UO

83edwards

ykristos said:

To make a really long story short: I want to have an un-medicated birth, my partner thinks it's nonsensical to turn down the epidural/pain meds. When this debate first came up, I told him to do his research and come back to me because I feel like I've got a pretty decent case for why I would like to try without an epidural. ANYWAY, I needed stitches on Sunday and they gave me local anesthesia. My partner says, "Why don't you go for a natural suturing?" Haha, he's got jokes, whatever. We wound up getting into another argument about it after. 

My UO: My partner does not get an equal say in pregnancy/childbirth-related things. He does not get to tell me what I should or should not be eating or doing, etc. Yes, it's his child too, but it's my body and it's my vagina and what I say goes and he doesn't get equal say for once. Maybe that makes me a bad partner or a tyrant, but I really don't give a fuck right now. 

My husband doesn't pretend to understand why I don't want the epidural. He stopped questioning me when we talked about catheters. 

danabsd

Turn4Cindy said:

I don't like to see pictures of babies with pacifiers in their mouths. One picture, whatever, every picture, ugh. What does your child really look like? I can't tell with that thing constantly in their mouth. Take it out for a cute pic!

Little babies I don't mind. You try pulling a one month olds binky to get a cute picture. Ha, screaming is not cute. Or is it? Older kids. Take that shit away. Not just for pictures, all the time. But ESPECIALLY for pictures.

83edwards

Kris2011RN said:

I don't like sleeping with DH. He snores really bad and it keeps me up all night. I get a lot of grief for not wanting to sleep in the same bed. We have a better relationship not sleeping together. 

I can't stand the post "It's a...." I will sometimes open the post but I definitely don't reply most of the time.  

Breathe right strips are a wife's best friend.....just sayin!

SNOakes

Jillzy86 said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

spacepotatoes

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

This was the first image that came to my mind:

ajsweeton

spacepotatoes said:

SNOakes said:

Jillzy86 said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

This was the first image that came to my mind:


Absolutely one of the creepiest scenes in that show. And then he comes up with milk all over his face.
Love that you thought of this too!!

pistolpackinmomma

Miles2Go said:

typeset said:

pistolpackinmomma said:

I don't like the words preggo or preggers

How do you feel about pregly?

To expand on this, how about pregly wegly? Or pregorific?


No. Just no.

Christinaruth74

pistolpackinmomma said:

pistolpackinmomma said:

I don't like the words preggo or preggers

How do you feel about pregly?

To expand on this, how about pregly wegly? Or pregorific?

No. Just no.

I prefer Great with Child.

Empireceo

Ugh, that Game of Thrones gif gave me the gross outs.

I don't have anything today, other than that I really fucking hate snow.

FutureMrsMJ12

Miles2Go said:

I don't enjoy New Years Eve/Day. Never have. To me, it's really just another day and always anticlimactic. I'm completely indifferent to staying up for midnight. The last few years, I've just done the night check in my barn an hour late and given my horses apples at midnight. Some celebration. This year, DH bought tickets to see Blue Man Group, which will be cool in and of itself, but doesn't make New Years any cooler, IMO.

I pretty much agree with you. Although I enjoy going out and celebrating with family and friends, my best NYE was last year with DH. We sat in our PJs, watched movies, and ate more crabs, shrimp, appetizers, wings, and wine then I think I have in my entire life. 

IBackBevo

This is really more of a rant.  I am so tired of hearing about how people think doctors are conspiring with hospitals or pharmaceutical companies for their own economic gain.  Doctors do not get kick backs from hospitals or prescription drug companies. They simply don't.  RX companies don't even give out free pens anymore!  There were never any monetary kickbacks and even the days of free dinners are gone. They aren't conspiring to keep you on some med or keep you in the hospital longer because they get some benefit or kickback out of it.  The only payment they get is either from you or your insurance company.  There is no secret conspiracy looming out there. 

My impetus for this rant is some posts I have seen on FB lately and also I was a vbac board (not TB) where this woman was talking about how OB's want to make you have c-section because they get more money from your hospital stay, etc.  While they may want to do a RCS because it is easier for their schedule (no labor at 2 am!), it is not because they get some great financial benefit from a RCS.  I think most insurance companies only pay very slightly more for a c-section than a vaginal birth...certainly not enough to be a true financial incentive.  And your OB certainly isn't get a kick back of what you pay the hospital for your stay!  That is not even legal.  I am pretty sure there are now even laws in place against physicians practicing at hospitals where they have an ownership interest...and not very many doctors have any significant ownership interests in hospitals anyway.

jane8188

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

I plan to bf my son until he self weans. And I hope to tandem nurse. If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look. So you're saying her tits are just out the whole gathering so her kids can just walk up whenever?

SNOakes

IBackBevo said:

This is really more of a rant.  I am so tired of hearing about how people think doctors are conspiring with hospitals or pharmaceutical companies for their own economic gain.  Doctors do not get kick backs from hospitals or prescription drug companies. They simply don't.  RX companies don't even give out free pens anymore!  There were never any monetary kickbacks and even the days of free dinners are gone. They aren't conspiring to keep you on some med or keep you in the hospital longer because they get some benefit or kickback out of it.  The only payment they get is either from you or your insurance company.  There is no secret conspiracy looming out there. 

My impetus for this rant is some posts I have seen on FB lately and also I was a vbac board (not TB) where this woman was talking about how OB's want to make you have c-section because they get more money from your hospital stay, etc.  While they may want to do a RCS because it is easier for their schedule (no labor at 2 am!), it is not because they get some great financial benefit from a RCS.  I think most insurance companies only pay very slightly more for a c-section than a vaginal birth...certainly not enough to be a true financial incentive.  And your OB certainly isn't get a kick back of what you pay the hospital for your stay!  That is not even legal.  I am pretty sure there are now even laws in place against physicians practicing at hospitals where they have an ownership interest...and not very many doctors have any significant ownership interests in hospitals anyway.

I don't want to start a vax debate, but I'm sick of hearing this about vaccinations too. "They only want you to vax your kids because its a kickback!" So annoying!

Christinaruth74

Christinaruth74 said:

I thought of a UO the other day, but it wasn't the appropriate day so I waited and now I've forgotten.

For now I will say my UO is TV in a LO's bedroom.

Too soon? oh well.

UGH, i just realized i wrote my own UO wrong.
It's NOT having a TV in a LO's bedroom. dur.

my other UO is Christmas cards.  Maybe my thoughts will change once this baby is born, but for the most part I can't see the point of paying to have pictures sent to friends and family only to have them thrown in the garbage.

I'm still pissed I can't remember my original UO from the other day.  damn placenta brain.

awc1986

aimee223 said:

I'll start - probably pretty mild. but I think gender reveals are dumb. The whole cake/balloon/whatever thing is just so NMS. And the gender reveal parties.. wow. When I found out we were having another boy, I just texted my family. I guess I'm just boring like that.

This.

Nobody cares as much as you do about the gender of your child. I had a fb friend do a reveal video yesterday, which involved balloons and stuff. It was just really cringey. We should fin out at our scan next Tuesday and all we'll be doing is calling out parents to tell them, because they want us to. They can tell everyone else. My step-MIL is going home to Nebraska for 3 weeks over Xmas and she wants to know so she can buy baby lots of cool American bits.

sisterjanet

Miles2Go said:

I thought of another. My favorite place to shop for clothes is Costco.

My favorite place to shop for groceries is Walmart.  I don't really understand why people seem to hate that store so much.

sisterjanet

Miles2Go said:

pistolpackinmomma said:

I don't like the words preggo or preggers

How do you feel about pregly?

To expand on this, how about pregly wegly? Or pregorific?

I personally like Pregnar the Destroyer. 

awc1986

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look.

Except this is real life and if you get your tits out in front of other people, you can't really take that attitude. It won't happen and it's arrogant to assume it.

Katemr1146

@Miles2Go - I never find anything that fits me correctly at Costco, but practically my husbands whole wardrobe is from Costco. Love that store.

Christinaruth74

another UO that's (hopefully) actually a PO..
where the hell are all these sporadic angry lurkers coming from?  Anybody else noticing this?

spacepotatoes

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

I plan to bf my son until he self weans. And I hope to tandem nurse. If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look. So you're saying her tits are just out the whole gathering so her kids can just walk up whenever?

It's one thing when you're nursing a baby but if you're out there nursing a 4 year old? Yeah, people are going to look. You'd seriously be ok with a 4 year old still nursing on demand?

jane8188

awc1986 said:

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look.

Except this is real life and if you get your tits out in front of other people, you can't really take that attitude. It won't happen and it's arrogant to assume it.

Tell me what you think I should do then.

jane8188

spacepotatoes said:

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

I plan to bf my son until he self weans. And I hope to tandem nurse. If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look. So you're saying her tits are just out the whole gathering so her kids can just walk up whenever?

It's one thing when you're nursing a baby but if you're out there nursing a 4 year old? Yeah, people are going to look. You'd seriously be ok with a 4 year old still nursing on demand?

I think its pretty unlikely that it would get this far but yes I'd be ok with it. I don't care if people look either in just saying. You feed your kid how you want and I will mine, I think the whole thing is really no big deal.

Christinaruth74

spacepotatoes said:

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

I plan to bf my son until he self weans. And I hope to tandem nurse. If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look. So you're saying her tits are just out the whole gathering so her kids can just walk up whenever?

It's one thing when you're nursing a baby but if you're out there nursing a 4 year old? Yeah, people are going to look. You'd seriously be ok with a 4 year old still nursing on demand?

this. i have a friend whose mother nursed him til he was 5 or 6. as soon as that little nugget of info was leaked out, you better believe he was mercilessly made fun of.

i'm sorry, but if my child can verbally ask for a sip off my boob (or a "snack" as it has been called...) then it's gone on too long. 

lv2011

Every time I see the commercial for the DVD release of the most recent Fast & Furious movie, I vomit a little in disgust. Is your movie so crappy that you have to tie in it's promotion to someone's death? And there has got to be a better way to promote a charity. It really bothers me how they're handling that.

Nikkidoll15

Katemr1146 said:

@Miles2Go - I never find anything that fits me correctly at Costco, but practically my husbands whole wardrobe is from Costco. Love that store.

I too never find anything for myself however DHs wardrobe is from costco. It's funny because my girlfriend and I go shopping there together and always buy our guys their clothes together. It's just awkward when you show up for dinner am realize they are matching... Oops.

sisterjanet

SNOakes said:

I don't want to start a vax debate, but I'm sick of hearing this about vaccinations too. "They only want you to vax your kids because its a kickback!" So annoying!

That or "it's poison!!!"  Clearly, no.  Otherwise the not-vaccinated would be the only alive people. 

IBackBevo

awc1986 said:

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look.

Except this is real life and if you get your tits out in front of other people, you can't really take that attitude. It won't happen and it's arrogant to assume it.

I have issues with tits in public because it makes me feel very bitter and sad that I could not feed my own kid.   I feel like they are rubbing it in my face.  I mentally know this is completely my own insecurity and not AT ALL reality, but I still pangs of sadness when I see someone BFing. 

I imagine it is probably how women who are never able to carry their own kids feel about pregnant bellies...

buggywhips

I have horrible gas, and every time I fart I get a little sick.  Not an opinion, but a fact.  Still unpopular.  At least here. 

My coffee tastes nasty this morning.  It's the same delicious stuff I've been drinking all week, but I can't handle it.  So, for today only, coffee is gross. 

Rocknroll64

Christinaruth74 said:

another UO that's (hopefully) actually a PO..
where the hell are all these sporadic angry lurkers coming from?  Anybody else noticing this?

I know.  I got yelled at yesterday. 

Miles2Go

Christinaruth74 said:

spacepotatoes said:

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

Jillzy86 said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

I plan to bf my son until he self weans. And I hope to tandem nurse. If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look. So you're saying her tits are just out the whole gathering so her kids can just walk up whenever?

It's one thing when you're nursing a baby but if you're out there nursing a 4 year old? Yeah, people are going to look. You'd seriously be ok with a 4 year old still nursing on demand?



this. i have a friend whose mother nursed him til he was 5 or 6. as soon as that little nugget of info was leaked out, you better believe he was mercilessly made fun of.

i'm sorry, but if my child can verbally ask for a sip off my boob (or a "snack" as it has been called...) then it's gone on too long. 


My 1.5 year old asks. She says "nurse?" Or "milk"? And when she wants to switch sides she says "sides?"

Should I be weaning? I hate that argument. We definitely have not gone on too long.

CaliVal

I hate when people ride their bikes on running paths that are right next to a street. Multiple that by 10 if there's a bike lane on the street.

ebox322

Miles2Go said:

spacepotatoes said:

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

I plan to bf my son until he self weans. And I hope to tandem nurse. If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look. So you're saying her tits are just out the whole gathering so her kids can just walk up whenever?

It's one thing when you're nursing a baby but if you're out there nursing a 4 year old? Yeah, people are going to look. You'd seriously be ok with a 4 year old still nursing on demand?

this. i have a friend whose mother nursed him til he was 5 or 6. as soon as that little nugget of info was leaked out, you better believe he was mercilessly made fun of.

i'm sorry, but if my child can verbally ask for a sip off my boob (or a "snack" as it has been called...) then it's gone on too long. 

My 1.5 year old asks. She says "nurse?" Or "milk"? And when she wants to switch sides she says "sides?" Should I be weaning? I hate that argument. We definitely have not gone on too long.

That's really freaking cute

Chellbell20

Jillzy86 said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

The problem here is not tandem nursing.  And maybe my own UO, I think it is woman who do things like this that give extended BFing a bad name.  I never once just let it all hang out.  I fed DD, and put it away.  Those are for baby eating or DH to play, not the whole world to see. 

As for pacifiers, just take it away from the older kids. I hate seeing kids take it out to speak and put it back in.  No, just no.  

@IBackBevo, I don't think there is some big kickback conspiracy, but I also think it depends on where you are what Drs are encouraged to do.  Where I live there is one county hospital and almost all Drs in town work for that hospital, there is at least a small level of encouragement for them to make the hospital money.  As for what insurance allows, mine allows $36k for a c/s and $17k for vaginal, plus extra's for epidurals, catheters, etc. 

My UO, I think it is irresponsible to blindly follow what a Dr says. I'm not saying to ignore what the Dr says, but educate yourself, with reliable sources, you might just find something the Dr forgot about.  (This isn't aimed at anyone here).  

Empireceo

I'm not a fan of the name posts on the BMB.  You know there's a whole board just to spitball ideas for names, right?

PikaPikaChick

CaliVal said:

I hate when people ride their bikes on running paths that are right next to a street. Multiple that by 10 if there's a bike lane on the street.

Ditto for walkers/runners on the bike/skate path.  Nothing worse that skating along in the zone, coming around a corner, and nearly careening into some airhead with a stroller.  I've yelled at many a bespandexed individual around the Chain of Lakes in Minneapolis.

CaliVal

PikaPikaChick said:

CaliVal said:

I hate when people ride their bikes on running paths that are right next to a street. Multiple that by 10 if there's a bike lane on the street.

Ditto for walkers/runners on the bike/skate path.  Nothing worse that skating along in the zone, coming around a corner, and nearly careening into some airhead with a stroller.  I've yelled at many a bespandexed individual around the Chain of Lakes in Minneapolis.


Agreed! I'll stay out of your way if you stay out of mine

Katemr1146

I guess my UO is that I think the whole concept of breastfeeding is downright disgusting. I'm definitely going to try it for this kids sake...but I won't be surprised if I don't make it more than a few months. I can't even imagine breastfeeding a child who can verbalize which boob they want. If I want to feed my child breastmilk at that point it will definitely be pumped first.

I don't mean to be offensive. I just am so creeped out by the image. And I'm very well aware that my feelings could totally change when this baby is born.

ebox322

This is kind of a random and "specific to my life" UO... 

So my mom was recently (like 2 weeks ago) diagnosed with breast cancer. People (like pretty much 90% of friends and family) keep saying to her over and over "I just can't imagine how you're feeling"...not only does it make her feel incredibly "sick" and alone but it's basically saying "I'm so glad it's not me".

Maybe I'm just too sensitive

Rocknroll64

Miles2Go said:

spacepotatoes said:

jane8188 said:

SNOakes said:

This may upset BF moms but I think it crazy to have a four year old and a two year old still breast feeding off the same mom. My DH's cousin leaves her boobs hanging out there during family parties while her kids run up to her for a snack. It's absolutely ridiculous and all of us are tierd of seeing her tits. If your child is in pre school s/he should not be drinking directly from you!

HA! I can't get this picture out of my head now. I hope this doesn't upset any BF moms, this is crazy!

I plan to bf my son until he self weans. And I hope to tandem nurse. If people don't want to see me nursing that can just not look. So you're saying her tits are just out the whole gathering so her kids can just walk up whenever?

It's one thing when you're nursing a baby but if you're out there nursing a 4 year old? Yeah, people are going to look. You'd seriously be ok with a 4 year old still nursing on demand?

this. i have a friend whose mother nursed him til he was 5 or 6. as soon as that little nugget of info was leaked out, you better believe he was mercilessly made fun of.

i'm sorry, but if my child can verbally ask for a sip off my boob (or a "snack" as it has been called...) then it's gone on too long. 

My 1.5 year old asks. She says "nurse?" Or "milk"? And when she wants to switch sides she says "sides?" Should I be weaning? I hate that argument. We definitely have not gone on too long.

I think it's a personal choice and I hold no judgements on how long a woman chooses to breastfeed her child.  Women get judged for not breastfeeding long enough and for breastfeeding too long.  You can't win.

I'm one of those people who care too much about what other people think.  I actually have slight anxiety when I think about the world of judgement I'm about to enter in becoming a mother. 

ETA: It's already started as a pregnant woman.  I went to my basketball game the other week and one woman was all, "Should you be playing?" and gave me the stink eye.