I'm so jealous of those of you that can get your LO to quiet down through baby wearing. My LO hates everything but eating especially during leaps. I very literally cannot get her to not scream unless she is eating or asleep. She has been rejecting the swing all week and she loathes the carriers - sling and upright. I'm breastfeeding and she only naps on top of me so all day I'm either in a chair with her on top of me or she's screaming bloody murder. It's exhausting. I wish I had a happy baby but that's not in the cards it looks like.
So do you think babywearing will make a child spoiled? I know you can't spoil a newborn. Our LO is going through her 2nd leap and will scream bloody murder until she's held. I don't want her to continue to be like this but for sanity sake wearing her quiets her down and she takes great naps too. Any thoughts??
No. You can't spoil your baby at this age. I would baby wear as much as you ans LO wants.
I'm so jealous of those of you that can get your LO to quiet down through baby wearing. My LO hates everything but eating especially during leaps. I very literally cannot get her to not scream unless she is eating or asleep. She has been rejecting the swing all week and she loathes the carriers - sling and upright. I'm breastfeeding and she only naps on top of me so all day I'm either in a chair with her on top of me or she's screaming bloody murder. It's exhausting. I wish I had a happy baby but that's not in the cards it looks like.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I completely understand. I wish there was a magic solution I could give you. Hopefully in between leaps it's better for you.
Our pedi reminded me it doesn't hurt them to let them cry. Even though it's hard on your nerves, you can always put them somewhere safe and take a few minutes to eat, go to the bathroom or just breathe. I have needed to step away to just breathe many times.
Hang in there. They say it gets easier around 3 months. I prefer to look at the long term and know that by Christmas, LO will have gotten through this and really have her personality show, not just cry all the time.
Ugh I have had to let LO cry the last few days now that I'm back in school. I have to shower and get ready in the Am and always try to be quiet getting out of bed so she doesn't wake but 5 minutes into me feeding animals and starting coffee she's crying. But I still have to shower, makeup, blow dry and put clothes on before I can tend to her. I feel horrible but it's early AM and hoping she will soon just sleep Until I need to get her up. But who knows. She doesn't ever fall asleep from crying. She will cry and scream as long as she needs to before we come and get her. Hoping this ends soon
@katyertl this is exactly what I'm anxious about for when I'm back and work and we have daycare next week! I may have to move to night showers and/or doing my makeup once I get to work. Or just let baby suck it up and learn to entertain herself (which actually she's not bad at). Her crying though... Is just hard to ignore!
DH has a meeting after work today. Unfortunately this means he won't be home until at least 8PM, probably closer to 9 and maybe even later - meaning I'm home alone for 12+ hours with LO (he left for work around 7AM). Hoping and praying that the growth spurt is done because if it's not today's going to be a rough one.
DH has a meeting after work today. Unfortunately this means he won't be home until at least 8PM, probably closer to 9 and maybe even later - meaning I'm home alone for 12+ hours with LO (he left for work around 7AM). Hoping and praying that the growth spurt is done because if it's not today's going to be a rough one.
Good luck!!! I had a few of those days. And that's when I realized how tough it must be to be a single mom or a military mom! 14 hours is like, my limit.
DH has a meeting after work today. Unfortunately this means he won't be home until at least 8PM, probably closer to 9 and maybe even later - meaning I'm home alone for 12+ hours with LO (he left for work around 7AM). Hoping and praying that the growth spurt is done because if it's not today's going to be a rough one.
Good luck!!! I had a few of those days. And that's when I realized how tough it must be to be a single mom or a military mom! 14 hours is like, my limit.
Yes, every time he's late at work I thank God that I don't have to do it by myself everyday! Thank you!
You know when you wake up, and things are just Off enough that you know it's going to be a bad day? Sigh. Trying to figure out how to hit the reset button.
DH has a meeting after work today. Unfortunately this means he won't be home until at least 8PM, probably closer to 9 and maybe even later - meaning I'm home alone for 12+ hours with LO (he left for work around 7AM). Hoping and praying that the growth spurt is done because if it's not today's going to be a rough one.
Good luck!!! I had a few of those days. And that's when I realized how tough it must be to be a single mom or a military mom! 14 hours is like, my limit.
Yes, every time he's late at work I thank God that I don't have to do it by myself everyday! Thank you!
Every time this happens to me, I text my friend, who found out her husband was cheating on her when she was 6 months pregnant and kicked him out of the house, and I'm like HOW DID YOU DO THIS ALONE YOU ARE AWESOME. I used to go over to her house twice a week for the first couple of months and watch the baby so she could make dinner, and I know she had other help on occassion, but still. Her kid was super good natured and easy but I just can't imagine being in that position. She is the best.
She also has been giving me daycare pep talks, since we start that on the 14th. She says it's the best thing ever and that they totally straightened out her daughter's bad habits, etc, so I'm going to believe her and hopefully not have a nervous breakdown about it. She is a wise lady. :-)
DH has a meeting after work today. Unfortunately this means he won't be home until at least 8PM, probably closer to 9 and maybe even later - meaning I'm home alone for 12+ hours with LO (he left for work around 7AM). Hoping and praying that the growth spurt is done because if it's not today's going to be a rough one.
Good luck!!! I had a few of those days. And that's when I realized how tough it must be to be a single mom or a military mom! 14 hours is like, my limit.
Yes, every time he's late at work I thank God that I don't have to do it by myself everyday! Thank you!
Every time this happens to me, I text my friend, who found out her husband was cheating on her when she was 6 months pregnant and kicked him out of the house, and I'm like HOW DID YOU DO THIS ALONE YOU ARE AWESOME. I used to go over to her house twice a week for the first couple of months and watch the baby so she could make dinner, and I know she had other help on occassion, but still. Her kid was super good natured and easy but I just can't imagine being in that position. She is the best.
She also has been giving me daycare pep talks, since we start that on the 14th. She says it's the best thing ever and that they totally straightened out her daughter's bad habits, etc, so I'm going to believe her and hopefully not have a nervous breakdown about it. She is a wise lady. :-)
Yes! The single moms in my life are my heroes. The mother of my flower girl and ring bearer from my wedding is a single mom, and I'm in complete awe of her because she has done EVERYTHING (IVF, pregnancy, delivery, parenting) without a partner - and as a mom of twins, too! Like your friend, she does have friends and family who help out, but like you said, still far from an easy job! Her kids, who are in kindergarten now, are some of the most well behaved kids I've ever seen, too. I have no idea how she does it, but she is super mom! Definitely a mommy role model for me!
One of my twins has been up screaming since 3:30 this morning. I've fed her twice, given her gas drops, cuddled her, tried her rock n play, tried her swing, and nothing works. She just won't stop screaming. I'm just exhausted at this point. I'm going out of my mind.
@DolphinLover2002 - Not sure how old your twins are, but maybe swaddle & white noise? That's the only thing that would help when my first son was super fussy.
Not sure if my comment should go under daily gripe or here, but..... This baby WON'T NAP! It's ridiculous! I feed him, rock him, he falls asleep. I cuddle him for a few minutes. Put him down and he's awake in 5 minutes!
I'm hoping this is a phase. I remember DS1 taking really long naps, so I don't know if this is a case of "every kid is different" or maybe there's a certain age where they start taking longer/more structured naps. I just can't remember when DS1 long naps started.
@DolphinLover2002 - Not sure how old your twins are, but maybe swaddle & white noise? That's the only thing that would help when my first son was super fussy.
Not sure if my comment should go under daily gripe or here, but..... This baby WON'T NAP! It's ridiculous! I feed him, rock him, he falls asleep. I cuddle him for a few minutes. Put him down and he's awake in 5 minutes!
I'm hoping this is a phase. I remember DS1 taking really long naps, so I don't know if this is a case of "every kid is different" or maybe there's a certain age where they start taking longer/more structured naps. I just can't remember when DS1 long naps started.
They're 13 weeks today. We tried swaddling and white noise. She just screamed. We actually still swaddle every night as they sleep better that way. She loves sleeping in her swing with the music playing. That was a no go too. She finally fell asleep around 10:30. I think she just finally wore herself out.
@DolphinLover2002 - Not sure how old your twins are, but maybe swaddle & white noise? That's the only thing that would help when my first son was super fussy.
Not sure if my comment should go under daily gripe or here, but..... This baby WON'T NAP! It's ridiculous! I feed him, rock him, he falls asleep. I cuddle him for a few minutes. Put him down and he's awake in 5 minutes!
I'm hoping this is a phase. I remember DS1 taking really long naps, so I don't know if this is a case of "every kid is different" or maybe there's a certain age where they start taking longer/more structured naps. I just can't remember when DS1 long naps started.
I'm going through same thing with my girl..she won't nap during the day for long period of time unless she's in my arms . The minute I put her down she moves and then ten minutes later she's up ugh so i tend to just let her nap on me so I can get some quiet time lol I know it's not good but I would go insane if not
I couldn't sleep last night because I was worried LO wouldn't sleep (he fussed almost the entire night before last). I am so worried I'll have insomnia again tonight so I just know that between worrying about LO not sleeping and worrying about myself not sleeping I will worry myself into another night of no sleeping. I don't know if any of that makes sense. I'm just so tired today. I need sleep.
LO had a really hard day today, with lots of crying, very uncharacteristically. It's the first time since he was 6 weeks old where he could only be soothed if I had him in a carrier. It's exhausting, but nice to be able to provide that comfort. At one point, we walked through the apartment while I read my book to him, for about an hour...
Okay ladies, I have a question. We were having problems with LO screaming whenever DH would hold him. With time we figured out it usually happens when he's tired and just wants me to hold him/put him to sleep. Today he screamed 30 mins while my sister held him and as soon as I was done pumping he passed out on me within 5 seconds.
My question is does anyone have any experience with a baby that has a strong attachment to you, but started daycare? The nervous belly in me sits home and imagines him screaming/crying all day at daycare and me not being there to comfort/console him. The logical part of me knows it will be hard and eventually he will figure it out, but curious if any of you have gone through it.
Okay ladies, I have a question. We were having problems with LO screaming whenever DH would hold him. With time we figured out it usually happens when he's tired and just wants me to hold him/put him to sleep. Today he screamed 30 mins while my sister held him and as soon as I was done pumping he passed out on me within 5 seconds.
My question is does anyone have any experience with a baby that has a strong attachment to you, but started daycare? The nervous belly in me sits home and imagines him screaming/crying all day at daycare and me not being there to comfort/console him. The logical part of me knows it will be hard and eventually he will figure it out, but curious if any of you have gone through it.
Yep. LO always cries if she's tired and someone else is holding her and then passes out right after I take her.
She had her first afternoon at daycare today. She was awake and happy when I handed her off. Since I was gone when she became tired, it was OK because mom wasn't an option. She did cry as soon as DH showed up for pick up. He said it was like she saw someone familiar and was done with daycare.
It will get better as she becomes familiar with her teachers. They literally are professionals at baby soothing, so I wouldn't worry about your LO crying all day. I hope it goes well!
I'm still really struggling with leaving the house and that disrupting our schedule.
I've finally gotten LO to take all her naps in the crib...but if we are out of the house, game over.
She won't nap, and is incredibly fussy. It stinks! I love having her in a (loose) schedule and obviously a comfortable place at home but it's really frustrating that she isn't able to fall asleep away from home or out of a moving car. Humph.
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My kid will NOT nap during the day. It is so frustrating and I'm at my wits end! He hates going in the car so I can't even drive around. He doesn't sleep more than 20 minutes at a time and then he's miserable all evening. Anyone have any suggestions?!? I've tried swinging, walking, wearing him, swaddling.... I'm going nuts holding a whiney crying baby for 8 hours a day!
LO had a really hard day today, with lots of crying, very uncharacteristically. It's the first time since he was 6 weeks old where he could only be soothed if I had him in a carrier. It's exhausting, but nice to be able to provide that comfort. At one point, we walked through the apartment while I read my book to him, for about an hour...
There is a 13 week / 3 month growth spurt and I remember your LO is only a few days younger than mine, so I bet you've hit it... We finally finished ours on Tuesday. Good luck, it's a rough one #:-S
ETA @dancegurl1118 if your LO's fussiness is something that picked up in the last day or so, I bet that's what's going on for you, too. Hope both of your LOs nap soon so you two can have a break!
LO had a really hard day today, with lots of crying, very uncharacteristically. It's the first time since he was 6 weeks old where he could only be soothed if I had him in a carrier. It's exhausting, but nice to be able to provide that comfort. At one point, we walked through the apartment while I read my book to him, for about an hour...
There is a 13 week / 3 month growth spurt and I remember your LO is only a few days younger than mine, so I bet you've hit it... We finally finished ours on Tuesday. Good luck, it's a rough one #:-S
This is the first spurt that was REALLY apparent. I'm hoping we are on the tail end of it today...
LO had a really hard day today, with lots of crying, very uncharacteristically. It's the first time since he was 6 weeks old where he could only be soothed if I had him in a carrier. It's exhausting, but nice to be able to provide that comfort. At one point, we walked through the apartment while I read my book to him, for about an hour...
There is a 13 week / 3 month growth spurt and I remember your LO is only a few days younger than mine, so I bet you've hit it... We finally finished ours on Tuesday. Good luck, it's a rough one #:-S
This is the first spurt that was REALLY apparent. I'm hoping we are on the tail end of it today...
Yeah this was absolutely the worst one for us so far. For us it lasted about 2 days. I hope your LO's is coming to an end soon!
My kid will NOT nap during the day. It is so frustrating and I'm at my wits end! He hates going in the car so I can't even drive around. He doesn't sleep more than 20 minutes at a time and then he's miserable all evening. Anyone have any suggestions?!? I've tried swinging, walking, wearing him, swaddling.... I'm going nuts holding a whiney crying baby for 8 hours a day!
Bouncing on an exercise ball is my ace trick. It stops him fussing and eventually puts him to sleep
Our story of the day: naps in crib for roughly 25-30 minutes, wakes up. I soothe back to sleepiness and put her back down with paci. Wakes up 5 minutes later wide awake, paci out. Start cycle all over but doesn't work second time around. I hate crib!
@kes166 that's exactly what was going on. It made her leaps look like Child's play. I've NEVER heard her cry like that. It was about 2.5 days long and now she's back to being a happy camper.
She took every single one of her naps in the crib today. Slept a total of about 3 hours. We're finally getting in the swing of it...only to go to daycare in 2 weeks! Oh well. She definitely fusses to sleep. I don't do CIO because if she's actually crying I can't let her continue without picking her up. But she fusses for about 4 minutes and then is out.
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@kes166 that's exactly what was going on. It made her leaps look like Child's play. I've NEVER heard her cry like that. It was about 2.5 days long and now she's back to being a happy camper.
She took every single one of her naps in the crib today. Slept a total of about 3 hours. We're finally getting in the swing of it...only to go to daycare in 2 weeks! Oh well. She definitely fusses to sleep. I don't do CIO because if she's actually crying I can't let her continue without picking her up. But she fusses for about 4 minutes and then is out.
Omg! @hoodoll82@kes166 I think we are also coming off the 3 month growth spurt... Or it was a two day constipation, or both. He blew threw two diapers in a row this morning...
But I think it's over. LO woke up today with a lot more, darker hair (wtf?!) and we put him down on his side for his morning nap, and came back 5 minutes later to find him just chilling on his tummy, chatting away. First roll over on his own!
He's currently asleep in his swing, and I'm really hoping the two days of crying and needing to be in the carrier mean we are done done done with the 3 month growth spurt!! Sheesh!
You all are really scaring me with this 3 month growth spurt business...especially since lo starts daycare on the 14th at 12 weeks, and I was already nervous she would cry all day and refuse to sleep since she tries to do that here every day (but I have ways to soothe her and get her to sleep that daycare won't use...they are required by law to only let them sleep in a crib for example).
Now I'm scared she's going to get kicked out of daycare at 13 weeks! Was there noticeable increased freding? I'm going to have to make extra bottles I guess.
You all are really scaring me with this 3 month growth spurt business...especially since lo starts daycare on the 14th at 12 weeks, and I was already nervous she would cry all day and refuse to sleep since she tries to do that here every day (but I have ways to soothe her and get her to sleep that daycare won't use...they are required by law to only let them sleep in a crib for example).
Now I'm scared she's going to get kicked out of daycare at 13 weeks! Was there noticeable increased freding? I'm going to have to make extra bottles I guess.
I didn't really notice increased feeding... in fact if anything I think I'd say she's transitioned to less frequent feeding. My experience during the growth spurt from hell was that she took extra long naps (which I was more than ok with) but if she wasn't eating or sleeping she was most likely screaming. There were less-fussy moments but her mood would switch at the drop of a hat. Also I probably would've been happy to have her at daycare for this one because then I would've gotten a break.SAHM here and since our growth spurt went Monday into Tuesday I mostly had to deal with her troubles alone and practically begged DH to leave work on time (he's notorious for staying at least 30 minutes late these days, and then has a 40 minute commute on top of that).
here too boy #3. Baby wearing helps too though! We do vacuuming together the sound of the vacuum walking and being so close put him out pretty quick. Boy #2 is usually first to complain when baby cries too long and goes to soothe him. There are times when brother (5y) is the only one who can. He managed to get the first laugh. While I was pregnant boy#2 used to sing to him in my belly, made up silly songs and would tell him bedtime stories.
I don't want to hear about growth spurts at 12 weeks... I have a 10.5 week old. Ignorance is bliss, sometimes. "Nananananananaaa I don't hear you!!!!" %-(
Well mine basically screams whenever she's not eating and sleeping now, so I'm not entirely sure how it could get worse. I guess I'll probably be glad to let the daycare ladies deal with it as long as she'll still sleep at night. With my luck this will happen over a weekend and I'll go crazy.
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Our pedi reminded me it doesn't hurt them to let them cry. Even though it's hard on your nerves, you can always put them somewhere safe and take a few minutes to eat, go to the bathroom or just breathe. I have needed to step away to just breathe many times.
Hang in there. They say it gets easier around 3 months. I prefer to look at the long term and know that by Christmas, LO will have gotten through this and really have her personality show, not just cry all the time.
Until I need to get her up. But who knows. She doesn't ever fall asleep from crying. She will cry and scream as long as she needs to before we come and get her. Hoping this ends soon
She also has been giving me daycare pep talks, since we start that on the 14th. She says it's the best thing ever and that they totally straightened out her daughter's bad habits, etc, so I'm going to believe her and hopefully not have a nervous breakdown about it. She is a wise lady. :-)
Not sure if my comment should go under daily gripe or here, but..... This baby WON'T NAP! It's ridiculous! I feed him, rock him, he falls asleep. I cuddle him for a few minutes. Put him down and he's awake in 5 minutes!
I'm hoping this is a phase. I remember DS1 taking really long naps, so I don't know if this is a case of "every kid is different" or maybe there's a certain age where they start taking longer/more structured naps. I just can't remember when DS1 long naps started.
My question is does anyone have any experience with a baby that has a strong attachment to you, but started daycare? The nervous belly in me sits home and imagines him screaming/crying all day at daycare and me not being there to comfort/console him. The logical part of me knows it will be hard and eventually he will figure it out, but curious if any of you have gone through it.
She had her first afternoon at daycare today. She was awake and happy when I handed her off. Since I was gone when she became tired, it was OK because mom wasn't an option. She did cry as soon as DH showed up for pick up. He said it was like she saw someone familiar and was done with daycare.
It will get better as she becomes familiar with her teachers. They literally are professionals at baby soothing, so I wouldn't worry about your LO crying all day. I hope it goes well!
I've finally gotten LO to take all her naps in the crib...but if we are out of the house, game over.
She won't nap, and is incredibly fussy. It stinks! I love having her in a (loose) schedule and obviously a comfortable place at home but it's really frustrating that she isn't able to fall asleep away from home or out of a moving car. Humph.
ETA @dancegurl1118 if your LO's fussiness is something that picked up in the last day or so, I bet that's what's going on for you, too. Hope both of your LOs nap soon so you two can have a break!
She took every single one of her naps in the crib today. Slept a total of about 3 hours. We're finally getting in the swing of it...only to go to daycare in 2 weeks! Oh well. She definitely fusses to sleep. I don't do CIO because if she's actually crying I can't let her continue without picking her up. But she fusses for about 4 minutes and then is out.
But I think it's over. LO woke up today with a lot more, darker hair (wtf?!) and we put him down on his side for his morning nap, and came back 5 minutes later to find him just chilling on his tummy, chatting away. First roll over on his own!
He's currently asleep in his swing, and I'm really hoping the two days of crying and needing to be in the carrier mean we are done done done with the 3 month growth spurt!! Sheesh!
However, if this is the only new development I got out of this 3 month growth spurt from hell, then I'd like to speak to a manager.
Now I'm scared she's going to get kicked out of daycare at 13 weeks! Was there noticeable increased freding? I'm going to have to make extra bottles I guess.