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WasNotWas

ilovemarfa said:

My husband isn't excited about reconnecting. His friend texted him and was excited to make plans. My husband is very non confrontational and told me to deal with it because he doesn't have time??? Wtf. Me being as nosy as I am, I've done some research on both of them and their careers. They obviously have stage names and they even have twitter accounts with their stage names and they have like tens of thousands of followers! I'm assuming they must get recognized in public. He seems much more famous now than she.

"well since you are so busy and don't have time, I wouldn't dare add a dinner to your schedule, go ahead and let me know when you are available and I will be happy to make arrangements, otherwise politely decline, when you have time" would be my response...

momofcatan

One of my friends joined CSFTL after I mentioned it. She just texted me very upset after reading everything about how baby's need their own seat on a plane. She was planning on flying with her baby for a friends wedding in December, but doesn't have the money to pay for a second seat. She can't leave the baby so is thinking she's probably going to skip the wedding now. I feel bad because I don't know what to tell her. I honestly believe a seat for the baby is best so I have no advice.

nikel13

Mommycoffee said:

Won't is such a strange word.

Don't is as well.

itsStackie

Sorry @Michelin82.  I know what you mean though, we have a similar issue that I have to tiptoe around as the problem is not getting fixed and our efforts didn't help in the past.  I hope it gets better for you!

ColieAnn31

Finally caught up on this thread! Been at work since 8 and it's been busy. Happy anniversary @kari5186‌ !!

Cricket81

How can 2 apps that are supposed to do the same thing be so freaking different!

GraceInCA

ilovemarfa said:

A few years ago we discovered that one of my husband's best childhood friends married a very famous transsexual porn star. His parents are friends with my husband's parents as they live in the same neighborhood still. Apparently his parents never even knew his wife was really a man who had a sex change until recently. We have kept our distance from him because he then got into the porn industry and does gay porn. Apparently he's very famous too. It's crazy because they live their life as husband and wife and they really act "normal". Nobody would know that they were porn stars unless they were told. His wife looks amazing for being a former man. She also has a part time day job at a makeup counter as they hide their porn careers from other people. They have an enormous house here where we live as well as houses in Toronto and Los Angeles. Apparently the porn industry pays well. At any rate, this morning I ran into them at the grocery store. They invited my husband and I out to dinner. I feel bad but they really aren't the type of people we want to be associating with. If you want to star in porn, that's your business but we really don't want porn star friends. My husband said he also texted him right after he ran into me and was all excited about getting together. I don't know what to do. Do we suck it up and go out with them and just never talk to them again or do we just make excuses. I doubly feel bad because his parents and most of his friends disowned him once they found out about his wife and his career in porn. Sorry for the long crazy story but I don't know what to do about it.

I know two porn stars, and one of them is a very good friend that I adore. My kids even like her. They don't know or care what she does for a living, although at some point I'm sure we will tell them. 

I don't understand why you'd judge them for that. It's not like they're going to strip naked during dinner and start filming a scene in the middle of the restaurant.  If people are disowning them, then all the more reason to embrace them and make them feel welcomed and cared for. I guess I just don't understand why you'd judge someone for something like that.

GraceInCA

steamboat123 said:

I received $150 dollar "bonus" it is an Amex GC so not easily put into savings. Should I buy clothing or a Fitbit? I tend to just save GC and never spend them, which is dumb.

I do the same thing.  I have a Pottery Barn gift card in my vanity drawer from 2009. Oops.

GraceInCA

steamboat123 said:

steamboat123 said:

I received $150 dollar "bonus" it is an Amex GC so not easily put into savings. Should I buy clothing or a Fitbit? I tend to just save GC and never spend them, which is dumb.

I do the same thing.  I have a Pottery Barn gift card in my vanity drawer from 2009. Oops.

I found one to the sharper image recently. Do they even exist still?

The stores closed, but I'm not sure about whether they still have an online presence or something.

ilovemarfa

@GraceInCA‌ I'm sure they are nice people. I don't know her very well but he went to college with me and was good friends with my college boyfriend so I know he is nice. I just don't know what we would have in common with them. I'm afraid that it will be awkward carrying on a conversation with them Because what is there to talk about? We can't bring up his family because of them shutting him out. We can't really talk about work because I'm sure he doesn't want to talk about his porn shoots nor do I care to hear about it. They don't have kids. When dh comes home I'm sure we will talk about what he wants to do.

GraceInCA

ilovemarfa said:

@GraceInCA‌ I'm sure they are nice people. I don't know her very well but he went to college with me and was good friends with my college boyfriend so I know he is nice. I just don't know what we would have in common with them. I'm afraid that it will be awkward carrying on a conversation with them Because what is there to talk about? We can't bring up his family because of them shutting him out. We can't really talk about work because I'm sure he doesn't want to talk about his porn shoots nor do I care to hear about it. They don't have kids. When dh comes home I'm sure we will talk about what he wants to do.

Not to sounds more judgy, but that sounds like a thin excuse. I have childless, single friends whose jobs and lifestyles are nothing like mine. We still love to get together and we talk about life experiences, travels, pop culture, movies, musics, food, all kinds of great stuff. We reminisce about old times.  How boring would life be if we only surrounded ourselves with people just like us?

GraceInCA

But in the end, if you're not going to be comfortable, you shouldn't go. I think I'm just suggesting that it's better to keep an open mind about them.

lioness13

kari5186 said:

I don't think I could have dinner with porn stars. I'm sure they are nice people, but I'd be very uncomfortable the entire time. I'm kind of disappointed in myself for admitting that, but it's the truth.

I would only be uncomfortable if I actually saw the porn.

lioness13

@ilovemarfa - My vote is that you go to dinner and with them and then tell us all about it.

nikel13

Let me preface this by pointing out that I work in the Administration suite in this college.  No one is here but me.  They all (and I mean ALL) changed into jeans and tennis shoes and left about an hour ago.  I should probably do work, but I'm getting my plans for Lily's Halloween costume solidified and an thinking about reading a little.  

lioness13

GraceInCA said:

steamboat123 said:

I received $150 dollar "bonus" it is an Amex GC so not easily put into savings. Should I buy clothing or a Fitbit? I tend to just save GC and never spend them, which is dumb.

I do the same thing.  I have a Pottery Barn gift card in my vanity drawer from 2009. Oops.

Some Coinstar machines let you cash out gift cards.I'm sure they take a portion but it might be worth it for something you won't use.

When I get a gift card and its a small amount or a small leftover amount, I add it to my amazon.com account as a credit card. Then I apply it toward my purchase when I purchase books or other items. I shop on amazon a lot.

lioness13

@ilovemarfa -  Talk about wine, coffee, sleeping and Mondays. Everybody hates Mondays, even porn stars. LOL  Seriously, if you and your DH can't go it will be okay.

ColieAnn31

GraceInCA said:

ilovemarfa said:

A few years ago we discovered that one of my husband's best childhood friends married a very famous transsexual porn star. His parents are friends with my husband's parents as they live in the same neighborhood still. Apparently his parents never even knew his wife was really a man who had a sex change until recently. We have kept our distance from him because he then got into the porn industry and does gay porn. Apparently he's very famous too. It's crazy because they live their life as husband and wife and they really act "normal". Nobody would know that they were porn stars unless they were told. His wife looks amazing for being a former man. She also has a part time day job at a makeup counter as they hide their porn careers from other people. They have an enormous house here where we live as well as houses in Toronto and Los Angeles. Apparently the porn industry pays well. At any rate, this morning I ran into them at the grocery store. They invited my husband and I out to dinner. I feel bad but they really aren't the type of people we want to be associating with. If you want to star in porn, that's your business but we really don't want porn star friends. My husband said he also texted him right after he ran into me and was all excited about getting together. I don't know what to do. Do we suck it up and go out with them and just never talk to them again or do we just make excuses. I doubly feel bad because his parents and most of his friends disowned him once they found out about his wife and his career in porn. Sorry for the long crazy story but I don't know what to do about it.

I know two porn stars, and one of them is a very good friend that I adore. My kids even like her. They don't know or care what she does for a living, although at some point I'm sure we will tell them. 

I don't understand why you'd judge them for that. It's not like they're going to strip naked during dinner and start filming a scene in the middle of the restaurant.  If people are disowning them, then all the more reason to embrace them and make them feel welcomed and cared for. I guess I just don't understand why you'd judge someone for something like that.

Thank you! I knew that I would come off as a bitch if I said anything. You said it perfectly.

needanustart

mcbush said:

steamboat123 said:

I think it would be kind of fun to go out with porn stars. Is it my thing no, but I love new experiences.

+1.

+2. I'm fascinated. I'd honestly ask them questions about work.

nikel13

Michelin82 said:

bekahlulu said:

@34blondie‌ no camera?? Id NEED to watch. Lol

LOL nope. Never had one.

I'm in the same way, I need to be able to see her. Also on my monitor I have a talk button, so if she sits up I can talk to her over the monitor and ask her to lay down without having to go in. Makes life easier for me.

I'm obsessed with my video monitor and also love the talk button!!

I'm a mean mom and like to mess with Lily with the talk button!

ilovemarfa

@calikat80‌ I'll set up the dinner for the next time you are in buffalo. Ask away! Lol

riansmommie

Ugh the lawn service I used last time my hubby was deployed is no longer in business so I've been getting quotes from other companies. Only problem is they are quoting me anywhere between 25-40 more dollars for each time they come and I can't justify it in my head. So what am I doing, yeppers, being stubborn and mowing our almost acre of property with a push mower on my own. Hopefully I'll have found a more reasonable quote by the next time the lawn needs a mow. If I wasn't pregnant I wouldn't mind doing it but the activity makes my Braxton hicks horrible and then I'm miserable.

riansmommie

@wren1212‌ I'm gonna ask my neighbor across the street, I know they could use the money, I just feel bad because my yard is a pain to mow. It's so bumpy and uneven.

Lizzybizzy80

I somehow skipped most of a page of spam and was so confused as to when we started talking about porn stars

Lizzybizzy80

My phone thought I wanted to type poem stars, how cute.

lioness13

riansmommie said:

@wren1212‌ I'm gonna ask my neighbor across the street, I know they could use the money, I just feel bad because my yard is a pain to mow. It's so bumpy and uneven.

Please take care of yourself and your baby and let someone else worry about the lawn!

riansmommie

As I waddled my happy ass across the street to my neighbors they asked if they could mow for me before I could say anything. So my neighbors will be doing it and I'm glad the money is going to someone who I know could really use it.

lioness13

I don't think I have ever used the talk feature on my video monitor. Hmmm....

TheTamedShrew

lioness13 said:

@ilovemarfa - My vote is that you go to dinner and with them and then tell us all about it.

You crack me up, Lioness

TheTamedShrew

Also, I'll be playing Curley's Wife in "Of Mice and Men" at our local theater. Yeeeeeeeeee!

needanustart

So we had a leftover roasted chicken that I was going to pick apart and use the pieces for broccoli chicken curry tonight for dinner. Turns out there was only a teeny but if near left, so I microwaved and cut up a bunch of dinosaur chicken nuggets to supplement and kept mum about it. DH said it was the best curry he's ever had. Looks like the whole family will be eating Dino nuggets from now on.

itsStackie

I ran with DH today. He gave me a bunch of excuses, but I feel like I was in better shape. *win*

Cricket81

@calikat80‌
That would probably be another recipe those coconut chicken tenders would be good in! Pricier than dinos, though.

needanustart

itsStackie said:

I ran with DH today. He gave me a bunch of excuses, but I feel like I was in better shape. *win*

When I was really in great shape and ran with DH I used to emasculate him by running backwards and saying encouraging things to him like a trainer. It would look like a positive thing to an outsider but we both knew I was showing off.

WasNotWas

Bradley asked why Super Why puts his computer in his underwear

needanustart

WasNotWas said:

Bradley asked why Super Why puts his computer in his underwear

Ha! That's awesome and a good question. Speaking of which, G was begging to watch super why after dinner but we didn't want to do more tv so we said we'd make our own. DH and I just acted out an entire episode complete with look in a book, super letters and finding the super story answer. The problem was 'the baby is tired but not in his pajamas.' The book was sleeping beauty. The answer was GO TO BED. We all danced and sang the hip hip hurray song and then buzzed around in our why flyers for the credits. If the neighbors walked by while watching DH and I act this entire thing out, they are presuming we are on acid.

WasNotWas

Holy crap @calikat80‌ you are my hero! That's amazing

needanustart

@WasNotWas‌ DH was princess presto! There are too many guys in our house

needanustart

I'm going for a run now. Someone save me some wine! (I'm looking at you @WorkinIt‌ )

WasNotWas

UMMMM the jags/bears game is on abc, this better not cut into my Last Comic Standing finals. Effing preseason