LO is 9 weeks now and stil struggling with guilt. I sometimes still find myself wishing I weren't so stupid to have unprotected sex & get accidentally pregnant at 18. I feel like an awful mom and person, but I miss my old life so bad... I just want to be able to be a young adult staying out too late and enjoying my freedom. As soon as I got it I lost it. I don't know how to make the feeling go away. :-<
@kkdb14 ooh, that's tough. I have no words of wisdom for you, tho maybe it will help you to know - I'm almost 20 years down the road from 18, and I found that the older I got, the better it (life in general, but also speaking towards having fun, etc) got. 30s may not sound like prime partying age to an 18 year old, but that was when I partied the most and hardest. By the time you get there, your LO will be old enough you'll be able to still actually do that stuff.
I also feel like I checked out of the game in my prime, lol. So, I guess the consolation is the feeling is the same, no matter how old you are.
LO is 9 weeks now and stil struggling with guilt. I sometimes still find myself wishing I weren't so stupid to have unprotected sex & get accidentally pregnant at 18. I feel like an awful mom and person, but I miss my old life so bad... I just want to be able to be a young adult staying out too late and enjoying my freedom. As soon as I got it I lost it. I don't know how to make the feeling go away. :-<
I was 19 with DD. I wasn't ready and I know that now. It was hard and I made a few mistakes but it was worth it and I love her to the moon and always have. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you start to feel overwhelmed. Its ok to go out sometimes and have you time. Don't feel guilty and don't dwell on what you can't do. Enjoy your baby time and have mommy time set aside to keep your sanity. Even at 24 I fell like I need a late night out with hubby ASAP. I'm dying to have my favorite beer at my favorite bar and listen to DH sing a ridiculous country song at karaoke.
ETA to add that your a good mom just for recognizing those feelings!!
@kkdb14 Both of my kids were planned in my 30s and I still miss being kidless sometimes. You miss late nights and I miss expensive dinners and international travel. It is OK. With kids, you will lose something and it's easy to miss what you are gaining when you're sleep deprived and dealing with a screaming baby. Like pp said, take time for yourself. You are doing great - this mom gig is tough.
I was 19 when I had my first.. That was 9 years ago, I did miss going out a lot too, but it's all worth it in the end, get a babysitter once a week and have you time
I just booked myself to travel alone with LO at 7 weeks. Aaaand on the flight there I'm flying 2 provinces PAST and then going back on a connecting flight. Eeep! So excited but terrified!
Welp. Things just got a little awkward at my parents. I was with my dad and went to the other room to bf. I was looking something up for him on my phone. I got so into looking and forgot I was breastfeeding so proceeded to call him over when I found something. As he walked in, LO let go of the boob. I didn't think twice about it and just stuck it back in LO's mouth but then I remembered my dad was in the room and looked at him embarrassed only to see him talking but looking completely the other way. Sorry for the boob show, dad :-S
Heading to airport hotel now, to fly back Stateside tomorrow, woot woot!! (And boooo, sad to leave Germany.) Fingers crossed for angel baby on the flights tomorrow!
Good grief! I'm finding that week 7 is a hot mess of nap fighting for my LO. Unhappy all afternoon and will NOT be put down. It's sad when you'd rather be cleaning out your closet. Someone come hold my baby %-(
Aren't weeks 6-8 known for growth spurts/wonder weeks?
Good grief! I'm finding that week 7 is a hot mess of nap fighting for my LO. Unhappy all afternoon and will NOT be put down. It's sad when you'd rather be cleaning out your closet. Someone come hold my baby %-(
Aren't weeks 6-8 known for growth spurts/wonder weeks?
@swaugh14 LO is 8 weeks today and leaping hardcore. Won't nap, clingy, eating all the time but then fighting the boob...at least it means she's developing!
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
Can my kid jump on this cranky train even tho he is only 4 weeks? Wants to eat constantly, he won't even go long enough between feedings to let the boobs refill!
@virginiaunicorn11 I sure don't envy you a flight from Germany! Hope your guy is an angel. I will be thinking of you on my shorter flight this upcoming friday, and reminding myself if you can make that trip then I can make this one!
I'm a little sad today because I barely know my kid. I feel like she's so random and inconsistent. when my mom asked me something I said "I don't know, what do you think?" And she says "she's your daughter" I felt so bad/guilty for not knowing her better. We play every day by ear and I follow her lead- which is different every time. Or maybe I don't pay close enough attention. Either way, I feel sucky.
I kind of feel the same way! It seems like so many people here know when their babes usually sleep and eat, etc, and I'm just like.... It changes? Maybe that comes from him only being 3 weeks but I definitely get the feeling bad for not knowing him better.
Don't stress I was the same! Then all of a sudden everything just clicks Good luck !
Has anyone purchased an item for l/o and was so excited to use it only to find that l/o hates it? So disappointing ( Every time I put l/o in her mamaroo she screams bloody murder until you pick her back up. It's so frustrating not having a place to put her down in the living room. I've tried to let her cry for awhile, but it never gets better.
@virginiaunicorn11 safe travels! Not sure if you got on that plane at this point but I'm wishing you and the LO well. Hope things go smoothly and that you're not too jet lagged!
@dancegurl1118 Glad to know I'm not the only one! I've been thinking of returning it. My plan tomorrow is to remove the newborn insert and adjust the angle. If that doesn't work it's going back! D/H will be thrilled to have that $$ back in the account. Ha!
@alcrimmins@dancegurl1118 its funny y'all should mention your swing products and your LO hating them. My LO doesn't *hate* his swing, but I was just thinking yesterday how I have no products in the house that work that magic that some of you ladies describe - where the kid will fuss but once you put them in they are happy, or will always go to sleep in no time... I have nothing that does any of that. If he is already asleep or on the brink, he will sleep in his swing / rocker no problem. But there is nothing in this house he loves enough to be indispoable for soothing or sleeping. Kinda sucks, actually, lol
Mine HATED the swing at first. Asleep, awake, she screamed. Then at 5 weeks I tried it & now during the day, after awake time, she gets fussy unless I put her in it. She loves the bears mobile. She swings for about 10 min awake & naps like a champ.
The only two things to magically put l/o to sleep or content are my arms and the ergo. I love the ergo, but I still find it hard to do stuff for fear of her falling out when I bend over. I know it won't happen unless I attempt a handstand, just a fear! Lol
My auto rock n play shit the bed today. After like a month of sporadic use. So pissed off.
Seriously. This happened to us too. I was pissed. We contacted Fischer Price and got two options: they could send us a replacement motor or we could send them the the spindles (at their cost) and they would send us a check for the $80. We chose the latter.
The company I ordered my pump through contacted me to let me know my insurance covered a full set of replacement pump parts. Something to look into. It's awesome having a second set!
I'm so tired of having a colicky baby. I can count on one hand how many good days we've had in 6 weeks. Today she won't sleep for more than 45 min no matter what I do. I hate BF-ing. I feel like a prisoner. Does anyone want a gently used baby?
Nothing works magically for my baby either. He'll fall asleep in the swing or the rock n play when they're on, but I must stand there making sure the paci stays in his mouth.
Has anyone purchased an item for l/o and was so excited to use it only to find that l/o hates it? So disappointing ( Every time I put l/o in her mamaroo she screams bloody murder until you pick her back up. It's so frustrating not having a place to put her down in the living room. I've tried to let her cry for awhile, but it never gets better.
Mine only likes the mamaroo when it's off. It's a great (expensive) napping spot lol. I have several friends say it took a while for their babies to love it. I bought a cheap fisher price vibrating/bouncy seat for our room so I can get dressed and he loves it! Another item that I thought was neat was the boon collapsible tub. Awful!! The thing won't stay in the proper position and it fell and my little guys head hit the bottom. I was not happy. Babies r us said they'd refund my money. I bought a cheap infant tub and it's great.
Re: Randoms!
I also feel like I checked out of the game in my prime, lol. So, I guess the consolation is the feeling is the same, no matter how old you are.
ETA to add that your a good mom just for recognizing those feelings!!
Have a good few days, ladies and LOs!
Aren't weeks 6-8 known for growth spurts/wonder weeks?
ETA Safe travels @virginiaunicorn11!
@dancegurl1118 Not that I'm glad your LO has been difficult, but I'm glad to know its normal. It's hard work being a baby (and a mommy)!
Can my kid jump on this cranky train even tho he is only 4 weeks? Wants to eat constantly, he won't even go long enough between feedings to let the boobs refill!
Just knows what he wants when he wants it! Lol
The company I ordered my pump through contacted me to let me know my insurance covered a full set of replacement pump parts. Something to look into. It's awesome having a second set!
Another item that I thought was neat was the boon collapsible tub. Awful!! The thing won't stay in the proper position and it fell and my little guys head hit the bottom. I was not happy. Babies r us said they'd refund my money. I bought a cheap infant tub and it's great.