traffic. I walked our neighbor over and asked if we could have a list of phone numbers to call in case this happens again and the woman bristled and refused. I suggested she make up a card that our neighbor can keep in her pocket (mostly because I know she likes to take walks all around town and might get lost one of these days), and the woman just brushed me off again. I actually called the A.R.C. in our area (I used to work for them as an in-home PCA) and explained my concerns. I got so involved in the case, I was basically her social worker. I realized that as much as I wanted to help, I had to step back. There is only so much you can take on as a good neighbor or friend. At some point you really have to prioritize and your family has to come first.
Not knowing your friend, I will say that my neighbor does really well when I am more direct and make concrete plans with her. If she stops by and we are busy, I say "Oh, sorry, we are going out right now. But if the weather is nice, we are planning to take a walk this afternoon at 3pm if you want to join us". This way, it is more on my terms and what works for my family, but she still feels included. I just can't drop everything for her anymore and the more direct I am, the better. And @emma+karen you and your wife are wonderful, caring people! Don't ever question that. The fact that you feel guilty shows that you have a bigger heart than most people.
There was a wreck on the interstate the other day, and a lady was trying to merge in front of me. She had a giant Trump sticker on the back of her car. I did not let her merge. #passiveaggressive
I guess my second UO is I don't get why people do stuff like this based on people's political opinions. I think we're very fortunate to live in a society that allows us to have differing opinions and elect our leaders, and those differences should be celebrated as one of the things that make our country great. Being free to have your own thoughts and opinions is a wonderful thing.
Well to be honest, I did feel a little silly doing that. And I agree with you that it's wonderful that we live in a place where we can voice differing opinions. But Trump doing a lot more than voicing a differing opinion. He has made blatant bigoted and racist remarks.
Well don't feel too silly, political bumper stickers in general are dumb It's not like anyone is going to change who they are voting for based off of a bumper sticker!
As far as the racist stuff.....I dunno. I minored in Middle Eastern studies, have studied Middle Eastern dance for 12 years, and have known many Muslims/Middle Easterners who were intelligent, wonderful people. I haven't asked any of them directly, but I can't see them getting that upset over things Trump said. I think most just want to see *something* done about ISIL and the overall corruption/turmoil in the Middle East, and sadly the people in these countries can't really do anything about it. Do we have any Muslims on the forum who can chime in?
What I find far more offensive is when people claim that videos of Trump are causing more people to join terror groups. To me, that insinuates that Muslims are stupid and will fall for any ol' propaganda. The ones I've known are intelligent and compassionate enough to not want to kill people over a video of some old guy halfway across the world.
There was a wreck on the interstate the other day, and a lady was trying to merge in front of me. She had a giant Trump sticker on the back of her car. I did not let her merge. #passiveaggressive
I guess my second UO is I don't get why people do stuff like this based on people's political opinions. I think we're very fortunate to live in a society that allows us to have differing opinions and elect our leaders, and those differences should be celebrated as one of the things that make our country great. Being free to have your own thoughts and opinions is a wonderful thing.
I think there's a big... HUGE difference between sharing differing opinions and spewing hate speech. IMO Trump and his supporters have crossed that line. What makes our country great is it's diversity and the celebration of it. Diversity of race, religion, sexual orientation, and opinion. Trump has aligned himself with haters of or out right bashed all of these groups. IMO opinions like his shouldn't be given a microphone to spread hate and bigotry. His followers need to be called to the carpet and held accountable for the evil and pain they are supporting and spreading across the country. I take personal offense when I see or hear someone supporting Trump because his proposed policies and ideas are direct attacks to who I am and those I love.
I actually don't mind Trump. Cruz is creepy as hell, Rubio looks like a baby, Carson (does anyone even care about him anymore?) is an idiot, and Hilary is an evil, evil person. I'd be happy with either Trump or Sanders.
What about Kasich? He seems competent. I disagree with a lot of his policies, but he is the least terrifying of all the Republican candidates to me. Mostly because he does not seem to want to institute a fascist regime (ala Trump) or a theocracy, as Rubio, Cruz, and Carson do.
I don't know too much about Kasich (and I should, since MH is from Ohio and likes him!) but I think this helps show that it's not usually the person with the best policies, most experience, or most intelligence who wins; it's who has the looks, personality, and charm to win over the masses. I know people who said they voted for Obama because they could see themselves smoking a joint with him, or Bush because he's the kind of guy you could hang out and play football with, or Clinton (Bill, not Hilary) because he's sexy. I remember learning in history class that a huge part of why JFK won was color TV had just been invented and he looked incredible on it, especially compared to Nixon. And I remember reading about a study that analyzed the facial and body traits of presidential candidates, found what they had in common, and could reliably predict who would win based on physical appearance alone.
UO #1 - I voted for Hilary in the primaries and I plan to vote for her again in the general election. I think she is smart, will be an effective diplomat, is capable of handling the demands of the office of president, and will effectively build on the policies of the Obama administration.
UO #2 - I HATE maternity clothes. Here is my manifesto: A. Selection - If you want to try on clothes and buy them immediately, you have few options. Shopping online increases the selection, but you have to wait for them to get shipped to you, and then most of the time (for me anyway) they don't fit or I don't like them enough to keep them. Also, I'm short so that complicates matters further. B. So many maternity items DON'T FIT YOU FOR THE ENTIRE PREGNANCY - Last time I outgrew several items when my pregnancy was far from over. Yesterday, my pants were so tight that they were giving me cramps. C. Can't be worn after pregnancy/post partum period - Ok, I've heard a lot of ladies say they love to wear their maternity clothes when they're not pregnant. But I feel like they make me look pregnant, which when not pregnant, is not how I want to look.
@TheThornBird Not a Muslim, but I'm a Jew who studies Religion for a living:)
As a Jew I was very offended by Trump's pronouncements about "my people": he makes Jew jokes all the time and seems to think we're all wiley negotiators, and penny-pinchers interested only in our own finances. It's pretty sickening, and his level of cultural awareness is appallingly poor. But his statements about Muslims are far worse, and are echoed more vocally by his supporters. I can only imagine that the glimpse of alienation I get when they are talking about Jews pales in comparison to the alienation a Muslim American (or a Black American) would feel when not only being discussed in such callous terms but also physically assaulted at Trump rallies, only to go home to presumably safe spaces and be similarly targeted there. The number of hate crimes against Muslims in my midwestern town has skyrocketed in the last six months: as in, in the previous decade there were two incidents, all told (a murder and an arson). In the last six months alone there have been eight (assaults, arsons, property destruction), and those are only the ones that have been reported. I'm not saying that all these hate crimes were perpetrated by Trump supporters, I am saying that the climate of fear is not one where when Trump says something hateful about Muslims it can bounce off their skins without impact. And the treatment of Muslims at Trump rallies only underscores that.
As someone who studies Religion for a living and has spent more time than I care to admit analyzing ISIS's recruiting documents: The rallying cry of ISIS is--"if you want to know who the real Muslims are, look at where the Western guns are pointing." Every time an American political figure says something negative about Muslims in general, something that might alienate a moderate Muslim, it ends up in their recruiting materials (I don't recommend reading them, but The Clarion Project has issues of ISIS's English-language recruiting magazine, Dabiq, available in pdf online). And I daresay if it wasn't working, they'd stop doing it. This is one arm of how they spread their ideology among disaffected Western youth (and not just Muslims--they target people with specific psychological profiles to convert to Islam and then to join them). ISIS is an apocalyptic group whose wet dream is to have western ground troops knock on their door (their materials all list this as one of the prophecies their leaders have gleaned from the Quran and Hadith). That Donald Trump is unaware of this fact means that not only has he no clue how to defeat ISIS, he also hasn't even bothered to do the barest bit of homework on them. He assumes they're Al Qaeda on steroids, and that is just not the case.
I actually don't mind Trump. Cruz is creepy as hell, Rubio looks like a baby, Carson (does anyone even care about him anymore?) is an idiot, and Hilary is an evil, evil person. I'd be happy with either Trump or Sanders.
What about Kasich? He seems competent. I disagree with a lot of his policies, but he is the least terrifying of all the Republican candidates to me. Mostly because he does not seem to want to institute a fascist regime (ala Trump) or a theocracy, as Rubio, Cruz, and Carson do.
I also love Hillary!! I'm not a stan, and I love Bernie too so I'm still undecided about who'll get my vote (late primary states ftw!), but I would be happy with either (or both!!!!!) of them. I'm hoping for a Clinton/Sanders or Sanders/Clinton ticket:)
Hillary's done some objectionable things in her career, but what I love most about her is that she really learns from the people who complain to her about her policy positions. She approaches every issue with an open mind and the reason she's changed her views over the years is not because of political expediency or bribery but because (as everyone who has worked with her has attested) she has engaged with people who have educated her and changed her mind. And her "flip-flops" have been the country's "flip-flops": for example on gay rights you might say that she coldly, calculatingly shifted her position on same-sex marriage to get votes, but the better answer is that the whole country made that same shift, so why should she be any different? Also, she is very active in her church (she's a Methodist) and her church has also done a 180 on that issue. If you interrogate her as to what she really believes on any issue, she always has good answers, thoughtful and multifaceted answers, to share. She's also learned from the #BLM folks and her feminism is now intersectional. What's not to like?
I really just don't get the Hillary hatred, tbh.
And for the folks who want to point to her "hawkishness" as Secretary of State, the real person to compare her to is John Kerry. Because blaming her for all the bad stuff that went down during her tenure assumes that someone else in that position could have done a better job, and that does not seem to be the case: his policies (the Obama Administration's policies) are the same. And much of that policy has been necessarily reactionary because the previous administration had caused so many issues with its neoconservative and xenophobic warmongering.
Agreed. There was a very interesting article I saw in Cosmo actually that essentially compared the criticism Hilary receives for similar decisions/things she's said to Sanders, Obama and other male politicians and the findings were essentially "Whoa - none of this has come up for the men! How is that possible?" and it was written by an independent with Republican leanings, which I thought was very interesting. Will try to find and post.
Well, I guess my UO today, based on everything on here, is that I don't think Hilary Clinton is "evil" or a touch above "a racist, sexist pig" - in fact I think she is the most competent candidate for commander-in-chief, with the best record and the most concrete step forward for this country.
Also, apparently an UO in the wider America based on the votes on Super Tuesday, I hate that the Republican party has become three grown men making fun of each other's faces, sweat glands and penises. It's discouraging to see the predominant candidates for president on one side of the political spectrum devolve into their grade school selves and have people applaud (and laugh, and immortalize with impunity) this. I get that people are super critical of "political correctness" or whatever these days ... but is this how you want politicians, or really, any adults, to act? Particularly when those adults could be determining policy at a federal level and are tasked with leading a country that right now is in a war?
My favorite candidate is actually Kasich--someone else described him as "the only adult in the room" on the Republican side. He's the only one running a positive campaign, talking about what he will do, as opposed to making fun of his opposition.
That said, he probably won't get the nomination, so I'll be voting for whoever gets the Democratic nod. Probably Hillary. I'm not her biggest fan, but I do think she's incredibly qualified and would do a good job running the country.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
Yep. There are only specific times during the day when I have any hope of writing something long whether at work or home, which is why for UOs, I tend to wait for someone to say something I agree with, then lovetit it. I assume that some people may be very swift at typing though.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
The dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets taste WAY better than the regular shaped chicken nuggets. I know this because science.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
The dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets taste WAY better than the regular shaped chicken nuggets. I know this because science.
Of course!! There used to be these organic star nuggets as well. Always a hit. Regular ones? Not so much. Kids.
@dshannahI agree. I guess what makes me most upset is when I see teachers NOT fighting together and instead being out for #1. Also, I should clarify- my husband can most definitely can complain and want to fight for better wages as long as, A. No one will be losing their job because of it and B. it is NOT in front of a sub lol
@TXmamatobe I can get in some posts during naptime, but other than that--NOPE! I'm actually working on our summer day camp brochure and he literally will allow me to type 2 sentences before I need to go somewhere with him. It's exhausting!
Well, I guess my UO today, based on everything on here, is that I don't think Hilary Clinton is "evil" or a touch above "a racist, sexist pig" - in fact I think she is the most competent candidate for commander-in-chief, with the best record and the most concrete step forward for this country.
Also, apparently an UO in the wider America based on the votes on Super Tuesday, I hate that the Republican party has become three grown men making fun of each other's faces, sweat glands and penises. It's discouraging to see the predominant candidates for president on one side of the political spectrum devolve into their grade school selves and have people applaud (and laugh, and immortalize with impunity) this. I get that people are super critical of "political correctness" or whatever these days ... but is this how you want politicians, or really, any adults, to act? Particularly when those adults could be determining policy at a federal level and are tasked with leading a country that right now is in a war?
My favorite candidate is actually Kasich--someone else described him as "the only adult in the room" on the Republican side. He's the only one running a positive campaign, talking about what he will do, as opposed to making fun of his opposition.
That said, he probably won't get the nomination, so I'll be voting for whoever gets the Democratic nod. Probably Hillary. I'm not her biggest fan, but I do think she's incredibly qualified and would do a good job running the country.
I was for Kasich until he patted himself on the back for women leaving their kitchens to campaign for him. That just rubbed me the wrong way...
I also took offense to that comment, until I learned that his actual quote was a little different. Yes, he did say that women came out of the kitchens to support him, but he wasn't talking about today, he was talking about the people who supported him get to the Senate, which was back in the 60's, I think? So, ehhh...that was a different time and women probably did come out of their kitchens to vote back in the 60's. I don't say this to turn you into a Kasich supporter, but just as an FYI.
There was a wreck on the interstate the other day, and a lady was trying to merge in front of me. She had a giant Trump sticker on the back of her car. I did not let her merge. #passiveaggressive
I guess my second UO is I don't get why people do stuff like this based on people's political opinions. I think we're very fortunate to live in a society that allows us to have differing opinions and elect our leaders, and those differences should be celebrated as one of the things that make our country great. Being free to have your own thoughts and opinions is a wonderful thing.
Well to be honest, I did feel a little silly doing that. And I agree with you that it's wonderful that we live in a place where we can voice differing opinions. But Trump doing a lot more than voicing a differing opinion. He has made blatant bigoted and racist remarks.
Well don't feel too silly, political bumper stickers in general are dumb It's not like anyone is going to change who they are voting for based off of a bumper sticker!
As far as the racist stuff.....I dunno. I minored in Middle Eastern studies, have studied Middle Eastern dance for 12 years, and have known many Muslims/Middle Easterners who were intelligent, wonderful people. I haven't asked any of them directly, but I can't see them getting that upset over things Trump said. I think most just want to see *something* done about ISIL and the overall corruption/turmoil in the Middle East, and sadly the people in these countries can't really do anything about it. Do we have any Muslims on the forum who can chime in?
What I find far more offensive is when people claim that videos of Trump are causing more people to join terror groups. To me, that insinuates that Muslims are stupid and will fall for any ol' propaganda. The ones I've known are intelligent and compassionate enough to not want to kill people over a video of some old guy halfway across the world.
Really? You don't think they would be upset or offended at the notion that they should be entered in a database, or be forced to carry a card stating their religion, or hell, just flat out denied access to an entire country based on their faith? I am not a Muslim, and do not wish to speak for other people, but I can't imagine how that would not be offensive.
I'm a terrible, terrible person. This is long, but I need to get it out.
We (well, mostly my wife) have acquired a "friend" who is an adult with special needs. I say "friend" in quotes because she gets far more out of the relationship than either me or my wife does. Long story short, the connection was made by a childhood friend of my wife's, who also has special needs, who attended school with this other girl, in the area we moved to a couple years ago. Childhood friend no longer lives in the area, but this other girl does (we'll call her L), and she put my wife in touch.
Anyway. I get that L doesn't have a lot of friends, lives a pretty lonely life, and I do feel for her. She's a sweet person, but she just doesn't get that we work demanding jobs that keep us very busy (she's a bagger a local supermarket), plus we have a toddler and a baby on the way. She expects us to be able to drop everything and hang out with her. She also doesn't drive, and lives about 30 minutes away (with lots of traffic) so it's my wife who does all that driving when we do see her--pick her up, bring her to our house, drive her home.
So tonight my wife is taking her out for dinner. It's mostly to avoid all the driving, otherwise she'd becoming to our house again. I told her to try to kindly drop the hint that with me being pregnant and then a new baby, we aren't going to have time to hang out. My wife (who is an infinitely better person than I am) just kind of said something along the lines of, "Yeah, I don't really want to see her right now either, I'm tired, but it's the right thing to do."
I feel bad for L...but, we are not responsible for her! We have our own lives and family to think about. And feeling this way makes me just feel like, as I said, a terrible person for wishing she'd take the subtle "we're really busy" hints and leave us alone.
I suck.
@emma+karen Nope. I would feel the same way you do.. and I have very little patience sometimes and sorry but just the hour drive and traffic would set me over the edge if I had to do it often and not to mention if she EXPECTED me to do it at the drop of a hat. L may not fully grasp the concept but I think its important for you and your wife to explain it to her now and start preparing her for that when the time comes. When you do spend time with her I would pick her up, take her somewhere local to eat and that way its close, quick and you can head back home without making so many trips, yet you're still spending time with her when you are able.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
I have to type at my desk because if there is one moment where I look like I am not busy, I get roped into something ridiculous. TB has saved me from getting involved in sooo many extremely unnecessary projects. Thanks TB!
ETA: I also usually start typing something, get busy, go back, type more, get busy, and then end up posting like 2 hours after I started typing. Again, gotta look like I am always busy!
UO #2 - I HATE maternity clothes. Here is my manifesto: A. Selection - If you want to try on clothes and buy them immediately, you have few options. Shopping online increases the selection, but you have to wait for them to get shipped to you, and then most of the time (for me anyway) they don't fit or I don't like them enough to keep them. Also, I'm short so that complicates matters further. B. So many maternity items DON'T FIT YOU FOR THE ENTIRE PREGNANCY - Last time I outgrew several items when my pregnancy was far from over. Yesterday, my pants were so tight that they were giving me cramps. C. Can't be worn after pregnancy/post partum period - Ok, I've heard a lot of ladies say they love to wear their maternity clothes when they're not pregnant. But I feel like they make me look pregnant, which when not pregnant, is not how I want to look.
My maternity style has become Costco leggings (super stretchy, and 2 for $12!), maternity tank tops, and long flowy open-front sweaters/button-ups/whatever shirts I can just have open. I don't buy anything I won't be able to wear after baby comes, because at this point I have 3 months left, and never in my life have I bought clothes that I thought I would only wear for 3 months. I refuse to start now! I was gifted a few maternity clothes at the beginning of the second trimester, and they were great then - but agreed... now they are looking significantly less cute. Because half the time if I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror I notice that like 4 inches of my belly is exposed because all the shirts are too short and tight now, and I don't even feel that big yet!
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
I have to type at my desk because if there is one moment where I look like I am not busy, I get roped into something ridiculous. TB has saved me from getting involved in sooo many extremely unnecessary projects. Thanks TB!
ETA: I also usually start typing something, get busy, go back, type more, get busy, and then end up posting like 2 hours after I started typing. Again, gotta look like I am always busy!
That is exactly how I do it too. I start. stop. continue. stop. continue. stop. read through. submit. Sometimes after I finally submit I see that someone already said what I had been typing over the last several hours. Which leads to disappointment that I couldn't just get it done the first time.
I actually don't mind Trump. Cruz is creepy as hell, Rubio looks like a baby, Carson (does anyone even care about him anymore?) is an idiot, and Hilary is an evil, evil person. I'd be happy with either Trump or Sanders.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
My bumping comes in bursts called waiting at preschool, nap time, and after bedtime. My almost 2 year old went through a phase of wanting my phone, so now I try not to use it if he's around.
Dinosaur nuggets are the best. And dogs too, less vacuuming.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
Eh, if you have a job with an office and computer it's not that hard nor time consuming. I don't mobile bump, but typing on a keyboard is fast. I check in a couple times a day as a "break" from work and it's more interesting than wading through my email.
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
Eh, if you have a job with an office and computer it's not that hard nor time consuming. I don't mobile bump, but typing on a keyboard is fast. I check in a couple times a day as a "break" from work and it's more interesting than wading through my email.
I totally thought you said WADDLING through email!
Mine is, I don't know how people on this board have time to write such lengthy responses or posts. Don't get me wrong here, I love reading them!! I just can't imagine having that kind of time. My 2yo allows me about 3 minutes maximum of sitting still and when I was working during my first pregnancy, I wouldn't have had the time then either. The only reason I'm writing this is because DD is eating dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets and having a blast dipping them in the ketchup and watching the dog eagerly await a dropped nugget.
Eh, if you have a job with an office and computer it's not that hard nor time consuming. I don't mobile bump, but typing on a keyboard is fast. I check in a couple times a day as a "break" from work and it's more interesting than wading through my email.
Yep, that's pretty much it.
I don't read the forums on my phone, but from a computer it's super quick and easy.
As far as the political stuff goes, I'll be pushing the button for whoever gets the D nomination this year, which will most likely be Hillary. I'd be fine with Bernie too, but I've got absolutely no problem voting for Hillary.
She's not my perfect candidate, but she's an incredibly strong, smart, accomplished woman who's been battling a nonstop garbage storm of extremely sexist criticism for 30 years without going insane (which tells me she's got some phenomenal personal resilience, because I do not know many people of any gender who could withstand that barrage of public abuse without losing it) and while still being perceived as a widely electable candidate (which tells me that she's uncommonly strong on that front too, because she's been hated in the public eye long enough that every speck of dirt anybody's ever been able to find or invent has been broadcast under magnifying glasses for decades).
Yesterday I saw a graph showing that Hillary's favorables skyrocket every time she's not actively campaigning for something and crash when she is. This confirms my view that she's actually a very good politician (not necessarily a great campaigner, but a good politician) and competent at her job, but it's easy to get people riled up against her. Sounds about right.
Anyway, to me this year's election is going to be a very simple matter. Either I vote for someone that I may not 100% love but who is a generally intelligent and responsible adult who probably won't crater the economy, ruin our international standing, wreck the environment, or trash consumer protections... oooorrrr I throw a vote in for racism, sexism, and unabashed bigotry.
Yeah that's a tough call, gonna take some real hard thinking to figure that one out.
Re: UO Thursday 3/3
You're not a terrible person. You guys have a child already and another on the way. You have your own responsibilities too. It is nice that you guys see her and do things with her from time to time, but it doesn't need to be a daily or a weekly thing.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!@kami09 I totally get it: I'm in academia, where getting a tenure track job is like winning the lottery and most professors work contingently for poverty wages. So to hear TT folks complaining about their salaries is a little jarring. However--that's part of the evil plan!!!! The evil plan that governments/administrators/anyone who doesn't want to pay for good education is counting on to keep schools running at minimum cost. Make life so intolerable for the lowest rungs that the folks on the higher rungs won't complain. Make highly qualified and credentialed and hardworking people work for a fraction of their worth because you're constantly letting them know "it could always be worse." Devalue the whole profession, so that the brightest and best don't complain about wages but are simply thankful to have a job. Honestly, it's like being in an abusive relationship: the people pulling the strings have gaslighted us into being grateful for their abuse!
The answer is not for teachers to stop fighting for better wages, but for all teachers to unite (unionized or not, TT or contingent) to fight *together* for wages that reflect our skills and our labor.
My favorite candidate is actually Kasich--someone else described him as "the only adult in the room" on the Republican side. He's the only one running a positive campaign, talking about what he will do, as opposed to making fun of his opposition.
That said, he probably won't get the nomination, so I'll be voting for whoever gets the Democratic nod. Probably Hillary. I'm not her biggest fan, but I do think she's incredibly qualified and would do a good job running the country.
I also love Hillary!! I'm not a stan, and I love Bernie too so I'm still undecided about who'll get my vote (late primary states ftw!), but I would be happy with either (or both!!!!!) of them. I'm hoping for a Clinton/Sanders or Sanders/Clinton ticket:)
Hillary's done some objectionable things in her career, but what I love most about her is that she really learns from the people who complain to her about her policy positions. She approaches every issue with an open mind and the reason she's changed her views over the years is not because of political expediency or bribery but because (as everyone who has worked with her has attested) she has engaged with people who have educated her and changed her mind. And her "flip-flops" have been the country's "flip-flops": for example on gay rights you might say that she coldly, calculatingly shifted her position on same-sex marriage to get votes, but the better answer is that the whole country made that same shift, so why should she be any different? Also, she is very active in her church (she's a Methodist) and her church has also done a 180 on that issue. If you interrogate her as to what she really believes on any issue, she always has good answers, thoughtful and multifaceted answers, to share. She's also learned from the #BLM folks and her feminism is now intersectional. What's not to like?
I really just don't get the Hillary hatred, tbh.
And for the folks who want to point to her "hawkishness" as Secretary of State, the real person to compare her to is John Kerry. Because blaming her for all the bad stuff that went down during her tenure assumes that someone else in that position could have done a better job, and that does not seem to be the case: his policies (the Obama Administration's policies) are the same. And much of that policy has been necessarily reactionary because the previous administration had caused so many issues with its neoconservative and xenophobic warmongering.
Not knowing your friend, I will say that my neighbor does really well when I am more direct and make concrete plans with her. If she stops by and we are busy, I say "Oh, sorry, we are going out right now. But if the weather is nice, we are planning to take a walk this afternoon at 3pm if you want to join us". This way, it is more on my terms and what works for my family, but she still feels included. I just can't drop everything for her anymore and the more direct I am, the better. And @emma+karen you and your wife are wonderful, caring people! Don't ever question that. The fact that you feel guilty shows that you have a bigger heart than most people.
As far as the racist stuff.....I dunno. I minored in Middle Eastern studies, have studied Middle Eastern dance for 12 years, and have known many Muslims/Middle Easterners who were intelligent, wonderful people. I haven't asked any of them directly, but I can't see them getting that upset over things Trump said. I think most just want to see *something* done about ISIL and the overall corruption/turmoil in the Middle East, and sadly the people in these countries can't really do anything about it. Do we have any Muslims on the forum who can chime in?
What I find far more offensive is when people claim that videos of Trump are causing more people to join terror groups. To me, that insinuates that Muslims are stupid and will fall for any ol' propaganda. The ones I've known are intelligent and compassionate enough to not want to kill people over a video of some old guy halfway across the world.
DD: 05/14/16
UO #2 - I HATE maternity clothes. Here is my manifesto:
A. Selection - If you want to try on clothes and buy them immediately, you have few options. Shopping online increases the selection, but you have to wait for them to get shipped to you, and then most of the time (for me anyway) they don't fit or I don't like them enough to keep them. Also, I'm short so that complicates matters further.
B. So many maternity items DON'T FIT YOU FOR THE ENTIRE PREGNANCY - Last time I outgrew several items when my pregnancy was far from over. Yesterday, my pants were so tight that they were giving me cramps.
C. Can't be worn after pregnancy/post partum period - Ok, I've heard a lot of ladies say they love to wear their maternity clothes when they're not pregnant. But I feel like they make me look pregnant, which when not pregnant, is not how I want to look.
As a Jew I was very offended by Trump's pronouncements about "my people": he makes Jew jokes all the time and seems to think we're all wiley negotiators, and penny-pinchers interested only in our own finances. It's pretty sickening, and his level of cultural awareness is appallingly poor. But his statements about Muslims are far worse, and are echoed more vocally by his supporters. I can only imagine that the glimpse of alienation I get when they are talking about Jews pales in comparison to the alienation a Muslim American (or a Black American) would feel when not only being discussed in such callous terms but also physically assaulted at Trump rallies, only to go home to presumably safe spaces and be similarly targeted there. The number of hate crimes against Muslims in my midwestern town has skyrocketed in the last six months: as in, in the previous decade there were two incidents, all told (a murder and an arson). In the last six months alone there have been eight (assaults, arsons, property destruction), and those are only the ones that have been reported. I'm not saying that all these hate crimes were perpetrated by Trump supporters, I am saying that the climate of fear is not one where when Trump says something hateful about Muslims it can bounce off their skins without impact. And the treatment of Muslims at Trump rallies only underscores that.
As someone who studies Religion for a living and has spent more time than I care to admit analyzing ISIS's recruiting documents: The rallying cry of ISIS is--"if you want to know who the real Muslims are, look at where the Western guns are pointing." Every time an American political figure says something negative about Muslims in general, something that might alienate a moderate Muslim, it ends up in their recruiting materials (I don't recommend reading them, but The Clarion Project has issues of ISIS's English-language recruiting magazine, Dabiq, available in pdf online). And I daresay if it wasn't working, they'd stop doing it. This is one arm of how they spread their ideology among disaffected Western youth (and not just Muslims--they target people with specific psychological profiles to convert to Islam and then to join them). ISIS is an apocalyptic group whose wet dream is to have western ground troops knock on their door (their materials all list this as one of the prophecies their leaders have gleaned from the Quran and Hadith). That Donald Trump is unaware of this fact means that not only has he no clue how to defeat ISIS, he also hasn't even bothered to do the barest bit of homework on them. He assumes they're Al Qaeda on steroids, and that is just not the case.
I care too much about women's health to be okay with someone who sneaks this kind of legislation in.
The dinosaur shaped chicken nuggets taste WAY better than the regular shaped chicken nuggets. I know this because science.
@emma+karen Nope. I would feel the same way you do.. and I have very little patience sometimes and sorry but just the hour drive and traffic would set me over the edge if I had to do it often and not to mention if she EXPECTED me to do it at the drop of a hat. L may not fully grasp the concept but I think its important for you and your wife to explain it to her now and start preparing her for that when the time comes. When you do spend time with her I would pick her up, take her somewhere local to eat and that way its close, quick and you can head back home without making so many trips, yet you're still spending time with her when you are able.
ETA: I also usually start typing something, get busy, go back, type more, get busy, and then end up posting like 2 hours after I started typing. Again, gotta look like I am always busy!
DD: 05/14/16
Dinosaur nuggets are the best. And dogs too, less vacuuming.
DS: Born 5-17-16
I don't read the forums on my phone, but from a computer it's super quick and easy.
She's not my perfect candidate, but she's an incredibly strong, smart, accomplished woman who's been battling a nonstop garbage storm of extremely sexist criticism for 30 years without going insane (which tells me she's got some phenomenal personal resilience, because I do not know many people of any gender who could withstand that barrage of public abuse without losing it) and while still being perceived as a widely electable candidate (which tells me that she's uncommonly strong on that front too, because she's been hated in the public eye long enough that every speck of dirt anybody's ever been able to find or invent has been broadcast under magnifying glasses for decades).
Yesterday I saw a graph showing that Hillary's favorables skyrocket every time she's not actively campaigning for something and crash when she is. This confirms my view that she's actually a very good politician (not necessarily a great campaigner, but a good politician) and competent at her job, but it's easy to get people riled up against her. Sounds about right.
Anyway, to me this year's election is going to be a very simple matter. Either I vote for someone that I may not 100% love but who is a generally intelligent and responsible adult who probably won't crater the economy, ruin our international standing, wreck the environment, or trash consumer protections... oooorrrr I throw a vote in for racism, sexism, and unabashed bigotry.
Yeah that's a tough call, gonna take some real hard thinking to figure that one out.