Longest Thread EVER! (aka Random Thoughts Thread )

BiggerinRealLife

ColleenSwerb said:

@mamamonzo - also, have you had Lucas checked for a tongue or lip tie?

This is a little alarm inducing. I'm not even an outside baby mom trying to breastfeed, and I instantly clenched up. I know this is a concern after some time, but from everything I've read/been told it's normal for EBF babies to lose a bit of weight in the beginning. Just as I've heard it's normal for moms to freak out about it.

Mamamonzo

BiggerinRealLife said:

ColleenSwerb said:

@mamamonzo - also, have you had Lucas checked for a tongue or lip tie?

This is a little alarm inducing. I'm not even an outside baby mom trying to breastfeed, and I instantly clenched up. I know this is a concern after some time, but from everything I've read/been told it's normal for EBF babies to lose a bit of weight in the beginning. Just as I've heard it's normal for moms to freak out about it.

Yes it's normal, however the doctors ARE worried about it.

BiggerinRealLife

@Mamamonzo Hugs mama! FX your little one starts gaining weight.

katieharpiceland

Pregsomnia strikes again. @mamamonzo sending you some really good thoughts!!

katieharpiceland

Oh man, I am clueless beyond clueless. LOL. I've accepted that my only baby knowledge comes from books and TB.

irisheyez7

Just realized baby will be a "pumpkin" on Wednesday. My 5 year old niece has been waiting for this week since I showed her how my phone compares the baby to fruit. She is going to be so excited!

JessieAlbin

nicole mackenzie said:

celticlullaby said:

nicole mackenzie said:

Picked up Zoloft today and asked about safety during pregnancy.

I know med free is the safest but I'm not gonna make it.

Pharmacist is like its not recommended and seemed a little uncomfortable giving it to me. Now I'm a little freaked out about it.

I'm having awful images in my head though, like I used to get before I started Prozac.

On a "good" note...
DH and I finally talked... And he admitted that he was overwhelmed. I just turned into a teary mess.

He promised that he'd just tell me when he's feeling overwhelmed from now on ( instead of calling me selfish and getting pissed at me ) but that it was going to take him a long time to get used to not feeling like my depression is his fault...

Hopefully the Zoloft helps, I've never tried it before. PPD terrifies me. I'd never forgive myself if something happened to my baby.

Thanks for listening.

Safest is a healthy, happy mama! Zoloft is the antidepressant of choice in pregnancy. And most of the risks with psych meds are first trimester things. The pharmacist isn't trained in OB or psych, don't let his reaction mess with your head! The doc who prescribed it knows what they're doing.

I hope it helps and you feel better!

The packaging says "can cause harm to fetus in last 3 months of pregnancy."

I freaked out and puked my guts out. My primary care dr and midwife said it was the safest but my anxiety is getting to me... Ironically?

I've always heard it was safest everywhere I've read.

Thanks for the support everyone. 3rd trimester is rough.

Medications have to put every scary possibility on that package, and it does not mean that every side effect and things that "can" happen will happen. Your doctor weighs the individual risks and benefits for you and would not put your kiddo knowingly in harm's way. It is gonna be ok, doll.

That said, I took Zoloft in high school for anxiety and found that I quickly learned to freak out over whether I had taken it, and decided for myself that I didn't like how I felt when I was on it, anyway. Sometimes that stuff can rear it's ugly head regardless of the best efforts of the meds, and being able to talk to someone objectively can help find the root of the problem and give you tools for dealing with unwelcome thoughts and feelings. I'm sorry you're having a rough go of it, and I really do believe you're going to be just fine. In a year you'll look back and be able to say, "I was really struggling in the last few months of my pregnancy and it was a scary time, but it brought to the surface some crap that we learned to work through and things got a lot better." Big hugs to you, this stuff ain't easy but it is going to be ok.

Sisimama10

Mamamadi said:

snmetz7 said:

How long is normal for hiccups and when should I be concerned that try are not stopping?

My LO gets hiccups 3-4x a day and they can last anywhere from 5 mins to 45 give or take. It annoys the crap out of me lol. How long have they been going?

Mine too! All the time!

KatieGummow

I have been sleeping in the guest bedroom for two nights (my tossing and turning is out of control) and my dog has been sleeping with me. Woke up at 3 to the boys twerking in my belly and my dog's back paws digging into my lower back from his dreams. Now I am up.... nooooo!

Sisimama10

So tired of waking up 6-7 ones per night to pee. Ahhh this has gotten much worse in the last two weeks and I already stop liquids 2-3 hours before bed! The baby waking up in the nigh may turn out to be sweet relief compared to this lol.

katieharpiceland

dani+california said:

I'm lying here in bed wide awake, and kept hearing this fast 'tic tic tic tic' noise over the fan in our room. It took me a solid few minutes to realize it was a BIRD CHIRPING OUTSIDE...a bird! Spring is here! Aahhhh fuck this longest Canadian winter ever, I'm so ready for spring!

The birds have been here for a few weeks. I hear them, and that's ok. But our neighborhood is one of the few with trees so we get LOADS of birds. And then I get angry because they just poop all over the car. Maybe I'm just jealous of their pooping habits this year. 

eireyes

Hey RTT - @kcp913 is in labor! I already posted another thread, but she's an RTT regular so I thought I'd post an update here too! Goooooo Kira!  

kseccomb17

All the RTT babies :x

tamaraaaa

One of my BFF is having a baby today-that means I'm next. Eeeekkkkk.

These sleep problems have got to go... I don't sleep for days, and now when I'm just so exhausted my body gives up, I dream about babies/water breaking/all things baby. I wake up freaking out. Last night I have birth and everyone thought she was a boy, so I kept getting upset. The wiring in my brain is on like, babies only mode.

katieharpiceland

joytomylifex said:

One of my BFF is having a baby today-that means I'm next. Eeeekkkkk. These sleep problems have got to go... I don't sleep for days, and now when I'm just so exhausted my body gives up, I dream about babies/water breaking/all things baby. I wake up freaking out. Last night I have birth and everyone thought she was a boy, so I kept getting upset. The wiring in my brain is on like, babies only mode.

I dreamt about robots last night. The wiring in my brain is just off, I think. :-P 

I found I sleep better in short, 2 hour max, spurts. I gave up trying to sleep for long periods and it kind of took the stress out of it. I hope you get a little sleep here and there!!

sking72

Alright, my turn for SO rant. I don't know what his deal is, but he's visiting me and pissing me off. He's not ignoring me, but he's not including me in anything he's doing. I would say he's just trying to get the house ready for baby, but that's not it. He hacked a bush down out of the yard, set up his stereo system in the basement, he ate dinner by himself after we had planned on making something together. And he wanted to go for a walk so I did, but it was cold and I felt like shit so we ended it early, then he gave me sass when he said he was going to go for another walk and I said take both dogs because one always freaks out when the other one leaves. On top of that, he gets back and says we're going to shower together. What does he do? Brings the dog in the shower, gives him a bath, and then spends like a half hour drying him off instead of showering with me. And, somehow, after a year and a half of sleeping in my bed, suddenly he hates the mattress and refuses to sleep with me. He said this morning "Oh I think I'm going to bring my futon mattress here to sleep on" to which I responded "We'll get a mattress pad today at Bed Bath and Beyond" His response "But we can only use two coupons..." I don't give a fuck, unless we've suddenly became roommates and not boyfriend/girlfriend babydaddy/babymama and I somehow missed out on that memo. And no goodnights from him, no good morning, no hugs no nothing. He just leaves to go get his coffee without saying anything to me. WTF. If he doesn't bring me back ice cream I'm going to start sobbing.

Sorry it's long and whiny but I had to put it somewhere.

Serenla

I'm playing lots of catch up (((((hugs))))) @mamamonzo I wish we were there to help you with him.

For the STMs who are losing patience, it's normal. FWIW I AM the eldest and with a 7 year age gap between my sister and I, I can remember my mom while she was KU. She would lose her shit a lot towards then end but as a, very pregnant, adult I understand now and it really is/was NBD.

Serenla

TallaB said:

KendraColeslaw said:

What's this about anal swabs? I thought we were only getting cervical swabs? I'm out. Every time DH accidentally knocks on the back door, I freak!

Its to test for group b strep. Had I known how freaking simple it was, I would have told them to hand me the swab and id do it myself. Literally took 2 seconds and was completely painless.

Yeah but could you have reached?

katieharpiceland

::hugs:: @sking72

Serenla

So we had our weekly D&D game the other day, and everyone bought a pint of Ben and Jerry's. After our friends left I realized that they all forgot their ice cream in the fridge.

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*snaps fingers* Awww shucks.

Serenla

*car sounds* woah, a drive by!

chichi589

@Mamamadi @Sisimama10‌ when I was at the hospital last week they actually asked me about hiccups and they said lots of hiccups are a great thing. Mine gets them 2-3 times per day I always was annoyed now I love it

Themaritimemama

chichi589 said:

@Mamamadi @Sisimama10‌ when I was at the hospital last week they actually asked me about hiccups and they said lots of hiccups are a great thing. Mine gets them 2-3 times per day I always was annoyed now I love it

Haha that's awesome. My DS always had the hiccups, and I thought he would be an outside hiccupper... But nope! He never gets the hiccups haha.

@sking72‌ that sounds awful maybe he's just anxious about the baby coming and distancing himself? Either way that stinks. I hope you get icecream!

I should take the kids to the playground, but I'm seriously lacking motivation and would much rather bump!

thomas930

Sisimama10 said:

So tired of waking up 6-7 ones per night to pee. Ahhh this has gotten much worse in the last two weeks and I already stop liquids 2-3 hours before bed! The baby waking up in the nigh may turn out to be sweet relief compared to this lol.

Ugh, I was also up all night to pee...every hour, no joke  (

chichi589

@sking72 sorry he's being awful sounds like its time for a talk you don't need this extra stress right now

Serenla

thomas930 said:

Sisimama10 said:

So tired of waking up 6-7 ones per night to pee. Ahhh this has gotten much worse in the last two weeks and I already stop liquids 2-3 hours before bed! The baby waking up in the nigh may turn out to be sweet relief compared to this lol.

Ugh, I was also up all night to pee...every hour, no joke  (

sking72

He didnt get ice cream, which I would like to add I specifically asked for, not just expecting him to know to get it. I did start crying, he got all pissed of and ignored me so I'm up in bed and he's watching Netflix in the living room.

I think I'm going to go buy my own ice cream, and some donuts and a bunch of other crap food just to make him mad. If our doctors appointment was earlier than 1:40 I'd just leave now and leave him home but I don't know if I can find four hours of errands that I can/want to run.

Ashleypixie

ColleenSwerb said:

Confession: All the L&D threads and new baby threads bum me out a little. As a caboose I feel like I'm SO FAR AWAY from that, and I'm so done (but don't want him/her to come early either). I'm a walking contradiction. It's SUPER exciting and wonderful for all these new momma's, and I don't begrudge them at all. I just can't really read them.

I'm a caboose right with you. Sometimes I feel like I have a long time left to go and sometimes I feel like I'm going to go early too. It's feeling like March 14 up in here. We might be the only ones having babies in April!

thomas930

@sking72 ((hugs)) sounds like its time for a "come to jesus meeting" for SO. 

Ashleypixie

@sking72‌ Sorry he's acting like such an ass munch. Maybe he's just stressed and anxious about the baby coming soon, I don't know. But you should talk about it. I'm having my own DH problems and I know how you feel. It's such a vulnerable time for that. I hope it gets better for you!!

rockstarlaw

@ColleenSwerb‌ & @Ashleypixie‌ - fellow caboose here, right there with you! It feels so far away!

Ashleypixie

rockstarlaw said:

@ColleenSwerb‌ & @Ashleypixie‌ - fellow caboose here, right there with you! It feels so far away!

It's a race, whoever wins gets cake

sking72

Thanks everyone, I'm sure we will figure it out/talk it out, it's just so frustrating! And I hate it because I get such nasty thoughts like "I hope I go into labor while you're at work" which is so mean, and I would be devastated if he missed it, but I'm just so angry and spiteful! And I hate when I think "oh well things will be different when the baby is here" because that doesn't justify how he acts now, and you can't expect people to miraculously change and be perfect out of no where.

And a huge part of it is that he isn't with me half the week so when he is with me, I want to be with him, and he just doesn't get that. He must think being in the same zip code is enough of spending time together.

Ugh sorry for the long post again. Definitely time to go get some food.

natpirt

So Soleil (3 yr old) informed me this morning that baby is not allowed to come out of my belly. So I ask her why and she answers because she doesn't want her in her car seat....lol. I put the convertible seat in and she's all "Mine" and I am saying no sweetie it is now Sissy's. 

JessieAlbin

My poor DH has it worse than I thought with the snoring... He recorded me lastnight and let me listen to it this morning. O.M.G. Please tell me that shit goes away after pregnancy!!!

Mamamonzo

@ColleenSwerb‌ @poru‌ he sticks his tongue out all the time. He gets a good latch. The LC was happy with it, especially with him being early. I'll still have them check! Thanks ladies!

katieharpiceland

LuckySquare said:

@Mamamonzo‌ I hope his weight gain picks up and you can fund out if it's a tongue tie, other latching issue, or something else. I can only imagine the frustration and concern. @sking72‌ Definitely talk to him. Like others have said, worry and stressing over life changing us normal, but trying to sleep in a different bed, excluding you, and being an ass is not acceptable. @kcp913‌ Good luck! And finally, I DID post "nobody cares" in the drive by, but tempered it with a "good luck anyway." I feel mildly bad, but eh, don't care.

LOL. Its a proud moment to give no fucks in a drive by :-)

katieharpiceland

lia619 said:

Super love all the comments on the drive by labor post! 

I really don't understand why you would want to announce that you think you're in labor to a bunch of strangers.

Does it mean I'm just out for blood that I really want her to come back and see it?

snmetz7

@lia619 said:

@katieharpiceland I want her to come back too! 

don''t worry guys, she will. she HAS to post pics of her babi.

thomas930

And if she doesn't come back its because instead of labor she just needed to take a poo