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May 2014 Moms
FFFC
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Re: FFFC
I seriously just pictured brakes squealing and a car reversing. This ladies, is someone back pedaling.
I wish you luck @JKBMA2014 but I can't argue with ignorance. Your excuse making is endless.
She does not want us to leave. She has NO ONE and has made that very clear to us. If she could have us around forever she would. Trust me when I tell you that.
It's pretty clear to me that most of you have not ever really lived with an addict or an alcoholic. Its very toxic. If you have you may understand my anger and annoyance a little better. I don't feel entitled to shit, but I do really as a human being living in her house or not, that I deserve the same amount of respect that I give to her. She is a very ugly person. There have been times where she has called me a bad wife because I didn't try my husband clothes on the setting that she dries his clothes. She has made comments about the way I cook, yet she wont even boil spaghetti noodles. There have been times (usually when she has been drinking) where she has come in to the kitchen and changed settings on things I have cooking and just walked away. Why? You tell me. We buy all of the groceries. But those groceries are for everyone and just recently for example she ate what was supposed to be our lunch the night before during her little munchie escapade where she gets up 2-3 times a night and just eats everything in site. She has taken my dogs medicine to give to her dog because she wont take him to the vet. After he was shitting blood and vomiting for a WEEK I finally got approved for a vet card and took him myself. We take care of her. She is completely helpless without us.
Now I'm not here to argue why living with an alcoholic can cause someone to "complain". Sorry but living with her or not, respect is supposed to be given to everyone. It does not ENTITLE her to treat us like shit. So I'm getting off because I don't really need to continue to explain myself or reasoning,
Let me break it down for you though:
Every single excuse you've given as to why your MIL is a miserable human being is spot on. *She* is miserable. Put yourself in her shoes for a minute, you have no one, and nothing to your name. You have a few mental disorders, and no will to live, and no one seems to care either way. You drink yourself to sleep because it's the only way you can get yourself to sleep without making that last bottle of prescription pain killers disappear at once to end it all. But sadly, the depression that's taken over your body, mind, and life is only multiplied exponentially by the depressant alcohol you consume on regular basis to a lethal level.
And I speak from experience, I have depression, and have lived with many addicts my entire life. There is no pain stronger than the pain your MIL is suffering from right now, and she's so blinded by her pain that she can't see the light at the end of the tunnel anymore. Ever stop to think that your FIL married your MIL for a reason? That maybe deep down under all that pain is the woman she really is? It took nearly having his foot ripped off at work, but my DH's stepfather stopped his drinking, and my god he really is a nice guy under it all.
If you want sympathy, be someone who deserves it. But no one here cares to here your BS anymore, so if you want your life to change, *change it*. And I'm not talking just about moving out. If you're not willing to do something for her to really make a change, do something for yourself and get some counseling. And shame on your husband for not doing something himself, and for letting his wife harbor such hateful feelings towards his own mother.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
I would have thought you'd have learned everyone's opinion on that by now.
It's biting the hand that feeds you. As other PPs said, I do everything around my house too....And work to pay the mortgage, taxes, utilities, groceries, etc. You may not believe it until you're out on your own, but you have it made. Don't forget you are making a CHOICE to keep living there. You could move out. You could get a job.
True story: first time I ever picked a screen name way back in the 90s, it didn't occur to me that online no-one knows who you are and all they have is the screen name. I picked Invisible Nick because of one of the characters in the school play. If I remember correctly, my first time trying to use a chat room a gay man tried to hit on me. (I have impressively broken gay-dar, and my "this person is hitting on me" receptors are also seriously faulty, so that conversation got pretty strange before I figured out 1) he was hitting on me and 2) he thought I was a dude.)
As do I.
Ibackbevo wrote in response to JKbma2014:
Being a SAHW, or choosing not to work despite the fact that your family would seem to need the money, is in no way comparable to being a SAHM. You will learn this soon enough.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Hahahaha.
No really though you can't seriously argue that JKBMA2014 has any right to complain. Maybe just maybe... If she hasn't changed her story and rant 6 times to excuse her entitled attitude, then I I can see YOU defending her. But I remember people well and she has managed to alter her story enough that I really think it's sad.
Cool story bro.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
Go find her previous posts and you'll see why no one is willing to put up with her bs stories and excuses.
Ps... the abuse button isn't a dislike button. But please, keep using it unnecessarily and get yourself banned.
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
This was my FFFC as well. My excuse was I am wait for the anatomy scan. Not sure if it's a good one because the truth is I just need to get moving on everything.
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I couldn't agree with you more. She is like 22 or 23. I don't know about you all, but I was pretty self centered and not all the way grown up at that time.
I am by no means justifying her situation. She needs to get out of it and stop complaining about it. But she is definitely not on the same level as the extraction lady or the baby slapping lady.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge: