MOTN FEEDINGS Weekender Edition

BMaidPlanner

Your midnight to morning place to hang out. New thread Monday.

How goes it?

Aaward1658

She's asleep after draining boob 1. I feel the gas rumbling in her tummy and know already it's gonna be a long night with lots of grunting tj get the farts out. She's so cute, but babies are definitely the worst roommates ever!

BMaidPlanner

LO sucks at burping. Farts/grunts like a champ.

Aaward1658

shannonliggett said:

LO is hungry but too frustrated to wait for milk to letdown. He just screams at my boob, but that isn't helping letdown either. We've been trying for 15 minutes. DH is getting frustrated which always makes me frustrated.

Have you tried doing some breast massage before feeding to help with letdown? Also there are earth mama angel baby "booby tubes" which are little warm compresses that feel and smell amazing that you can warm up and wear in your bra for 5 min before feeding to help encourage letdown.

b48kate

Need opinions...husband just finished his first week back at work and I have been the babies exclusive "night nurse all week. When he was off work (for two weeks after delivery) he was responsible for nighttime diaper changes. On weekend nights where he is not working the next day, should he go back to diaper duty or do I continue as the sole nighttime caregiver?

mamalindsayof3

Internationalkate said:

Need opinions...husband just finished his first week back at work and I have been the babies exclusive "night nurse all week. When he was off work (for two weeks after delivery) he was responsible for nighttime diaper changes. On weekend nights where he is not working the next day, should he go back to diaper duty or do I continue as the sole nighttime caregiver?

Yea, he can get up for a few diaper changes.

tbmadeamistake

@Internationalkate‌ I vote get all the help you can! DH doesn't help at all, ever, in the motn, becssue "why should we both be exhausted?". I hate it. I also learned that my dad used to get up, go down the hall and change the crying baby, bring it to my mom in bed, she'd nurse, and then he'd take baby back to our own room. My husband is in no way living up to my father.

elsa1688

Internationalkate said:

Need opinions...husband just finished his first week back at work and I have been the babies exclusive "night nurse all week. When he was off work (for two weeks after delivery) he was responsible for nighttime diaper changes. On weekend nights where he is not working the next day, should he go back to diaper duty or do I continue as the sole nighttime caregiver?

I usually change night time diapers because I'm already up. I do the 4 am change and usually hand him off for the 7 am change.

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roadspeckle

LO just went down after a long day of cat naps and lots of stimulation at chuck e cheese. Let's hope he sleeps more than his two hours.

sjn00

Jeeze after only sleeping an hour since 3pm this baby finally went back to sleep at 11pm only after a fit of crying because Youtube wasnt working so I couldnt get her white water noise going... Seriously not even a min after finally getting it to play she was out... I need something more reliable.. What is everyone using for white water noises for those using it?? I just downloaded 3 apps hoping that will work. I am so worried about traveling and staying at another house with how picky she is to sleep. Blaah.

BMaidPlanner

LO sucks at burping. Farts/grunts like a champ.

mrsgerman said:

BMaidPlanner said:

LO sucks at burping. Farts/grunts like a champ.

I don't know if you have tried this or not but I read on another post a few days ago to gently bounce them up and down a few times between feeding and burping. My lo would hardly ever burp for me but when I started doing this I was able to get a burp from him almost every time.
Whoever it was who mentioned it is a genius.. I just wish I remember who

I bounce her and that does seem to work usually! But I don't do it in the middle of the night or if she is super sleepy. Everything is harder during the MOTN though...

BMaidPlanner

SaraJoy00 said:

Jeeze after only sleeping an hour since 3pm this baby finally went back to sleep at 11pm only after a fit of crying because Youtube wasnt working so I couldnt get her white water noise going... Seriously not even a min after finally getting it to play she was out... I need something more reliable.. What is everyone using for white water noises for those using it?? I just downloaded 3 apps hoping that will work. I am so worried about traveling and staying at another house with how picky she is to sleep. Blaah.

Spotify on my phone or comp or DH's phone for the water noise.

lest12

Totally have him help. I get so annoyed when DH doesn't.

lest12

lest12 said:

Totally have him help. I get so annoyed when DH doesn't.

Like, just now, when DH didn't help me change the baby who had peed through his onesie and swaddle blanket, because someone, ahem, refuses to use the size 1 diapers until we go through the last package of NB ones, as not to waste any.

BMaidPlanner

lest12 said:

lest12 said:

Totally have him help. I get so annoyed when DH doesn't.

Like, just now, when DH didn't help me change the baby who had peed through his onesie and swaddle blanket, because someone, ahem, refuses to use the size 1 diapers until we go through the last package of NB ones, as not to waste any.

Wtf. So sorry. Right now NB seems too small and size 1 way too big. I'm worried about a blowout with the NB diaper tonight myself.

BMaidPlanner

@Tdonatoni‌ hugs to you. I hope there is some peace of mind soon and DH gets back to you asap to rest.

CherSomething

LO doesn't want to sleep anywhere but with me in my bed. Since I won't let her, she's waking up after only 10-15 mins of sleep in her bassinette. It's been fun.

I do all the motn diaper changes and feeds and have done all since her birth. I imagine this will continue even after I return to work since I'm nursing. No point in making us both wake up.

lest12

BMaidPlanner said:

lest12 said:

lest12 said:

Totally have him help. I get so annoyed when DH doesn't.

Like, just now, when DH didn't help me change the baby who had peed through his onesie and swaddle blanket, because someone, ahem, refuses to use the size 1 diapers until we go through the last package of NB ones, as not to waste any.

Wtf. So sorry. Right now NB seems too small and size 1 way too big. I'm worried about a blowout with the NB diaper tonight myself.

@BMaidPlanner‌ - in his defense, the size 1 does seem really big on his little butt! But the nb's are definitely too small.

I had to put his NB clothes aside too. I cried.

lest12

@Tdonatoni‌ - that's messed up. I hope he's ok.

Rawa1416

My DH is the heaviest sleeper I've ever met. I never realized how bad it was until we had LO. He can sleep right through her screaming bloody murder which is great for him but sucks for me and frankly a little scary. One night he fell asleep in her room trying to get her to go to sleep and I woke up to her screaming and him fast asleep in the glider right next to the crib. He wants to help but it's easier for me to get her since it takes forever to wake him up and I'm scared he'll fall asleep taking care of her and not wake up when she cries.

Taymiller

I heart the weekends because DH helps with MOTN. He changes, feeds and puts him back to sleep while I pump, it is awesome!

laramt

@Lilygrace48‌ my dad used to do the exact same thing. My husband is totally slacking, but makes up for it on weekends by grabbing baby all morning to entertain while I sleep in. I have been using the Johnsons Lavender nighttime bubble bath, shampoo and lotion and I can definitely tell a difference. He is so floppy and relaxed after his last feed at 10pm. So far it's 2 50am here and the baby is fast asleep while I'm pumping. Fingers crossed he sleeps through til morning.

Mia081081

@BMaidPlanner‌ - sleep sheep for white noise

b48kate

Thank you ladies! The man is officially back on diaper duty.

@Tdonatoni‌ That sounds horrible! Hope you guys get to the bottom of what's going on...

Savvy122

@Tdonatoni‌ I hope everything with your FIL is OK. Sounds like scary stuff.

MrsBHM

My LO usually eats around 2:30 and 5:30 for MOTN feeds. My husband normally takes him from me after his 5:30 feed if he's not super easy to get back to sleep. I hate the 5:30 feed. The 2:30 doesn't bother me at all so it's nice to pass him off & crawl back in bed after the 5:30 one.

On the weekends I do the 2:30 feed and my husband gets up with him & does the 5:30 feed and I sleep until usually 8ish then get up & pump or feed him. So far it's been great & I haven't had any supply issues or dealt with horrible engorgement from missing that 5:30 feed.

And fwiw LO slept from 10:30-3:30 tonight!! Does anyone find it comical the degree to which you try to replicate your actions after you get a longish stretch of sleep from LO?! Put him in the exact same jammies, eat leftovers of the same dinner, watch the same tv show again. Lol! And it's so disappointing bc it's usually just a fluke!

diagonalley

StrawberryDreams219 said:

I'm an idiot! I stayed up way too late making a skirt for DD and another for myself instead of sleeping. The second I got into be DS woke up ready to eat. Can't say I don't totally adore the baby snuggles though and his head smells amazing!!!

The other day at my parent's house I noticed an enormous bottle of Johnson and Johnson's baby lotion and asked my dad about it. Apparently my mom likes to rub it into DS's head so she can smell it :P

H&H2014

SaraJoy00 said:

Jeeze after only sleeping an hour since 3pm this baby finally went back to sleep at 11pm only after a fit of crying because Youtube wasnt working so I couldnt get her white water noise going... Seriously not even a min after finally getting it to play she was out... I need something more reliable.. What is everyone using for white water noises for those using it?? I just downloaded 3 apps hoping that will work. I am so worried about traveling and staying at another house with how picky she is to sleep. Blaah.

@SaraJoy00‌ we have a sleep sheep - works wonders!

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000GKWA66?pc_redir=1405567105&robot_redir=1

roadspeckle

LO just woke up so he gave us about 3 hours! My boobs are going wtf and started to get a clogged duct so I massaged it and started to drain some in a towel and it soaked through the towel into LOs pjs and so far he hasn't choked and it's started to feel better so he must be helping.. I love that he slept longer stretch but I hate when my boobs do this! Such a double edged sword lol

jaybee11

I took a calculated risk last night and lost...sort of. We put the girls to sleep by 10 and went to bed. I expected them to be up no later than 3, so didn't pump again after my last time at 9. Woke up at 5am with rock hard engorged boobs and had to start pumping. This of course ended up waking one of the girls. Fortunately it's the weekend so I felt no guilt waking up DH to feed. I try to handle it on my own during the week when he needs to sleep for work, but he's fair game on the weekend. Love that he's helping and we'll all be back to sleep that much sooner! However, now my neurotic self is stressing over getting a clogged duct or something. Note to self -always, always, always pump before bed.

BMaidPlanner

I tried to be smart and change her diaper during her whimpers, avoiding the full cry.

She peed all over the changing pad, herself, on my bed. I was way too early with the change and couldn't tell in the dark.

So much crying. DH woke cause I asked for help. Then I had to bathe and get her out of the soaked onesie before feeding her.

Baby 1, Mommy 0.

katekat8721

It's 3 am and both Vi and I randomly awoke with hiccups. We're obviously aliens.

BMaidPlanner

nutmegs8 said:

@lest12‌ definitely move up a size even though they look too big. It will save you a bunch of trouble. I was in denial when S was having blowouts; I thought the diaper was defective.

I just had to switch her to size 2 after a massive shit blowout yesterday; she's growing like a weed.

Uh oh. I got more NB. My denial is strong. Crap.

AbbySeiden

@MrsBHM‌ that our schedule exactly! The only problem is I was getting engorged when not doing the 5/6 feeding so I didn't end up getting a lot more sleep because I was so uncomfortable I'd have to wake up to pump.

puttyeast

BMaidPlanner said:

lest12 said:

lest12 said:

Totally have him help. I get so annoyed when DH doesn't.

Like, just now, when DH didn't help me change the baby who had peed through his onesie and swaddle blanket, because someone, ahem, refuses to use the size 1 diapers until we go through the last package of NB ones, as not to waste any.

Wtf. So sorry. Right now NB seems too small and size 1 way too big. I'm worried about a blowout with the NB diaper tonight myself.

We got Target Up and up brand and found that it seems to be between pampers nb and size 1 diapers. So, that's what we are using right now!

ricecakes1216

My H is just like @Lilygrace48‌. I forced him to get up tonight at 12:45. He was mad and didn't change C's diaper. I'm livid. As soon as I go back to bed he's being woken up. It's his way of trying to suck so I don't make him wake up. Thanks, asshole.
Never realized how big of a jerk my H is until having a baby. Isn't bringing a baby into the world suppose to make you love your husband more? It's just made me want to kick my H. Then he wonders why I'm mad at him all the time, even though I've told him he has to help me more or I might go insane. I think it's time to go back to counseling.

Sorry for the rant.

steprozz

after two babies I have accepted the fact that my DH will not help with anything motn. I don't even bother trying. I have noticed with him that while he loves his children unconditionally he doesn't really feel like they need him at this stage. he doesn't have the innate want and need to care for a newborn the way a mother does and thinks I should do everything for LO right now. he becomes more involved when the baby is more interactive and doesn't need as much support from him (like baby can hold his own head up and stuff). then all of a sudden he's all over playing and feeding and all that.

eta this has actually been working well for us though because he takes amazing care of DS for me while I tend to needy B

Savvy122

stephross88 said:

after two babies I have accepted the fact that my DH will not help with anything motn. I don't even bother trying. I have noticed with him that while he loves his children unconditionally he doesn't really feel like they need him at this stage. he doesn't have the innate want and need to care for a newborn the way a mother does and thinks I should do everything for LO right now. he becomes more involved when the baby is more interactive and doesn't need as much support from him (like baby can hold his own head up and stuff). then all of a sudden he's all over playing and feeding and all that. eta this has actually been working well for us though because he takes amazing care of DS for me while I tend to needy B

This is my H exactly.  He's been wonderful helping with our 3 year old but hasn't interacted with D much at all (like, less than 5 minutes a day).  I finally had a come to Jesus talk with him and explained to him that I need for him to help out more with the baby.  It caused a bigger fight than I was prepared for but after we both cooled down and talked it out, he's been much more helpful.  Last night he even came out as I was changing D before his midnight feeding, warmed up a bottle of breast milk from the fridge, and sent me back to bed!  That has never - ever - happened before.

eryale

Aaward1658 said:

shannonliggett said:

LO is hungry but too frustrated to wait for milk to letdown. He just screams at my boob, but that isn't helping letdown either. We've been trying for 15 minutes. DH is getting frustrated which always makes me frustrated.

Have you tried doing some breast massage before feeding to help with letdown? Also there are earth mama angel baby "booby tubes" which are little warm compresses that feel and smell amazing that you can warm up and wear in your bra for 5 min before feeding to help encourage letdown.

This! I'm really finding my "booby tubes" helpful and they're a quick 30-sec in the microwave!

Katieluc106

lindsaynewbride10 said:

Internationalkate said:

Need opinions...husband just finished his first week back at work and I have been the babies exclusive "night nurse all week. When he was off work (for two weeks after delivery) he was responsible for nighttime diaper changes. On weekend nights where he is not working the next day, should he go back to diaper duty or do I continue as the sole nighttime caregiver?

Yea, he can get up for a few diaper changes.

My DH wakes up to change her diaper while I'm downstairs making a bottle... Even during the week. He knew what he was getting into when we decided to have another. The fact that he works isn't an excuse not to help me. I work all day too. A 2.9 year old, house work, and an infant is my job.