Do you complain?

Sisimama10

Springs1 said:

bacorrea said:

@springs1

You're a troll. This is a pregnancy board. You don't ever want children. Go away now.

Edit* mobile quote fail.

Who cares if it's a pregnancy board if the *SUBJECT* IS NOT RELATED TO THIS IDIOT? SERIOUSLY?


A lot of us care that it is a pregnancy board. It's not really optional whether you are pregnant or not to join this board. We are all actually pregnant and due in the same month, so she's not an idiot for saying that... It really makes no sense why you are posting here.

Springs1

Sisimama10 said:

Please no one actually take this dieting advice. Yo yo dieting never works. Weight comes back, you have to lose it again, repeat process. Hence the name. Eating deep fries food and unhealthy stuff then starving yourself is NOT healthy. There's too much in this post to even touch on it at all. I just hope nobody reads this and actually thinks it's good advice. Horrible.

It's not advice IDIOT, it's REAL LIFE! IT DOES WORK. How come I keep my weight down, huh? Because I for example, ate less than 500 calories friday.  You lose weight with REDUCING YOUR CALORIE INTAKE. IT DOES WORK. It has worked MY ENTIRE LIFE! I have never gotten back to 106lbs.I was 96lbs this morning.

Springs1

Sisimama10 said:

I don't understand why you are posting on a pregnancy board when you aren't pregnant and don't "EVER" want children.

You are an IDIOT, for real. This subject is about RESTAURANT COMPLAINTS! HOW HARD IS THAT TO COMPREHEND? SERIOUSLY????

Sisimama10

Springs1 said:

Sisimama10 said:

Please no one actually take this dieting advice. Yo yo dieting never works. Weight comes back, you have to lose it again, repeat process. Hence the name. Eating deep fries food and unhealthy stuff then starving yourself is NOT healthy. There's too much in this post to even touch on it at all. I just hope nobody reads this and actually thinks it's good advice. Horrible.

It's not advice IDIOT, it's REAL LIFE! IT DOES WORK. How come I keep my weight down, huh? Because I for example, ate less than 500 calories friday.  You lose weight with REDUCING YOUR CALORIE INTAKE. IT DOES WORK. It has worked MY ENTIRE LIFE! I have never gotten back to 106lbs.I was 96lbs this morning.


Well I'm not an idiot...I never said it wouldn't work. I'm sure it does. But I don't actually consider it to be good advice considering it's unhealthy. It can't be working that well if you have to keep starving yourself and repeating the process.

Springs1

Sisimama10 said:

A lot of us care that it is a pregnancy board. It's not really optional whether you are pregnant or not to join this board. We are all actually pregnant and due in the same month, so she's not an idiot for saying that... It really makes no sense why you are posting here.

It does make sense. You are talking about a subject I know A LOT about.

Sisimama10

Springs1 said:

Sisimama10 said:

A lot of us care that it is a pregnancy board. It's not really optional whether you are pregnant or not to join this board. We are all actually pregnant and due in the same month, so she's not an idiot for saying that... It really makes no sense why you are posting here.

It does make sense. You are talking about a subject I know A LOT about.


But you aren't pregnant, so you shouldn't be here posting anything.

Stace0616

Well for starters, calling our girls "idiots" needs to stop. That's really rude and unnecessary.

Also, I think everyone is fully aware that losing weight means less calories in, more calories out. Not exactly rocket science. Some people, however, do not catch on to things like sarcasm.

Springs1

Sisimama10 said:

Well I'm not an idiot...I never said it wouldn't work. I'm sure it does. But I don't actually consider it to be good advice considering it's unhealthy. It can't be working that well if you have to keep starving yourself and repeating the process.

It IS WORKING, because I AM NOT FAT IDIOT! DON'T YOU GET THAT OR WHAT? I AM STILL FREAKING UNDER 100LBS. WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU? IT WORKS!

avidkeo

Springs1 said:

 I am married since 2002.  I don't have kids, don't want any because I LOVE my FREEDOM not having that type of responsibility and I NEVER want to be FAT EVER, EVER, EVER! 

This is the most insensitive and ungrateful thing you can post on a pregnancy message board. Many of the ladies here have been trying to get pregnant for a long time, and want a place where they can celebrate it. I appreciate you are entitled to your opinion, but its incredibly RUDE for you to say such things here. Yes this is a free board and anyone is free to post, but I think in the future you need to direct your stupid opinion, yes its my opinion that yours is stupid, elsewhere. Also suggesting that we are all going to get fat because of having kids is also incredibly rude and offensive. 

Please bugger off. (edit: this is another kiwiism, sorry if it offends any of my lovely A14 ladies!)

bacorrea

No we are talking about a subject that we all have opinions about! Sure you know a lot about "complaining" but you don't know anymore about serving than the rest of that. You are just screaming your opinions.

Springs1

Sisimama10 said:

It can't be working that well if you have to keep starving yourself and repeating the process.

Repeating the process is to either lose it before you gain it or lose it after you gain it. That's how it works.

For example, if I know I am going to a party with lots of good food, the day before I will eat less than 500 calories so I *CAN* EAT a HUGE AMOUNT.  It works.

I lose some before I gain it. If I gain more than what I wanted to, I just diet another day. It's that simple.   IT WORKS! I AM NOT FAT, SO YEAH, IT WORKS. I NEVER SAID IT WAS HEALTHY!

JessieAlbin

Springs1 said:

Stace0616 said:

Wow. Feeling sorry for all of us fat, shackled women here on A14 right now! You do realize this is a message board for PREGNANT women, right? Ones who are gaining weight for a reason and don't consider having children to be losing their freedom? Because I would have sworn that you posted on the Bump and not some random message board about waitressing.

Just, wow.

That's how you all feel. I bet you feel that way when you want sleep or get horny or want time for yourself.  We all have times when we don't want to do certain things.  You can't admit you wouldn't want your children around every moment? There's got to be some time you want for you, be honest now?

This subject is not about pregnancy just because the board is about it.


So..um. This subject is for the purpose of the pregnant women who participate on this board to get to know each other, and get perspective on what other moms and moms to be think. It is not meant to be an outlet for your apparent obsession with servers and restaurants. Posting about fat, and how obsessed with skinniness you are, or what you think about the choice to not ever have children, is inappropriate on any subject thread on a pregnancy board.

... In other news, I have totally pictured this woman in my head as Angela from the Office, and it makes me giggle. Please, someone not on mobile hook a sister up with a gif!!!

Springs1

bacorrea said:

but you don't know anymore about serving than the rest of that. You are just screaming your opinions.

Oh YES I DO! I bet you haven't had the issues we have at restaurants.

Springs1

Sisimama10 said:

But you aren't pregnant, so you shouldn't be here posting anything.

It's the internet and AMERICA, I can do as I please! WHAT A CONTROL FREAK! What does this matter? The SUBJECT is what matters.

Sisimama10

Yeah, I'm definitely worried about some of the comments triggering things for a couple ladies that have shared they are in recovery from eating disorders.

bacorrea

@jessiealbin haha I was JUST posting about when Angela and Pam are pregnant the same time and Angela calls social services because Pam is drinking herbal tea out of a mug that has traces of coffee. Hilarious!

BiggerinRealLife

Huh. And here I was following my doctor/nutritionist's advice about having small, regular meals and keeping calories consistent to up my motabolism. I was told that the quality of calories count more than the number, so here I was eating platefuls of king salmon with luscious local broiled veggies like a chump, when I could have been eating three mozzarella sticks with ranch and called it a day. Screw this crap. Sorry, LO, we're going on the @Sparks1 diet! After all, being fat is THE WORST THING IN THE WORLD next to throwing up, and you, fetus, have done nothing for my waistline lately. Time to take care of ME for a change!

BiggerinRealLife

@jennypenny1014 Your quote was absolutely brilliant. I heart you.

Springs1

avidkeo said:

This is the most insensitive and ungrateful thing you can post on a pregnancy message board. Many of the ladies here have been trying to get pregnant for a long time, and want a place where they can celebrate it. I appreciate you are entitled to your opinion, but its incredibly RUDE for you to say such things here. Yes this is a free board and anyone is free to post, but I think in the future you need to direct your stupid opinion, yes its my opinion that yours is stupid, elsewhere. Also suggesting that we are all going to get fat because of having kids is also incredibly rude and offensive. 

But you do gain weight from just the pregnancy itself, not even talking about extra weight.  20-25lbs I have heard is the average weight a mother gains during a normal pregnancy, which some people gain twice as much or more than that.

I don't care if they have been trying to get pregnant, because they have a right to their opinion on life. I have every RIGHT to feel the way I feel about not wanting that type of responsibility or weight issues that occur with pregnancy.  I don't see how it is insensitive when not everyone wants kids, how is that news to you?

How is it stupid to want your freedom to sleep your entire night or if you want to have sex be able to have it without a baby interruption or just take a dump in peace or eat in peace or anything for yourself or spend money on yourself, etc.?

Springs1

JessieAlbin said:

So..um. This subject is for the purpose of the pregnant women who participate on this board to get to know each other, and get perspective on what other moms and moms to be think. It is not meant to be an outlet for your apparent obsession with servers and restaurants. Posting about fat, and how obsessed with skinniness you are, or what you think about the choice to not ever have children, is inappropriate on any subject thread on a pregnancy board. ... In other news, I have totally pictured this woman in my head as Angela from the Office, and it makes me giggle. Please, someone not on mobile hook a sister up with a gif!!!

Who are you CONTROL FREAK? SERIOUSLY, This is USA and the INTERNET. I can talk about what I want. This is the subject about complaining and this question about my weight was brought up, so I stated WHY I do this dieting and how I stay small is not to get pregnant in the first place so I don't mess up with my weight.

Sisimama10

Lmao I'm done here.

BiggerinRealLife

When I was in high school they did the pinch test for body fat percentage in gym sophomore year. I remember being shocked, because I was a curvy 110 pounds and this girl who was a tall twig that everyone talked about being soooo pretty and thin had a higher percentage than I did. I did dance and guard, and she had arms like twigs. I felt pretty good that day.

pineconey

Seriously, why are you still here? Can't you find someone to take you out to a restaurant so you can complain about it rather than spending hours harassing pregnant women? Or is no one interested in you because you're a whiney little brat who is so obviously obsessed with her 96lb self that NO ONE LIKES YOU? Good luck trying to convince us that kids aren't worth it and that yoyo dieting is a good idea for us. *eye roll*

jennypenny1014

Springs1 said:

I am not crazy.  WHAT IS WRONG WITH BEING SENSITIVE? What's wrong with wanting GOOD SERVICE? What's wrong with wanting nothing or just about nothing to go wrong?

What's wrong is that you've taken it to a whoooole other level. Rather than complaining about a bad experience or two a couple of years ago on, say, one message board thread, you've been on this topic for at least 5 YEARS, trolling the entire internet for an outlet to spout your brand of crazy. Then proceed to get so worked up that you start calling women names and YELLING IN ALL CAPS************* ABOUT EVERYTHING. Complete with illustrations, YouTube links, and an irrational obsession with ranch dressing. And THAT, my dear, is what makes you a lunatic. Cheers.  :-@

BiggerinRealLife

@Pineconey But she's made such a difference in my life! It's such hard work cooking healthy, nutritious food for my family at home, and sticking to my philosophy of "lean, clean and green," is exhausting. Exhausting, I tell you! All that chopping... Now I don't have to work so hard and can eat out all the time and stay thin! Wait until I tell DH that the food I've been cooking him for four years that helped him go from 309 pounds to 204 pounds could have been fried and covered in ranch! He didn't need to change his diet at all, just binge and starve! He's gonna be so mad at me.

@Luckie519 I'm so sorry your original thread got so jacked up. I liked your original question.

pineconey

My name is pineconey and I love my pregnant belly because it shows that I'm willing to sacrifice my life for the good of another human being. The bags under my eyes have only begun to form as I prepare for a lifetime of interrupted sleep. My financial choices reflect the desire to provide for someone other than just myself. My body is sore as it makes room to grow this new life inside me.

I am beautiful, no matter my size. I will choose to act beautifully, rather than insist that the world conforms to my wants. I will seek beauty in the world around me, for it's hiding everywhere, waiting to be unearthed.

Sisimama10

@jessiealbin

BiggerinRealLife

pineconey said:

My name is pineconey and I love my pregnant belly because it shows that I'm willing to sacrifice my life for the good of another human being. The bags under my eyes have only begun to form as I prepare for a lifetime of interrupted sleep. My financial choices reflect the desire to provide for someone other than just myself. My body is sore as it makes room to grow this new life inside me.

I am beautiful, no matter my size. I will choose to act beautifully, rather than insist that the world conforms to my wants. I will seek beauty in the world around me, for it's hiding everywhere, waiting to be unearthed.

I want this tattooed on my face.

Kiahsimpson

I guess none of us are as selfish and ungrateful as you, springs1. My child, every child, is a blessing. If I'm going to get fat because of it, so be it. Come April, I won't get a full nights sleep every night. No, I won't have every single second to my self. But I will have a beautiful child and I would choose that over anything and everything. This is a choice that the women on this board have made and we all understand that you don't want to make the same choice. Not everyone is cut out for it. You said what you needed/wanted to say, now just be on your way.

avidkeo

Id rather get fat and have a beautiful child in my life, than be a skinny whining so and so.

jennypenny1014

Sisimama10 said:

Well I'm not an idiot...I never said it wouldn't work. I'm sure it does. But I don't actually consider it to be good advice considering it's unhealthy. It can't be working that well if you have to keep starving yourself and repeating the process.

It IS WORKING, because I AM NOT FAT IDIOT! DON'T YOU GET THAT OR WHAT? I AM STILL FREAKING UNDER 100LBS. WHAT DOES THAT TELL YOU? IT WORKS!

It tells us that you're anorexic, and a complete nutbag. We, on the other hand, have to not only eat enough calories to sustain ourselves, but also grow a human. So please, just GTFO. You and your flapping crazy box are not welcome here. Take care now! Bye bye then.

jennypenny1014

BiggerinRealLife said:

@jennypenny1014 Your quote was absolutely brilliant. I heart you.

Awwww.... *swoon* Thanks! I think you're pretty neat yerself.  ">

jennypenny1014

Springs1 said: 

But you do gain weight from just the pregnancy itself, not even talking about extra weight.  20-25lbs I have heard is the average weight a mother gains during a normal pregnancy, which some people gain twice as much or more than that.

I don't care if they have been trying to get pregnant, because they have a right to their opinion on life. I have every RIGHT to feel the way I feel about not wanting that type of responsibility or weight issues that occur with pregnancy.  I don't see how it is insensitive when not everyone wants kids, how is that news to you?

How is it stupid to want your freedom to sleep your entire night or if you want to have sex be able to have it without a baby interruption or just take a dump in peace or eat in peace or anything for yourself or spend money on yourself, etc.?

It's stupid because YOU'RE ON A MESSAGE BOARD WITH PREGNANT WOMEN. If you don't want those things, FINE. But the rest of us are here because we want kids. So take that shit elsewhere, because seriously...go fuck yourself. 

ETA: And FTR, I'm fat. I was fat before I got pregnant, both times (YES I'm doing the pregnancy thing AGAIN). I have no problems with this. Oh and did I mention that I'M FAT? Maybe if you wont go away on your own, knowing that you're posting on the same board as FAT PEOPLE might be enough to gross you out and scare you away.

jennypenny1014

Springs1 said:

But you do gain weight from just the pregnancy itself, not even talking about extra weight.  20-25lbs I have heard is the average weight a mother gains during a normal pregnancy, which some people gain twice as much or more than that

I gained 11 lbs with my first pregnancy, and lost 30 lbs within 2 weeks of giving birth. I'm almost halfway through this pregnancy and have gained 0 lbs. (no that's not a typo, it's a ZERO). I will more than likely gain less than 15 lbs and lose more than twice what I gained after this child is born. 

So put THAT in your pipe and smoke it, you heartless, no-class-havin', poor-service-hypochondriac, selfish, anorexic, ranch-obsessed hag.

:-h

Ktrue85

December '13 loves cake.

mrscrcalli

I don't have the attention span to catch up.. Someone debrief me :-??

BiggerinRealLife

@mrscrcalli Innocent A14 poster asked a question about service at a restaurant. We gave our opinions. This crazy person hijacked the thread because all they do with their life is search google for discussions about servers and tipping to massacre. She starts posting masters thesises about how servers are the bane of the universe, and we discovered that she's well known around the internet for doing this. And the world hates her.

People were having fun poking the troll until she said she never wants to be pregnant because being fat is the worst thing in the world, then we were done. Turns out she's 95 pounds and eats nothing but crap from crap restaurants and would never get pregnant because she needs time to herself. To eat bacon and drink ranch dressing and troll the whole internet, apparently.

@Pineconey wrote a beautiful soliloquy about being pregnant that @Jennypenny1014 restated in a much more typical A14 manner. For now I believe the troll is sleeping, because it's been awhile since she's been on.

Also, ranch. And bacon. And CAPS LOCK!!!

NYJodway

Springs1, I've given this some thought, and there are a few things that I think it would be helpful for you to consider. 

First, you say you value your freedom.  But, think about it?  What freedom do you have?  You are a slave to your hostility and your weight obsession.  You are a slave to your obsession with what you perceive as bad service.  You are a slave to your uncharitable judgments over people that you think are beneath you because you happen to control their tip for that brief period of time.  You have no freedom, and that has nothing to do with being childless. 

You say you don't want to gain weight because people will make fun of you.  That doesn't make sense.  People make fun of you now.  The internet is full of people mocking you at every turn.  If you really didn't want people to make fun of you, you'd behave more appropriately and sensibly. 

I understand that people were, apparently, mean to you when you were younger.  That stinks, and I know that can have a lasting impact.  But, by obsessing over your weight because you don't want those people to make fun of you when they see you again, you are continuing to give them control over you.  If they were so terrible to you, why do you care what they think? 

The hard, cold reality is that people will be mean to you if they don't like you, and they won't be mean to you if they do like you, no matter what you weigh.  I've gained a lot of weight since high school, and every time I've run into someone from those days, we've had a wonderful time catching up.  If people like you, it won't matter how much weight you gained.  If they don't like you, it won't matter how skinny you are. 

Don't you think it's possible that you fixate on your weight and this weird obsession with service in restaurants because you lack the skills to improve yourself in any meaningful way, and are searching for a way to have some sense of control and authority in a world that doesn't respond well to you? 

I beg you to seek out professional assistance with some of these issues.  There is no shame in getting help when you need it.  Why continue to lead such an apparently unhappy existence.  Life is pretty good when you're not looking for a reason to complain under every rock and aren't terrified about people making fun of you. 

BiggerinRealLife

@NYJodway That's way too logical and sound an argument for this discussion.

NYJodway

BiggerinRealLife said:

@NYJodway That's way too logical and sound an argument for this discussion.

Word. 

It's late.  I make bad decisions when I'm tired.  lol