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Re: FFFC
Wow-- that's hard.
I have H with me helping and I miss my old life.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
Wow-- that's hard.
I have H with me helping and I miss my old life.
I miss my old life on a weekly basis and DS was planned and DH is a very hands on dad. Hugs.I severely judge people who either park in handicap spots with the tag and don't "look" handicapped, or people who don't have the tag at all. I realize that not all disabilities are readily visible, so I shouldn't judge so much. My BIL has CP, and there have been times when he had to park further away because all the handicap spots were taken, so maybe that's why I'm sensitive to it.
One time DH and I were coming back to our apartment after dinner, and there was a Mercedes with no handicap tag, sticker, or anything like that parked in a handicap spot. Just because we thought the person was being a jerk, we left a take-out styrofoam container of salad on the hood of the car. We came back in the morning, and it had blown over (or maybe someone turned it over), and salad dressing had dripped into the vents or whatever between the hood and the windshield. We felt bad because we didn't mean to be so mean. And maybe someone had their handicapped grandmother or someone staying with them and just didn't have the tag.
Well, that's my tl;dr confession about handicap parking spots.
You KNOW that not all disabilities are visible and you still judge? That's so screwed up.
oops... wrong "like"
I'm sorry you struggle with this.
My cousin lost part of his leg due to bone cancer as a teenager. He runs marathons on his prosthetic leg and seeing him with long pants on, you'd never know the difference. Once when he was about 18 or 19 he was confronted in a parking lot for using a handicapped tag. The dude who challenged him just assumed he was a teenaged punk takig advantage. He felt pretty terrible and stupid when my cousin dropped trou right there and showed off his prosthetic.
Point being, you never know.
ETA: @HilarityEnsued, @RondackHiker, @ anyone else who thinks I'm a big jerk now -
I know my judginess and what I did are wrong. That's why it's a confession.
I try not to judge when someone appears to be illegally or fraudulently parked in a handicap spot, but I just get frustrated with people who have no respect for other people. If someone admits that they were parked in a handicap spot and didn't need to be, yes, it bothers me.
I know I'm not the police, and it's not my job to judge whether or not someone "deserves" to be parked in the handicap spot. I'm just saying that for people who do abuse it, I think that's really wrong. But to everyone's point, I shouldn't be so concerned with assessing whether or not someone has a legitimate reason for parking in the handicap spot.
Who??
oh ok....
Also ((hugs))
I was doing my load of work uniforms because I had to work that day. I put my laundry in the dryer and went back to my apartment to finish getting ready for work. When I went to get my uniforms, some asshole had removed my uniforms almost immediately after I started the dryer, piled them soaking wet on the floor, and dried their clothes instead. Dude, first come first served. Those were my clothes, my quarters were running the machine, and you had to make me call into work and tell them I would be an hour late because I had no dry uniforms. I totally dumped a bottle of bleach all over their clothes. Don't fuck with me and mine! Also, if you're going to be an asshole, get your clothes out before I discover what you did. Paybacks a bitch!
@scoutkate I know a little of how you feel. All of our friends have updated homes with beautiful furniture. Our house is the same size but was built in 1996 and we still have hand me down furniture and the kitchen is so old...we don't even have dressers in our bedroom or a dining room table. I am embarassed to have anyone over and my H thinks I am ridiculous...he is proud of what we have accomplished, since both of us came from much less.
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
Y'all do you! More power to you!
@shanado
I'm clam. Hand um ova!
Hehehe.
My FFFC: I have a mascara that vibrates....lost something else...so...
Ugh, just put me into the gross teenage boy catagory.
Ihave a couple invisible disabilities that are very real- I am blessed to be able to work as much as I do...
I know there are people like this that would judge because i look "healthy".
I stay at my company because it's the easiest job ever. I do about 8 hours of work a week. And that would be a busy week.
@Shando I'm calm as a cucumber.... gif fail
picture cool cum----cuber! lol
Also, to beat the OAD dead horse....DH and I always said we wanted 2 kids. I still REALLY want a 2nd child. However I think we have to be OAD because we cannot afford a second. It kills me that $$ is our deciding factor. Lots of people say "oh you'll just make it work." No, we can't just make it work, DC costs more than my mortgage for 1 kid, I can't pay 3 mortgages (DCx2 + house) and pay for all my other bills and diapers ect....just can't do it.
Unable to even.
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You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.