Funnily enough it's the other way round with us. DH wakes up with every little noise LO makes - it's why we had to move him to the nursery when DH went back to work. Whereas I'm more able to sleep through the small noises.
DH is at his dad's helping with house remodel while our house is a mess... Why can't he just say no when asked?? I'm supposed to be catching up from my week on duty 24/7
In the last few hours of my 3 day / 4 night stretch of being solo with LO. I'm just waiting for it to be late enough to begin the nighttime routine so LO and I can 'go to bed' so tomorrow can come and DH will come home and I can take some kind of break from being constant care provider. Ugh
last night DH came home angry and upset that i dont do "anything" around the apartment. (which yesterday i had worked on doing some dishes BEFORE i had gotten myself food) this morning i had to basically ask him to take the baby for a bit so i could get stuff together so i could go hang out at my parents/sister's place. then while he was dealing with LO he commented saying "he sure is fussy today" meanwhile earlier was actually only 1/3 of how fussy he usually is. then when he calmed down he said "see? it isnt so hard" he also commented when LO was about to sleep saying "look babe i calmed him down" and got angry when i said he usually gets like that after a while.
after getting ready and im about to leave with him LO starts making noises. DH says "oh buddy, go easy on her. she doesnt have as much patience as other people" that honestly hurt. if i wasnt about to leave i would have walked away and started crying. apparently he didnt mean for it to come out like that.. but with how he was last night and before that.. i feel like he did mean it.
ETA: not sure if he is being an ass because he is horny and im not doing anything for him in that regard. (like sorry i had a baby 26 days ago, i cant take my bra off without getting milk everywhere and just feel generally like shit about myself.)
@JessHeppell the taking your bra off and getting milk everywhere doesn't seem to get better. Squirted DH from across the room when he tried to get intimate and laughed myself into a coughing fit. No sex here.
Half rave? DH keeps asking to hold LO our just straight up taking him from me during the day. It's really sweet that he wants to spend time with him but when he takes him he follows it with, "Now you can clean/paint/unpack". Can I nap? Can that be an option...
I feel like I never have to write a rant, but here is my first one. My husband and I usually trade off who does the dream feed right before bed and the middle of the night feed. I always take the 7am feed since he usually has left before she wakes up. Today he has to wake up at 3am for work, so I'm doing all the feedings before bed, the middle of the night, and the morning feeds.
LO starts crying at 2:30 for food. I wake up and start getting the bottle ready. I come upstairs and DH is standing over her crib trying to soothe her. As soon as I get there he says good night again. Why can't you just give her this bottle? You're going to be up in a half hour anyway. It's not like you're going to get any rest before you have to get up again. But nope, he is asleep for the next half hour while I give her her bottle.
Oh, and he's probably just going to wake her again while he's getting ready so I'll have to get up again soon.
I think I'm starting to resent my DH... This is like my 3rd rant /: I feel like this is the only place I can vent.. The Sunday I thought I would be able to rest; I thought wrong..
This morning DH tells me last minute he has to work; comes home late from work, for the millionth time complains about how overwhelmed and tired he is... Leaves a trail of clothes from front door to bathroom like a freakin shedding snake, showers (must be nice.... I haven't been able to shower yet) then comes out of the bathroom complaining AGAIN. I try to hand our LO to him so he can spend time with her; he has the nerve to say " i need a minute" and continues to tell me oh his cousin is on the way here... Great now there's company coming. As soon as his cousin comes says "oh I need to pick up my dad so he can see the baby" (his parents lives 15 minutes away and are capable of driving soooo... This didn't make sense to me) him and cousin takes off at 830.... Comes back 3 hours later with a car full of people; DHs parents and cousins... I dare not ask why a 15 minute trip took 3 hours.... LO is finally asleep; DH's dad picks her and wakes her up... ARE YOU F-ing kidding me!!!?!! the house is full at midnight LO is fussy trying to sleep but the g-parents are keeping her up.. DH and cousins are making a huge mess of the kitchen... I'm slowly losing my sanity trying to make sense of what is happening and why these people are inconsiderate of the time..
What really irritates me is that DH brags to his parents what a great dad he is and how he spends so much time with the LO and so on; such BS because he only knows her little quirks because I tell him about it and he takes credit for it!? I'm home with her 7 days a week; on his off days he takes off to do what he pleases... Oh and that he reads to her every night; too bad once she starts to fuss he gets mad and automatically hands her to me and that's the end of story time... Ohh and it gets better; DH post on his Facebook page while he's at work "Can't wait to get home to spend time with my girls".. Really? Uhhhhhhgggggggg!!!!!! It makes me really sad that he portrays himself to others as this wonderful, thoughtful, considerate being.... Where is this mythical unicorn of DH of mine? Cause i sure don't see it!
It makes me really sad that he portrays himself to others as this wonderful, thoughtful, considerate being.... Where is this mythical unicorn of DH of mine? Cause i sure don't see it!
Don't get me wrong SO can be a fantastic dad, but ever now and then I have to think your not as great as you make yourself out to be. I think this is what upsets me the most as well.
You don't see all us mommas bragging about how good we are!!!
Re: DH/SO rants and raves 7/20-7/26
this morning i had to basically ask him to take the baby for a bit so i could get stuff together so i could go hang out at my parents/sister's place. then while he was dealing with LO he commented saying "he sure is fussy today" meanwhile earlier was actually only 1/3 of how fussy he usually is. then when he calmed down he said "see? it isnt so hard" he also commented when LO was about to sleep saying "look babe i calmed him down" and got angry when i said he usually gets like that after a while.
after getting ready and im about to leave with him LO starts making noises. DH says "oh buddy, go easy on her. she doesnt have as much patience as other people" that honestly hurt. if i wasnt about to leave i would have walked away and started crying. apparently he didnt mean for it to come out like that.. but with how he was last night and before that.. i feel like he did mean it.
ETA: not sure if he is being an ass because he is horny and im not doing anything for him in that regard. (like sorry i had a baby 26 days ago, i cant take my bra off without getting milk everywhere and just feel generally like shit about myself.)
Half rave? DH keeps asking to hold LO our just straight up taking him from me during the day. It's really sweet that he wants to spend time with him but when he takes him he follows it with, "Now you can clean/paint/unpack". Can I nap? Can that be an option...
LO starts crying at 2:30 for food. I wake up and start getting the bottle ready. I come upstairs and DH is standing over her crib trying to soothe her. As soon as I get there he says good night again. Why can't you just give her this bottle? You're going to be up in a half hour anyway. It's not like you're going to get any rest before you have to get up again. But nope, he is asleep for the next half hour while I give her her bottle.
Oh, and he's probably just going to wake her again while he's getting ready so I'll have to get up again soon.
The Sunday I thought I would be able to rest; I thought wrong..
This morning DH tells me last minute he has to work; comes home late from work, for the millionth time complains about how overwhelmed and tired he is... Leaves a trail of clothes from front door to bathroom like a freakin shedding snake, showers (must be nice.... I haven't been able to shower yet) then comes out of the bathroom complaining AGAIN. I try to hand our LO to him so he can spend time with her; he has the nerve to say " i need a minute" and continues to tell me oh his cousin is on the way here... Great now there's company coming. As soon as his cousin comes says "oh I need to pick up my dad so he can see the baby" (his parents lives 15 minutes away and are capable of driving soooo... This didn't make sense to me) him and cousin takes off at 830.... Comes back 3 hours later with a car full of people; DHs parents and cousins... I dare not ask why a 15 minute trip took 3 hours.... LO is finally asleep; DH's dad picks her and wakes her up... ARE YOU F-ing kidding me!!!?!! the house is full at midnight LO is fussy trying to sleep but the g-parents are keeping her up.. DH and cousins are making a huge mess of the kitchen... I'm slowly losing my sanity trying to make sense of what is happening and why these people are inconsiderate of the time..
What really irritates me is that DH brags to his parents what a great dad he is and how he spends so much time with the LO and so on; such BS because he only knows her little quirks because I tell him about it and he takes credit for it!? I'm home with her 7 days a week; on his off days he takes off to do what he pleases... Oh and that he reads to her every night; too bad once she starts to fuss he gets mad and automatically hands her to me and that's the end of story time... Ohh and it gets better; DH post on his Facebook page while he's at work "Can't wait to get home to spend time with my girls".. Really? Uhhhhhhgggggggg!!!!!! It makes me really sad that he portrays himself to others as this wonderful, thoughtful, considerate being.... Where is this mythical unicorn of DH of mine? Cause i sure don't see it!
You don't see all us mommas bragging about how good we are!!!