FFFC

cchild101010

marielynnk said:

I have no intention of taking the entire
year of maternity leave. I really love my job, I love my co-workers and I am
very dedicated to my job, the thought of not working for an entire year has
been a great stress factor for me. Therefore I have decided to take 7
months and return to work after the holidays next year (unless a problem arises
with getting a spot at daycare). This does not mean I don't care about being a mother, I just feel as though I need a healthy balance. Everyone I talk to says “oh just wait, you
will see, you will want the entire year” or “you won’t want to go back to work
after 7 months”. They don’t understand that not all women think the same way! The
only person that understands me and who doesn't try to change my mind and completely supports my decision is my
MIL, who decided to go back to work after 2 months (granted at the time, they had 6 months mat leave I believe).

I'm probably going to go back to work somewhere around 4-6 weeks just because I love my job, but I get to take my baby to work if I want and I don't work full-time. Women should do what makes them happy! Happy wife, happy life (for hubby and baby)

Shell+Bell

I was on a different board and called "breast is best" propaganda and I was ripped a new one and their main defense was that the formula companies are the ones spending money in advertising and profiting from your choice. I just laughed because there have been a helluva lot of campaigns that are pro-breast feeding. And a profit is not a requirement for propaganda.




Okay, so another FFC: I just threw in the 'Breast is Best' line in as another reason why, along with the financial reason, I continued to BF even though I hated it. Honestly, I wouldn't have been bothered if my DS didn't take to the breast and I did end up FF-ing him. I just threw that in because I'm terrified of getting flamed, and getting 'voted off the island.' I don't usually have anything to say in the UO or FFFC boards for that reason, but I still want to participate in the group!! haha. So, to be totally honest now, Money and Laziness were the real reasons why I kept up with BF-ing. Laziness, because it was very nice not having to constantly clean and fill up bottles.  Okay, so FX that you ladies will let me stay and not write me off as a crazy

Don't know why this has stayed in the quote box, but I can't fix it...

spacepotatoes

Stupid work, this was a fun thread! I have nothing to confess today but two comments in response to previous discussion:

1) If you haven't seen it, watch Love Actually! It's worth it just for Hugh Grant dancing but there are so many great moments, including one with Emma Thompson and a Joni Mitchell CD that never fails to break my heart every time I watch it. Do it!!

2) I don't use Twitter but if I did, I'd totally try to start making #CanadianProblems a trend.

83edwards

kitchencolors said:

Let's please please discuss BF versus FF again! Also, how come we haven't talked circumcision on the reg?

I wanna talk about co sleeping and vaccinations daily.....please, oh, please?

ykristos

kitchencolors said:

Let's please please discuss BF versus FF again! Also, how come we haven't talked circumcision on the reg?

Circumcision? More like mutilation!!11!111!!! 

alphalyrae

Bliz1712 said:

It was confirmed on Wed that my due date is actually 4/21, so I'll also be joining the April ladies on here as well.  I can't see going to A14 at this point.

FC: While I'm ecstatic that we have a healthy baby girl, I was kind of a little bummed that it wasn't a boy.  This will definitely be our last, H is already schedule for the snip, and I won't ever get to experience a boy.  I love having girls, but would also love the other side for a change.

April 25th for us! I am so not heading over to A14.

I felt our baby several times today. I felt so guilty texting DH each time knowing it will still be a few weeks until baby is strong enough to be felt by him. But I didn't feel like being a special snowflake at work and telling my coworkers who would oh and awe for the rest of the day.

Mimaloo

busterbeagle said:

I really don't like adult onesies. I cringe when i see someone wearing one. Fair enough if you're at home in front of the tv, but not in public.

This is a thing?! Omg, puke!

My FFFC is that I own a pair of zip up footie pajamas (I'm assuming this is an adult onesie) - and I freaking love them.  

Target has a bunch right now AND I'm even considering splurging on a second one.   

Miles2Go

Mimaloo said:

busterbeagle said:

awc1986 said:

I really don't like adult onesies. I cringe when i see someone wearing one. Fair enough if you're at home in front of the tv, but not in public.

This is a thing?! Omg, puke!

My FFFC is that I own a pair of zip up footie pajamas (I'm assuming this is an adult onesie) - and I freaking love them.  

Target has a bunch right now AND I'm even considering splurging on a second one.   

I do, too. It's bright red fleece. But no butt flap. Gotta draw the line somewhere.

IBackBevo

@miles2go Those things seriously have a butt flap?

Even my DS' s don't have a butt flap.

busterbeagle

83edwards said:

kitchencolors said:

Let's please please discuss BF versus FF again! Also, how come we haven't talked circumcision on the reg?

I wanna talk about co sleeping and vaccinations daily.....please, oh, please?

We haven't even made a single mention of CIO!

Miles2Go

@ibackbevo
Some do! I got mine from an outdoors/camping company and some of them have that option!

TeamKrueger

I went to McDonald's after work and got a bacon McDouble, KNOWING that DH and I were making homemade pizza tonight... But I was really hungry and had to run errands before going home... Now I can't eat the pizza because I feel NAAAAAASTY from the McDouble... Heartburn, nausea... Ugh.

DaisyTortilla

My FFFC is that I hate my grandma. I know I sound like a heinous bitch. But, she has always hated me and talked shit about everything I've done, until, I got married. From then on she tries to be nice and pretend to have a relationship with me. She bought DD a gold set f earring, and I don't plan on her ever wearing them. I tend to hold grudges and I just can't pretend to love someone who treated me like garbage my entire life.

RedInLove

DH and I are going into the city next week with the ILs for an evening together as our Christmas gift to each other. BIL isn't going, he wasn't invited to join us even though he lives with the ILs. Not only do I not feel guilty about it, I'm glad he's not going with us. If he was going, I wouldn't.

RedInLove

I have another.

I hate Kanye West. More so than I ever did. This goes beyond him interrupting Taylor Swift, talking himself and Kim up as any type of important, powerful people, or claiming their Little Compass as being royalty.

When you say your job of hopping around on a stage, making bazillions of dollars, cursing and swearing for money, puts you on par with military personnel on the front lines, or police officers on the street, you are dead to me. He is a tactless, disgusting excuse of a living thing. He will NEVER be anything close to a human being, and is not deserving of our attention, dollars, airwaves, or the oxygen he steals from the rest of us.

We personally know people that didn't come home alive from their deployments. How dare he.

ETA that I typed this before making it to page 2 of this post. I am happy to see I'm not the only one that feels this way.

MommyDay2be

@redinlove "little compass" bahaha! That's great! But seriously, that poor child.

momthatlifts

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

awc1986

Mimaloo said:

busterbeagle said:

awc1986 said:

I really don't like adult onesies. I cringe when i see someone wearing one. Fair enough if you're at home in front of the tv, but not in public.

This is a thing?! Omg, puke!

My FFFC is that I own a pair of zip up footie pajamas (I'm assuming this is an adult onesie) - and I freaking love them.  

Target has a bunch right now AND I'm even considering splurging on a second one.   

Yes people over here wear those in public. Usually with ugg boots. I'm not even talking about people running to the store quickly, or moving their car or something. like actually going out for a meal or full on xmas shopping. Wtf is wrong with them? If you can't be bothered to dress yourself before leaving your house, you are a disgrace. Of course this excludes us pregnant women where the world is actually lucky that we can be bothered to dress ourselves before leaving the house. People should just be grateful that we leave the house at all.

munsterdani

MommyDay2be said:

I have just been super lazy this pregnancy! Haven't been contributing on here much because I can't be bothered, I called in yesterday because I had a massive headache when I woke up and off today yet my house is still a disaster. I haven't exercised since conception.. Its making me feel bad..but I have just no energy and don't know what to do about it!

This is me. EXACTLY. I'm so over feeling like a lazy piece of crap but I just cannot seem to pull myself out of this funk no matter how hard I try. Grad school, work, and my toddler have been ALL I can handle. Here's to hoping to be super productive during my semester break...

pistolpackinmomma

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

So how was that elective ultrasound? Still worth the money?

awc1986

pistolpackinmomma said:

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

So how was that elective ultrasound? Still worth the money?

I totally see what you did there

83edwards

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

In addition to wasting money that you could use to get out of there, have you considered that your judgement may not be on par since you can't take certain meds while pregnant? Just don't burn bridges that you may regret later!

Nikkidoll15

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

Now I remember you. I feel sorry for your MIL. It's not her place to support you, and while she does your on here bashing the shit out of her. I sincerely hope that you can take everyone else's cues as a hint to get the f over yourself and appreciate the handout you are receiving.

awc1986

If I wasn't on mobile, I'd totally post a popcorn gif!

Empireceo

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

Oh honey no. You gotta give the MIL thing a rest.

IBackBevo

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

I would imagine that having your adult son and his ungrateful, pregnant wife living rent-free in your home might drive one to drink...

momthatlifts

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

So how was that elective ultrasound? Still worth the money?

Oh absolutely. Still don't know when I'm going to be getting my a/s so it was worth being able to see the wiggling around

momthatlifts

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

I would imagine that having your adult son and his ungrateful, pregnant wife living rent-free in your home might drive one to drink...

I wouldn't joke about her drinking too much since it's really is an actual problem beyond your sarcasm and whatever you choose to believe. She tried to kill herself twice since her husband left her. Once because he left her and then one because her son left after he couldn't take loving with her anymore. She has no intention of ever asking us to leave. She has no one (she lived in foster care so she has no family) we are her only family and will seriously be crushed when we finally tell her we are leaving. I don't see how I'm ungrateful seeing as how she doesn't lift a finger in her house, sleeps until 3 and then drinks herself to sleep every night. I've literally had to pick her up off the ground several times because she was so drunk she fell face first onto her cement patio. It's really not a joke but you can keep on with your snide comments.

momthatlifts

Nikkidoll15 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

Now I remember you. I feel sorry for your MIL. It's not her place to support you, and while she does your on here bashing the shit out of her. I sincerely hope that you can take everyone else's cues as a hint to get the f over yourself and appreciate the handout you are receiving.

whoa where is everyone getting off that she supports me and my husband? My husband has lived with her for years and has taken care of her for that long. The one and only time he ever left she tried to off herself ... She can't stand being alone. I'm so lost with this. She doesn't pay rent, her ex husband does. So she doesn't have a bill to her name. We provide the groceries, necessities like shampoo, tooth past ect. , and even give her cash when she needs it. Mainly for gas to get to work or whatever. My husband traded in his car so she could have one lol. Yes she gives us a place to sleep and that's great but she definitely does not support us. We pay the cable for her (we don't even have cable in our room and that's where we spend the majority of our time ) and we even provide her poor crippled dog with food. If she asked for rent or had rent to pay we would pay that too.

momthatlifts

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

In addition to wasting money that you could use to get out of there, have you considered that your judgement may not be on par since you can't take certain meds while pregnant? Just don't burn bridges that you may regret later!

I was proscribed 2 mg Xanax because I ended up in the hospital for an extremely bad panic attack ( at the time I was sure I was dying and this is why I went to the ER) I'm not on Xanax for any other reason but that. And I was told by my doctor I could continue use (since I only took them if I felt like I needed them) and I chose not to for personal reasons.

Nikkidoll15

JKBMA2014 said:

IBackBevo said:

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

I would imagine that having your adult son and his ungrateful, pregnant wife living rent-free in your home might drive one to drink...

I wouldn't joke about her drinking too much since it's really is an actual problem beyond your sarcasm and whatever you choose to believe. She tried to kill herself twice since her husband left her. Once because he left her and then one because her son left after he couldn't take loving with her anymore. She has no intention of ever asking us to leave. She has no one (she lived in foster care so she has no family) we are her only family and will seriously be crushed when we finally tell her we are leaving. I don't see how I'm ungrateful seeing as how she doesn't lift a finger in her house, sleeps until 3 and then drinks herself to sleep every night. I've literally had to pick her up off the ground several times because she was so drunk she fell face first onto her cement patio. It's really not a joke but you can keep on with your snide comments.

I love the part where you say you don't see how your ungrateful yet you go into a rant about the lack of help she gives you around the house and how much she sleeps, really? I smell judgement and none of us are the being the judgy mcjudgers! You are saying you hate her, that she is lazy and you can't wait to leave. However you are there RENT FREE. I pay my mortgage, buy my own groceries and CLEAN my ENTIRE house and guess what? I do it on my own. You complain about your MIL not helping. I'm pretty sure saving you atleast 1000 a month is enough help.
We actually don't feel bad for you AT ALL. The snideness is directed at you, your immaturity and sense of entitlement. I would venture to say that no one is calling your bluff on her drinking problem as we don't know her, so the joke isn't about her alcohol problem. I actually feel really bad for her especially if she does have a drinking problem.
The joke is your attitude and behavior.

IBackBevo

@jkbma2014 - You are ungrateful because someone is allowing you to live in their home RENT FREE and all you do is bitch, moan and complain about her. If you don't like it, leave! Oh wait, you can't because you are broke...or because you quit your job and won't work like the rest of us schmucks because you are pregnant...or was it some other lame excuse? I really can't keep up with the 2 dozen different stories you told.

FYI, I don't think alcoholism is a joke. But if she truly is an alcoholic and/or mentally ill, maybe, just maybe, you should consider a little compassion and trying to get her some help. Maybe get her into a psychiatrist, a drug treatment facility, encourage her to go to AA, etc. Especially if you and your husband are her only support network!!! How sad for her! That might be a good start in showing your gratitude for her putting a roof over your head.

pistolpackinmomma

JKBMA2014 said:

Nikkidoll15 said:

JKBMA2014 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

Now I remember you. I feel sorry for your MIL. It's not her place to support you, and while she does your on here bashing the shit out of her. I sincerely hope that you can take everyone else's cues as a hint to get the f over yourself and appreciate the handout you are receiving.

whoa where is everyone getting off that she supports me and my husband? My husband has lived with her for years and has taken care of her for that long. The one and only time he ever left she tried to off herself ... She can't stand being alone. I'm so lost with this. She doesn't pay rent, her ex husband does. So she doesn't have a bill to her name. We provide the groceries, necessities like shampoo, tooth past ect. , and even give her cash when she needs it. Mainly for gas to get to work or whatever. My husband traded in his car so she could have one lol. Yes she gives us a place to sleep and that's great but she definitely does not support us. We pay the cable for her (we don't even have cable in our room and that's where we spend the majority of our time ) and we even provide her poor crippled dog with food. If she asked for rent or had rent to pay we would pay that too.

Ooh yay! A new story!!

reneewhite90

I think the issue is that y'all are living with her; not the other way around. I get that her "ex pays for the house" and all that, but it is still her house. It'd be different if it was your house with your husband and you took her in to help you and she was being disrespectful or a boozey. But that isn't the case. Save your money and GTFO. Then no one will have to deal with it anymore. If she doesn't value you helping her by buying all her crap, that's her prerogative. It's still HER house whether herself, her ex, or the freakin' President is paying for it. You don't really get an opinion on how she lives her life, or destroys her life, in her house. Sorry Charlie.

momthatlifts

Nikkidoll15 said:

I am starting to hate my mil. Even more every single day. And she is drinking even more lately because she can't get her xanax script filled. Everything she does at this point makes me cringe. I can't wait to get out of here

I would imagine that having your adult son and his ungrateful, pregnant wife living rent-free in your home might drive one to drink...

I wouldn't joke about her drinking too much since it's really is an actual problem beyond your sarcasm and whatever you choose to believe. She tried to kill herself twice since her husband left her. Once because he left her and then one because her son left after he couldn't take loving with her anymore. She has no intention of ever asking us to leave. She has no one (she lived in foster care so she has no family) we are her only family and will seriously be crushed when we finally tell her we are leaving. I don't see how I'm ungrateful seeing as how she doesn't lift a finger in her house, sleeps until 3 and then drinks herself to sleep every night. I've literally had to pick her up off the ground several times because she was so drunk she fell face first onto her cement patio. It's really not a joke but you can keep on with your snide comments.

I love the part where you say you don't see how your ungrateful yet you go into a rant about the lack of help she gives you around the house and how much she sleeps, really? I smell judgement and none of us are the being the judgy mcjudgers! You are saying you hate her, that she is lazy and you can't wait to leave. However you are there RENT FREE. I pay my mortgage, buy my own groceries and CLEAN my ENTIRE house and guess what? I do it on my own. You complain about your MIL not helping. I'm pretty sure saving you atleast 1000 a month is enough help. We actually don't feel bad for you AT ALL. The snideness is directed at you, your immaturity and sense of entitlement. I would venture to say that no one is calling your bluff on her drinking problem as we don't know her, so the joke isn't about her alcohol problem. I actually feel really bad for her especially if she does have a drinking problem. The joke is your attitude and behavior.

I don't feel entitled in any way. Just because I vent a little and complain doesn't mean I feel entitled to anything. I don't complain that she doesn't help. I was just pointing out what I do to back myself up. That is all. I'm not asking for sympathy. It is really hard to live with a depressed alcoholic because you are always the one to deal with the outcome of the drinking. She is verbally abusive to my husband and has even lashed out at me at times. Just because I come on here to bitch about her doesn't mean I walk around her house with my nose held high. I still respect as I am in her home and I do everything I can to put in my part since we don't give her rent. But we still help her out when she needs. I got on some vet credit card just so we could get her dog to the vet and get him the medicine he needed ... I don't just push her out. I'm always there for her. I sit with her almost every night and listen to her cry about how her husband cheated on her and how she got totally screwed over In the divorce. As much as I can't stand her as a person, I'm still a shoulder for her to cry on. I love to cook and try to cook her nice dinners where we can talk . I brought her with me to my family so she wasn't alone for thanksgiving and I think it was her first thanksgiving ever with a family. I'm sorry if I sound entitled, I just came on here to vent a little since I have no one to talk to outside of here besides my mom... It feels good to just spew venom sometimes. And I don't want to fight with anyone about it. I'm sorry if I'm coming off entitled 

yvanehtnioj

Pretty sure xanax is not ok during pregnancy. Ever. It's category D.

IBackBevo

Fyi, if her is ex is paying for the house that means a judge, as part of a divorce settlement, determined that was
OWED to her! Likely either as part of a division of marital assets or as a form of alimony...but, nonetheless, a court of law, in weighing the equities and facts, determined that she was due that. Thae fact that her ex pays rent or the mortgage does not make any less her house! And it certainly doesn't give you some right to live there rent free.

And, fyi, judges don't order payments to be made for absolutely no reason...if they did it would very easy to have the decision reversed.

momthatlifts

Pretty sure xanax is not ok during pregnancy. Ever. It's category D.

Mmmmm think again. There are a lot of cat d drugs that doctors give the ok to take . For example my seizure medication.

momthatlifts

Fyi, if her is ex is paying for the house that means a judge, as part of a divorce settlement, determined that was OWED to her! Likely either as part of a division of marital assets or as a form of alimony...but, nonetheless, a court of law, in weighing the equities and facts, determined that she was due that. Thae fact that her ex pays rent or the mortgage does not make any less her house! And it certainly doesn't give you some right to live there rent free. And, fyi, judges don't order payments to be made for absolutely no reason...if they did it would very easy to have the decision reversed.

Yeah he cheated on her. She absolutely deserved a lot more than what she got. I'm not trying to argue. She doesn't ask us for rent because she doesn't have rent. That's all I'm saying . I'm really not trying to fight here

dragossoul84

I don't like the implication that its less her house because her ex has to pay for it as part of the divorce settlement. I make no money my husband pays for everything if we were to divorce I could have a similar divorce settlement it doesnt mean that it wouldn't be my house. I gave up my job to support him and our family. I do every thing around here normally all he has to worry about is going to work.