@blondie080300 you just have to get through that ultrasound! It's the greatest feeling ever! I have never heard someone say they regretted being team green. I know seeing your husbands reaction and what you feel is something no technician, or piece of paper, or gender reveal party can ever compare to.
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We went the full extinction route when DD was 7 months because we quickly realized that Ferber/controlled crying was just making it worse. I say "full extinction", but I wouldn't have been able to let her cry for more than an hour, so maybe it was more like "half extinction". We tried checking her at intervals, but every time I would go in she would start up all over again. I finally let her cry a full half hour and she fell asleep. It was one of the hardest parenting moments thus far, but it worked, and we never looked back. I think over all it was a little under an hour of crying that first night. I agree with doing what works for your child, and I don't think CIO works for every child. I don't think I could've listened to her cry for much longer so we got lucky. I also think that CIO works best around 7-8 months when they have just gone through object permanence. Waiting later than that would've made it much harder for us I think.
@blondie080300 With my first, the tech asked us right away if we wanted to know the gender. So if you tell them no right away maybe there will be less temptation there? Also, I've seen some people have it written down and sealed, so if you change your mind you can find out. However, that would be just more temptation for me to find out.
I'm in no way trying to talk you out of being Team Green, but I found out with my first and will with this one. Finding out her gender during the ultrasound was still a special moment between DH and I, and I still had every desire to push her out to meet her. Well, if I'm being truly honest, my body's instincts kept me pushing. During the final pushes my mind was thinking, "I just want 'it' out of me." I don't think I was even identifying her as my baby in my mind at that point.
I left work early yesterday to go get some new bras at Target. The poor girls were being strangled in my bras .. I literally looked down and realized that the cups were only covering about 1/3 of each boob and sometimes the nip was hopping right out. Woooah, no. Now I've got 2 new nursing bras.. no underwire, total comfort and giving them some good shape. WOOP WOOP! Even considered breaking out the maternity leggings to work today.. but I thought those plus the new bra would lead to a level of comfort where napping under my desk would be inevitable.
@UnwritteN12- so true! I feel like I'm sleeping a lot better and I'm still just freaking exhausted. I have Wednesdays off so I'm looking forward to my day with my little guy tomorrow, but that's even more exhausting than being at work most days I might actually take a nap when he naps.. which would be the first time in his 15 months of life!
@AnnaS930 -- do you mind sharing which bras you got? I have one bra from motherhood maternity that I got on clearance, but trying to make it with one bra isn't going to work. On the other hand, I want to wait for baby to be here and for my boobs to be adjusted to what they'll be while we are nursing before i invest in really good nursing bras... So, on the lookout for reasonable options to get to to September!
AW random - just booked a weekend away at the shore in June to celebrate our five year anniversary. Grammy (my mom) will be babysitting. Only our second time away from Reese. Cannot. Wait.
@Sporty1216 I went with the Gilligan&OMalley seamless nursing bra.. they were a little under $20 apiece so I grabbed 2, both in medium (I like the wide sizing range so I think they'll fit for most of pregnancy, and if I need a bigger one when milk comes in I might also consider.. thought my boobs were only porn star massive for a day or two until my body started to regulate production).
About halfway through my pregnancy with DS, my bras were getting uncomfortable. I didn't want to spend money on decent nursing bras until my milk came in, so I went to Target and got a couple clearance bras to get me through the rest of my pregnancy. One of the bras was the most comfortable bra I've owned in a long time - and it was less than $10. I wish I could go back in time and buy all that they had in stock!
Just as DH and I were falling asleep last night, the cat jumped on the bed and started playing with something. DH turned on the light and saw that the cat had a dead mouse. We assume that that was what she was chasing around at 4 AM a couple mornings ago. Thanks kitty for taking care of the mouse problem we didn't know we had. Now let us get some sleep!
I hate to ruin Nutella for anyone, and it won't ruin it...but that stuff is pure sugar. Sugar is the first ingredient listed on the back. So... @AnnaS930 you can eat your chocolate bar and not feel too bad compared to the Nutella
@PSUBecky23 Our 5th anniversary is this year, too! I'm jealous you guys are going to get away for yours. Ours is Oct 7th, so this baby will be too little to leave over night. We will probably go out to dinner or something, but given that I'll likely be less than 6 weeks postpartum, there won't even be anniversary sex.
@AnnaS930 Thanks for sharing the bra you got! The ones I used with DD were so comfortable, but were not great with shaping. Do they seem to have some stretch to them?
@SaraJuul - I'm pretty confident that no one is eating Nutella thinking it's a health food. The caloric intake/nutrition are really not all that different from peanut butter. So I'm still good with having nutella on my english muffin instead of slapping a Snickers bar on top of there. I'm happy with my choice, but thanks
Edited to add: This reads really snappy... and when I typed it 10 minutes ago I was feeling snappy. Don't get between a pregnant me and my nutella But really.. I realize what you were saying, and I'm fully aware that my nutella win over a chocolate bar is mostly fooling myself - We'll just blame that outburst on the baby.. it really loves nutella
@camichael84- tons of stretch.. which is I think what's giving my girls some good shape today. I've been wearing pretty stuff victoria's secret bras, which, when your boob is most spilling out of it leads to some oddly shaped knockers (how many different breast names can I fit in one post?) These bras stretch a good deal to let them be as they'd like.. without the underwire there isn't TONS of support, but I'm at the high end of a 34/36C at this point and feel fully supported
We went the full extinction route when DD was 7 months because we quickly realized that Ferber/controlled crying was just making it worse. I say "full extinction", but I wouldn't have been able to let her cry for more than an hour, so maybe it was more like "half extinction". We tried checking her at intervals, but every time I would go in she would start up all over again. I finally let her cry a full half hour and she fell asleep. It was one of the hardest parenting moments thus far, but it worked, and we never looked back. I think over all it was a little under an hour of crying that first night. I agree with doing what works for your child, and I don't think CIO works for every child. I don't think I could've listened to her cry for much longer so we got lucky. I also think that CIO works best around 7-8 months when they have just gone through object permanence. Waiting later than that would've made it much harder for us I think.
I agree with this so much. For my kids it seemed cruel to come in and check on them and then walk away. Like, get their hopes up and then crush them when I didn't pick them up. We did CIO with all my kids. It was hardest with my oldest, probably because she was older and we didn't have anywhere to go. There was just a curtain separating her from us and she could still hear us talking. It works better if they can't hear you. Now I use a box fan right outside their door, it blocks nearly all the noise. CIO, "full extinction" has always worked for us. I love how after they get accustomed to it they snuggle into the crib. I also think it's key to put them to bed when they're sleepy. At least at the beginning. If you're trying to establish a new napping routine, don't start CIO at the same time.
@blondie080300 With my first, the tech asked us right away if we wanted to know the gender. So if you tell them no right away maybe there will be less temptation there? Also, I've seen some people have it written down and sealed, so if you change your mind you can find out. However, that would be just more temptation for me to find out.
I'm in no way trying to talk you out of being Team Green, but I found out with my first and will with this one. Finding out her gender during the ultrasound was still a special moment between DH and I, and I still had every desire to push her out to meet her. Well, if I'm being truly honest, my body's instincts kept me pushing. During the final pushes my mind was thinking, "I just want 'it' out of me." I don't think I was even identifying her as my baby in my mind at that point.
HA. "I just want it out of me." So much truth. My aunt asked me once what the motivation to push was when we already knew the gender. I've been pregnant for most of a year. I'm ready to not be pregnant. That's definitely motivation enough. And even if I wanted to keep on being pregnant, there isn't any stopping childbirth. That just isn't a thing you can do. (outside of medical intervention, of course)
Agreed with both of you @LeahKnitsand @camichael84- I think my biggest motivation (asides from the overwhelming urge to push that can't be stopped) was wondering what the little guy was going to look like. My husband is an Ashkenazi Jew - he has black curly hair (everywhere! haha) but also on his head, and chocolate brown eyes, and is about 6 feet tall with broad shoulders/husky build I am French Canadian/mix of English/Scottish/etc etc - blonde, straight hair, grey eyes, 5'4" (on a good day) and a large frame but petite build. Our baby could have literally looked like just about ANYTHING.
Emmett is tall and skinny, brown hair (was black when born), straight, and dark dark brown eyes (almost black), (and the cutest thing in the world.. but I'm a tiny bit biased). So that was fun! It was a day of "How big will he be? We could see on ultrasounds he had hair, but how much? and what color?
I have a friend that we kind of faded out during the fall but here and there send a snap or text. When I posted on Sunday our announcement I was kind of sad she didn't message more or "like it" BUT then this morning she did both . I don't know if we will ever be like we were but very nice to know she still cares.
@AnnaS930 I agree finally seeing what she looked like was motivation. After I'd been pushing a bit, the nurse called DH down to my vag to show him that he could see the top of McKenna's head. He said he saw hair. Or what he thought was hair. The nurse confirmed it was her hair, and I remember that being so exciting to me. It made me so eager to see it for myself. But I'd been dying to finally see what she looked like from the time we got a picture of her profile at the 24 week u/s. (Of course I wanted her to cook for the full 40 weeks first.)
My motivation was for the most ridiculously, intense pain I'd ever experienced to stop. Towards the end, the midwife suggested I reach down and feel her head. I refused because I didn't want to take the time to do it and got her out two pushes later.
So my normal go-to comfy pants are in the wash...my options were my skinny jeans or pull out the maternity pants. I opted for the maternity pants...but they are clearly a little big and i'm constantly pulling them up...ugh it's gonna be a long day
@PSUBecky23 My nurse wanted me to do the same thing! I refused because I was focused on getting her out. ASAP. At that point I didn't care what she looked like, I just wanted her to be out of me. And like you, it was just two pushes later and she was out.
@PSUBecky23and @LeahKnits - Same here! "Do you want to reach down and touch his head??" "No. I want to know when I can push again and shoot this thing outta me!" The next push he was out.. I'm sure some ladies enjoy reaching down and feeling a goopy, hairy little head bulging out of their vag.. I am not that kinda lady.
I just had to bribe my toddler with fruit snacks to get him to let me really get in there and brush his teeth. One step forward, two steps back. Ugh. Life with a toddler.
I am cracking up over these "reach down and touch the baby's head" posts. And thanks for the support in remaining Team Green! I definitely have a lot to consider since some of these messages do help me get a little more comfortable with the idea of finding out at the u/s actually. Lol. I will keep you posted on what I decide!
Ok my random from today is that I binge ate chocolate on my drive into work at 7:30am this morning due to a very steamy dream I had of an ex bf. I was warned that my exes would be making an appearance in my dreams but I was not prepared for the night I had in my sleep! LOL. What makes it worse is that there wasn't real closure either so the dream kind of ripped open some old wounds. I hate dreams that stay with you all day and they are hard to shake. Anyone else getting visited by the ghosts of boyfriends past? I am curious who and when the next dream will take place!
Married: 3/21/15 First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@blondie080300- Oh god yes. I am visited by past boyfriends/flames/one night stands every. single. night. A few of them have stuck with me throughout the day because the dream was really in the tone of "the one that got away" even if my awake brain knows that I ended up with the best one of all. Pregnancy dreams are really a mindf**k. I think some of mine come from cruising facebook before bed - so some of these dudes are fresh on my mind.. others I haven't seen/heard from in years and Poof! There they are! Suckers.
This week's GIRLS episode was about a past love, and the episode is just haunting me.. I can't quite put my finger on why
@AnaS930 I have to clarify or it will bother me all day (I hate being misunderstood). My Nutella comment was being said with wit behind it, not claiming to be a comedian here. My smiley didn't portray that. I would really hope no one thinks it's a health food.
If you are a Nutella lover, try it on pancakes. Either on the pancake or swirl it into the batter immediately after you've poured it on the griddle. So yummy.
@AnaS930 I have to clarify or it will bother me all day (I hate being misunderstood). My Nutella comment was being said with wit behind it, not claiming to be a comedian here. My smiley didn't portray that. I would really hope no one thinks it's a health food.
If you are a Nutella lover, try it on pancakes. Either on the pancake or swirl it into the batter immediately after you've poured it on the griddle. So yummy.
I think we're both overthinking our comments/replies. No hurt feelings here! I love it on English muffins, pancakes and bananas.
Don't let it bother you any longer, all is good in the land of Hazelnut spreads!
I did not reach down and touch DD's head when I was in labor. The idea wasn't presented to me but even if it had been, I wouldn't have. Like others, I just wanted her OUT. And we didn't know she was a "she" so I wanted to know that, and see what she looked like, and hold her, and have that intense pressure be over. So many things I wanted - touching her head never crossed my mind, haha.
That being said, I did use a mirror when I was pushing DD. My OB suggested it and at first I didn't want one - I just had no interest in seeing what was going on down there! But after another couple of pushes, she mentioned that being able to "see" how productive my pushes were might help me - not only push more effectively but also in terms of motivation. At that point, I just wanted her out (and was terrified of being labeled a "bad pusher" and having my epidural tapered off) so I went for it - and was glad I did, it really helped a lot!
I did not reach down and touch DD's head when I was in labor. The idea wasn't presented to me but even if it had been, I wouldn't have. Like others, I just wanted her OUT. And we didn't know she was a "she" so I wanted to know that, and see what she looked like, and hold her, and have that intense pressure be over. So many things I wanted - touching her head never crossed my mind, haha.
That being said, I did use a mirror when I was pushing DD. My OB suggested it and at first I didn't want one - I just had no interest in seeing what was going on down there! But after another couple of pushes, she mentioned that being able to "see" how productive my pushes were might help me - not only push more effectively but also in terms of motivation. At that point, I just wanted her out (and was terrified of being labeled a "bad pusher" and having my epidural tapered off) so I went for it - and was glad I did, it really helped a lot!
That's really interesting. I remember the OB looking at me really excited and saying "You're doing so great! We can see his head!" And she held up her fingers to make a circle about the size of a quarter "THIS much of him!" I looked at her considering to rip her head off and said "IS THAT A GOOD THING?!" she assured me it was, and it was minutes until he was born. That was while my cervix felt like it was on fire, and a quarter sized view did NOT sound promising - only a couple pushes from there so really it was good news. I don't know that a mirror would have helped me at that point.
AW random - just booked a weekend away at the shore in June to celebrate our five year anniversary. Grammy (my mom) will be babysitting. Only our second time away from Reese. Cannot. Wait.
Woop woop! Sounds awesome!!!
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@AnnaS930 Yes, a mind f**k is a really great way to describe pregnancy dreams! Especially because when I typically think about someone or dream about them, they contact me in real life. Something about the idea or energy being put out into the atmosphere...sounds weird, I know. I also know that is not the case here but I think that is why this dream in particular bothers me so much (because I have always longed for the closure I never got). It just ended because I couldn't fix the problems the other person had and they decided that I was no longer worth them trying to fix them for. They did reach out to me once to have a weekend 'getaway' (his way of trying to just enjoy the good without the relationship part I guess) but I had already started dating my now husband and I was strong enough to realize how unhealthy that relationship was for me.
Anyways, I am rambling. Sorry. But, I don't watch GIRLS so I don't know why it is bothering you but any thoughts about past loves I think is bound to bring up some feelings. Like you said "the one that got away" or in my case "the one I never got closure or understanding with" is haunting despite us ending up with the most amazing men ever. Who would NEVER come close to being the kind of guys I dated in the past. I think it's just the chase or never getting what we wanted out of it or whatever that still holds appeal/interest/thoughts. Sigh....dang pregnancy dreams drudging all of this up!
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@blondie080300I'm totally with you on all of that. On GIRLS, one of the characters recently got married and is clearly really unhappy in that situation. She sees an ex-boyfriend and has a whirlwind day with him including them exchanging thoughts of just running off together, pretending that the past couple years they were apart is all a bad dream.. until she realizes that things aren't quite the way it seems and that neither relationship is going to work.
I don't have these feelings about an ex, but it was really well written and tugged at my heartstrings. The dreams are really the confusing part of all of this, I wake up feeling guilty sometimes.. and I have to actually ground myself, like No. you were not there. you live here, with your husband, Matt. I mean - these dreams are really convincing.
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It's the greatest feeling ever! I have never heard someone say they regretted being team green. I know seeing your husbands reaction and what you feel is something no technician, or piece of paper, or gender reveal party can ever compare to.
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I'm in no way trying to talk you out of being Team Green, but I found out with my first and will with this one. Finding out her gender during the ultrasound was still a special moment between DH and I, and I still had every desire to push her out to meet her. Well, if I'm being truly honest, my body's instincts kept me pushing. During the final pushes my mind was thinking, "I just want 'it' out of me." I don't think I was even identifying her as my baby in my mind at that point.
Even considered breaking out the maternity leggings to work today.. but I thought those plus the new bra would lead to a level of comfort where napping under my desk would be inevitable.
Then I left bed and this happened....
Now at work I'm all....
Needless to say this glowing thing being discussed...is totally not happening today.
Thank you for being an acceptable english muffin topper, and giving me an excuse to feel like I'm eating a chocolate bar for breakfast.
Sincerely,
A woman who wants a chocolate bar for breakfast but somehow gained 5 pounds in 2 days.
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Just as DH and I were falling asleep last night, the cat jumped on the bed and started playing with something. DH turned on the light and saw that the cat had a dead mouse. We assume that that was what she was chasing around at 4 AM a couple mornings ago. Thanks kitty for taking care of the mouse problem we didn't know we had. Now let us get some sleep!
@AnnaS930 Thanks for sharing the bra you got! The ones I used with DD were so comfortable, but were not great with shaping. Do they seem to have some stretch to them?
Edited to add: This reads really snappy... and when I typed it 10 minutes ago I was feeling snappy. Don't get between a pregnant me and my nutella
HA. "I just want it out of me." So much truth. My aunt asked me once what the motivation to push was when we already knew the gender. I've been pregnant for most of a year. I'm ready to not be pregnant. That's definitely motivation enough. And even if I wanted to keep on being pregnant, there isn't any stopping childbirth. That just isn't a thing you can do. (outside of medical intervention, of course)
My husband is an Ashkenazi Jew - he has black curly hair (everywhere! haha) but also on his head, and chocolate brown eyes, and is about 6 feet tall with broad shoulders/husky build
I am French Canadian/mix of English/Scottish/etc etc - blonde, straight hair, grey eyes, 5'4" (on a good day) and a large frame but petite build. Our baby could have literally looked like just about ANYTHING.
Emmett is tall and skinny, brown hair (was black when born), straight, and dark dark brown eyes (almost black), (and the cutest thing in the world.. but I'm a tiny bit biased). So that was fun! It was a day of "How big will he be? We could see on ultrasounds he had hair, but how much? and what color?
Ok my random from today is that I binge ate chocolate on my drive into work at 7:30am this morning due to a very steamy dream I had of an ex bf.
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
This week's GIRLS episode was about a past love, and the episode is just haunting me.. I can't quite put my finger on why
@AnaS930 I have to clarify or it will bother me all day (I hate being misunderstood). My Nutella comment was being said with wit behind it, not claiming to be a comedian here. My smiley didn't portray that. I would really hope no one thinks it's a health food.
If you are a Nutella lover, try it on pancakes. Either on the pancake or swirl it into the batter immediately after you've poured it on the griddle. So yummy.
Don't let it bother you any longer, all is good in the land of Hazelnut spreads!
That being said, I did use a mirror when I was pushing DD. My OB suggested it and at first I didn't want one - I just had no interest in seeing what was going on down there! But after another couple of pushes, she mentioned that being able to "see" how productive my pushes were might help me - not only push more effectively but also in terms of motivation. At that point, I just wanted her out (and was terrified of being labeled a "bad pusher" and having my epidural tapered off) so I went for it - and was glad I did, it really helped a lot!
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Anyways, I am rambling. Sorry. But, I don't watch GIRLS so I don't know why it is bothering you but any thoughts about past loves I think is bound to bring up some feelings. Like you said "the one that got away" or in my case "the one I never got closure or understanding with" is haunting despite us ending up with the most amazing men ever. Who would NEVER come close to being the kind of guys I dated in the past. I think it's just the chase or never getting what we wanted out of it or whatever that still holds appeal/interest/thoughts. Sigh....dang pregnancy dreams drudging all of this up!
First time mom to a human but have been a puppy mamma for over 12 years
@blondie080300 I'm totally with you on all of that. On GIRLS, one of the characters recently got married and is clearly really unhappy in that situation. She sees an ex-boyfriend and has a whirlwind day with him including them exchanging thoughts of just running off together, pretending that the past couple years they were apart is all a bad dream.. until she realizes that things aren't quite the way it seems and that neither relationship is going to work.
I don't have these feelings about an ex, but it was really well written and tugged at my heartstrings. The dreams are really the confusing part of all of this, I wake up feeling guilty sometimes.. and I have to actually ground myself, like No. you were not there. you live here, with your husband, Matt. I mean - these dreams are really convincing.