FFMC: DH and I never exchange gifts for Christmas, birthdays, anniversary, etc. and I'm very ok with this. Purchasing gifts for an occasion is such a hassle for me. We may actually make an effort this christmas because DS asked last year where our presents were.
I've tried to push my DH to do this but he insists he likes to get me gifts. 8-| I don't believe him.
Re: gifts oy you ladies get it!!! Yes my H is the same and has no forethought in that area. I wrap up and give my H practcical things, but he doesn't know about them. Maybe he hates it, who knows. Well one year I complained because my stocking had nothing fun in it - no candy no little favorite thing (lip balm, lotion). The next year, I kid you not all that was in my stocking was 2 pounds of mini Reese's candy. And a small token gift in the bottom. But I was so happy! haha it's the little things!
I think the bottom line is that we just want someone to think of us the way we go out of our way to think of others.
Every year, I fill my own stocking. Because DH never does it. Ever. Sigh. He used to be such a thoughtful gift-giver!
My Dh is thoughtful but doesn't think about filling my stocking. I fill it myself.
Confession: I hang stockings every year but don't put anything in any of them. Maybe when DD is older.
B started "visiting" the Toddler room today. Does this mean I have to get 4 holiday presents for his teachers?
Also don't kill me if this has been discussed before but any chance we can unpin the two posts about social groups? That would keep more current threads on the first page. @asmallwonder
@notquiteblushing you can dismiss the social group thread yourself. You have to be on a computer to do so though. Should be a little down arrow that you hover over, or something next to the star, I can't remember exactly. Hope that helps you a little bit though
7 pages?! I'm just going to take a moment to complain that B's daycare just called and said he has a fever. M and I just got discharged this afternoon. here's to hoping it's just a molar.
Holy spam today!!! Re: hitting/time out (from like 3 pages ago)- b sometimes hits out of frustration or sometimes play hits his sister. We give him "time out" for both- basically make him sit on the couch in the other room. Sometimes I sit with him and it is only for about a minute so he can reset.
Re: weight estimations- the doc was way off for both B and N. If I ever have another, I will request they don't tell me anything.
@NaChelleBeck - sorry to hear about the surgery. Fingers crossed for a quick recovery.
Nora successfully took a bottle today from the babysitter!! Our sitter said she took it like a pro- and if she hadn't known better, she would have thought N never had an issue with a bottle!! This was the 7th kind of bottle that we tried- I am so thankful we finally have some success!!
HAHAHA That's not even her, it's Mikaela Shiffrin. Baby Mama #3 is probably pissed.
This just made my day! I will be giggling about the rant she is probably emailing US weekly for the rest of the afternoon!
I am just cracking up thinking about how the photo selection process went. Some editor had to pull up photos from their paid galleries and select one, and they saw that and thought, "Well this is a nice picture of them, they look so down to earth and happy!"
I don't know how my boss kept her last secretary around for as long as she did. There were stacks of invoices from June that hadn't been filed yet...and stacks of cases that needed to be closed and filed away. I have a lot of work to do to get that office caught up.
I really hope thebump.com isn't blocked at work. It was so hard to keep up with you guys today! I'll be in the office by myself in the morning so I'll need some distractions! Lol
Hey @WorkinIt it is any day now!!! Eeek. I just finished packing my hospital bag and it's going in the burban in the morning. 39 weeks tom. I'm dreading my appt because my dr won't let me get out of an internal exam tom. She wants a baseline for me for when I actually go I to labor. I seriously can not believe I'm at the end of this pregnancy already! It has freaking flown by!
@classictwitch it was fun, no blindfold or wildcat growling involved. Grapefruit was on sale and we got a lot of mileage making jokes about it so I figured what the hell? Multiple towels needed or else you get a grapefruit juice wet spot. The actual event was pretty, um, quick.
@notquiteblushing Yeah unfortunately, I can't remove stuff bump admins post :-/ So we're all forced to just dismiss them. I'd done it a long time ago so I didn't even realize they still were showing up for some folks.
In case anyone was wondering.... The membrane stripping did absolutely nothing for my sister. She is still pregnant and showing no signs of labor starting.
@heelibrarian - as scrooge-y as it sounds- does she send anything for your kiddos? If she doesn't I think you are off the hook. But if you still feel like you NEED to - I think gift cards/check is totally fine.
Whelp. B still has a fever and is whiny and lethargic. his teachers at daycare felt really bad about sending him home sick. I feel bad because we have to isolate him from M and he doesn't get it. He offered her the pacifier he was chewing on. It was really sweet.
Ugh, this stomach virus keeps plaguing poor E. He ate normally yesterday but woke up at 5:30am with a nasty diaper, screaming his head off, and wouldn't go back to sleep.
His 18 mo appointment is at 11am -- when I usually put him down for a nap. (When I scheduled it he took naps at 1pm). It's going to be a rough doctor's visit...
Can you call them and see if you can come in another time today?
WWJ13 do? My SIL has 3 kids now (one hers, two stepkids) that we have only seen in person like 3 times. I send birthday gifts and Christmas, too-- I just guess at what they like because she's terrible about getting in touch with me. They also never even acknowledge getting any of those gifts. I don't expect thank you notes (I'm horrible about it, too), but at least send me a text to let me know you got the stuff??
Sooooo can I just send cash this year instead of expending energy on picking things they don't care about? I imagine my plight is not unusual. I don't want to be scroogy but the budget is tight and I'm almost to the point of asking if we can just do birthdays instead of Christmas too.
This is when I would send a family gift like a gift card to a theater near them or a fandango gift card for $50. I'm not sure where they live but that should be enough for 5 people to go to the movies in most places.
Let's play everyone's favorite game....
What's that vanity plate???
Today's contestant:
RDY1DNUP
-- all I see is 1D. As in One Direction. Ready for a 1D prenup?
Ready 1 down up or Ready wound up? Yeah, neither makes sense....
@mcbush That sounds like what P's symptoms were for his ear infection. We caught it at the beginning so he didn't get too bad. He'd never had one before.
@heelibrarian Is this your husbands sister? You said step-kids. Do they have full custody of them? If They don't, I wouldn't buy them anything. Especially if they hadn't acknowledged past gifts. But the family gift idea is nice.
Grayson had me up at 3:30 this morning. He's getting sick again. He had a runny nose last night and woke up coughing this morning. I am a zombie today but at least I'm the only one in the office right now. And bumping from a computer is so weird....
DH is in an interview right now. This would be a big career jump for him and he feels confident that he could easily transition into the job. I am proud of him for making it to the final stage of the interviewing process
This job would require us to move across the state, near my ILs. Currently we live 30 min from my family and they watch DS on the days I work. I work part-time at a job that is too stressful and demanding for a part-time position. I don't get paid nearly enough for the hours and effort I put in. I am overloaded with projects and right now do not have any job satisfaction. DH does not make enough $$$ at his current position for me to quit, so I keep plugging away. I would be happy to leave my position but am not keen on moving and uprooting our family. His new position may allow me to stay at home or at least take a career break.
I think I feel more nervous than DH right now. It's the uncertainty and major life changes that are weighing on my mind. I have never been good at adapting to big changes.
My family's perspective is always "What's meant to be, will be."
@subliminalrabbit I think you may have been in a similar situation recently. Any words of wisdom?
Done at my dr appt. Jameson helped get me out of an internal exam. Boy is pissed off at the world today.
Also sister update: supposedly she has been having contractions for the last 3 hours every 2-3 mins but they are only lasting for about 20-25 seconds so her drs don't want her coming in. My mom asked if I wanted updates since it's during the day, I told her no. I feel like I should care because I'm her sister and I'm going to be an aunt but im still pissed off and frankly I don't give a shit.
Thanks @WorkinIt it is hurtful and there is even more behind the scenes crap that I haven't shared with y'all. If I did it literally would be a novel! I really want to go do some retail therapy but it's not in the budget right now so I'm going to sit at home and hope the day gets better. Pity party for one happening right now.
@subliminalrabbit Thank you for the thought-provoking questions and advice!
I LOVE my days at home with DS. I have enjoyed working just 2 days/week and would possibly like to continue that. My MIL offered to watch DS if I want to find another part-time job. We would have to live close enough to them for that to work out. That area would also mean a 45 min-1 hr commute for DH. Yes, I love my ILs but would be heartbroken to leave my family.
If DH gets an offer I think he will first try to make a deal with his current employer. If that doesn't pan out, then we will weigh all options. I'm trying to be patient and not stress over this now. I have too much on my plate anyways.
@Michelin82 We live in the Harrisburg area now. The position would be in downtown Pittsburgh. DH grew up on the East side of Pittsburgh. Yay for a Bumpie and fellow Nittany Lion in that area!
I will post an update when DH is done with his morning of interviews.
@riansmommie I'm so sorry that your mom and sister have hurt you. Really really sorry.
So please take this in as loving a way as possible. I've been there -- with family hurting you very deeply. And my advice, if you want to come out the other side with relationships intact, is to be the bigger person right now. It would be hard and I know you don't want to, given how they've treated you recently, but it might be best for the whole family to suck it up and show them love even though they haven't shown you the same. When they get their act together (if they get their act together) you can say, I always treated you with love. Your kids and your sisters kids can hopefully have a relationship (and that will be hard, even if you don't want to think about it, if you cut ties now by treating them the way they have you). It's just really really hard to come back from something like this, and it's much easier if one side stays the "good" side and shows the other side they care no matter what.
I don't know the complete, full, back story. But I know that, when family members decide to turn around and make amends, it's really hard to mend what had been broken. But it's a LOT easier if one side continued to show love and care even when the difficult side didn't. And mainly for the kiddos -- your niece/nephew will be your niece/nephew no matter what, and will be your kids cousin no matter what, and is completely innocent in the whole ordeal. Maybe focus your energy on him/her (sorry, I forget if you've already said if it's a boy or girl). Maybe if you can't get yourself to care enough about your sister, you can let them know you want updates on the baby and you want to visit the baby and you want to know the baby is doing well.
All said in love and with the knowledge that I don't really know what your family is like. I just know what my family has gone through and how everyone is trying to patch things up now and how hard it can be.
Thank you @numbersgirl08 I know I should step up and be the bigger person, but I've been doing it for so long that this whole situation seems to be the one that broke the camels back. I've been dealing with major issues with my mom/sister since I was 11/12, so over 15 years now. I'm always the one who carries the weight of the problems and sucks it up to make the situation better, it's too much now though. I'm beyond over carrying the burden of my family issues.
I did text my mom and let her know she can tell me if they admit my sister when she goes to the hospital but I don't want a play by play of the whole thing.
Over all it's a big struggle for me to show excitement and be happy when all I've gotten is the shaft from them.
@subliminalrabbit Thank you for the thought-provoking questions and advice!
I LOVE my days at home with DS. I have enjoyed working just 2 days/week and would possibly like to continue that. My MIL offered to watch DS if I want to find another part-time job. We would have to live close enough to them for that to work out. That area would also mean a 45 min-1 hr commute for DH. Yes, I love my ILs but would be heartbroken to leave my family.
If DH gets an offer I think he will first try to make a deal with his current employer. If that doesn't pan out, then we will weigh all options. I'm trying to be patient and not stress over this now. I have too much on my plate anyways.
@Michelin82 We live in the Harrisburg area now. The position would be in downtown Pittsburgh. DH grew up on the East side of Pittsburgh. Yay for a Bumpie and fellow Nittany Lion in that area!
I will post an update when DH is done with his morning of interviews.
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B started "visiting" the Toddler room today. Does this mean I have to get 4 holiday presents for his teachers?
Also don't kill me if this has been discussed before but any chance we can unpin the two posts about social groups? That would keep more current threads on the first page. @asmallwonder
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Re: hitting/time out (from like 3 pages ago)- b sometimes hits out of frustration or sometimes play hits his sister. We give him "time out" for both- basically make him sit on the couch in the other room. Sometimes I sit with him and it is only for about a minute so he can reset.
Re: weight estimations- the doc was way off for both B and N. If I ever have another, I will request they don't tell me anything.
@NaChelleBeck - sorry to hear about the surgery. Fingers crossed for a quick recovery.
Nora successfully took a bottle today from the babysitter!! Our sitter said she took it like a pro- and if she hadn't known better, she would have thought N never had an issue with a bottle!! This was the 7th kind of bottle that we tried- I am so thankful we finally have some success!!
But I survived!!
Thank you @notquiteblushing and @vitafelix for posting about it (in the UO thread last Thursday @lioness13 )
I almost copied and pasted the link into the bad B's favorite recipes thread.
Whelp. B still has a fever and is whiny and lethargic.
Can you call them and see if you can come in another time today?
This job would require us to move across the state, near my ILs. Currently we live 30 min from my family and they watch DS on the days I work. I work part-time at a job that is too stressful and demanding for a part-time position. I don't get paid nearly enough for the hours and effort I put in. I am overloaded with projects and right now do not have any job satisfaction. DH does not make enough $$$ at his current position for me to quit, so I keep plugging away. I would be happy to leave my position but am not keen on moving and uprooting our family. His new position may allow me to stay at home or at least take a career break.
I think I feel more nervous than DH right now. It's the uncertainty and major life changes that are weighing on my mind. I have never been good at adapting to big changes.
My family's perspective is always "What's meant to be, will be."
@subliminalrabbit I think you may have been in a similar situation recently. Any words of wisdom?
Also sister update: supposedly she has been having contractions for the last 3 hours every 2-3 mins but they are only lasting for about 20-25 seconds so her drs don't want her coming in. My mom asked if I wanted updates since it's during the day, I told her no. I feel like I should care because I'm her sister and I'm going to be an aunt but im still pissed off and frankly I don't give a shit.
I LOVE my days at home with DS. I have enjoyed working just 2 days/week and would possibly like to continue that. My MIL offered to watch DS if I want to find another part-time job. We would have to live close enough to them for that to work out. That area would also mean a 45 min-1 hr commute for DH. Yes, I love my ILs but would be heartbroken to leave my family.
If DH gets an offer I think he will first try to make a deal with his current employer. If that doesn't pan out, then we will weigh all options. I'm trying to be patient and not stress over this now. I have too much on my plate anyways.
@Michelin82 We live in the Harrisburg area now. The position would be in downtown Pittsburgh. DH grew up on the East side of Pittsburgh. Yay for a Bumpie and fellow Nittany Lion in that area!
I will post an update when DH is done with his morning of interviews.
I did text my mom and let her know she can tell me if they admit my sister when she goes to the hospital but I don't want a play by play of the whole thing.
Over all it's a big struggle for me to show excitement and be happy when all I've gotten is the shaft from them.
@steamboat123 It would be a 3.5 hr drive which, in reality, isn't that bad.