Sorry, but relieved to hear others dealing with less sleep at 12.5 weeks. LO has also been crying for no reason during the day and needing to be in the Bjorn all day, both being very uncharacteristic of him.
After decreasing intervals all week that came down to waking every hour, last night we were back up to 2.5 - 3 hour intervals of sleep. And importantly, he went back down very easily after feedings. And he woke smiling, not crying today.
Here's hoping for a good day, and that we (and you, too, soon) are over this awful hump.
ETA: on the verge of frustrated tears yesterday, I asked DH, "Do you think something's wrong? Or just... I guess he's just a baby?" DH looked at me with a mix of sympathy and annoyance and said, "Yeah. I think he's just being a baby." Then I yelled at him for "not being supportive." Lol, poor guy
We're having a city break in Melbourne this weekend. LO was fantastic on the flight, slept through the whole thing. But we didn't get to our hotel until midnight and LO wouldn't sleep until 1am. And now he's back up at 4am. I think I've just got him back to sleep, I hope it sticks.
Has anybody else given up on the swaddle as their LOs have started mouthing their hands more? I'm trying to decide if its worth it to not swaddle at night. I think it does help him sleep longer, but when he wakes up he is SO PISSED that he can't use his arms I think it prevents him from self soothing back to sleep, or that it also prevents him from falling asleep when I out him down drowsy. He just struggles and jackknifes and strains against the sleep sack velcro and eventually works his arm up so his fist is poking out. I nap him with his arms loose and he doesn't startle too much. I know this is totally subjective to each baby, but I'm curious if or when some of you have given up the swaddle
Has anybody else given up on the swaddle as their LOs have started mouthing their hands more? I'm trying to decide if its worth it to not swaddle at night. I think it does help him sleep longer, but when he wakes up he is SO PISSED that he can't use his arms I think it prevents him from self soothing back to sleep, or that it also prevents him from falling asleep when I out him down drowsy. He just struggles and jackknifes and strains against the sleep sack velcro and eventually works his arm up so his fist is poking out. I nap him with his arms loose and he doesn't startle too much. I know this is totally subjective to each baby, but I'm curious if or when some of you have given up the swaddle
I use a Velcro swaddle and swaddle LO with her hands up by her face. She's growing out of it though and I'll probably move her to sleep sacks because I don't want to buy any new swaddles..
I swaddled with one arm out for weeks 9 or 10-12. Then at 12, I had to take both hands out. He just rolled over in bed this morning (!!!) and tomorrow he's 13 weeks. So I think we are officially done with the swaddle and on to the sleep sacks.
Is any one else having issues sleeping unrelated to your LO not sleeping? I am having insomnia and worrying about it is making it worse. Anyone else dealing with something similar?
I swaddled with one arm out for weeks 9 or 10-12. Then at 12, I had to take both hands out. He just rolled over in bed this morning (!!!) and tomorrow he's 13 weeks. So I think we are officially done with the swaddle and on to the sleep sacks.
This! LO is 12 weeks old as of yesterday and we just went from one arm out to both arms out last night. He slept so much better!!! He also started hating the Rock and Play about 2 weeks ago and is in the bassinet. We want to make the move to the crib soon but I'm worried about him keeping DS1 up in the next room...
I've been wondering about the swaddle too...worried to start transitioning arms out bc I already barely get any sleep with DD. But I'm scared about the rolling in her sleep which seems like it will be coming soon ( she is 10 weeks now) and plus I have my mom keep calling and telling me she is having nightmares about baby rolling over and suffocating bc she is swaddled ugh dunno maybe I will do it on a night when DH can help me or start during her day naps... I will be happy though when the swaddling is over it's getting annoying anyway lol
Also did anyone notice an extremely clingy baby at 10 weeks? She will not let me put her down at all!!! Screams her brains out if I do and really only wants me to hold her no one else!!
LO is no where near rolling over (13 weeks) thank god...because I'm pretty sure swaddling with arms down is the only thing getting us through the night.
Mark my words she will start rolling over and need her arms out right as the 4 month sleep regression hits.
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I am a swaddle fanatic! LO doesn't seem to mind and is a great sleeper. You guys are making me nervous though that she'll roll soon and I won't have that trick any longer. I really wanted to swaddle her until she's 18
My mother is a PT and used to work with babies with Cerebral Palsy and similar challenges. So she was working with LO (and taught me to continue it) on how to roll over, since he was about 7 weeks old. I'm kind of kicking myself for it now! And I think he would probably still be fine swaddled waist down, but I read somewhere that when they roll, it's time to stop swaddling.
It's funny what I do and don't adhere to, of all the "supposed to's". Ah well, instinct, right?
Good news...both times I got up to pump tonight lo woke up right as I was finishing, so neither one was pointless. Granted, the first sleep stretch was 6 hours instead of 7 (and my boobs were hard as rocks when I got up at about the 5.5 hour mark) but this is a definite improvement. Second wake up is at 6 which is on the late side for her...hopefully she'll still go back down easily.
We stopped swaddling this past week. He's 15 weeks now. I was hesitant about it because he slept so good with the swaddle. But I did start freaking out since he's rolling over now during tummy time. So I knew the time was coming soon.
It's actually going great! He sleeps in one of those gowns and he seems so much more comfortable! Yeah he kicks his feet and moves his hands a lot, but I think he likes the freedom more. Glad that the swaddling is over because I was never good at it and DH always had to do it.
@delujm0 I'm happy for you that your LO is sleeping so much better! Any advice lol seems I was in the same position as you were a couple weeks ago but seems you have worked out the kinks
Last night sucked. LO was up at 12:00. Fed her and climbed into bed only to hear my DS crying "mommy, I wannnnttt you!" In the hallway. (He's currently having a rough time sharing me with LO). I climb into his bed and snuggle him until we both fall asleep. Wake up in a panic that I fell asleep away from the baby monitor. Climb back into my own bed only to have LO wake up 10 minutes later to feed at 3:30. Bring her to bed with me to feed because I'm exhausted fall asleep feeding her. Wake up at 5:30 and transfer her back to her crib. Fall back asleep for a moment only to have DS come to wake me up at 6:30. He rests quietly on the dog bed until LO wakes up at 6:50. I'm tired...need copious amounts of coffee today.
As an added bonus we are going camping for the next to nights so I pray to god everyone sleeps well. Usually the fresh air knocks them out so fingers crossed.
@delujm0 I'm happy for you that your LO is sleeping so much better! Any advice lol seems I was in the same position as you were a couple weeks ago but seems you have worked out the kinks
I wish I had advice...she just suddenly started sleeping well at 10 weeks! She's still iffy on naps during the day, and it still takes about 90 minutes to get her down at night, but we're thrilled with the one long stretch we're getting. We went on zantac around 9 weeks so maybe that kicking in helped? Or the fact that she's now up to 14.5lbs so she can eat more and stay full longer? No clue. It does get better though! Hang in there!
@delujm0 I'm happy for you that your LO is sleeping so much better! Any advice lol seems I was in the same position as you were a couple weeks ago but seems you have worked out the kinks
I wish I had advice...she just suddenly started sleeping well at 10 weeks! She's still iffy on naps during the day, and it still takes about 90 minutes to get her down at night, but we're thrilled with the one long stretch we're getting. We went on zantac around 9 weeks so maybe that kicking in helped? Or the fact that she's now up to 14.5lbs so she can eat more and stay full longer? No clue. It does get better though! Hang in there!
Wow that's awesome...LO just hit 10 weeks so I'm hoping the double digits makes a difference somehow fingers crossed bc I'm goin crazy over here lol happy for you though!
Ours just hit 10 weeks too and instead of waking up at 2/230 she's been waking up at 3/330. I know it's not much of an improvement but I'll celebrate the small wins even if it's just 30-1 hour!!!
Aaaaaaand attempted bedtime is now approaching 2.5 hours. Sigh. Of course this happens when dh is out of town. Of course. If I don't get at least a 6 hour stretch for my troubles here I'm going to cry.
Ugh we have a set schedule and baby girl still hasn't slept longer yet. Granted he goes to sleep around 730 and doesn't wake up until midnight or 1. But I feel like a month ago she was sleeping until 230/3. And now it's just getting less and less. And then she wakes up again at 420/5 ugh
I'm a little late to the swaddling party (still trying to catch up on a lot of these threads since LO is keeping me busier during the day), but DH and I did some research and decided to try the "Zipadee Zip" to help transition out of swaddling. It kind of looks like a flying squirrel outfit. LO has been getting out of even the tightest velcro swaddle since she discovered her hands. The zippadee zip lets them have freedom to move their hands (even suck on them through the blanket), but they still feel secure in them and their hands usually can't come up and hit their face. We should be getting ours next week. I'll update on how it's going if anyone cares.
Is any one else having issues sleeping unrelated to your LO not sleeping? I am having insomnia and worrying about it is making it worse. Anyone else dealing with something similar?
Yes I do too. It's hard. I try all kinds of relaxation methods, journaling, warm bath etc. I do have an approved med (even with BF) that I can use if it's really bad. I resisted taking anything due to EBF but my doctor reassured me it was ok to take & we have to sleep to care for LOs too & ourselves. I don't have to take it every night but having it on hand for those really tough nights help. What have you tried for your insomnia? So sorry you are going through this too but it can get better. Some nights are better than others for me but overall I've had an improvement. It helps me to think of just 1 hour at a time & relaxing rather than feeling pressure to sleep.
@ciennah99 may I ask What they gave you to sleep ? I'm going back to work on night shift and sleep terrible anyways......... I used to take Benadryl to nap but I hear it can affect supply.
@klkonwi I'm taking Trazadone when I need it & only taking 1/4 of a 50 mg pill but could take the whole pill if I needed to. I was on this for sleep problems prior to pregnancy though so I don't know if they would give it to everyone or not. I tried Benadryl too & that did affect my supply.
Side note. If I'm remembering right you're in Nebraska too right?
I fed LO last night before bed and he did not fall asleep as he usually does while eating. Decided to take a gamble and just put him down to see how he would do. He was able to suck his thumb/self-soothe to sleep for the first time! Woot woot!
PS I'm not at all against thumb sucking. Unlike a paci, it's always with baby and they learn to put it back in when it falls out. And I figure most everyone needs braces these days regardless so I've accepted that that will probablt be happening. Unpopular opinion?
I fed LO last night before bed and he did not fall asleep as he usually does while eating. Decided to take a gamble and just put him down to see how he would do. He was able to suck his thumb/self-soothe to sleep for the first time! Woot woot!
PS I'm not at all against thumb sucking. Unlike a paci, it's always with baby and they learn to put it back in when it falls out. And I figure most everyone needs braces these days regardless so I've accepted that that will probablt be happening. Unpopular opinion?
Not unpopular! We are dying for lo to fund her thumb, or really any way at all to self soothe since she rejected the paci. DH sucked his thumb until he was 6. He has horrible dental issues unrelated to thumb sucking that DD has a 50/50 shot of having anyway, so we don't think thumb sucking would mess anything up. I'm more concerned about breaking the habit before elementary school.
Of course since dh has been out of town this weekend my 7 hour stretches to start the night have dwindled to 5.5. It wasn't bad Friday night when the next two stretches were 3.5 and 2...but last night we had 5.5, 2, 1, 1, 1. I'm so tired. One more night alone. Ugh.
@delujm0 my DH is out of town & my little one did pretty much the same thing as yours last night. For better or worse I'm pretty sure she ended up sleeping in the bed with me from 3:30 on or was it 5:30? I couldn't tell you it all blended together. Didn't help I stayed up doing stuff around the house til 11:30 & her 1st wake up was 1:30. My DH gets back late tonight! So thankful for a day off to recover before the work week
@delujm0 my DH is out of town & my little one did pretty much the same thing as yours last night. For better or worse I'm pretty sure she ended up sleeping in the bed with me from 3:30 on or was it 5:30? I couldn't tell you it all blended together. Didn't help I stayed up doing stuff around the house til 11:30 & her 1st wake up was 1:30. My DH gets back late tonight! So thankful for a day off to recover before the work week
I was up late last night too. Fortunately I'm on maternity leave for one more week. If I had to go back to the office Tuesday I might not make it!
The past two nights my baby has slept through the night! From 9-5:30. Feed and then back to sleep for a couple more hours. It has been so wonderful and I hope he keeps it up! I thought it would never happen. Haven't been on the bump since I was pregnant. Reminds me of the old days, and I'm kind of missing it.
@klkonwi ugh I had to pick my on call shifts and it was basically impossible because I can only pick nights and I rotate. Good luck, lady! You'll do great!
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It took FOUR HOURS to get LO down for the night tonight. She wasn't even mad, just wide awake. And I had a failed bassinet transfer at the 3 hour mark that basically made me want to kill myself. When DH gets home tomorrow, I am throwing this baby at him until further notice. And now I'll go prepare some bottles for him as I happily anticipate his return.
Add me to the insomnia club. LO's cheeks were heartbreakingly cute during the 4.5 hour nursing session. Then I started thinking about Syria, a friend's comment that LO will be sitting up by Christmas, the fact that we still don't know which country we will be sent to in January... And my heart just swelled with this overwhelming feeling of all that LIFE can bring and do to you... And here I am, trying not to wake my guys with light from my tablet. Sigh.
To be honest, I don't really mind. I guess it's a bit like meditation, and alone time without guilt is so rare these days.
ETA: LOL, not a 4.5 hour nursing session. 4:30 nursing session. Sleep deprivation, yo!
Re: Nighttime sucks. That is all.
After decreasing intervals all week that came down to waking every hour, last night we were back up to 2.5 - 3 hour intervals of sleep. And importantly, he went back down very easily after feedings. And he woke smiling, not crying today.
Here's hoping for a good day, and that we (and you, too, soon) are over this awful hump.
ETA: on the verge of frustrated tears yesterday, I asked DH, "Do you think something's wrong? Or just... I guess he's just a baby?"
DH looked at me with a mix of sympathy and annoyance and said, "Yeah. I think he's just being a baby."
Then I yelled at him for "not being supportive." Lol, poor guy
Also did anyone notice an extremely clingy baby at 10 weeks? She will not let me put her down at all!!! Screams her brains out if I do and really only wants me to hold her no one else!!
Mark my words she will start rolling over and need her arms out right as the 4 month sleep regression hits.
It's funny what I do and don't adhere to, of all the "supposed to's". Ah well, instinct, right?
It's actually going great! He sleeps in one of those gowns and he seems so much more comfortable! Yeah he kicks his feet and moves his hands a lot, but I think he likes the freedom more. Glad that the swaddling is over because I was never good at it and DH always had to do it.
As an added bonus we are going camping for the next to nights so I pray to god everyone sleeps well. Usually the fresh air knocks them out so fingers crossed.
Side note. If I'm remembering right you're in Nebraska too right?
PS I'm not at all against thumb sucking. Unlike a paci, it's always with baby and they learn to put it back in when it falls out. And I figure most everyone needs braces these days regardless so I've accepted that that will probablt be happening. Unpopular opinion?
Of course since dh has been out of town this weekend my 7 hour stretches to start the night have dwindled to 5.5. It wasn't bad Friday night when the next two stretches were 3.5 and 2...but last night we had 5.5, 2, 1, 1, 1. I'm so tired. One more night alone. Ugh.
To be honest, I don't really mind. I guess it's a bit like meditation, and alone time without guilt is so rare these days.
ETA: LOL, not a 4.5 hour nursing session. 4:30 nursing session. Sleep deprivation, yo!