I think we can all agree that using certain language is wrong

ABColeslaw

I'm not talking about words like my favs "Fuck" and so on.  I can't believe that there is a poster on here that would casually throw out the r word.  Yes this warrants its own post.  I don't want to see that crap on here.  I'm not going to be nice if I see it.  Be warned, you use language like that and you will be flamed. 

spacepotatoes

Agreed. We are ALL old enough to know better. (Yes, that includes you 18 and 19 year olds lurking around, too)

Nikkidoll15

Wow I haven't seen that but seriously shame on her!

ABColeslaw

It is in one of the posts today.  Just putting this out to the newbs and randoms, it will not be tolerated.  Keep your face shut if you're compelled to say things like that on here. 

Miles2Go

Whoa. You're kidding? You've got to be. I refuse to believe there is someone here that doesn't already know better.

CamrynnsMommy

See "pelvic pain" thread...

ABColeslaw

Miles2Go said:

Whoa. You're kidding? You've got to be. I refuse to believe there is someone here that doesn't already know better.

Wish I was, but apparently pelvic pain warrants offending a whole bunch of people because there is no other way to describe how one walks while pregnant. 

ABColeslaw

Miles2Go said:

Whoa. You're kidding? You've got to be. I refuse to believe there is someone here that doesn't already know better.

Wish I was, but apparently pelvic pain warrants offending a whole bunch of people because there is no other way to describe how one walks while pregnant. 

AugustGlass

There is never an excuse to say certain things. That's one of them.

MrsLeanna

YES!!!!!! We all know better at this point than to ever use that word. 

ebox322

Thank you! Seriously a shame that someones mother is throwing that around casually

codik86

Yes let's all use such language, so our children can grow up using the same language! Continue the cycle of ignorance, it'll be great.

I wish I could do the .gif thing. Boo.

hfooter

I just don't get how this person, that is going to be a mother, grew up with no one telling them it's unacceptable.

When you're 7 and you don't really comprehend how offensive the word really is, I get it, but when you are old enough to have a child...there is no excuse.

ABColeslaw

dutchess546  If I were you and I wanted people on this board to take me seriously, I'd break out some form of "I"m sorry"  There are a lot of special needs mothers on the board who will be offended and will not forget.  Not to mention God forbid you get a child with special needs, I personally will not want to help you. 

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ErBear1010 said:

Yeah..my 8 year old knows not to use that word. Ever. She has been around special needs kids most of her life because of me and knows that it is offensive to call them names. The only name she changed was autism to awesomism...and that's not offensive at all. 

Well we all know your 8 year old is awesome! Hopefully she can teach others around her. I was hardly aware of socially acceptable terms when I was 8 lol. I hope I can raise my kid like yours!

asparagus95

I was wondering what the R word was, but I figured it out. More than anything, it's inaccurate to describe any condition! We should all know better and be sensitive to others."There, but for the grace of God, go I."

mileswithmyles

I tell my students at the beginning of every semester that I would rather them drop an F-bomb in my room than use the r word or the "other" f word.

To me, it is the most offensive word.  I can't tell you how many times my students with autism have come to me crying because some idiot teenager called them that. 

pistolpackinmomma

Can we flag it as offensive??

dogsombrero

What an asshat, using the r word as well as talking smack on someone's sexuality are the big no-nos in my eyes. As far as the f-bomb, well that's a daily occurrence for me (but I don't in front of other kids).

cynthiarene

We all live and learn -- so, offending mom to be, take note and adjust!  You're not a horrible person, just one that needed this lesson.  Words have meaning, even if you hear it thrown around like it's nothing.  

sheriot

That's really sad. Unfortunately, I know people that still use the word and it just makes me sad every time they do. I correct them and tell them I, along with the rest of the world, find it terribly offensive...but some people just don't get it. I don't understand that at all.

SNOakes

Agreed. Not ok, she should know better.

Storrmys

I just can't believe someone would still use that word for anything.. I remember my brothers doctors using it as a medical term in the 70's but now isn't even used for that since there are better ways to describe certain conditions.
It's hurtful and just plan wrong

yvanehtnioj

I used to use that word in middle school. Until one day I said it and later a friend pulled me aside and said "_____'s brother has Down Syndrome. FYI." While I can't say it never slipped out again, the amount of shame I felt was enough to make me consciously remove it from my vocabulary forever. I cannot believe the sayer of the word has by now never known anyone who had a disability or was close to someone with a disability? Maybe this will be her moment?

jfletcher3113

I fucking hate the "r" word. It makes me cringe and should be snuffed out of everyone's vocab. Get a brain, people.

talkthewholetime

Wow.

Just wow.

I remember learning that lesson in 4th grade. My best friend's little sister has Downs. I remember her getting so upset about people throwing around that word - and I remember being effing NINE and having the lightbulb turn on.

The fact that an adult has escaped that "ah ha" moment is pathetic.

getitdone

I had to go look up the post because I had no idea what the r word was. No one in my family or friends ever uses it so when i saw r word, nothing came to mind. I think because my mom taught children with special needs for 35 years, it was never an acceptable word in my home. I have seen it on FB on occassion and every time I see it, I cringe.

AnnieA75

dutchess546 has come back to apologize, but still nothing! We're all adults here. I seriously hope she comes back soon and apologizes.

mirdamae03

The R and F (the other one) words are the most vile words in our language IMO. Horrible.

MamaLlama14

My 8th grade students know that there are three words that will guarantee them detention and make it very hard to earn your way off of my shit list:  The R-word, the H-word and the F-word (synonymous with the H-word... think homophobia).

Basically any other thing they can do that is punishment-worthy I can try to rationalize where they're coming from... but those words are inexcusable and they've been taught a zero tolerance policy on them since they were in Pre-K.

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Miles2Go

Carpenter627 said:

Personally, I found the "cunt" response gif more offensive. The difference is that @dutchess546 was referring to herself, and trying to be helpful. (That is not to say that it is ok to use "the r word", but her intent was not malicious.) However, @miles2go and @camrynnsmommy posted gifs that said "cunt" and "bye bitch". Those were directed at dutchess, and therefore more offensive, IMHO. I'm sure I'm going to get flamed, but I'm just saying that if you are going to say you are offended by one, how are you not offended by the others?

Eh, I kind of agree with you and I posted it. I'm not really going to defend it. It's offensive(but certainly not moreso than the R word). Tit for tat, I guess? I don't actually use that word in real life (I don't think I've ever said it), but the gif was funny because it was Snow White, so I decided not to care. I don't think "bye bitch" was offensive, though. Also, I'd rather offend one person than an entire group of people. Whatevs.

ETA: I was worried that it was offensive and even cleared it with a mod first. Snow White saying cunt is still funny, though. 

I'll be right back with another offensive gif if you'd really like me to flame you, though. 

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Miles2Go

Carpenter627 said:

I don't get offended easily, and I'm not personally offended. Just making a point. Pot calling the kettle black and all. I still heart you guise.

Wait, so you DON'T want me to gif attack you? ::quietly closes google::

IBackBevo

Let's add the n word along with wet back and other racial slurs to that list.

MamaLlama14

@Carpenter627 I think the difference is that people have personal connections with children and adults with special needs and hearing that word becomes personal- in defense of those we know and a whole group that we don't.

I happen to know a whole bunch of cunts too and I don't particularly feel the need to defend them, so that word doesn't offend me so much

CamrynnsMommy

Cunt and bitch aren't degrading words describing a physical or mental handicap.

Totally not the same IMO. I stand behind my gif.

There are many other acceptable terms to describe the different way you walk, the "R" word doesn't even come to mind to me.

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Bootsie327

There are grown-ass, "professional" adults at my workplace who have used this word. I consider it to be just as bad as the "N" word or any other outdated, derogatory term. I can't even believe people would stoop to use it on a pregnancy/mothering board (let alone anywhere, ever)!

Tkhixen

I don't even think I have ever heard my 2nd graders use the r word!  Wow!  Grow up!

Nmooney1

I didn't see the post that this is referring too, but I canNOT stand that word. I have family members that are disabled and before I became a SAHM, I was a Residential Service Director at a facility for mentally disabled adults. It is sad that people like to just throw out that word to use as an insult.