UOs

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Post 'em if you got 'em.

IBackBevo

Don't know if this will be "unpopular" or not, but here goes anyway.  Comparing "thin" shaming to "fat" shaming is not comparable.  In fact, I almost find it insulting to compare the two if you are talking about someone who is just on the low end of a normal bmi or "borderline" underweight who is supposedly being "thin" shamed.  Frankly, in general, our society promotes the "ideal" as being on the low end of normal.  If you open up any magazine, watch any run way show, open up a Victoria's Secrets catalogue, watch pretty much any award show the majority of people/stars/models are either underweight or, at least, borderline underweight.  It is not the same thing and it is not comparable.  There are not shows called the "biggest gainer."  A large portion of the ads on tv are not aimed at thin people.  And there certainly isn't a multi-billion dollar industry aimed at people trying to put on 5-10 pounds. 

At 5'8, I have been as thin as low as about 112-113 (as a teen) and about 120 as an adult.  I have been as heavy as 224 toward the end of my pree/bedrest pregnancy, but was still over 200 after birth.  I can tell you from personal experience that I was treated totally different on a regular basis when I was over 200 pounds than when I was normal or even slightly underweight.  I can't even fathom how someone who is morbidly obese is treated...so if you are some woman who is at 18 or 18.5 bmi, please stop and think about what a morbidly obese person goes through before you start saying weight shaming goes both ways.     

FlemDance

Okay, here goes: I'm not really a fan of wine. Seriously. I'll get down on some moscato or any other kind of sweet/dessert wine, but that's it. Dry wines = ICK. No, thank you. I'd prefer some yummy beer or cider any day of the week.

reneewhite90

kitchencolors said:

Shoes with characters on them?  Just no. That itself probably isn't really unpopular, but I'd rather pay three times as much and get plain shoes at Stride Rite.  That part might be.

Chevron patterns?  Kinda cute, but not the most amazing thing ever.

I always thought I agreed with this until my mom got my son a pair of "Cars", light up tennis shoes. They look like legit running shoes (minus the cartoon guys and lights). He's obsessed with them and looks so old with them on, which should make me hate them, but they're adorable!

So maybe one of my UOs is that I may be a cartoon shoe convert...

ebox322

kitchencolors said:

Shoes with characters on them?  Just no. That itself probably isn't really unpopular, but I'd rather pay three times as much and get plain shoes at Stride Rite.  That part might be.

Chevron patterns?  Kinda cute, but not the most amazing thing ever.

I totally agree, they look so tacky. However, I'm being a total hypocrite because right now DS is wearing red "Cars" shoes that my grandparents got him at Stride Rite. We've never even seen the damn movie...but when he picked it up at the store and started "driving" the shoe, apparently the deal was done.

I still think character shoes are stupid and tacky though.

ebox322

I hate when people make a huge deal about their own birthday over the age of like 22. I love birthday parties and celebrating birthdays, but the second someone pulls a "wahh it's my BIRTHDAY" I can't help but cringe. I'm lookin' at you Stassi!

mileswithmyles

@ibackbevo, I was going to write this as my UO today, but you said it all.

rainbowsockmonkey

My UO is that I love winter.  I've lived in Minnesota my whole life, and look forward to colder temps and snow every year.  I don't mind shoveling/ using our snowblower and love that I get to accessorize with hats, mitten and scarfs every day.  The only thing i'm not a fan of is the wind that comes with it.  

JessElam

kitchencolors said:

Shoes with characters on them?  Just no. That itself probably isn't really unpopular, but I'd rather pay three times as much and get plain shoes at Stride Rite.  That part might be.

Chevron patterns?  Kinda cute, but not the most amazing thing ever.

I'll add to this...flashing/blinky shoes and Heelez (sp?) make me crazy.  I refuse to buy them for my son.  

Christinaruth74

To add to the character UO, i hate ANY apparel with characters.  Shirts, pants, shoes, etc, etc.  My mom bought be a onesie with a Precious Moments character on it...and then crib sheets with Winnie the Pooh...i just can't.

RachelCA29

My OU: I hate the sex offenders registry and I think it needs to be destroyed.

There are too many people that are stuck on that list for mundane offenses and their lives are ruined by it because the general public abuse their power to view and (inaccurately) judge those on the list. The fact that two 15 year-olds can land themselves on the list FOR LIFE for something stupid like "sexting" each other or a 21 year old can have his life ruined (never be able to hold a job or move to a family community) because he got drunk one night and went streaking is a travesty to the justice system.

Any crime that involves nudity these days lands people on the sex offenders registry. nudity =/= sex crime. And being on the registry is a life-long punishment that many people on the list do not deserve since their crimes DO NOT garner being ostracized for life.

I'm not saying that no crimes deserve this type of public awareness list, by why is it "sex" based?So many things that are "sex crimes" are not actually involving forced/inappropriate sex. If they involve nudity suddenly it's a "sex" crime. It's a shame to me that some stupid teens that have underage sex and parents get mad, and suddenly someone's future is ruined because they end up a registered sex offender. It's ridiculous.

Why isn't it just a "dangerous offenders" registry? Actual criminals that are a danger to society (rapists, murders, people with multiple gun crime convictions, etc.) That murder that moved in next door? Just because he killed someone but didn't pull his dick out, no permanent list for him.

Sadly, because politicians have to pander to the lowest intelligence level so much, no political figure is ever going to be brave enough to say "the sex offenders list isn't working and needs to be eliminated and replaced with some things else".  They would fear the backlash against their popularity instead of trying to fix a real problem.

/rant

MissLadyTay

Christinaruth74 said:

To add to the character UO, i hate ANY apparel with characters.  Shirts, pants, shoes, etc, etc.  My mom bought be a onesie with a Precious Moments character on it...and then crib sheets with Winnie the Pooh...i just can't.

Yeah character clothes (or clothes with any words on them) get donated immediately in our house. I made an exception for some Thomas pajamas because my son doesn't appear in public in those.

julesf817

I think when it comes to the whole fat shaming/thin shaming thing, we just need to stop ANY kind of body shaming. i agree they aren't the same, but i think the real problem with our society is that we focus so much energy talking about what (mostly) women's bodies look like, whether it's to compliment them or put them down. and i'm the first to admit i'm totally guilty of it. it's one thing i'm trying to make an effort to change, because i don't want my little boy to think it's ok to judge people because of what their body looks like. and if i ever have a little girl, i don't want to project those things onto her.

LoveIsAll25

WHAT AM I READING!? I love character shirts and sneakers! 

IBackBevo

@RachelCA29 - When I have looked at the sex offender registry before, it tells you what the crime is.  It has been long enough that I don't remember if it was state specific or not, but the one I looked at told you if their crime was something minor like urinating in public. I also thought you had to be an adult to be on there...i.e. a 15 year old would not be on the registry.  But, again, maybe that is state specific.  It also told you what age they were when they committed the crime and the age of the victim.  Therefore, if it was an 18 year old sleeping with a 16 year old and the dude is now 40, I can't fathom people would be picketing outside his house to try to get him to move out of the neighborhood.

IBackBevo

ebox322 said:

I hate when people make a huge deal about their own birthday over the age of like 22. I love birthday parties and celebrating birthdays, but the second someone pulls a "wahh it's my BIRTHDAY" I can't help but cringe. I'm lookin' at you Stassi!

I immediately thought of Stassi before I even got to the last sentence.  Yeah, your birthday is not a national holiday.  Your DH or SO should do something for you, but not the rest of the world.

typeset

aimee223 said:

My UO... I feel like this board has gotten a little touchy/bitchy/aggressive lately. 

"Lately"? 

I can't stand how some of these women think they own the place and treat simple questions with such derision. Go back to your Facebook circle jerk. 






I almost typed that with a straight face. 

Rocknroll64

@ibackbevo  I agree with you 100% when it comes to women who are not pregnant.  From my own experience over the course of my pregnancy though, I have to say that "thin shaming" is a real thing. As someone who has been measuring small I get a lot of "Are you sure your eating enough" and "you're not supposed to diet while pregnant."  And let me tell you, they are said in a very judgemental way, as if I'm starving my baby on purpose or something.  I think in general, people need to accept that everybody's bodies are different especially in pregnancy.  You basically have no control over what your body does.

RachelCA29

IBackBevo said:

@RachelCA29 - When I have looked at the sex offender registry before, it tells you what the crime is.  It has been long enough that I don't remember if it was state specific or not, but the one I looked at told you if their crime was something minor like urinating in public. I also thought you had to be an adult to be on there...i.e. a 15 year old would not be on the registry.  But, again, maybe that is state specific.  It also told you what age they were when they committed the crime and the age of the victim.  Therefore, if it was an 18 year old sleeping with a 16 year old and the dude is now 40, I can't fathom people would be picketing outside his house to try to get him to move out of the neighborhood.

I think they might be state and country specific. This was on my mind because there have been a few cases of teens get charged with child pornography offences for "sexting" each other, and in Canada that would land them on our sex offenders list (even though they are 16 or something). I think that it is just a travesty to ruin these kids lives with charges like that and ending up on the list.

I also know that the general public doesn't read the registry very closely and actually think logically about the information. They would rather just grab their pitchforks and torches in seems. I was just reading an article on Slate about a guy that had sex with his underage girlfriend when he was 18 (she was 16) and her parents flipped and charged him. He's now in his 30s with a wife and kids. He can't hold a job or move to a nice neighbourhood because someone will find his name on the registry and instead of thinking logically, they just get him fired and force his family to move. The article was heartbreaking (his kids get bullied at school because other parents tell their own children that kid's dad is a "pervert").

It's just stories like this that make it seem like the registries aren't protecting the general public the way it's meant to, and they are hurting people that are innocent/served their time appropriately.

awc1986

1) I can't stand Michael Buble (real name Mickey Bubbles). It's music for insomniacs.

2) I think all people over 65 should be legally required to re-take their driving test. I've almost got into 3 wrecks in the last 24 hours because of old people not looking where they're going, or making up their own rules of the road. If they don't pass then their license is revoked. I understand many old people use their car to get around, but when people's safety is at risk, they shouldn't be on the road. My DH's gran has mounted the curb and knocked stuff over twice in the last couple of years. She's 84 and shouldn't be driving.

RachelCA29

awc1986 said:

2) I think all people over 65 should be legally required to re-take their driving test. I've almost got into 3 wrecks in the last 24 hours because of old people not looking where they're going, or making up their own rules of the road. If they don't pass then their license is revoked. I understand many old people use their car to get around, but when people's safety is at risk, they shouldn't be on the road. My DH's gran has mounted the curb and knocked stuff over twice in the last couple of years. She's 84 and shouldn't be driving.

I think in Ontario people over 70 have to ... it doesn't help! When my grandma had to re-take her written test, she said she was so nervous her "vision went" on her, and she couldn't read the test properly. She still passed and still drives all the time.

I'm so glad I don't live/drive  in the same city as her!

lindseylu10

Haleighkay90 said:

Rocknroll64 said:

@ibackbevo  I agree with you 100% when it comes to women who are not pregnant.  From my own experience over the course of my pregnancy though, I have to say that "thin shaming" is a real thing. As someone who has been measuring small I get a lot of "Are you sure your eating enough" and "you're not supposed to diet while pregnant."  And let me tell you, they are said in a very judgemental way, as if I'm starving my baby on purpose or something.  I think in general, people need to accept that everybody's bodies are different especially in pregnancy.  You basically have no control over what your body does.

I also agree there is a difference between "thin shaming" and "fat shaming" but during my pregnancy I have endured my share of very judge mental comments. My neurologist actually accused me of being anorexic at the beginning of my pregnancy. Her words were "you can go be anorexic or whatever after you have this baby, but right now you are killing your baby because you're starving it to death"

Your Neurologist is an ass and should be reported to the this board for that comment. That is all.

sisterjanet

IBackBevo said:

Don't know if this will be "unpopular" or not, but here goes anyway.  Comparing "thin" shaming to "fat" shaming is not comparable.  In fact, I almost find it insulting to compare the two if you are talking about someone who is just on the low end of a normal bmi or "borderline" underweight who is supposedly being "thin" shamed.  Frankly, in general, our society promotes the "ideal" as being on the low end of normal.  If you open up any magazine, watch any run way show, open up a Victoria's Secrets catalogue, watch pretty much any award show the majority of people/stars/models are either underweight or, at least, borderline underweight.  It is not the same thing and it is not comparable.  There are not shows called the "biggest gainer."  A large portion of the ads on tv are not aimed at thin people.  And there certainly isn't a multi-billion dollar industry aimed at people trying to put on 5-10 pounds. 

At 5'8, I have been as thin as low as about 112-113 (as a teen) and about 120 as an adult.  I have been as heavy as 224 toward the end of my pree/bedrest pregnancy, but was still over 200 after birth.  I can tell you from personal experience that I was treated totally different on a regular basis when I was over 200 pounds than when I was normal or even slightly underweight.  I can't even fathom how someone who is morbidly obese is treated...so if you are some woman who is at 18 or 18.5 bmi, please stop and think about what a morbidly obese person goes through before you start saying weight shaming goes both ways.     

Mostly I agree with you, just wanted to point out there is an industry for thin men who want to bulk up.  (Not sure how big it is, but it's definitely a real thing.)

Xath

RachelCA29 said:

IBackBevo said:

@RachelCA29 - When I have looked at the sex offender registry before, it tells you what the crime is.  It has been long enough that I don't remember if it was state specific or not, but the one I looked at told you if their crime was something minor like urinating in public. I also thought you had to be an adult to be on there...i.e. a 15 year old would not be on the registry.  But, again, maybe that is state specific.  It also told you what age they were when they committed the crime and the age of the victim.  Therefore, if it was an 18 year old sleeping with a 16 year old and the dude is now 40, I can't fathom people would be picketing outside his house to try to get him to move out of the neighborhood.

I think they might be state and country specific. This was on my mind because there have been a few cases of teens get charged with child pornography offences for "sexting" each other, and in Canada that would land them on our sex offenders list (even though they are 16 or something). I think that it is just a travesty to ruin these kids lives with charges like that and ending up on the list.

I also know that the general public doesn't read the registry very closely and actually think logically about the information. They would rather just grab their pitchforks and torches in seems. I was just reading an article on Slate about a guy that had sex with his underage girlfriend when he was 18 (she was 16) and her parents flipped and charged him. He's now in his 30s with a wife and kids. He can't hold a job or move to a nice neighbourhood because someone will find his name on the registry and instead of thinking logically, they just get him fired and force his family to move. The article was heartbreaking (his kids get bullied at school because other parents tell their own children that kid's dad is a "pervert").

It's just stories like this that make it seem like the registries aren't protecting the general public the way it's meant to, and they are hurting people that are innocent/served their time appropriately.

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I knew a guy in college who got drunk and peed in the bushes and got placed on the registry. Ridiculous. I mean, they teach you how to do that in the scouts. He peed in a bush at 2am; he didn't go pee in a kindergarten classroom.

In our state it tells you whether it's a misdemeanor or felony offense, but many people won't go read it even that closely. I agree that it dilutes the ability to identify who the real concerns are.

IBackBevo

@Rocknroll64 -  I'm not saying that comments aren't made, but I don't think it is the same kind of pervasive shame that overweight people experience pretty much every day of their life.  

At one point in my pregnancy with my DS, I measured 4-5 weeks behind on my fundal height...and my baby actually was measuring 5+ weeks behind due to iugr.  So I "get" measuring small in pregnancy. That (plus the pre-e) is when I was put on bedrest and a high calorie/high protein diet...one of the reasons I actually gained so much weight.  So, yeah, I know what it is like to be measuring behind. I have no doubt that people may make comments and they may even be hurtful comments.  I am sure thin people get comments, too.  When I was very thin, I can remember a few.  I can remember a few about how small my bump was when I was pregnant with DS, too.  Before I was dx with pre-e (which caused the IUGR) and all we knew about was my baby measuring small, an MFM told me I just needed to go to more all you can eat buffets and did make it seem like it was my fault.  However, I don't think it is at all the same kind of pervasive, cultural shame that obese people are put through...pregnant or not.  By way of just one example, I cannot tell you how many times on my VBAC board I have read of women being told they can't deliver vaginally and having their doctors try to push them into an automatic c-section because they are overweight or obese. First, it is absolute hogwash that you can't deliver vaginally because you are overweight.  Second, this isn't just a hurtful statement - these women are being bullied into major abdominal c-sections which in turn affects their recovery, bonding with their baby, breastfeeding, puts them at higher risk for many complications, etc.  And that is just one example...there are many more. This is what I mean when I say they aren't comparable. 

Edit- typo

Rocknroll64

awc1986 said:

1) I can't stand Michael Buble (real name Mickey Bubbles). It's music for insomniacs. 2) I think all people over 65 should be legally required to re-take their driving test. I've almost got into 3 wrecks in the last 24 hours because of old people not looking where they're going, or making up their own rules of the road. If they don't pass then their license is revoked. I understand many old people use their car to get around, but when people's safety is at risk, they shouldn't be on the road. My DH's gran has mounted the curb and knocked stuff over twice in the last couple of years. She's 84 and shouldn't be driving.

I totally agree with you but I think the test needs to be more difficult.  My grandma is 90 and can barely walk and my entire family thinks she needs to quit driving.  She doesn't want to stop, and she keeps passing all the tests so there's nothing we can do.  

Bayberry12

I can't stand when women describe themselves as "fluffy".

andoll8

Bayberry12 said:

I can't stand when women describe themselves as "fluffy".

what does that even mean?

spacepotatoes

@awc1986 Call me a cheeseball but I actually like Michael Buble's music. His personality, on the other hand, has always rubbed me the wrong way.

momthatlifts

I think angel soft toilet paper sucks and I will never buy it again. Cottonelle> angel soft

Rocknroll64

I don't really like when grown women refer to themselves as "mommies."  You don't really hear of grown men referring to themselves as "daddies."  (unless you're into that..wink wink)

I'm talking about when adults are talking to other adults and refer to themselves in that way.

Peaceb0ne

Rocknroll64 said:

I don't really like when grown women refer to themselves as "mommies."  You don't really hear of grown men referring to themselves as "daddies."  (unless you're into that..wink wink)

I'm talking about when adults are talking to other adults and refer to themselves in that way.

Yes!

To add on to this, my MIL refers to her husband as "Daddy" when talking to my husband and her other children. WTF lady! It creeps me the fuck out! 

Rocknroll64

You know you've been on the bump too long when you realize you can't remember which UO's you've already said and you start repeating yourself.  Or maybe that's just pregnancy brain?

Nothing makes sense anymore.

firebelle26

Haleighkay90 said:

Rocknroll64 said:

@ibackbevo  I agree with you 100% when it comes to women who are not pregnant.  From my own experience over the course of my pregnancy though, I have to say that "thin shaming" is a real thing. As someone who has been measuring small I get a lot of "Are you sure your eating enough" and "you're not supposed to diet while pregnant."  And let me tell you, they are said in a very judgemental way, as if I'm starving my baby on purpose or something.  I think in general, people need to accept that everybody's bodies are different especially in pregnancy.  You basically have no control over what your body does.

I also agree there is a difference between "thin shaming" and "fat shaming" but during my pregnancy I have endured my share of very judge mental comments. My neurologist actually accused me of being anorexic at the beginning of my pregnancy. Her words were "you can go be anorexic or whatever after you have this baby, but right now you are killing your baby because you're starving it to death"

I agree with PP, your neurologist is an ass and that comment was uncalled for. Especially when they don't know the whole situation. I was diagnosed with an over active thyroid in my senior year of high school. I am 5'2", and at the time I weighed 85 pounds. I ate all the time and could not gain weight for the life of me until this was resolved. I was even accused of having an eating disorder by one of my teachers in front of other students. As soon as my thyroid was regulated I gained the appropriate amount weight for my body type. Now I can't keep it off!

Empireceo

Re: fat-shaming. Yes, it's cruel and horrible and needs to stop. I don't see so much thin-shaming as I do concern trolling. Specific example, the girl who won Biggest Loser and was all over magazines and gossip websites with headlines like "OMG, is she too thin? Is this healthy?" How is that shit anyone's business? So she claims to work out 5 times a day. She's currently in the public eye. Do you know the crazy-ass diet and exercise programs most celebrities stick to, no matter how many times they claim in interviews they eat whatever and hardly go to the gym? I really don't see it as any different.

dogsombrero

Peaceb0ne said:

Rocknroll64 said:

I don't really like when grown women refer to themselves as "mommies."  You don't really hear of grown men referring to themselves as "daddies."  (unless you're into that..wink wink)

I'm talking about when adults are talking to other adults and refer to themselves in that way.

Yes!

To add on to this, my MIL refers to her husband as "Daddy" when talking to my husband and her other children. WTF lady! It creeps me the fuck out! 

I agree 100%. My MIL actually sent me and SIL (who is due the end of March) a text addressing us as "Mommies" regarding her trip her to see her new grandbabies. I was legitimately skeeved out. It was so strange because she is a great MIL and I love her dearly. I'm going to chalk it up to grandbaby fever since she's going from 0 to 2 in less than 2 months time.

firebelle26

Peaceb0ne said:

Rocknroll64 said:

I don't really like when grown women refer to themselves as "mommies."  You don't really hear of grown men referring to themselves as "daddies."  (unless you're into that..wink wink)

I'm talking about when adults are talking to other adults and refer to themselves in that way.

Yes!

To add on to this, my MIL refers to her husband as "Daddy" when talking to my husband and her other children. WTF lady! It creeps me the fuck out! 

My MIL does this too! I'm like "he's not my daddy..." Gross.

lauralou3x3

Christinaruth74 said:

To add to the character UO, i hate ANY apparel with characters.  Shirts, pants, shoes, etc, etc.  My mom bought be a onesie with a Precious Moments character on it...and then crib sheets with Winnie the Pooh...i just can't.

I was going to mention this as well. I cringe when I see Dora, Mickey Mouse, Hello Kitty etc outfits. The only thing I'm "ok" with is pjs. And that's only because I compromise.

lauralou3x3

Also, I don't understand how people can walk out the bathroom without washing their hands. Just ew. This should be a requirement everywhere. At my old job I would see it all the time and it made me not want to eat anything at pot lucks. If they don't wash their hands after using the restroom, who's to say they do it before making cookies? I hope you all wash your hands so I don't offend any of you

busterbeagle

I hated character stuff until my kid was old enough to want it. Now if it makes her happy, it makes me happy. Except Dora. That creepy silent eye blinking shit is not allowed in our house.

AnnieA75

I'm not sure if this is unpopular, but I've discovered I'm definitely anti-spanking. Last weekend a bunch of my girlfriends got together and some of the girls brought their kids. One friend has a 3 year old boy. He was playing all afternoon with another littler girl and got a bit rowdy. His mom asked him to stop running through the house. He didn't, so she literally dragged him into the other room and spanked him. Hard. My DD will be 2 soon and I've never felt compelled to spank/hit her. We use time outs and so far it's working perfectly fine.

While I never planned to spank my kids, I didn't realize how anti-spanking I actually am until I witnessed this. I was spanked all the time as a kid, and I turned out fine. But I will say I feared my father for years, mainly because of the spanking. It's not my place to comment on how my friend disciplines her child, but it really upset me last weekend and I'm glad we're taking the timeout route with our kids.