Tackiest Idea I've heard of yet...

Bluebird2318

KendraColeslaw said:

PS - where did OP go?? Why does the OP ALWAYS post and run these days?

I always get a glorious mental image of Bump troll OPs sitting in a Bond villain chair, smacking a big red button labeled "DRAMA," and then spending the rest of the day laughing maniacally and petting their evil cat companion. 

ckred27

AprilMay9 said:

Really people. How hard is it to find addresses? You mailed them an invite right? If not how hard is it to use google.

In my case it was a sprinkle and my mom did evites, darn technology

BiggerinRealLife

AprilMay9 said:

Really people. How hard is it to find addresses? You mailed them an invite right? If not how hard is it to use google.

Nope. All my showers have been open invitation showers, except for close family ones, where they put a note in the bulletin at our church. No handwritten invitations, except for the ones they specifically sent my family. So I would have to go and look up addresses, likely for a bunch of people that I don't know super well, but we love each other enough to always show up celebrate life events. But my church is cool like that, we're just crazy generous.

BiggerinRealLife

LalaMama81 said:

Dear God I had no idea it was such a hardship or imposition to write an address down. Presumably if these people are close enough to shower you w/ gifts, they are close enough to have made the cut in your address book. 

ETA: If you don't have an address book - perfect time to make one!

I don't think anyone was complaining or saying addressing envelopes was an Inconvenience. All the people in favor seemed to be saying it was a nice gesture to take some work off of the honoree. Way to put words in the other side's mouth to attempt to make them look rediculous Lala.

spano41

chichi589 said:

@spano41 you don't think in the history of showers in all the hustle and shifting gifts from shower venue to car to home that something got misplaced lost or disconnected from their gift? Idk about you but the chances of that happening are really good considering my venue is not at my home and we will be moving stuff around I don't live in a perfect world. I am just saying there is a chance and by having everyone fill out their name address you are guaranteed to make sure that you are sending the correct thank you to the correct person in a timely fashion.

I think this has definitely happened. I just don't think it's the guests responsibility to remind you they were there or that having the person self address an envelope is a good way to keep track of what they gave you.  A good way to keep track of presents is for someone to write down what the gift is and who it's from as you open them.  Or write on the back of each card what that person got you and keep all the cards together.

BiggerinRealLife

Aaaaand caught up.


I hate thank you cards, and always tell moms, brides, whoever not to send me one because I hate filling them out so much and don't want to inflict that on anyone else. People think I'm tacky? Probably. But I've lost no friends over it. I have zero cares to give.

maelic

I can fix it:

Just focus on the mini cupcakes and everything will be okay. 

MamaFantastic

i'm going to imagine them as italian cupcakes, @maelic!!  somehow that makes them seem even better.

Andrewsgal

The tackiest thing in this post is inviting someone you met once to a shower. Hello gift grabby.

katieharpiceland

KendraColeslaw said:

Andrewsgal said:

The tackiest thing in this post is inviting someone you met once to a shower. Hello gift grabby.

So... don't try to become closer with DH's family? Got it.

Showers aren't about family, they're about etiquette :-)

Andrewsgal

KendraColeslaw said:

Andrewsgal said:

The tackiest thing in this post is inviting someone you met once to a shower. Hello gift grabby.

So... don't try to become closer with DH's family? Got it.

oh by all means because I am sure the only way to get to know someone is to invite them somewhere they have to buy you a gift. Silly me we invite them out for dinner.

Rogue237

Andrewsgal said:

The tackiest thing in this post is inviting someone you met once to a shower. Hello gift grabby.

Again I say... get a real problem.

hlm184

The culture clashes in babyshower land are epic.

MamaFantastic

i was introduced to one or two brand new people at my own bridal shower.  my mom, who hosted, decided to invite a few ladies from her church who had expressed an interest in attending (in my mom's words "because they love me and wanted to support our family"....).  i felt very uncomfortable opening up a box of towels, reading the card, and being like "this is from....  uhh....  patricia??  who's patricia??" and having the woman wave at me from the back of the room.  total stranger.

the shower recipient can't always control who gets invited.  i just smiled, thanked her, and wrote her a lovely note afterward.

@andrewsgal care to share your secret batcall mechanism for always finding the controversial threads?  i can only assume it has to do with lala, but i've always wondered.  you just show up at the most opportune times, don't you my love??

Andrewsgal

Andrewsgal said:

The tackiest thing in this post is inviting someone you met once to a shower. Hello gift grabby.

Again I say... get a real problem.

I am missing where I claimed this was my problem. You are so wise perhaps you could point it out to me?

Andrewsgal

MamaFantastic said:

i was introduced to one or two brand new people at my own bridal shower.  my mom, who hosted, decided to invite a few ladies from her church who had expressed an interest in attending (in my mom's words "because they love me and wanted to support our family"....).  i felt very uncomfortable opening up a box of towels, reading the card, and being like "this is from....  uhh....  patricia??  who's patricia??" and having the woman wave at me from the back of the room.  total stranger.

the shower recipient can't always control who gets invited.  i just smiled, thanked her, and wrote her a lovely note afterward.

@andrewsgal care to share your secret batcall mechanism for always finding the controversial threads?  i can only assume it has to do with lala, but i've always wondered.  you just show up at the most opportune times, don't you my love??

I comment on threads I have something to say. I commented on the BFing thread today in case you are counting which in no way was confrontational so you are 1for 2.

Andrewsgal

If they are family how hard can it be to get an address?

Rogue237

Andrewsgal said:

Andrewsgal said:

The tackiest thing in this post is inviting someone you met once to a shower. Hello gift grabby.

Again I say... get a real problem.

I am missing where I claimed this was my problem. You are so wise perhaps you could point it out to me?

You seem to have a big PROBLEM with who other people invite to their shower... which was not even the point of this thread... I'm sorry, I thought it was obvious?

Andrewsgal

So making a comment that it is tacky means I have a BIG problem? You and I define problem very differently.

Miss504NOLA

Sometimes you have no control over who shows up where. There are some people who just live to go to showers, weddings, and funerals of people they don't really know or never met at all. They live to be nosy, so it's definitely not a burden for them to just appear even though you've met them once.

@KendraColeslaw I don't see anything wrong with trying to bond with your new family. I'm sure they would be more pissed if you didn't invite them at all, even if they didn't want to go.

Rogue237

Andrewsgal said:

So making a comment that it is tacky means I have a BIG problem? You and I define problem very differently.

We do a lot of things very differently, I'm sure. 

Andrewsgal

KendraColeslaw said:

Andrewsgal said:

If they are family how hard can it be to get an address?

was that really the point of you insulting me?

The point was it was so hard for you to get addresses off people you have only met once. I said it was tacky to invite people you have only met once. Oh but they are family. Okay that is different. So back to the original point of how hard is it to get addresses of family? See how that happened?

Andrewsgal

MrsEll said:

I've only started posting recently, so please forgive me if this has already been covered. But does @andrewsgal even go here?

Yes I am due April 10th

Andrewsgal

KendraColeslaw said:

Andrewsgal said:

KendraColeslaw said:

Andrewsgal said:

If they are family how hard can it be to get an address?

was that really the point of you insulting me?

The point was it was so hard for you to get addresses off people you have only met once. I said it was tacky to invite people you have only met once. Oh but they are family. Okay that is different. So back to the original point of how hard is it to get addresses of family? See how that happened?

No, no, no, you must be terribly confused. Your first comment on this thread was to tell me I was tacky for inviting people to the shower I've only met once. THAT is your original point. When I was able to defend myself by saying they were family, you did the usual and looked for another way to insult me. I already covered the address thing with LalaMama and that discussion is over.

How is playing the victim working out for you?

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Who doesn't love a good raffle?

Andrewsgal

Honestly I fully admit now to just being a bored bitch. It is a snow day minus the snow so I have been watching DS play Lego Star Wars for and hour. This has kept me entertained.

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Andrewsgal said:

Honestly I fully admit now to just being a bored bitch. It is a snow day minus the snow so I have been watching DS play Lego Star Wars for and hour. This has kept me entertained.

Oh.

Rogue237

Andrewsgal said:

Honestly I fully admit now to just being a bored bitch. It is a snow day minus the snow so I have been watching DS play Lego Star Wars for and hour. This has kept me entertained.

CinemaGoddess

Andrewsgal said:

So making a comment that it is tacky means I have a BIG problem? You and I define problem very differently.

On a scale of 1 to Dandelions-in-the-yard, where addressing your own envelopes stand in terms of problematic tackiness?  

CinemaGoddess

Andrewsgal said:

Honestly I fully admit now to just being a bored bitch. It is a snow day minus the snow so I have been watching DS play Lego Star Wars for and hour. This has kept me entertained.

When you're bored, you draw a smiley face on your wall and fire a gun at it.  

It is known.  

BiggerinRealLife

MrsEll said:

I've only started posting recently, so please forgive me if this has already been covered. But does @andrewsgal even go here?

Bahahahahaha! Oh @MrsEll, that was too perfect. I'd gift you with cake if I could. She only comes out to tell people how they're doing life wrong on threads where there is a pot to stir. See @MamaFantastic's comment above. )

Rogue237

Andrewsgal said:

Honestly I fully admit now to just being a bored bitch. It is a snow day minus the snow so I have been watching DS play Lego Star Wars for and hour. This has kept me entertained.

MamaFantastic

BiggerinRealLife said:

I've only started posting recently, so please forgive me if this has already been covered. But does @andrewsgal even go here?

Bahahahahaha! Oh @MrsEll, that was too perfect. I'd gift you with cake if I could. She only comes out to tell people how they're doing life wrong on threads where there is a pot to stir. See @MamaFantastic's comment above. )

gift is not a verb, BIRL....  don't you know????

Serenla

MrsEll said:

I've only started posting recently, so please forgive me if this has already been covered. But does @andrewsgal even go here?

Only when she needs to be on her high horse, other than that it is usually only on the SAHM board.

It also looked like someone XP'd, oh boy.

[Deleted User]

KendraColeslaw said:

@DragonBlood13 I don't know who you are, but your Jax siggy gif is making me really hot.

Oh hello, I'm just a passer byer.

And yeah, he's so smoking hot.  Yummmmmm.

CinemaGoddess

CinemaGoddess said:

Andrewsgal said:

Honestly I fully admit now to just being a bored bitch. It is a snow day minus the snow so I have been watching DS play Lego Star Wars for and hour. This has kept me entertained.

When you're bored, you draw a smiley face on your wall and fire a gun at it.  

It is known.  

In case the above is confusing and you need a visual representation:

snmetz7

Serenla said:

I feel like such an alien reading these baby shower no-no threads.  I am just realizing that I don't have any of my friends' addresses (my girls just sent out a FB invite to everyone...what does Emily Post have to say about that, I wonder?) 

You don't even want to know. I suggested electronic invites for people my age, not even for the older generation they received letters, and my Mom flipped her shit. Welcome to the internet age.

I suggested this as well and was turned down for "etiquette" and then none of my generation RSVP because it meant they actually had to call and talk to someone instead of clicking yes I'll be there.
Yes there is etiquette but there is also knowing your audience. (full disclosure  I have not read the entire 6 pages yes I'm just going to comment as I go)

Serenla

Well it's about that time eh chaps?

snmetz7

pineconey said:

Dear God I had no idea it was such a hardship or imposition to write an address down. Presumably if these people are close enough to shower you w/ gifts, they are close enough to have made the cut in your address book. 

ETA: If you don't have an address book - perfect time to make one!

Thank you for adding to my to do list. I'll move that to the very top, don't you worry. Wouldn't want to get bitch slapped by Martha Stewart for not having one.

Seriously, just because I know where my friends live and how to get there doesn't mean I know their addresses. I had to ask a whole bunch of people for their addresses before I gave my list to my hostess... was that any less tacky than asking them to self address?

BiggerinRealLife

MamaFantastic said:

BiggerinRealLife said:

MrsEll said:

I've only started posting recently, so please forgive me if this has already been covered. But does @andrewsgal even go here?

Bahahahahaha! Oh @MrsEll, that was too perfect. I'd gift you with cake if I could. She only comes out to tell people how they're doing life wrong on threads where there is a pot to stir. See @MamaFantastic's comment above. )

gift is not a verb, BIRL....  don't you know????

/dead )