@dh13 - you really need to de-friend your MIL or put major restrictions on what she can see on your Facebook. It will just make life easier for you in the long run. A part of me wouldn't want to delete her because I would want to know what she is saying about me but in the long run it's just not healthy to see that.
@trackgirlparis - if I am meeting people for the first time.. I would most certainly try to shower and have some make up on. If I am meeting with good friends I wouldn't care. I have however dressed my DS up on sleepers for daycare a few days this week. I am now paranoid that my DC lady is judging me?
My FCCC- last night my husband booked a 5 night, 6 days golfing trip with his buddies in Palm Springs CA. I started sobbing because A.) I am nervous to be home alone with DS and the dog for that many days. B.) I feel like my husbands life hasn't had to change much since DS has been born but mine has changed dramatically. C.) everyone gets to go on vacation except for me and this winter is depressing me. D.) I have been wanting to go on a trip with DH since our last one two years ago. His job doesn't let him do anything pretty much from March to November and my vacation time has been very limited.... And now he is going somewhere but with friends while DS and I have to stay home. Now my next opportunity won't be for another year I guess
This would really bother me... does he know how you feel?
I feel like my husbands life hasn't had to change much since DS has been born but mine has changed dramatically.
I feel exactly the same way. H has gone out with his buddies at least once, sometimes twice, a month since LO was born. They took him out to a nice restaurant a few weeks after she was born because they thought he deserved some time away to relax. What about me? I carried the kid for 9 months, gave birth to her, and I was struggling to BF at the time. I don't expect his buddies to take me out, but it just rubbed me the wrong way.
I'm going to a baby shower in a few weeks and H will be taking care of LO alone for the first time (I don't count when I'm in the shower, or things like that). I cannot wait for him to see how hard it really is. When I told him about the shower (it's about an hour away) he said, "Great. We can come with you, drop you off at the shower, and then pick you up when you are done. We'll just hang out at the mall or something in the meantime." NO!!! I am going to have a few hours to myself and NO you cannot come along with me at all.
I have another big one. I'm tripping out that I might be pregnant again. Getting a test today. I was on the Depo shot, but I think getting pumped with antibiotics and pain medication might have canceled it out a little. We really can't handle another one, so I'm really hoping that I'm not.
@awwwpuddin that is no big deal to me. You're going to your MILs, not out and about in town.
@ellaf one was a zipper one, another was not
@bkeane I totally think sleepers are adorable! I love DD in her sleepers...at home. I'm not someone who goes out of my house in my pajamas so why would I have my kid go out in them? Just my two cents
lol because they are babies! Not adults like us. No one is looking plus usually they have blankets over them in the stroller anyway.
Eh, I can see what you're saying...I guess I like dressing her up too much lol
my mom insists i put a shirt and a pair of pants on LO when she watches her..she said it's easier to change her when she spits up.
1.) all of her shirts and pants are like legit outfits and not very convenient when getting her ready in the morning.
2.) i don't change her when she spits up (for the most part) so neither should you, woman!
@dh13 that is EXACTLY how I feel about my MIL. #youarenotalone
@bkeane you don't sound like a douche
I met two other new moms in my area for coffee yesterday. One has a 9 week old and the other has one 5 days younger than DD.
The FFFC part: I felt so good about myself after coffee because they both were in yoga pants/sweatshirts, ponytails, no make up and their babies in sleepers...at noon. I was in jeans, hair done, make up on and DD was dressed really cute. I don't think that being a mom gives you the excuse to be a slob, especially in public. At home, fine!
Flame away!
Agree. Additionally, everyone has time for a shower at least once a day. Even if that shower doesnt come until your children are in bed. And to say you're too tired to take 5 minutes to bathe is ridiculous.
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
I met two other new moms in my area for coffee yesterday. One has a 9 week old and the other has one 5 days younger than DD.
The FFFC part: I felt so good about myself after coffee because they both were in yoga pants/sweatshirts, ponytails, no make up and their babies in sleepers...at noon. I was in jeans, hair done, make up on and DD was dressed really cute. I don't think that being a mom gives you the excuse to be a slob, especially in public. At home, fine!
Flame away!
Agree. Additionally, everyone has time for a shower at least once a day. Even if that shower doesnt come until your children are in bed. And to say you're too tired to take 5 minutes to bathe is ridiculous.
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
Unless that shower is across from your sleeping toddlers room and it will wake his ass up! I need a master bath (sigh)
Also, I am waking A up to go downstairs to play because the Fresh Prince is on and I freakin love that show. Plus, Full House follows it so she gets her life lessons from them.
When I have trouble getting LO down for the night, we rock and I sing the Fresh Prince theme song, love song style.
I met two other new moms in my area for coffee yesterday. One has a 9 week old and the other has one 5 days younger than DD.
The FFFC part: I felt so good about myself after coffee because they both were in yoga pants/sweatshirts, ponytails, no make up and their babies in sleepers...at noon. I was in jeans, hair done, make up on and DD was dressed really cute. I don't think that being a mom gives you the excuse to be a slob, especially in public. At home, fine!
Flame away!
Agree. Additionally, everyone has time for a shower at least once a day. Even if that shower doesnt come until your children are in bed. And to say you're too tired to take 5 minutes to bathe is ridiculous.
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
-------------------------------------------------- Hallelujah, thank you! ALL OF THIS!
Paris, you know I love you, but no... Lol I dress DD up real cute most days for daycare but a lot of times she goes in a sleeper. As long as the outfit is clean, she's clean, and I'm showered, I count it as a win. I've never done my makeup regularly and I consider brushing my hair to be "doing my hair". I've always worn a ponytail and I always will :-P and I'm still the hottest hotty that ever hottied, just ask MH
You know I love you too, and for what it's worth I still think you're a hottie
I met two other new moms in my area for coffee yesterday. One has a 9 week old and the other has one 5 days younger than DD.
The FFFC part: I felt so good about myself after coffee because they both were in yoga pants/sweatshirts, ponytails, no make up and their babies in sleepers...at noon. I was in jeans, hair done, make up on and DD was dressed really cute. I don't think that being a mom gives you the excuse to be a slob, especially in public. At home, fine!
Flame away!
Agree. Additionally, everyone has time for a shower at least once a day. Even if that shower doesnt come until your children are in bed. And to say you're too tired to take 5 minutes to bathe is ridiculous.
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
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Okay I go out in "nice" yoga pants (thank you lulu lemon for making my ass look less giant), cute flats and a nice jacket all the time! I have long hair and never blow dry or straighten it! I put a little mascara on when I know I'm leaving the house but that's it. Am I a slob? I certainly don't think so. I look pretty damn cute in my slobbish yoga pants and I would much rather play with LO during her awake time then spend 45 minutes "getting pretty" to impress who? My DH loves me, LO DGAF and I feel good, and gasp I'm sometimes meeting people for lunch - not in my jeans! Oh and LO loves her sleepers, I have a bunch of super cute ones and after her morning nap she changes out of jammies, into a fresh onesie and often into a cute footed sleeper. She looks adorable and more importantly seems comfortable. She's 3 months old for goodness sake, she doesn't need to be in a hip outfit every day!
I guess that's my FFFC, I side eye moms who are at the grocery store or coffee shop dolled up, carrying around a LO in a fancy outfit and clearly putting the focus on shiz that just doesn't matter. I don't think that's what was meant by the post but I see these mommas and it weirds me out, who are they trying to impress?
I have another big one. I'm tripping out that I might be pregnant again. Getting a test today. I was on the Depo shot, but I think getting pumped with antibiotics and pain medication might have canceled it out a little. We really can't handle another one, so I'm really hoping that I'm not.
TGP: Oi!!! I never wear makeup or do my hair and I will wear whatever goes well with a target nursing top. You wouldn't call me a slob, would you? (.....Think hard about your answer. I have my post it ready).
I can understand the makeup thing because it is kind of an extra. But, come on, if you're going to lunch, to meet new people and you put in no effort with yourself or your kid, whatsoever..,yeah I think it's being a slob.
But what if my sweatpants are trendy sweatpants like this?:
Never even seen those before but that outfit is cute
@bkeane I totally think sleepers are adorable! I love DD in her sleepers...at home. I'm not someone who goes out of my house in my pajamas so why would I have my kid go out in them? Just my two cents
lol because they are babies! Not adults like us. No one is looking plus usually they have blankets over them in the stroller anyway.
Eh, I can see what you're saying...I guess I like dressing her up too much lol
my mom insists i put a shirt and a pair of pants on LO when she watches her..she said it's easier to change her when she spits up.
1.) all of her shirts and pants are like legit outfits and not very convenient when getting her ready in the morning.
2.) i don't change her when she spits up (for the most part) so neither should you, woman!
@carawasa My MIL is like the anti-your mom! She never specially *asked* me to dress DD in sleepers when she watched her but she came home in jammies every time. The only time DD didn't come home in a change of clothes was the day I brought her to mil still in her sleeper because I was running late. Now I don't bother changing her out of her pj's on mil days. Jammies at Grammy's is easier on all of us
You're right, Definitely not what that post was meaning about ignoring your kids to get all dolled up.
My point was really that I think new moms make up too many excuses to not take care of themselves. Not showering/shaving/brushing hair etc. and if you're going out there should be some effort put into how you are looking. And in regards to the babies out in sleepers, I know they are comfy but regular outfits are too. I think it looks lazy when a baby is out in just a sleeper. But again, that is just the way I see it. Obviously lots of moms don't.
@trackgirlparis I completely agree with you! I've never taken Jude out in public in a sleeper and we go out a lot. He has so many cute outfits and they are just as comfy as a sleeper. I feel ya, girl.
And for me, well I always try to take a shower every day.. Sometimes every other. Just depends. Yesterday I took a shower, did my make up, curled my hair, and then put on my skinny yoga pants, a sweatshirt, and my fuzzy slipper boots. I still felt great! I think just taking some time for you is important.. It helps me feel good about myself. I would be depressed if I didn't get dressed and go out every now and then.
I wear yoga pants almost everywhere. The have a quarter size hole in here left but cheek, but I wear black panties so most people don't notice. I have one pair of jeans that I love and they don't fit because I've stopped my BP meds and gained 10 fucking pounds.
I put dd in clothes when we leave the house because she has so many clothes and I feel like if she looks cute, no one will notice my clothing choices.
Our business has tanked since LO was born because I just don't pay as much attention as I used to and I'm barely getting by as far as doing my job. DH is in a job interview now and we're shutting down the business and moving back to our home state. I'm overly excited about this! Steady pay checks FTW!
I picked out a baby shower gift for my SIL solely because Target had it on sale AND was offering a $10 gift card with purchase. It's still a good gift - a Boppy - and I'm going to get some other cute things to make a "BF survival kit" but still ... not handing over the gift card.
Also, we started LO in daycare but I don't have many clients at the moment (I work a couple contract positions as a therapist and homestudy assessor) so I've been sitting at home alone being lazy and feeling pretty worthless this week. Especially because the babysitter is better than me at getting him to go to sleep and he has been taking much longer naps at her house than he ever does when home with me. I know it is probably because of the extra stimulation of being around other kids, but still gives me feelings of inadequacy as a mom.
Oh, and @dh13 I also laugh at my baby when he cries. I have tons of blurry photos on my phone trying to capture the cuteness of that lower lip sticking out about a mile ... so not do I laugh while my child is miserable, I torment him with a camera in his face.
1. I went to happy hour last night with my husband and the baby, and we go so often the waitress knows Willa's name. Oh, and we got a babysitter for tonight so we can go to happy hour alone. #takemyPPvirginityplease. (But, I miss my baby! I will cuddle that fatty all day Saturday!!!)
2. I borrowed "fat" jeans from a friend of mine who recently lost 30 lbs...the flameful part? They are a size 8. @bkeane619...this sounds douchey...not yours. I'll own it.
Flame away!!!
Muhahahahahaha.
PPS I've already said "I don't fucking care" about a patient today...sooooo...I'm done!
1. I went to happy hour last night with my husband and the baby, and we go so often the waitress knows Willa's name. Oh, and we got a babysitter for tonight so we can go to happy hour alone. #takemyPPvirginityplease. (But, I miss my baby! I will cuddle that fatty all day Saturday!!!)
2. I borrowed "fat" jeans from a friend of mine who recently lost 30 lbs...the flameful part? They are a size 8. @bkeane619...this sounds douchey...not yours. I'll own it.
Flame away!!!
Muhahahahahaha.
PPS I've already said "I don't fucking care" about a patient today...sooooo...I'm done!
Not flaming... totes jealous! My skinny jeans right now are a size 8.
@awwwpuddin I constantly talk to LO in a British accent. I accidentally let a "well 'ello govna!" slip out when I got her from the nanny the other day. I can't help it, DD thinks it's hilarious!
Diaper changes quickly turn into a German accent. "Augh! Ha-sel, you schtink!" But don't worry, I don't reserve this for just the baby, I yell at the cats in a French accent.
I am so embarrassing.
My husband does the weird diaper change voice thing too. But he is German, so he puts on this bizarre "white trash" (HIS description for it) accent. Part hiphop, part deep south, part whatever-the-hell-that-is and it is BRILLIANTLY funny for all four of us.
@kuhababy the whole vacation thing would make me cry too. My DH usually goes on a 4 day snowmobile trip over Presidents Day. He was being a douche about going, so we were gonna have my Mom fly up and stay with me. However, the stars aligned and he's not going, and my Mom is still gonna come in march. He did leave me for 5 days, but he was working so there wasn't really any abandonment issues there.
@brit1983 they really are worth it. I bought a pair of full length yoga pants and capris on sale like 3 years ago, I still wear them all the time! They have an awesome waist band that sucks it all in and you still look cute and comfy!
@trackgirlparis, agree that it's nice to take care of yourself because every one should have time for that. It's nice to feel like your best self! LO sleeps in a sleep sack so I still see footed outfit as an okay for day wear but maybe that'll change when she starts sleeping in them? If she doesn't wear them during the day then they'd never get worn! I do enjoy putting her in her cute outfits for special outings ;-)
Lol at the yoga pants and sleeper/lazy issue. Baby clothes are stupid and a waste of money!! I kept a few outfits for special occasions and the rest of my baby's clothes are sleepers. Baby clothes are only for parents to be "look at how cute my kid is blah blah blah" annoying, it's a baby!!! No need for all clothing. My kid goes from one sleeper to the next.
I wear leggings pretty much everyday and I look good. I am not buying clothes until I loose the last 10 pounds. A lot of women don't wear makeup. I wear my hair in a ponytail a lot because LO likes to grab and yank it.
I really feel if you only feel good if you have to be all dolled up, you have a low self esteem.
My FCCC- last night my husband booked a 5 night, 6 days golfing trip with his buddies in Palm Springs CA. I started sobbing because A.) I am nervous to be home alone with DS and the dog for that many days. B.) I feel like my husbands life hasn't had to change much since DS has been born but mine has changed dramatically. C.) everyone gets to go on vacation except for me and this winter is depressing me. D.) I have been wanting to go on a trip with DH since our last one two years ago. His job doesn't let him do anything pretty much from March to November and my vacation time has been very limited.... And now he is going somewhere but with friends while DS and I have to stay home. Now my next opportunity won't be for another year I guess
Man, a lot of woman on woman hate going on in this thread. Can you imagine dudes sitting around like, "Did you see what Sam wore to the Super Bowl party? Sweats and a ball cap? Talk about no effort!"
I would probably try to fix up a little if I knew I was meeting new mom friends for the first time, only b/c I know women are judgmental and would think less of me otherwise. But especially that 9 week old's mom deserves a pass, I barely had my shit together at 9 weeks PP.
Also, sleepers were a godsend when it was cold and I *could not* keep socks on my baby for the life of me.
Mostly, I find 'rules' and 'requirements' about what I or my baby *must* look like when leaving the house to be fucking ridiculous. #shallow
Oh, and every time I hear a board member say they took a pregnancy test but are hoping it's negative, I can't help but think--seriously ladies, birth control, it's not that complicated. ETA I mean, we all know how babies are made by now, right??
I really feel if you only feel good if you have to be all dolled up, you have a low self esteem.
Isn't it natural to feel pretty/good about yourself if you are all dolled up? like you took the time to make yourself feel good put in the extra effort. i don't think that is low self esteem at all. but what do i know....
When I put on makeup, I spend half my time thinking, "Don't forget you can't rub your eyes like you normally do because you will look like Tammy Faye Baker."
I really feel if you only feel good if you have to be all dolled up, you have a low self esteem.
I don't feel that way at all. I definitely do not have low self esteem but it makes me feel better to be clean and ready for the day. I just really don't agree with that statement. At all.
Re: FFFC
I feel exactly the same way. H has gone out with his buddies at least once, sometimes twice, a month since LO was born. They took him out to a nice restaurant a few weeks after she was born because they thought he deserved some time away to relax. What about me? I carried the kid for 9 months, gave birth to her, and I was struggling to BF at the time. I don't expect his buddies to take me out, but it just rubbed me the wrong way.
I'm going to a baby shower in a few weeks and H will be taking care of LO alone for the first time (I don't count when I'm in the shower, or things like that). I cannot wait for him to see how hard it really is. When I told him about the shower (it's about an hour away) he said, "Great. We can come with you, drop you off at the shower, and then pick you up when you are done. We'll just hang out at the mall or something in the meantime." NO!!! I am going to have a few hours to myself and NO you cannot come along with me at all.
LO then (2 days) and now (1 year)
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
Unless that shower is across from your sleeping toddlers room and it will wake his ass up!
I need a master bath (sigh)
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
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Hallelujah, thank you! ALL OF THIS!
Okay I go out in "nice" yoga pants (thank you lulu lemon for making my ass look less giant), cute flats and a nice jacket all the time! I have long hair and never blow dry or straighten it! I put a little mascara on when I know I'm leaving the house but that's it. Am I a slob? I certainly don't think so. I look pretty damn cute in my slobbish yoga pants and I would much rather play with LO during her awake time then spend 45 minutes "getting pretty" to impress who? My DH loves me, LO DGAF and I feel good, and gasp I'm sometimes meeting people for lunch - not in my jeans! Oh and LO loves her sleepers, I have a bunch of super cute ones and after her morning nap she changes out of jammies, into a fresh onesie and often into a cute footed sleeper. She looks adorable and more importantly seems comfortable. She's 3 months old for goodness sake, she doesn't need to be in a hip outfit every day!
I guess that's my FFFC, I side eye moms who are at the grocery store or coffee shop dolled up, carrying around a LO in a fancy outfit and clearly putting the focus on shiz that just doesn't matter. I don't think that's what was meant by the post but I see these mommas and it weirds me out, who are they trying to impress?
:-O Omhigoshyouhavetoupdateusassoonaspossible.
@carawasa My MIL is like the anti-your mom! She never specially *asked* me to dress DD in sleepers when she watched her but she came home in jammies every time. The only time DD didn't come home in a change of clothes was the day I brought her to mil still in her sleeper because I was running late. Now I don't bother changing her out of her pj's on mil days. Jammies at Grammy's is easier on all of us
You're right, Definitely not what that post was meaning about ignoring your kids to get all dolled up.
My point was really that I think new moms make up too many excuses to not take care of themselves. Not showering/shaving/brushing hair etc. and if you're going out there should be some effort put into how you are looking. And in regards to the babies out in sleepers, I know they are comfy but regular outfits are too. I think it looks lazy when a baby is out in just a sleeper. But again, that is just the way I see it. Obviously lots of moms don't.
(And lulus are fabulous by the way)
And for me, well I always try to take a shower every day.. Sometimes every other. Just depends. Yesterday I took a shower, did my make up, curled my hair, and then put on my skinny yoga pants, a sweatshirt, and my fuzzy slipper boots. I still felt great! I think just taking some time for you is important.. It helps me feel good about myself. I would be depressed if I didn't get dressed and go out every now and then.
I put dd in clothes when we leave the house because she has so many clothes and I feel like if she looks cute, no one will notice my clothing choices.
Our business has tanked since LO was born because I just don't pay as much attention as I used to and I'm barely getting by as far as doing my job. DH is in a job interview now and we're shutting down the business and moving back to our home state. I'm overly excited about this! Steady pay checks FTW!
#lotsofsugar
#lotsofmilk
1. I went to happy hour last night with my husband and the baby, and we go so often the waitress knows Willa's name. Oh, and we got a babysitter for tonight so we can go to happy hour alone. #takemyPPvirginityplease. (But, I miss my baby! I will cuddle that fatty all day Saturday!!!)
2. I borrowed "fat" jeans from a friend of mine who recently lost 30 lbs...the flameful part? They are a size 8. @bkeane619...this sounds douchey...not yours. I'll own it.
Flame away!!!
Muhahahahahaha.
PPS I've already said "I don't fucking care" about a patient today...sooooo...I'm done!
@trackgirlparis, agree that it's nice to take care of yourself because every one should have time for that. It's nice to feel like your best self! LO sleeps in a sleep sack so I still see footed outfit as an okay for day wear but maybe that'll change when she starts sleeping in them? If she doesn't wear them during the day then they'd never get worn! I do enjoy putting her in her cute outfits for special outings ;-)
I like when my dog licks my toes. It makes me giggle
I wear leggings pretty much everyday and I look good. I am not buying clothes until I loose the last 10 pounds. A lot of women don't wear makeup. I wear my hair in a ponytail a lot because LO likes to grab and yank it.
I really feel if you only feel good if you have to be all dolled up, you have a low self esteem.
#igivenofucks
I would probably try to fix up a little if I knew I was meeting new mom friends for the first time, only b/c I know women are judgmental and would think less of me otherwise. But especially that 9 week old's mom deserves a pass, I barely had my shit together at 9 weeks PP.
Also, sleepers were a godsend when it was cold and I *could not* keep socks on my baby for the life of me.
Mostly, I find 'rules' and 'requirements' about what I or my baby *must* look like when leaving the house to be fucking ridiculous. #shallow
2. IDGAF if someone's infant is in public in a sleeper. Toddlers and adults, okay, maybe I judge.
3. I'm leaving work at 3:30 today. Whatevs, I live in the Caribbean and it's Friday.
ETA I mean, we all know how babies are made by now, right??
#youaretooyoungtoknowwhoTammyFayeis
#Googleher
#raccooneyes