STMs... Is anyone moving their toddler's car seat to behind the driver and putting the newborn on the passenger side? I was thinking abut doing this but also didn't want to throw DS for a loop.
I've moved DD to behind the passenger and am putting DD2 in the middle. I just fear what I can't see.
Hm. I need to try that...but I feel like his seat is so dang bulky.
I tried doing that, but they didn't fit right next to each other. It would be have been a PITA to get the infant seat out every time with the toddler seat so close.
Still at the hospital and bored out of my mind. Everyone switched shifts, new nurse and Doctor. My BP went down overnight but is now back up. Monitoring it for another 2 hours and if it stays up most likely starting induction and not even worrying about the urine results and regardless I don't think they want me to go home until he's here... On the plus side my nerdtastic self might get to have the baby on 'Star Wars Day'. Weird thing is that I always joked throughout the pregnancy about how cool that would be. Guess I jinxed myself. Lol.
I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a cat. I was sooo disappointed in my dream (and rightfully so!). I'm blaming this on the Cat Lady thread.
STMs... Is anyone moving their toddler's car seat to behind the driver and putting the newborn on the passenger side? I was thinking abut doing this but also didn't want to throw DS for a loop.
I've moved DD to behind the passenger and am putting DD2 in the middle. I just fear what I can't see.
Hm. I need to try that...but I feel like his seat is so dang bulky.
Why do they make them so bulky?! I mean I get the safety parts and what not but for me DD doesn't need 2 cup holders on her seat!! My backseat is pretty roomy and we decided on a carrier at first for DD2 which isn't as bulky.
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I went ahead and scheduled the rest of my weekly OB appointments this morning. Knowing that they're all on my calendar now is helping me see the light at the end of the tunnel!
I don't know what to do about the darn car seat as far as which side to put it on. Seems like the safest place is in the middle or behind the driver's side seat. I drive an Acrua MDX, which I love but the back seat leaves a lot to be desired with leg room in the first place (SUV on car frame + the stupid excuse for third row seating = not a good use of space). For me, I can put the seat in the middle or behind the driver's seat and be fine. However, we also consider this car our family car, and it's our primary car on the weekends. This means my husband is usually the one driving when it's both of us in the car, and he's 6'4, so he pushes the drivers seat all the way back. He tried being a good sport when testing the car seat behind the driver's side and saying it's fine, but his knees are right on the dash with the car seat behind him, and I am terrified that even in a minor fender bender, he'd break both his knees. I wouldn't even let him drive down our street before telling him to stop and remove the car seat.
We can't put it in the middle, because of the same issue (he can't push his seat back). So, that leaves the passenger side, which is supposed to be the least safe spot. And even me at 5'5 can't sit very comfortably in the front passenger seat with the car seat behind me. Sigh. We'll probably have to just keep it behind the driver's side during the week when it's just me using the car, then move it to the passenger side on the weekends when my husband is typically driving. And god bless anyone who has to ride with us because they'll be smashed behind my husband since the car seat will be on the passenger side behind me.
Can someone just give me about $85K so I can buy my dream car - an Infiniti QX80 Limitied? I accept paypal. Check is fine, too.
@missnc77 I actually read that behind the passenger seat was preferred to behind the drivers seat because the front seat being empty is common. It also makes it safer for getting baby in and out of the car in paralleled spots.
Had our first peds appt yesterday and we were sent straight to the hospital for jaundice. She was right on the cut off line for bili lights so they let us take her home and told me to push formula on top of breastfeeding (because I'm so engorged she has a hard time latching). We are getting ready to head back to the hospital for a repeat test and they will let us know if she has to be admitted. I was in tears bcuz one SO wasn't with me yesterday, it was my mother. 2 I feel like it's my fault she wasn't getting enough food to push out all of the toxins. The pediatrician assured me it's just because she was early and so small it's harder for her to pull down the milk and it makes her tired more quickly, but it still doesn't make me feel better and I'm hoping her numbers are lower today so we can stay home.
I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a cat. I was sooo disappointed in my dream (and rightfully so!). I'm blaming this on the Cat Lady thread.
What's wrong with that? Cats are awesome!
@Maybaby019 sorry to hear about your LO, but please don't blame yourself! You are doing the best you can to make sure she's good and healthy. Keep us posted with how she's doing.
@Maybaby0519 Hang in there! Almost the exact same scenario happened with my DD 2 years ago, so I know how you're feeling. Don't blame yourself; you're doing great, and it happens with so many LOs!! Hugs.
I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a cat. I was sooo disappointed in my dream (and rightfully so!). I'm blaming this on the Cat Lady thread.
What's wrong with that? Cats are awesome!
@Maybaby019 sorry to hear about your LO, but please don't blame yourself! You are doing the best you can to make sure she's good and healthy. Keep us posted with how she's doing.
Lol!! Cats are great and all, but not birthing one!
I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a cat. I was sooo disappointed in my dream (and rightfully so!). I'm blaming this on the Cat Lady thread.
I've been having dreams that my baby is still a normal baby, but she's keeping stuff in the womb with her. A couple nights ago it was a creepy doll head and last night it was a pet rat. Not super comforting dreams.
Ok, this is kind of long and heavy, but I could use some advice:
I talked to my sister yesterday, and she told me that my BIL's mother passed away. His mother has been estranged for most of his life. His parents divorced when he was about 2 years old, and they shared custody for about a year after that. Then, his mother (unhappy with the child sharing arrangements and wanting to keep him from his father) kidnapped him, fled the state, and stayed on the run with him for years. It took his dad nearly 5 years (and many private investigators) before he tracked them down and was able to get sole custody. His father and stepmother raised him from the time he was about 7, and he only saw his mother a few times after that during supervised visits. My BIL is in his early 30s, and he had not seen his mother since his high school graduation. Apparently, she tracked him down on FB over a year ago - just before he and my sister got married - and requested an invitation to their wedding (she found out through other family members). He didn't respond and didn't invite her to their wedding. Over the past year, she has been messaging him weekly on FB, saying that she wants to make amends and be a part of his life again. Since my niece was born in November, she has begged him (via FB messages) to meet her. He and DH had a long talk about it when we were home at Christmas, and DH assured him that he shouldn't resume contact with her until he's sure that she is mentally stable (she had a history of mental illness). BIL then responded to his mother's messages, just saying that he wasn't ready to resume their relationship yet but that he might consider it in the future. Over the past month, she began messaging him daily, and the messages were more desperate, so he blocked her. Then yesterday afternoon, her sister (who BIL hadn't spoken to in years) messaged him on FB and said she needed him to call her about something very important and sent her phone number. When he called her, she told him that his mother had been suffering from congestive heart failure for the past year and that she had just died.
I feel so bad for my BIL. I haven't talked to him since it happened, but my sister said he hasn't been dealing with it well. My sister said that he fells terrible that his mother never got to meet her (her DIL) or their daughter (her only grandchild). He's such a great guy and doesn't deserve to be burdened with such guilt when he didn't do anything wrong. They are trying to decide now whether or not to attend the funeral. I think they are leaning toward him attending alone, but he's still unsure since he doesn't know how his presence there will be received by her family. I feel like I should acknowledge the situation in some way, but I'm not sure what I should do. Should I call him and express my condolences? Should I send him a sympathy card? Should DH and I send a flower arrangement to the funeral home? What would you guys do?
Speaking of weird dreams... a few nights ago I dreamed that we had twins. But they weren't babies. They were chicken nuggets. I shit you not. I kept poking them to make sure they were alive. GUYS I HAD CHICKEN NUGGET BABIES
That's really hard to say what you should do. Some people like their space to grieve so if he's like that, sending a meal might be a nice thoughtful gesture or just asking your sister what you can do to help them. If you think he'd like the support go ahead and give him a call and remind him your family is there for him.
I would send a card (with or without flowers) and either include a note saying that you'd like to be there and be supportive, you're more than open to talking if he/they would like (depending on how close you are to your BIL), but you don't want to push or presume too far in this difficult situation, or convey that same sentiment directly to your sister and let her relay it to him.
Basically, offer to be there but let them take the initiative. That's such a tangled and difficult situation that I think it's best to let your BIL be the one to reach out when he's ready (if he ever is or wants to) -- a phone call initiated by you might be too much pressure in the moment.
@js8812So jealous. My husband and I would sometimes go fantasy car shopping just for fun. I sat in a QX80, and he immediately said, "Wow! You look so petite in that thing!" REALLY?! "So, you're telling me this car makes me look skinny?" I was ready to sign the papers right then and there.
A friend of mine was due June 3 and just had her baby today. I have to say I'm a little jealous. I know I should want the baby to come around my due date (may 28) but my ribs hurt so bad and I am so uncomfortable! Thought maybe you all would understand. lol
STMs... Is anyone moving their toddler's car seat to behind the driver and putting the newborn on the passenger side? I was thinking abut doing this but also didn't want to throw DS for a loop.
I've moved DD to behind the passenger and am putting DD2 in the middle. I just fear what I can't see.
Hm. I need to try that...but I feel like his seat is so dang bulky.
Why do they make them so bulky?! I mean I get the safety parts and what not but for me DD doesn't need 2 cup holders on her seat!! My backseat is pretty roomy and we decided on a carrier at first for DD2 which isn't as bulky.
I don't know!! I got him the Chicco-big ass one that was super expensive cuz it's supposed to be so safe...it's so huge!
STMs... Is anyone moving their toddler's car seat to behind the driver and putting the newborn on the passenger side? I was thinking abut doing this but also didn't want to throw DS for a loop.
I've moved DD to behind the passenger and am putting DD2 in the middle. I just fear what I can't see.
Hm. I need to try that...but I feel like his seat is so dang bulky.
Why do they make them so bulky?! I mean I get the safety parts and what not but for me DD doesn't need 2 cup holders on her seat!! My backseat is pretty roomy and we decided on a carrier at first for DD2 which isn't as bulky.
I don't know!! I got him the Chicco-big ass one that was super expensive cuz it's supposed to be so safe...it's so huge!
We almost got the Chicco for DD when we switched to the big seat but I felt like it was so bulky too! We went with a Britax instead and it's still crazy big.
On the position of the seats, I'm going to leave DD on the passenger side and put DD2 behind the driver's seat. DD1 needs more attention from me while I'm driving and I'll still be able to hand her things if I need to. I wouldn't be able to do anything for DD2 even if she was on the passenger side since she'll be rear-facing.
@JessicaB0627 Yeah...that's what I've been thinking the last couple of days. Handing him his stuffed animal that he throws like 1,000 times per car ride won't be fun if he's directly behind me.
@Jenly17 Yes. & it's weird that quite a few are popping up on that FB group thread. I'm not joining you randos!! Although there are some that I like who have joined...I want to go back to high school and create like a super exclusive FB group of only the people that I like. haha
We always had the rear facing seats either in the center or behind the passenger. DH is over 6ft so behind the driver as never an option. Luckily we haven't had to have two rear facing seats because I don't know how we would have handled it.
FTM so I don't personally have two car seats but my sister is a nanny and just got an infant car seat installed in her car and has a car seat for a rear facing two year old. The place that they installed it recommended having the older child's car seat rear facing in the middle and then the infant behind the drivers. They said that the older car seats have more protection on the sides so it's safer to have them in the center
STMs... Is anyone moving their toddler's car seat to behind the driver and putting the newborn on the passenger side? I was thinking abut doing this but also didn't want to throw DS for a loop.
I've moved DD to behind the passenger and am putting DD2 in the middle. I just fear what I can't see.
Hm. I need to try that...but I feel like his seat is so dang bulky.
Why do they make them so bulky?! I mean I get the safety parts and what not but for me DD doesn't need 2 cup holders on her seat!! My backseat is pretty roomy and we decided on a carrier at first for DD2 which isn't as bulky.
I don't know!! I got him the Chicco-big ass one that was super expensive cuz it's supposed to be so safe...it's so huge!
We almost got the Chicco for DD when we switched to the big seat but I felt like it was so bulky too! We went with a Britax instead and it's still crazy big.
On the position of the seats, I'm going to leave DD on the passenger side and put DD2 behind the driver's seat. DD1 needs more attention from me while I'm driving and I'll still be able to hand her things if I need to. I wouldn't be able to do anything for DD2 even if she was on the passenger side since she'll be rear-facing.
This is exactly why DS is staying behind the passenger seat and DS2 is on the other side.
I'm not joining the FB group either, at least not yet. I'm just so cautious (or paranoid, hah) about internet privacy/safety. In other news, we installed the car seat base today in DH's car, but gave up trying to install the one in my car. Those LATCHes are hard, or maybe we're just doing it wrong.
I'm not joining the FB group either, at least not yet. I'm just so cautious (or paranoid, hah) about internet privacy/safety. In other news, we installed the car seat base today in DH's car, but gave up trying to install the one in my car. Those LATCHes are hard, or maybe we're just doing it wrong.
Sometimes you really have to dig your hand way down into the seat of the car to find the bar that the latch connects to. I dread it whenever I have to switch my carseat from mine to H's. My hand emerges looking mangled from searching for the spot to connect the latch.
Mom's phone calls should really be more like 80% but yeah otherwise that is dead on.
YES! I made the mistake of telling my mom I was having contractions this morning. She told all her friends at work and then called me 10 times. Not telling her anything again.
Mom's phone calls should really be more like 80% but yeah otherwise that is dead on.
YES! I made the mistake of telling my mom I was having contractions this morning. She told all her friends at work and then called me 10 times. Not telling her anything again.
The constant phone calls and texts are making me insane. And not just from parents but from everyone. "Where's that baby?!" Ummm same f'ing place he was an hour ago when you asked.
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We can't put it in the middle, because of the same issue (he can't push his seat back). So, that leaves the passenger side, which is supposed to be the least safe spot. And even me at 5'5 can't sit very comfortably in the front passenger seat with the car seat behind me. Sigh. We'll probably have to just keep it behind the driver's side during the week when it's just me using the car, then move it to the passenger side on the weekends when my husband is typically driving. And god bless anyone who has to ride with us because they'll be smashed behind my husband since the car seat will be on the passenger side behind me.
Can someone just give me about $85K so I can buy my dream car - an Infiniti QX80 Limitied? I accept paypal. Check is fine, too.
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@Maybaby019 sorry to hear about your LO, but please don't blame yourself! You are doing the best you can to make sure she's good and healthy. Keep us posted with how she's doing.
I talked to my sister yesterday, and she told me that my BIL's mother passed away. His mother has been estranged for most of his life. His parents divorced when he was about 2 years old, and they shared custody for about a year after that. Then, his mother (unhappy with the child sharing arrangements and wanting to keep him from his father) kidnapped him, fled the state, and stayed on the run with him for years. It took his dad nearly 5 years (and many private investigators) before he tracked them down and was able to get sole custody. His father and stepmother raised him from the time he was about 7, and he only saw his mother a few times after that during supervised visits. My BIL is in his early 30s, and he had not seen his mother since his high school graduation. Apparently, she tracked him down on FB over a year ago - just before he and my sister got married - and requested an invitation to their wedding (she found out through other family members). He didn't respond and didn't invite her to their wedding. Over the past year, she has been messaging him weekly on FB, saying that she wants to make amends and be a part of his life again. Since my niece was born in November, she has begged him (via FB messages) to meet her. He and DH had a long talk about it when we were home at Christmas, and DH assured him that he shouldn't resume contact with her until he's sure that she is mentally stable (she had a history of mental illness). BIL then responded to his mother's messages, just saying that he wasn't ready to resume their relationship yet but that he might consider it in the future. Over the past month, she began messaging him daily, and the messages were more desperate, so he blocked her. Then yesterday afternoon, her sister (who BIL hadn't spoken to in years) messaged him on FB and said she needed him to call her about something very important and sent her phone number. When he called her, she told him that his mother had been suffering from congestive heart failure for the past year and that she had just died.
I feel so bad for my BIL. I haven't talked to him since it happened, but my sister said he hasn't been dealing with it well. My sister said that he fells terrible that his mother never got to meet her (her DIL) or their daughter (her only grandchild). He's such a great guy and doesn't deserve to be burdened with such guilt when he didn't do anything wrong. They are trying to decide now whether or not to attend the funeral. I think they are leaning toward him attending alone, but he's still unsure since he doesn't know how his presence there will be received by her family. I feel like I should acknowledge the situation in some way, but I'm not sure what I should do. Should I call him and express my condolences? Should I send him a sympathy card? Should DH and I send a flower arrangement to the funeral home? What would you guys do?
Basically, offer to be there but let them take the initiative. That's such a tangled and difficult situation that I think it's best to let your BIL be the one to reach out when he's ready (if he ever is or wants to) -- a phone call initiated by you might be too much pressure in the moment.
On the position of the seats, I'm going to leave DD on the passenger side and put DD2 behind the driver's seat. DD1 needs more attention from me while I'm driving and I'll still be able to hand her things if I need to. I wouldn't be able to do anything for DD2 even if she was on the passenger side since she'll be rear-facing.
Anyway- does it seem like there are lots of new names popping up? Every time I open a thread I'm like
@Jenly17 Yes. & it's weird that quite a few are popping up on that FB group thread. I'm not joining you randos!! Although there are some that I like who have joined...I want to go back to high school and create like a super exclusive FB group of only the people that I like. haha
In other news, we installed the car seat base today in DH's car, but gave up trying to install the one in my car. Those LATCHes are hard, or maybe we're just doing it wrong.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)