FFFC!!

jeng100

The UO discussion on abortion really hurt and pissed me off yesterday, especially after just admitting to having one. I had a whole response ready to go today, but I'm just going to leave it at that.

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Lelo2006

lizabethann06 said:

I put this in UO but it's actually more FFFC.

It always amazes me how upset people get about some of these threads. It's someone's opinion! There is no way we are going to change it so why try? It isn't worth getting worked up over IMO- this is the Internet. As much as I love you guys, I'm not going to get all worked up if our opinions differ or you don't agree with something I say or you don't like me. I read stuff on here everyday that makes me roll my eyes or shake my head but it isn't something that I take personally. Sometimes I give my input and sometimes I dont but whether people love it or hate it, it is still my opinion and I am not going to get upset over anyones reaction. I've been around these boards a looooong time and I can count on one hand the number of times I've gotten worked up about something and typically I've forgotten about it the next day lol

ITA. Sometimes I laugh when people post paragraphs in response to someone who said something stupid. It's such a waste of time & energy. Some people get so aggressive and start name calling and I think, "really? You're getting this worked up over some Internet poster? Relax."

babykk

My FFC:
My MIL used to live 4 hrs north of us an my parents live 1 hour south of us. I always wanted MIL,FIL AND BIL to move closer to us so we would never have to move by them (DH talked about this for a while) that is the only reason, so I could stay close to my parents. Now that they did move closer, I wish they still lived far away.

My MIL can be at times, overwhelming. I don't care for my BIL and my FIL travels for work, so I am really the only person she knows. Today my mom is coming to hang with DS while I take DD out for a bit. My MIL wants to visit with my mom for a while when I'm gone and I know my mom will not want that.

My mom wants to spend time with DS ALONE so they can bond. Ugh... Frustrating!

DenverBride2005

Re: the whole conversation about leaving your kiddos with a sitter--since maybe mine was more of a UO that I don't feel guilty taking a couple mental health days off from both work and kids each year--I should add that we have no family here to help us and we rarely get out for date nights (maybe five a year?), so having DC watch them and taking the day off helps me a lot. Just felt like I sounded like the insensitive one so I wanted to clarify...

mrschristinalou

I can't stop eating my son's Halloween candy. I keep hiding the wrappers. 

Clyde013

Dccornel said:

@leahaziele91 How does it feel to be pregnant still? Do you want to punch all of us for having outside babies :P

OMG. Just had an aha! moment when I finally figured out what inside/outside baby meant!! I've been wondering for months now!

je2161

We went to a family party last weekend with all the cousins, and now we're all sick. A bad, bad cold. Everyone is congested, sore throats, runny noses, feverish, the works. It sucks big time. It's no fun dealing with a seriously congested 3 month old. Especially when you yourself feel like crap! I feel like my kids ALWAYS get sick when they see their cousins. It almost tempts me to avoid going to family parties!

lancomechica

jeng100 said:

The UO discussion on abortion really hurt and pissed me off yesterday, especially after just admitting to having one. I had a whole response ready to go today, but I'm just going to leave it at that.

Hugs!!

je2161

@Iand LoveandYou I just laughed out loud at your siggy pics. And I rarely drink alcohol but those are seriously funny!

Stina2012

jeng100 said:

The UO discussion on abortion really hurt and pissed me off yesterday, especially after just admitting to having one. I had a whole response ready to go today, but I'm just going to leave it at that.

Can we all just agree to not bring up abortion on a website about babies? Obviously this topic gets heated. Just stop it.

dontgiveupnomatterwhat

DenverBride2005 said:

@dontgiveupnomatterwhat, so sorry to hear about your struggle but I appreciate hearing your story and am glad you were brave enough to share it. I lost my dad three weeks ago and I think now that the dust has settled it may actually start affecting me more--reality is setting in now. I haven't had any physical reactions yet, other than probably aches and pains from storing my stress in my body--I was having to be the "rock" for everyone and I felt like I didn't have a rock of my own--DH was busy taking care of our boys so I could take care of my mom. My dad was always my rock

I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. My heart goes out to you. Just remember to take it day by day, breath by breath. I will be thinking of you and saying a prayer for you!

chiboo9

ramy3695 said:

@lizabethann06 noooooooooo joke, I've always wanted to ask: Are you more offended that I don't agree with you or the simple fact that my opinion is different? Either way, get the bleep over it.

I always want to comment " This Internet forum conversation really changed my opinion, thanks" but figure it's too snarky!

I agree. Although the comment the other day about PPD being caused my unsupportive SOs really bothered me. I guess my FFFC is that I allowed my feelings to be hurt by a thoughtless comment from an internet stranger.

Ugh, how bothersome and insensitive. I went through some crazy PPD/PPA (still am) and that would irk the crap out of me.

je2161

Oh and it's crazy to think that PPD/PPA is caused by an insensitive SO. My DH is about as devoted, thoughtful and hands-on as can be, and I'm dealing with PPA. It sucks! But it's definitely not because I don't have a good support system. Hormones play a huge role!

jeng100

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@jeng100 - I just sent you a PM.

Same. 

Thank you ladies. Replied.

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lancomechica

I feel horrible if people were hurt too. I don't think anything I said was controversial and I said it is not my place to judge anyone's personal choices unless their choice hurts me or my family. , hugs and love dust to everyone!!

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pgermain11

mainerocks said:

Oh, I have another!  I'm pumping and bumping so that's why I'm a PW in this thread :-P

I think the J'13 superlatives are dumb.  It's the same 10 or so names every time. We all know who the most active posters are... voting for them for a dozen different titles is stupid IMO.

Oh I so agree on this. I think it's really silly that people are genuinely concerned about being popular with a bunch of internet strangers in different states. I also have been avoiding the boards lately bc there are too many clicky polls... is the board that boring that we have to have an entire page full of clicky polls? 

My FFFC - I'd be interested in meeting any So.Fla mommas, but at the same time, I think it's really effing weird. What if I meet you and like your internet personality better? Weird, just weird. 

Oh another note, is anyone interested in an ornament exchange for the holidays!? I heard about this once and it sounds kind of fun! 

pgermain11

Dccornel said:

@pgermain11 I would be more concerned about someone have my address for the ornament exchange

Bahaha! My brains are silly.. So True @dccornel

Altima80

Another FFFC: I block my friends on facebook for the month of November if they do those daily "I am thankful for..." posts. Most of the time they are fake....don't say you are thankful for your "loving, awesome hubby" when your close friends know you are on the verge of divorce!

chiboo9

Altima80 said:

Another FFFC: I block my friends on facebook for the month of November if they do those daily "I am thankful for..." posts. Most of the time they are fake....don't say you are thankful for your "loving, awesome hubby" when your close friends know you are on the verge of divorce!

Bummer. I was excited for today because I was starting it on FB. I guess I wanted people to be more thankful for what they have and not take things/people for granted. 

coco2787

I bought cloth diapers from cottonbabies and the color was called "oops" with no picture. (I'm sure I could have figured out what it was if I had tried). Well, apparently it's dark purple, and I think they're adorable and can't wait for my son to rock them. They'll match perfectly with his purple face.

pgermain11

Another confession here -- Sometimes I laugh when my baby cries because she looks so dramatic and cute! I also giggle every single time she farts because she's completely unaware of what just happened. Hahaha.. I'm laughing thinking about it. 

JellyTwoPointO

My FFFC: I've been using a package of disposable diapers on DS for a week now because I'm too lazy to stuff all his pocket diapers with inserts. Ugh.

Bmore721

NCC74656 said:

I think it's weird to post pictures of other peoples kids (unless they are of relation to you) on FB even if your kid is in the photo.

Completely agree! I hate that my neighbor's FB wall includes pics of her kids posing with DD.

My FFFC: My mom offered to watch DD while DH and I go out to dinner on Saturday. I told her that we can't go out to eat because of DD's MSPI, but really, I just don't trust her enough to leave her alone with my kid.

jeng100

dontgiveupnomatterwhat said:

My FFFC: when my dad died four years ago, I suffered from Post a Traumatic Stress so bad that it mimicked a stroke. I lost short term memory as well as a lot of comprehension skills that causes me
to react slower because I process things so slow. (I couldn't recite the eye chart back to the nurse because I didn't know how to say the letters!) I was once a super intelligent corporate manager who had to quit her job because she couldn't comprehend basic number functionality. I don't usually tell people this...because it's not something I like to talk about. But I get really upset when I do something backwards or forget something seconds later after it was discussed...and someone will playful call me stupid or dumb or make a comment like "are you kidding?!?"
My boss who didn't know my story once said "people underestimate your intelligence until they get to know you"...total slap in the face.
I don't know how this is an FFFC, but I've been down about it lately and wanted to get it off my chest.

Big hugs!

provwife

From yesterday, I apologize if I hurt anyones feelings with my opinion on abortion. It is one subject that stirs my soul and I couldn't help but to chim in. My opinion was not meant to be personal, it was towards the act in general but I now realize it was obviously personal for some that have faced this decision.

Again, apologize if my words/views offended any of you. I agree that this is too controversial to bring up anymore.

Stina2012

provwife said:

From yesterday, I apologize if I hurt anyones feelings with my opinion on abortion. It is one subject that stirs my soul and I couldn't help but to chim in. My opinion was not meant to be personal, it was towards the act in general but I now realize it was obviously personal for some that have faced this decision.

Again, apologize if my words/views offended any of you. I agree that this is too controversial to bring up anymore.

After reading yesterday I had a big bone to pick with you. I'll step forward and accept this apology even though I didn't comment on the UO thread and didn't see it yesterday (it's a damn good thing I didn't see it). Your words were hurtful for those who weren't even involved in the discussion.

Some experiences in life break your heart in ways you can't imagine. "The act" as you call it changes many lives in ways you also can't imagine. I thank goodness that I am a strong Mama now and that I have a truly wonderful DH.

I have much more to say on the subject and about my life circumstances but you in no way deserve to know them. I won't belittle myself by EVER thinking I need to explain myself to you.

KKinATX

Dccornel said:

pgermain11 said:

Dccornel said:

@pgermain11 I would be more concerned about someone having my address for the ornament exchange

Bahaha! My brains are silly.. So True @dccornel

I was nodding until I got there and had to do a double take.

@pgermain11 and @dccornel We actually did an ornament exchange on my other BMB and it was really fun.  But I will say, we have all been together for several years and the core group knows each other really well.  Giving your address wasn't really a concern, but I can see how in this large of a group and not having been together as long it could be kinda sketchy. 

provwife

Stina2012 said:

provwife said:

From yesterday, I apologize if I hurt anyones feelings with my opinion on abortion. It is one subject that stirs my soul and I couldn't help but to chim in. My opinion was not meant to be personal, it was towards the act in general but I now realize it was obviously personal for some that have faced this decision.

Again, apologize if my words/views offended any of you. I agree that this is too controversial to bring up anymore.

After reading yesterday I had a big bone to pick with you. I'll step forward and accept this apology even though I didn't comment on the UO thread and didn't see it yesterday (it's a damn good thing I didn't see it). Your words were hurtful for those who weren't even involved in the discussion.

Some experiences in life break your heart in ways you can't imagine. "The act" as you call it changes many lives in ways you also can't imagine. I thank goodness that I am a strong Mama now and that I have a truly wonderful DH.

I have much more to say on the subject and about my life circumstances but you in no way deserve to know them. I won't belittle myself by EVER thinking I need to explain myself to you.

And I am not asking you to. I can agree to disagree. We obviously aren't on the same page with this but I don't think it is something to be angry towards me for.

provwife

ncchnat said:

provwife said:

Stina2012 said:

provwife said:

From yesterday, I apologize if I hurt anyones feelings with my opinion on abortion. It is one subject that stirs my soul and I couldn't help but to chim in. My opinion was not meant to be personal, it was towards the act in general but I now realize it was obviously personal for some that have faced this decision.

Again, apologize if my words/views offended any of you. I agree that this is too controversial to bring up anymore.

After reading yesterday I had a big bone to pick with you. I'll step forward and accept this apology even though I didn't comment on the UO thread and didn't see it yesterday (it's a damn good thing I didn't see it). Your words were hurtful for those who weren't even involved in the discussion.

Some experiences in life break your heart in ways you can't imagine. "The act" as you call it changes many lives in ways you also can't imagine. I thank goodness that I am a strong Mama now and that I have a truly wonderful DH.

I have much more to say on the subject and about my life circumstances but you in no way deserve to know them. I won't belittle myself by EVER thinking I need to explain myself to you.

And I am not asking you to. I can agree to disagree. We obviously aren't on the same page with this but I don't think it is something to be angry towards me for.

If she felt judged by you, then she damn well can be mad at you. Just like I can be pissed off for being called a hypocrite for mourning my lost pregnancy and being pro-choice.

It's fine that you think differently and you may have felt that you were just stating an opinion, but there was a lot of judgement in yours and in others yesterday.

EDIT: quote fail.
I was explaining why I felt the way I did. I wasn't personally acting anyone and I am apologizing for those that felt personally attacked.

Stina2012

Chunkymonkeylvr said:

writing "Thundercock" down for future son's name.

You make a me laugh!

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Hahahaha I'm back for the day. Perfect timing...thundercock ahahahahaha.

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jackson290721

KittenD said:

@asbromle, when someone says "oh, that's a strong name" I'm like uhhh... it's Kingston, not Thundercock. Jesus people keep your name advice to yourself.

Please, just take me now.  :x

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coco2787

pgermain11 said:

Another confession here -- Sometimes I laugh when my baby cries because she looks so dramatic and cute! I also giggle every single time she farts because she's completely unaware of what just happened. Hahaha.. I'm laughing thinking about it. 

I totally do all of this. They are so cute when they're mad! The pouty lip is the best.