I really feel if you only feel good if you have to be all dolled up, you have a low self esteem.
Isn't it natural to feel pretty/good about yourself if you are all dolled up? like you took the time to make yourself feel good put in the extra effort. i don't think that is low self esteem at all. but what do i know....
I'm with you. I deft think my face looks skinnier with my hair down and straightened then up. I always feel more pretty with my hair done. And I don't think that has to do with self esteem.
I really feel if you only feel good if you have to be all dolled up, you have a low self esteem.
Isn't it natural to feel pretty/good about yourself if you are all dolled up? like you took the time to make yourself feel good put in the extra effort. i don't think that is low self esteem at all. but what do i know....
When I put on makeup, I spend half my time thinking, "Don't forget you can't rub your eyes like you normally do because you will look like Tammy Faye Baker."
You take that back! Tammy Faye was a beautiful southern jewel!
With makeup all over her face. God rest her soul. Weird side note, I just looked at her wikipedia page and found out she died about 20 minutes from where I grew up. #whoknew #shediedinMissourinotthesouth
I have actually been doing the plank and am proud that I can at least do a minute (if thats as far as i will ever get).
My DH took DD1 to see frozen today and I am totally sitting at home and doing nothing all day. That's a lame confession, but its a true story and am so excited to be a lazy mom today!!
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Last night I went to change DD before her bath and there was a wipe in the diaper she was wearing... Guess that was collateral damage from the prior diaper change. Mommy fail.
I did this once...with a washcloth. And found it under poop a while later!
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I'm way on edge about germs these days. We spent a week in the hospital when he was born and that was more than enough, thank you very much!
I hung out with friends the other day and their kids all coughed all over DS. I was so pissed. They could have mentioned ahead of time that their kids had colds... I don't want to be overprotective and bitchy but at the same time, I know he's at higher risk of lung problems. I'm also on edge bc he's been really congested, but so far it is in his head, not his chest, thankfully. I'm desperate to get out of the house and hang out with friends, but that seems unlikely this weekend.
You're right, Definitely not what that post was meaning about ignoring your kids to get all dolled up.
My point was really that I think new moms make up too many excuses to not take care of themselves. Not showering/shaving/brushing hair etc. and if you're going out there should be some effort put into how you are looking. And in regards to the babies out in sleepers, I know they are comfy but regular outfits are too. I think it looks lazy when a baby is out in just a sleeper. But again, that is just the way I see it. Obviously lots of moms don't.
(And lulus are fabulous by the way)
So when you talk about sleepers, you're referring to the zip up/button up footed outfits, correct?
DS entire wardrobe is 99% hand me downs from my SIL who had two boys, one of which is only 3 mos older than LO, and some from another family friend w/ 3 boys. 99% of that wardrobe are those footed sleepers which he wears at home and in public.
BUT, I absolutely change him into his little tie onesie and pants when we go to a party or something, but very rarely will he wear anything other than a sleeper bc I don't feel the need to buy new "outfits" when he has a drawer full of perfectly precious clothes that I got for free.
My FFFC: I think I'm becoming one of those FTMs who thinks I know everything, and I've caught myself judging others already for the decisions they've made about their LOs. I'm PO about it too! I don't want to be like that! I haven't said anything to anyone, but I feel myself giving side eyes to friends who aren't doing things the way I would. It's pretty ridiculous
TGP: Oi!!! I never wear makeup or do my hair and I will wear whatever goes well with a target nursing top. You wouldn't call me a slob, would you? (.....Think hard about your answer. I have my post it ready).
team slob, i did get fancy today with my nice sweatshirt and jeans makeup/blow dried hair....going to a concert tonight. pulled out all the stops for tonight
Are you wearing these, LB? If so, totes dressed up, and you are the hottest hottie that every hottied. (I LOL'd at that.)
1. I went to happy hour last night with my husband and the baby, and we go so often the waitress knows Willa's name. Oh, and we got a babysitter for tonight so we can go to happy hour alone. #takemyPPvirginityplease. (But, I miss my baby! I will cuddle that fatty all day Saturday!!!)
2. I borrowed "fat" jeans from a friend of mine who recently lost 30 lbs...the flameful part? They are a size 8. @bkeane619...this sounds douchey...not yours. I'll own it.
Flame away!!!
Muhahahahahaha.
PPS I've already said "I don't fucking care" about a patient today...sooooo...I'm done!
Yes. Happy hour = yes. Glad they know Willa's name, feels cozier that way. Keep it up.
I think we shall be doing some of that this weekend, FFS we live above a bar.
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I LOL at the massive pile of clean laundry that continues to grow in my room. DS has been so cranky from being congested and he'll only sleep on me at the moment, so I just don't have time for it. At least it's clean, right?
Also, FTR, being out in public in sweats and a ponytail =/= not being 'clean' or 'fresh' or whatnot. @trackgirlparis said the girls were in sweats and ponys, not that they were dirt squirrels. It just makes me sad to see smart, awesome women put so much emphasis on how they or others look.
I really feel if you only feel good if you have to be all dolled up, you have a low self esteem.
Isn't it natural to feel pretty/good about yourself if you are all dolled up? like you took the time to make yourself feel good put in the extra effort. i don't think that is low self esteem at all. but what do i know....
Maybe I'm just a weirdo, but I feel the complete opposite. I feel my best when I don't have an ounce of makeup on. So maybe the moral of the story here should be: do what makes you feel good, own it, and don't give a shit about what anyone else thinks.
I hate coffee, but I'm making myself learn to love it. I've been drinking at least 1 cup a day. I'm to tired to not like coffee.
#lotsofsugar
#lotsofmilk
I hated coffee until I entered law school. Being a single mom in law school full time makes you extremely tired, and they had free coffee on campus. I quickly became addicted and now it is a must for me on most days.
I hate coffee, but I'm making myself learn to love it. I've been drinking at least 1 cup a day. I'm to tired to not like coffee.
#lotsofsugar #lotsofmilk
I hated coffee until I entered law school. Being a single mom in law school full time makes you extremely tired, and they had free coffee on campus. I quickly became addicted and now it is a must for me on most days.
I used to drink an entire pot every morning. But cut back to one cup when I was pregnant. Now I just have to make the coffee. I may or may not get to drink it but it has to be made.
Thank you @comeongetdown! I said if you only feel good when you get dolled up. You should be able to feel good without all that makeup a and hair product.
I met two other new moms in my area for coffee yesterday. One has a 9 week old and the other has one 5 days younger than DD.
The FFFC part: I felt so good about myself after coffee because they both were in yoga pants/sweatshirts, ponytails, no make up and their babies in sleepers...at noon. I was in jeans, hair done, make up on and DD was dressed really cute. I don't think that being a mom gives you the excuse to be a slob, especially in public. At home, fine!
Flame away!
Agree. Additionally, everyone has time for a shower at least once a day. Even if that shower doesnt come until your children are in bed. And to say you're too tired to take 5 minutes to bathe is ridiculous.
I also dont take DD out in just a sleeper. Pajamas are for bed or hanging out at home.
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Okay I go out in "nice" yoga pants (thank you lulu lemon for making my ass look less giant), cute flats and a nice jacket all the time! I have long hair and never blow dry or straighten it! I put a little mascara on when I know I'm leaving the house but that's it. Am I a slob? I certainly don't think so. I look pretty damn cute in my slobbish yoga pants and I would much rather play with LO during her awake time then spend 45 minutes "getting pretty" to impress who? My DH loves me, LO DGAF and I feel good, and gasp I'm sometimes meeting people for lunch - not in my jeans! Oh and LO loves her sleepers, I have a bunch of super cute ones and after her morning nap she changes out of jammies, into a fresh onesie and often into a cute footed sleeper. She looks adorable and more importantly seems comfortable. She's 3 months old for goodness sake, she doesn't need to be in a hip outfit every day!
I guess that's my FFFC, I side eye moms who are at the grocery store or coffee shop dolled up, carrying around a LO in a fancy outfit and clearly putting the focus on shiz that just doesn't matter. I don't think that's what was meant by the post but I see these mommas and it weirds me out, who are they trying to impress?
You would def side eye me hard. @trackgirlparis I LOVE dressing DS in cute little button ups and even ::gasp:: shoes. I was given so many adorable outfit choices, leaving the house in jammie's would do his closet an injustice. I go out at least 3 times a week to lunch/dinner/coffee with friends and like to be very presentable as well. And when my girlfriends gawk over him and take igram pics I think "damn that kid looks good"
I have one now: my 2 year old is having surgery in Feb. He had to have a development test today to see if the surgery causes regression. The test was at 9:00 in the morning and it was an 1.5 hour drive so I had to wake him up early. I was so nervous that he wasn't going to be awake and wouldn't do well on the test, I gave him Kit Kats on the way there. A little sugar never hurt anyone.
I too have never seen Star Wars and have no desire too.
I guess I have several confessions;
1. Brody's room has never been finished. I haven't even bought bedding. He sleeps with us, his crib is a storage place right now.
2. Failing at BF and it's my own fault. I'm living off coffee and rarely drink water anymore and I haven't nursed him in three days. Part of me wants to just give up and do formula and part of me doesn't.
3. I rarely go anywhere. The highlight if my week is grocery shopping, so it's yoga pants and tank tops for me.
4. Brody doesn't sleep anywhere but on me, so I get nothing done. If I lay him down, he's awake in less than 5 minutes. If I hold him, he'll sleep for an hour and a half and I get nothing done. It's a catch 22.
I'm sitting in the glider babywearing LO and just missed my mouth with water and poured a big gulp on his head. Oops. He's still sleeping despite his head being soaked. Boom! Had to take pic for memory shits sake.
I'm sitting in the glider babywearing LO and just missed my mouth with water and poured a big gulp on his head. Oops. He's still sleeping despite his head being soaked. Boom! Had to take pic for memory shits sake.
I had a friend who, at the beginning of her pregnancy (I was entering 3rd tri and gaining more than I should have) would post all about how much she was exercising and would throughout pregnancy and how easy child birth would be and how healthy she was. I secretly hoped she'd get a dose of reality and how it's really not that easy. She did. She gained a ton of weight and mostly posted pictures of junk food she was eating by the end. It made me feel better about myself.
@carawasa Love fancy restaurants! Providence has such a great restaurant scene. We were at Hemenways last week and tried out Los Andes last night. Where you going tonight to get your martini on?
I met two other new moms in my area for coffee yesterday. One has a 9 week old and the other has one 5 days younger than DD.
The FFFC part: I felt so good about myself after coffee because they both were in yoga pants/sweatshirts, ponytails, no make up and their babies in sleepers...at noon. I was in jeans, hair done, make up on and DD was dressed really cute. I don't think that being a mom gives you the excuse to be a slob, especially in public. At home, fine!
Flame away!
i really hate it when women judge other women on their appearance. How i dress or whether or not I wear makeup has absolutely no bearing on who I am as a person.
1- I never ever wear makeup (maybe 1x or 2x a year if that). I don't like it.
2- My hair is always in a pony- again because I don't like doing my hair.
3- I love sleepers on babies when it's cold. pants ride up and socks fall off, and their legs get cold. Plus pants are a PITA when it comes to diaper changes.
#sorrynotsorry
#secureinmylooks
#societalstandardsdon'tdictatewhoiam
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I literally hate my MIL. Not just that animosity that most people have with their ILs, but I literally and completely hate her. She has continued to post passive aggressive statuses on FB about the way I choose to raise my daughter and she purposely tries to drive a wedge between her son and I, especially by criticizing our parenting choices. For example, the recent antics are:
1) She keeps telling everyone that A will have to wear a helmet because she has a flat spot on her head. False, my pedi has been keeping an eye on it and isn't so concerned with it. We were visiting this weekend and she kept badgering me to put her in the bouncer to protect her head, even though A hates it. Even after I said "no," she still went and got the seat. DH finally spoke up and told her that we are her parents and we know what is best for her.
2) Queen MIL asked the entire family to go to a swanky restaurant for her birthday (for example, DH and I had a bill of $150 before tip.. Ridiculous). FIL was so embarrassed that MIL was making her children pay for themselves since this was the only option for her to eat at and we would be shunned if we didn't go. He tried to pay for us, and she told him to shut up in front of the entire family. Awkward all around. So now I'm out $150 for a dinner to celebrate this loon.
3) I posted a video on FB of A playing a game on the iPad, and by playing a game, I mean smacking the screen and watching the lights. MIL proceeds with a public ass reaming of myself about how I am "burning out her corneas" .. I promise you I couldn't make this up if I tried. Anyways, I didn't even acknowledge it but other FB friends called her out with scientific evidence disproving her theories (best FB friends ever). Fast forward to yesterday, she posts another passive aggressive status detailing how her eyes are severely strained by looking at the iPad over her trifocals and trying to watch TV afterwards "just sayin" ... I can't with this woman.
I honestly would not be mad if I never had to see her face again.
What a royal bitch. I'd either delete her off fb...or block her from any future posts you put up. AND kick her on her donut.
I'm sitting in the glider babywearing LO and just missed my mouth with water and poured a big gulp on his head. Oops. He's still sleeping despite his head being soaked. Boom! Had to take pic for memory shits sake.
Meh, at least it's not booze. #youwouldlickitoffhissleepinghead
I had a FFFC of my own, but due to insufficient caffeine intake, I have
forgotten it. Therefore, I shall contribute the following:
Yoga pants are awesome.
Ponytails are awesome.
Sleepers on 3-month-olds are awesome.
Moms who bust their asses just to get from one day to the next without crying in the shower -- and use yoga pants, ponytails, and sleepers to do it -- are also awesome.
Star Wars is fucking incredible. (LO's middle name is Hutt. Is that my FFFC?)
I had a FFFC of my own, but due to insufficient caffeine intake, I have
forgotten it. Therefore, I shall contribute the following:
Yoga pants are awesome.
Ponytails are awesome.
Sleepers on 3-month-olds are awesome.
Moms who bust their asses just to get from one day to the next without crying in the shower -- and use yoga pants, ponytails, and sleepers to do it -- are also awesome.
Star Wars is fucking incredible. (LO's middle name is Hutt. Is that my FFFC?)
Let me clarify one thing. When I was freshly PP, I wore maternity jeans. Mainly this was because my ass actually jiggled when I walked and the jeans added much needed structure. After walking and watching what I am eating, a good amount of fat has melted off my hips and butt so I can get away with yoga pants again.
Let me clarify one thing. When I was freshly PP, I wore maternity jeans. Mainly this was because my ass actually jiggled when I walked and the jeans added much needed structure. After walking and watching what I am eating, a good amount of fat has melted off my hips and butt so I can get away with yoga pants again.
Good god in heaven, I just loved a Wino post. #checkingmyselfforfever
Meee toooo.
#neverthoughtidseetheday
My FFFC: sometimes I automatically love certain people's posts before reading them because 99.9% of the time I agree with what they say. Hopefully they don't say something horrible one day and I'm the one douche who "loved it"
Also sleepers on babies are the bomb.com. Screw outfits on a baby who freaks out when I put things over his head and loses socks like it's his job and makes it impossible to pull up pants because of his big fluffy CD butt.
I haven't seen Star Wars, I watched the Star Trek movie (never the tv series), but fell asleep in the movie, I haven't seen space balls, but my confession is I have seen the porn that parodies space balls.
Re: FFFC
My DH took DD1 to see frozen today and I am totally sitting at home and doing nothing all day. That's a lame confession, but its a true story and am so excited to be a lazy mom today!!
I hung out with friends the other day and their kids all coughed all over DS. I was so pissed. They could have mentioned ahead of time that their kids had colds... I don't want to be overprotective and bitchy but at the same time, I know he's at higher risk of lung problems. I'm also on edge bc he's been really congested, but so far it is in his head, not his chest, thankfully. I'm desperate to get out of the house and hang out with friends, but that seems unlikely this weekend.
#lonelysuperbowl
DS entire wardrobe is 99% hand me downs from my SIL who had two boys, one of which is only 3 mos older than LO, and some from another family friend w/ 3 boys. 99% of that wardrobe are those footed sleepers which he wears at home and in public.
BUT, I absolutely change him into his little tie onesie and pants when we go to a party or something, but very rarely will he wear anything other than a sleeper bc I don't feel the need to buy new "outfits" when he has a drawer full of perfectly precious clothes that I got for free.
#thatsbeingfrugalnotlazy
#sleepersforlyfe
#igivenofucks
My FFFC: I think I'm becoming one of those FTMs who thinks I know everything, and I've caught myself judging others already for the decisions they've made about their LOs. I'm PO about it too! I don't want to be like that! I haven't said anything to anyone, but I feel myself giving side eyes to friends who aren't doing things the way I would. It's pretty ridiculous
BFP #1: Mother's Day 5/13/12...m/c Memorial Day Weekend 5/26/12
BFP #2: 2/16/13...Owen Ray born 6 weeks early 9/9/13
I think we shall be doing some of that this weekend, FFS we live above a bar.
#FuckyouET
I'm right there with ya!
I used to drink an entire pot every morning. But cut back to one cup when I was pregnant. Now I just have to make the coffee. I may or may not get to drink it but it has to be made.
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
I won't comment on your previous post. #youhavenosoul #StarWarsandStarTrekareamazing #talkinginpoundsmeansIdidnotreallyaddressit
I guess that's my FFFC, I side eye moms who are at the grocery store or coffee shop dolled up, carrying around a LO in a fancy outfit and clearly putting the focus on shiz that just doesn't matter. I don't think that's what was meant by the post but I see these mommas and it weirds me out, who are they trying to impress?
You would def side eye me hard. @trackgirlparis I LOVE dressing DS in cute little button ups and even ::gasp:: shoes. I was given so many adorable outfit choices, leaving the house in jammie's would do his closet an injustice. I go out at least 3 times a week to lunch/dinner/coffee with friends and like to be very presentable as well. And when my girlfriends gawk over him and take igram pics I think "damn that kid looks good"
I guess I have several confessions;
1. Brody's room has never been finished. I haven't even bought bedding. He sleeps with us, his crib is a storage place right now.
2. Failing at BF and it's my own fault. I'm living off coffee and rarely drink water anymore and I haven't nursed him in three days. Part of me wants to just give up and do formula and part of me doesn't.
3. I rarely go anywhere. The highlight if my week is grocery shopping, so it's yoga pants and tank tops for me.
4. Brody doesn't sleep anywhere but on me, so I get nothing done. If I lay him down, he's awake in less than 5 minutes. If I hold him, he'll sleep for an hour and a half and I get nothing done. It's a catch 22.
#ivegotasleepingkidandasinkfullofdishes
#promiseimnotstalkingyou
1- I never ever wear makeup (maybe 1x or 2x a year if that). I don't like it.
2- My hair is always in a pony- again because I don't like doing my hair.
3- I love sleepers on babies when it's cold. pants ride up and socks fall off, and their legs get cold. Plus pants are a PITA when it comes to diaper changes.
#sorrynotsorry
#secureinmylooks
#societalstandardsdon'tdictatewhoiam
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Wish I could "LOVE" this a million times
What a royal bitch. I'd either delete her off fb...or block her from any future posts you put up. AND kick her on her donut.
Yoga pants are awesome.
Ponytails are awesome.
Sleepers on 3-month-olds are awesome.
Moms who bust their asses just to get from one day to the next without crying in the shower -- and use yoga pants, ponytails, and sleepers to do it -- are also awesome.
Star Wars is fucking incredible. (LO's middle name is Hutt. Is that my FFFC?)
#atleastwedidntnamehimafterjarjar
TL;DR: my ass looks fabulous.
Hahahaha that gif! I can't stop watching it.
#neverthoughtidseetheday
My FFFC: sometimes I automatically love certain people's posts before reading them because 99.9% of the time I agree with what they say. Hopefully they don't say something horrible one day and I'm the one douche who "loved it"
Also sleepers on babies are the bomb.com. Screw outfits on a baby who freaks out when I put things over his head and loses socks like it's his job and makes it impossible to pull up pants because of his big fluffy CD butt.
And I haven't seen ET.