Today is my last day of work until mid to late August and I'm super excited about being able to take naps in the middle of day (because sleeping at night is just way to hard right now)!!! I still have 2 weeks till my EDD so hopefully I can rest up enough before DD3 decides to make her appearance. Besides naps, I just have some organizing planned and Netflix binging scheduled.
Today is definitely the day!! My water broke this morning they just moved me from triage to labour and delivery! Hoping my contractions pick up so I don't have to have pitocin excited and nervous so much for May 19th...
I seriously just read this. I'm sorry, my maternity leave is not a vacation. I will be getting very little sleep, learning how to take care of a human, potentially have cracked/bleeding nipples, have a child attached to my boob, extra cleaning and laundry plus home tasks. For her to think it's a vacation is absurd. If you want to take a long vacation or sabbatical, by all means do it. I didn't work for 8 months and just went to school part time, my choice. But it doesn't even compare to maternity leave.
Next time, she should just say she hates her job, is jealous that parents leave at 6pm (without realizing that they have to go home, make sure homework is done, dinner is cooked, baths are given and stories are read, while she can go out to eat, watch Netflix all night or do whatever she wants to do), and was tired of feeling like she was overlooked. Which at the end, sounds like it was her fault since she said no one was forcing her to stay late.
This: 'Ultimately, what I learned from my own “meternity” leave is that any pressure I felt to stay late at the office wasn’t coming from the parents on staff. It was coming from myself.'
Y'all the guy that's covering for me during maternity leave (and now my employee) actually stepped it up and did a good job this week. I mean, it was an 11th hour hail mary and only took him 3 months, but I think he's finally getting it!
There was a looney bird on a breastfeeding thread back in the beginning that was way hostile and immature, and claimed she would have her husband suckle her tit if she saw someone breastfeeding in public... She wouldn't quit too, and seeing her spiral was like, let's get you the yellow pages for some help, Lots and lots of help. That one is #1 crazy thread in my book. Botox lady was Nuts. My favorite #1 thread has to be problematic ILs/ parents. I always get excited for a new post there.
My crazy dream last night: baby was pushing her feet so hard that perfect outlines of her feet were visible. After a few, I wished she was out and by magic she was out, stable and swaddled. However the placenta was still in me and we were already in the postpartum unit. I had to track down the doctor myself like, are we gonna get this out or what!
Upon waking this morning, little girl has been kickboxing my ribs; still is.
Is there a way to tell what store diapers (name brands like Pampers or Huggies) came from? I'm pretty sure I have way too many size 1 diapers (due to my own stockpile before I started receiving them as gifts), and I would like to exchange some for a different size.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Well... I officially cannot cross my legs while I am sitting at my desk anymore Due date isn't until the end of May... I don't know how I can possibly make it that much longer. I feel like there is no more room for her to grow.
This woman is nuts! Here are my thoughts in numerical order: 1. Parents "leave at 6" because that's their priorities- the kids need picked up, the house needs cleaning, the food needs cooking and hey, maybe I wanna spend a little time with my kid before the bedtime routine. we don't assume other people will finish our work. 2. If you would also like to structure your life so that you can leave your job sometimes to manage personal stuff, then do it. Like she says, she put the pressure on herself to be a working person instead of a personal life person. 3. If you need a break from work to re-evaluate your life then take it! My DH works with teenage drug users so every once in awhile he takes a week long "staycation" where he gets to take care of himself! It's called self care, which brings me to... 4. One thing pregnant women are constantly told is how little self care they will get once their baby comes and how they need to grab it when it comes, even if all it amounts to is a 5 minute shower. It's a medical necessity for us to focus on our homes and our new children during that time, it has been shown to prevent post partum depression and postnatal death, and as Ina May says "babies NEED their mothers".
To me, this woman is a classic case of "I'm embarrassed about my life choices and instead of dealing with that I'm going to try and make moms feel bad".
Sounds like a mid life crisis to me. Seriously, this woman is all kinds of crazy. Maternity leave isn't just about the mom. Most mothers sacrifice a lot during this time for, oh I don't know, the baby. It's the equivalent of someone who had major surgery and then saying, "so and so must be having the time of their life getting to focus on themselves." Dude, they need that time to heal!
Is there a way to tell what store diapers (name brands like Pampers or Huggies) came from? I'm pretty sure I have way too many size 1 diapers (due to my own stockpile before I started receiving them as gifts), and I would like to exchange some for a different size.
Most stores will do an exchange for a different size without a receipt if they carry the same brand and box. I would just ask customer service.
Ok it is decision time. To shave or not to shave before my appointment... Will you love my comment if you have no plans to groom your "area" before your checks or birth? It has been a long time, but I feel like I should attempt it, but I just don't want to. Ugh!
Ok it is decision time. To shave or not to shave before my appointment... Will you love my comment if you have no plans to groom your "area" before your checks or birth? It has been a long time, but I feel like I should attempt it, but I just don't want to. Ugh!
Even if I WANTED to groom my area... I can't even get to it at this point!
Ok it is decision time. To shave or not to shave before my appointment... Will you love my comment if you have no plans to groom your "area" before your checks or birth? It has been a long time, but I feel like I should attempt it, but I just don't want to. Ugh!
Girl, no shame in not shaving. I did my best to shave blindly and I did a hack job. I saw blood when I wiped and I started getting excited thinking it was an impending labor type of blood but then realized NOPE, definitely just blood from my terrible shave job. I'm sure my ob was silently laughing at me when she was down there.
Ok it is decision time. To shave or not to shave before my appointment... Will you love my comment if you have no plans to groom your "area" before your checks or birth? It has been a long time, but I feel like I should attempt it, but I just don't want to. Ugh!
Just get out some gold glitter spray and bling the whole thing out. It will be spectacular.
On another note, I still recommend the Schick bikini razor and trimmer in one. I can stand in front of a mirror and easily use the trimmer still - no cuts even. It has a guard that is removable depending on how close you want the trim.
Surprisingly I can still shave the vajayjay. It might be a lil Edward Scissorhands down there,but its passable. But legs are a whole other story.
I just shaved my legs this morning. I'm sure it'll be the last time before this LO is born because it took entirely too much effort to bend that far and the only way I can manage it is by being ambidextrous.
Lmao I was *just* telling MH and my MIL that I'm about to hire someone to help me shave. I seriously can't see below my belly. I was contorting myself into different positions for a while, and seemed to manage, but it's just not working anymore. And I genuinely hate being prickly. I look forward to when I can get back to my cleanly shaven self
Yeah, this is dumb. She made a lot of good points about the importance or necessity of taking a break, re-evaluating your life, making changes, etc. But anyone can do this whenever they want. Take your regularly scheduled vacation. Take an unpaid leave of absence. Quit your job and apply for something else when you're ready. It's not like I'm getting paid for my leave, and I'll have a ton of new expenses on top of my unpaid time off.
Surprisingly I can still shave the vajayjay. It might be a lil Edward Scissorhands down there,but its passable. But legs are a whole other story.
You must be some kind of vajayjay shaving sorceress. I can get to the legs but shaving my vag is out of the question now. Just doesn't work, same as trying to pee in a cup.
Re:lady parts shaving. I trimmed mine using a mirror and some back lighting. It actually made me feel a lot better, so if you're like me it might just give you a little kick in your step to have a well kept bathing suit area.
Re:lady parts shaving. I trimmed mine using a mirror and some back lighting. It actually made me feel a lot better, so if you're like me it might just give you a little kick in your step to have a well kept bathing suit area.
You are so brave to use a mirror. The last time I looked at my lady bits in a mirror was horrifying and traumatizing!
Surprisingly I can still shave the vajayjay. It might be a lil Edward Scissorhands down there,but its passable. But legs are a whole other story.
I just shaved my legs this morning. I'm sure it'll be the last time before this LO is born because it took entirely too much effort to bend that far and the only way I can manage it is by being ambidextrous.
I plan on attempting one last leg shave tonight. I'm not looking forward to it!
Another random: my dog, who is about 18 months old (aka still a bit of a puppy) and a border collie mix usually runs around and plays in the afternoon- hell shove toys in my face, politely demand to go outside to chase birds or pee, he'll heard the cat or just bark at our neighbors for being rude enough to walk to their front doors. today, nothing. He just follows me around, lays down with me. I've been really tired today so I've been on the couch (a few back pains but nothing major) and he even walks me to the bathroom. It's like he's on mama watch today. It's starting to freak me out. I don't think he's sick, I'm thinking he's noticing something about me that I haven't picked up on.
I'm going to attempt to shave my nether regions using an electric razor and a mirror. I've already warned DH that I may need to enlist his help. I shave his back so it's a fair trade off, right?
I'm going to attempt to shave my nether regions using an electric razor and a mirror. I've already warned DH that I may need to enlist his help. I shave his back so it's a fair trade off, right?
I cut DH's hair (on his head), so he can give me a "down there" trim, right?!
I asked him, and he said, "How do you know you need a trim? Can you even still see down there?"
The answer is yes, I need a trim. No, I can't see it.
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
I had DH clean me up with a trimmer the other day. It was more to make things easier to keep clean after baby comes than any worry about things looking nice for anyone else.
Guys...my recall is gone. Who was it that just recently had the ultrasound & found out their anatomy scan tech was wrong & told them the wrong sex? There's someone on the june board who is going through it now & was looking for support...I can't remember for the life of me who it was. Sorry I suck!! The baby is eating my brain. The other day I put my coffee in my purse...
Guys...my recall is gone. Who was it that just recently had the ultrasound & found out their anatomy scan tech was wrong & told them the wrong sex? There's someone on the june board who is going through it now & was looking for support...I can't remember for the life of me who it was. Sorry I suck!! The baby is eating my brain. The other day I put my coffee in my purse...
So I had my appt today and the doctor came in saying, "So this is the girl that likes to go 42 weeks." (It's in my chart that if I am late, I would like to go to 42 before an induction). I said, "Well, I wouldn't like to." He measures my belly and then looks at me and says, "I think at around 40, we'll be done with this."
Ummm....excuse me, no. I've only seen him one other time and the 2 other women dr's (who I normally see)have been amazingly supportive with my decisions. Now I'm scared that he will be the one around towards the end and possibly deliver. I can just tell he's one of those old school ones who want things his way or the highway. Ugh. You are not going to tell me that "we" are going to be done with this. YOU are not the one carrying the baby. thanks.
Guys...my recall is gone. Who was it that just recently had the ultrasound & found out their anatomy scan tech was wrong & told them the wrong sex? There's someone on the june board who is going through it now & was looking for support...I can't remember for the life of me who it was. Sorry I suck!! The baby is eating my brain. The other day I put my coffee in my purse...
Guys...my recall is gone. Who was it that just recently had the ultrasound & found out their anatomy scan tech was wrong & told them the wrong sex? There's someone on the june board who is going through it now & was looking for support...I can't remember for the life of me who it was. Sorry I suck!! The baby is eating my brain. The other day I put my coffee in my purse...
That was me.
lol I tagged you over in her post. Sorry my brain is no longer functional. It just took me 3 tries to type "functional."
So I had my appt today and the doctor came in saying, "So this is the girl that likes to go 42 weeks." (It's in my chart that if I am late, I would like to go to 42 before an induction). I said, "Well, I wouldn't like to." He measures my belly and then looks at me and says, "I think at around 40, we'll be done with this."
Ummm....excuse me, no. I've only seen him one other time and the 2 other women dr's (who I normally see)have been amazingly supportive with my decisions. Now I'm scared that he will be the one around towards the end and possibly deliver. I can just tell he's one of those old school ones who want things his way or the highway. Ugh. You are not going to tell me that "we" are going to be done with this. YOU are not the one carrying the baby. thanks.
You got this, lady! stand your ground and "decline" induction offers if that's what you want!!
Mama to Three Girls: Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
My mom asked me tonight what the plan if I were to go in to labor at night - should I call her first or just drop off my daughter. What blind hope she has - like spontaneous labor could possibly exist.
Re: **The Everything Random Thread for May 2016**
I agree. I know I'll probably end up with tons of questions, issues, raves, etc.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!https://nypost.com/2016/04/28/i-want-all-the-perks-of-maternity-leave-without-having-any-kids/
Next time, she should just say she hates her job, is jealous that parents leave at 6pm (without realizing that they have to go home, make sure homework is done, dinner is cooked, baths are given and stories are read, while she can go out to eat, watch Netflix all night or do whatever she wants to do), and was tired of feeling like she was overlooked. Which at the end, sounds like it was her fault since she said no one was forcing her to stay late.
Also, it's New York Post... so NEXT!
That one is #1 crazy thread in my book. Botox lady was Nuts.
My favorite #1 thread has to be problematic ILs/ parents. I always get excited for a new post there.
My crazy dream last night: baby was pushing her feet so hard that perfect outlines of her feet were visible. After a few, I wished she was out and by magic she was out, stable and swaddled. However the placenta was still in me and we were already in the postpartum unit. I had to track down the doctor myself like, are we gonna get this out or what!
Upon waking this morning, little girl has been kickboxing my ribs; still is.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Due date isn't until the end of May... I don't know how I can possibly make it that much longer. I feel like there is no more room for her to grow.
1. Parents "leave at 6" because that's their priorities- the kids need picked up, the house needs cleaning, the food needs cooking and hey, maybe I wanna spend a little time with my kid before the bedtime routine. we don't assume other people will finish our work.
2. If you would also like to structure your life so that you can leave your job sometimes to manage personal stuff, then do it. Like she says, she put the pressure on herself to be a working person instead of a personal life person.
3. If you need a break from work to re-evaluate your life then take it! My DH works with teenage drug users so every once in awhile he takes a week long "staycation" where he gets to take care of himself! It's called self care, which brings me to...
4. One thing pregnant women are constantly told is how little self care they will get once their baby comes and how they need to grab it when it comes, even if all it amounts to is a 5 minute shower. It's a medical necessity for us to focus on our homes and our new children during that time, it has been shown to prevent post partum depression and postnatal death, and as Ina May says "babies NEED their mothers".
To me, this woman is a classic case of "I'm embarrassed about my life choices and instead of dealing with that I'm going to try and make moms feel bad".
On another note, I still recommend the Schick bikini razor and trimmer in one. I can stand in front of a mirror and easily use the trimmer still - no cuts even. It has a guard that is removable depending on how close you want the trim.
my dog, who is about 18 months old (aka still a bit of a puppy) and a border collie mix usually runs around and plays in the afternoon- hell shove toys in my face, politely demand to go outside to chase birds or pee, he'll heard the cat or just bark at our neighbors for being rude enough to walk to their front doors.
today, nothing. He just follows me around, lays down with me. I've been really tired today so I've been on the couch (a few back pains but nothing major) and he even walks me to the bathroom. It's like he's on mama watch today. It's starting to freak me out. I don't think he's sick, I'm thinking he's noticing something about me that I haven't picked up on.
I cut DH's hair (on his head), so he can give me a "down there" trim, right?!
I asked him, and he said, "How do you know you need a trim? Can you even still see down there?"
The answer is yes, I need a trim. No, I can't see it.
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
Ummm....excuse me, no. I've only seen him one other time and the 2 other women dr's (who I normally see)have been amazingly supportive with my decisions. Now I'm scared that he will be the one around towards the end and possibly deliver. I can just tell he's one of those old school ones who want things his way or the highway. Ugh. You are not going to tell me that "we" are going to be done with this. YOU are not the one carrying the baby. thanks.
You got this, lady! stand your ground and "decline" induction offers if that's what you want!!
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!