FFFC!!

chiboo9

My 2nd FFFC of the day:

I've been doing a happy dance since realizing that 48 of you loved my LO's picture from the Halloween PIP thread. I even told DH and I'm sure he thinks I'm lame. Oh well, continuing my happy dance... 

babyk1228

Here's my completely un-flameworthy, non drama starting not deep or emotional FFFC(: I am terrified of the dark. Like being in a pitch black room is my worst nightmare. I'd make a terrible hostage because all someone has to do to get me to talk is put me in the dark): Oh and being pushed under water too, even for half a second. I told DHs family this when we went on vacation with them like two years ago and of course FIL thought it'd be funny to push me under in the pool at the hotel. I came up crying. I wasn't flucking kidding fool, I will PANIC.

jackson290721

Pfft. The seahawks totally won the superbowl. < has never watched a football game in her life. 

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emmanemm

ramy3695 said:

lizabethann06 said:

Dccornel said:

@lizabethann06 noooooooooo joke, I've always wanted to ask: Are you more offended that I don't agree with you or the simple fact that my opinion is different? Either way, get the bleep over it.

I always want to comment " This Internet forum conversation really changed my opinion, thanks" but figure it's too snarky!

I agree.

Although the comment the other day about PPD being caused my unsupportive SOs really bothered me. I guess my FFFC is that I allowed my feelings to be hurt by a thoughtless comment from an internet stranger.

What??? I missed that one. That's very insensitive and couldn't be further from the truth.

babykk

I tend to keep my opinions to myself on TB and IRL. I go blank during confrontations and would end up sounding like an idiot if I had to defend it :-S

flkong

Liz4444 said:

ThompsonHM2 said:

I closed my door early last night (7:30) so I could keep the rest of the junk for us. My DD wore her costume last weekend but I'm returning it today. 

Most places don't let you return seasonal items after the season Ian over for this very reason. Not flaming you for returning but am giving you an eye roll. Really?

Roll away. It's not a traditional costume and wasn't purchased at a costume store. She used it for an hour in our halloween parade, didn't use it last night and it cost $40. So yes really.

If you buy something and use it for it's intended purpose (or at all beyond trying it on and changing your mind), it should not be returned. I don't care if it is $4, $40, or $400. You don't want to spend the money on it, buy something cheaper. Trying to return it makes you an asshole and is why stores end up with very strict return policies. I hope they see a stain on it and call you out.

Wow "asswhole"...really?? You got all worked up over this, I couldn't respond sooner because I was out returning the items. 

@Liz4444

ETA the @Liz part

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I have a real one. I wish I was as skinny as Kelly. Even though I made fun of her, I'm just jealous.

babykk

Asbromle said:

I have a real one. I wish I was as skinny as Kelly. Even though I made fun of her, I'm just jealous.

For real, I'm jealous too

(

littlelegslo

On a lighter note......
Pooping is the best part of my day.
(See what I did there )

Wait that's not flame worthy?
Oh yeah, I pretend to be sleeping when DH comes home so he has to wash all the bottles.
Fuck that business.

SMac85

I have another tame one that's going to make me seem like a total creeper. @emandia when I see photos of your boys it makes me really want 3 boys of my own. So adorable!

Liz4444

fklang said:

I closed my door early last night (7:30) so I could keep the rest of the junk for us. My DD wore her costume last weekend but I'm returning it today. 

Most places don't let you return seasonal items after the season Ian over for this very reason. Not flaming you for returning but am giving you an eye roll. Really?


Roll away. It's not a traditional costume and wasn't purchased at a costume store. She used it for an hour in our halloween parade, didn't use it last night and it cost $40. So yes really.

If you buy something and use it for it's intended purpose (or at all beyond trying it on and changing your mind), it should not be returned. I don't care if it is $4, $40, or $400. You don't want to spend the money on it, buy something cheaper. Trying to return it makes you an asshole and is why stores end up with very strict return policies. I hope they see a stain on it and call you out.



Wow "asswhole"...really?? You got all worked up over this, I couldn't respond sooner because I was out returning the items. 

@Liz4444

ETA the @Liz part

Worked up? Hardly. That is my general opinion on people who like to cheat the system. It's a disgusting thing to do and says a lot about a person's character.

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Bkuhman

Rmnam1 said:

Mamasighs said:

Aiylin said:

ramy3695 said:

Re the PPD comment, it wasn't in a UO or FFFC thread. I can't remember what thread it was in. I gave the OP the benefit of the doubt and told her she was wrong and offensive but she never came back to apologize.

I've had PPD/PPA with both kids and I'm not sure how I would survive without my DH. He puts up with so much and is so supportive, I don't deserve him.

Raising my hand!! This was me. In the context that it was said, I clearly recall saying it was my opinion that x was caused by z. In my mind, that was a disclaimer informing people it was that my opinion, didn't mean it was true for everyone and it certainly doesn't mean that it's the be all and end all. It's simply my belief and while I'm disheartened you were hurt by it, and at no moment did I mean to hurt anyone with that opinion. I took it as we simply have different opinions and I'm not going to apologize for having a different opinion than you or anyone else. I am responsible for what I write and not for what you or any other poster may take it to mean. 

Yes, I saw your comment that you thought I was wrong and offensive and if I didn't respond it was because I had nothing to say. It's your opinion. I'm sure you weren't the only one that was bothered by it, but it wasn't my intention to bother anyone by it. It was simply my opinion. I wasn't out to change your and I hope your not out to change mine.

In essence, I took my silence to be an agreement to agree to disagree on a view point we don't see eye to eye on.

* I swear there was better punctuation in this when I wrote it to when it posted.

Add me to the list of offended (and really more confused at your thought process) readers.  PPD/PPA is thought to caused by a chemical imbalance in response to changing hormones after birth.  It can happen in someone who has never experienced depression and anxiety, or someone who has.  Conversely, it doesn't have to occur in someone with previous issues.  IT can come on suddenly or creep in over a few weeks.** There are many risk factors but an unsupportive H isn't one of them.**  So yeah - it's your opinion but it's not founded in any kind of reality. 

 

This. Differing opinions is one thing, but when there is a scientific response and then a totally unsupported personal belief it's not really the same. It's like saying: I think dinosaurs still exist. Don't try to tell me otherwise. We can just agree to disagree.


I put stars around the H part. With DD I had PPD. I had no help what so ever from anyone, including my H, and was a 16 year old. I believe that had I had help by my H I would've been better or maybe would not have had PPD. Simply because I wouldn't have felt all alone.

MRads

This week's uo and FFFC make me glad that my bumping time is limited. I think a lack of empathy for others' experience and journey will never cease to amaze me.

I don't understand how people can think it weird that others get worked up over things on the Internet. What you are putting out there are your beliefs, which shape who you are. And when people attack your beliefs, IRL or on the Internet, there is no way to not take it personally.

MRads

H and I finally made an agreement that he takes the wake ups from bedtime to 12 and I take the wake ups from 12 on. We moved B into his own room on Wednesday and today is the first night in the crib. It is not going well so far. I almost wish H weren't helping with MOTN wake ups so I could just put B in the RNP without telling H.

Bkuhman

My FFFC is:
Most mornings when DS wakes to eat, right when DHs alarm is about to go off, I lay there quietly willing DS to not fuss. I have DH think that I'm sleeping so that he has to wake with DD for her to go to school. Bad mom, I know. In my way of thinking, though... I stay up with DS so I deserve the sleep... But then again he works... Hmm... Bad mom??

Bkuhman

Another FFFC:
My DHs gma trusted me enough to tell me something that she wasn't suppose to jut so that she'd know my DD is safe. She asked me not to tell anyone or hint... I went and told my friend who's kids hangout with the kid that DHs gma warned me about.
I didn't do it for the gossip or whatever. I did it because I wanted to make sure her kids would be safe. I wasn't suppose to tell or hint to anyone but know that if it were me then I'd want to know..

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Stina2012

Rmnam1 said:

FFFC - I use the phrase "my internet friends" way too often when I talk to DH. He told me to please stop calling you that because he pictures a bunch of overweight 40 something men in their mom's basement using chat rooms all day.

You caught me! 40 something fat man, think The Comic Book Guy from The Simpsons.

Bkuhman

mermomo5 said:

@Bkuhman You did the right thing, with kids involved its always better to be cautious..

Thank you. I didn't go into detail. I just adviced that mom not to send her kids around that kid

Stina2012

Rmnam1 said:

Stina2012 said:

Rmnam1 said:

FFFC - I use the phrase "my internet friends" way too often when I talk to DH. He told me to please stop calling you that because he pictures a bunch of overweight 40 something men in their mom's basement using chat rooms all day.

You caught me! 40 something fat man, think The Comic Book Guy from The Simpsons.

This makes me like you even more! Can I get a selfie?

Hello friends!

summerchild

Holy crap this thread is long! My FFC is that I have no desire for time away from LO yet, and it pisses me off when people give me a shocked look that I haven't "had time to myself" and imply that I'm in some way handicapping LO and not taking care of me. I don't judge other people who go out without their LO's so stop judging me. If I want to go to the mall or to dinner without him, I will. I do plenty of things for myself and DH when LO goes to sleep.

babykk

Another one because FFFC is almost over. I think I actually felt my blood boil today. MIL was over with my mom and DS while I took DD out (talked about this on page 5 or 6). I came home and She has DS in his Einstein jumper after I told her LAST NIGHT that he is too little for it. Then she told me that my carpet was wearing out in front of his changing table (I know this) and I should out an OLD rug over it. Ummm, no thanks I will buy a new one.

I showed her a Halloween costume I got for DS for next year and she just said "do you really think he will fit into that next year". Seriously STFU and GTFO.

Eta: I guess it was page 4 \m/

flkong

Liz4444 said:

I closed my door early last night (7:30) so I could keep the rest of the junk for us. My DD wore her costume last weekend but I'm returning it today. 

Most places don't let you return seasonal items after the season Ian over for this very reason. Not flaming you for returning but am giving you an eye roll. Really?

Roll away. It's not a traditional costume and wasn't purchased at a costume store. She used it for an hour in our halloween parade, didn't use it last night and it cost $40. So yes really.

 If you buy something and use it for it's intended purpose (or at all beyond trying it on and changing your mind), it should not be returned. I don't care if it is $4, $40, or $400. You don't want to spend the money on it, buy something cheaper. Trying to return it makes you an asshole and is why stores end up with very strict return policies. I hope they see a stain on it and call you out. 

 Wow "asswhole"...really?? You got all worked up over this, I couldn't respond sooner because I was out returning the items. 

@Liz4444

ETA the @Liz part

Worked up? Hardly. That is my general opinion on people who like to cheat the system. It's a disgusting thing to do and says a lot about a person's character.

Listen @Liz4444 ... I never professed this to be one of my finer moments. That's why it's here on FFFC. But let's keep things in perspective,  "Cheat the system" is more appropriate when someone receives disability but are fully able to work. Or someone receives welfare but make shit loads of money under the table. A "disgusting thing to do" ...eehh...it's a bit dramatic don't you think?? Wrong....yes, that's my admission. As to my character, I won't answer to that because it's a feat that's pointless to do for you Mrs. Internet stranger. 

ETA clarity. It's all meshing into one paragraph. Liz can you use quote trees please? It makes this stupid stuff easier to read. 

B-)

emmanemm

babykk said:

Another one because FFFC is almost over. I think I actually felt my blood boil today. MIL was over with my mom and DS while I took DD out (talked about this on page 5 or 6). I came home and She has DS in his Einstein jumper after I told her LAST NIGHT that he is too little for it. Then she told me that my carpet was wearing out in front of his changing table (I know this) and I should out an OLD rug over it. Ummm, no thanks I will buy a new one. I showed her a Halloween costume I got for DS for next year and she just said "do you really think he will fit into that next year". Seriously STFU and GTFO. Eta: I guess it was page 4 \m/

Ugh, this pisses me off for you. I don't understand why people can't follow simple rules set for your children. Don't follow my rules? Don't watch my kid.

flkong

MrsErinH said:

Ok I don't feel like quoting everyone so here goes: I think it's cheap and tacky to return worn clothing, even if it was only used once. If you can't afford it, don't buy it! I don't think unsupportive Hs cause PPD but I do think that having a lot of support can make PPD more manageable (only based on my own personal experience). I hate when people name call or curse at each other on here. Can't we save that for trolls? I thought we were supposed to be friends! My FFFC: I'm upset at the way the J13 superlatives were run. It was my idea in the first place but the way it's done on other boards is that all categories are voted on at once so that the titles end up spread around and it's not the same 10 people nominated for everything. I know I didn't follow through and it's not like I owned the idea but when I saw the threads starting up a couple of weeks ago I felt hurt that it was run that way and that I wasn't included in setting it up. That probably sounds really silly but there ya go.

ITA with all of the above! Including returning worn clothing, I know it's tacky. I never returned clothes, this was a sheer cape and angel wings and I know that doesn't make it less tacky. I especially agree with the name calling and the PPD/PPA..... WTH, I agree with your whole post..... I stopped voting on the superlatives because how many badges does one poster need? It was fun at 1st but not so much so later on.

flkong

KittenD said:

Now, if she used quote trees to make it easier for you to rebut, wouldn't that be less fun? Work for your flames.

Huh? Anyways.... I'm done with this subject. On to the next....

emmanemm

Spartanmomma said:

#1 I've been lurking for days, but hardly posting. I feel like an Internet stalker.
#2 No one here can "hurt" me by the things they post, but some of those UOs sure did bring up some crummy feelings and caused me to re-dwell on things that can trigger insecurities. Hence my lurking but not posting.
#3 I want to put some photos of my cute kiddos in my siggy for AW reasons and so people here will maybe recognize me better, but super afraid I'll walk into work one day and a patient will recognize me.
#4 I exclusively mobile bump because I'm too damn lazy to boot up my laptop.
#5 I'm aware it's now really early Saturday morning, but I'm posting anyway because I spent WAY too much time reading all 11 pages of FFFC and time got away. Night y'all.
ETA all confessions, not really flame worthy. I'll have to step it up next week.

If it makes you feel any better I always recognize your sn, and you're one of my favorite posters! :P

Liz4444

@fklang, it is stealing, so yes, a disgusting thing to do and it says a lot about a persons character.

flkong

@Liz4444 I'm so done with this discussion, it's boring :: giving you the hand:: =;

lancomechica

When I was an undegrad student circa 1997-2001 I would buy clothes at express or ny and co (it was called Lerner NY then) I would wear and return. I did it maybe 10 times. I didn't see anything wrong with it then but I definitely would NEVER do that now and absolutely regret doing something like that. I also see it as stealing. If I buy something then no longer have a use for it...I sell it on EBay, consign or donate it.
The economy is struggling and every time each of us does something we perceive as "tiny" to cheat the system it adds up and results in higher retail prices.

Liz4444

Talk to the hand? Seriously? Are we back in middle school?

valstulas

I know I'm late to this thread, but I have an FFFC. Lately I feel really guilty about some of my activity on TB. The J13 superlatives were just supposed to be fun, and they made people feel excluded. My UO about bread winning men really hurt some people, and I feel sorry for that. Also, I'm the one who brought up abortion in the NHIE thread and I think that led to the UO debacle yesterday.

I feel like I've been (inadvertently) thoughtless lately and I'm so sorry for hurting anyone. I'm definitely considering cutting back my activity.

flkong

Mamasighs said:

The talk to the hand got me. I just keep thinking sashay Shante! I'm mobile or else I'd gif it

It was a light attempt at humor and to let Liz know I'm done with her...

Liz4444

KittenD said:

fklang said:

Mamasighs said:

The talk to the hand got me. I just keep thinking sashay Shante! I'm mobile or else I'd gif it

It was a light attempt at humor and to let Liz know I'm done with her...

I thought done means you quit bringing it up.


Done with me? It really is like a middle school conversation on one end. Looks like I hit a nerve.

@mamasighs, Work, work it girl!

flkong

@Valstulas, don't give the superlatives thing that much thought, you tried to do something fun and it was. For me, it just became repetitive. And the abortion topic is one that will always spark debate and passion. I steer away from that and politics, they tend to get heated. I purposely ignore those debates at work.

So please stay...the board would miss you if you were gone.

flkong

KittenD said:

Mamasighs said:

The talk to the hand got me. I just keep thinking sashay Shante! I'm mobile or else I'd gif it

It was a light attempt at humor and to let Liz know I'm done with her...

I thought done means you quit bringing it up.

Now see, this is where it gets to be over kill. We get it, you're Liz's friend IRL  and you're rallying behind her. Otherwise, who summoned you?  Liz didn't need your help. She was doing just fine. 

This is becoming annoying now so go ahead....I'm giving you the platform to have the last word.