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74dragonfly

EmmaBoBemma said:

I have the option for a VBAC, but have chosen a c-section at 39 weeks. 

I have to have the baby at 39 weeks anyways, but I don't want to be induced(water broken), labor all day, and end up in a c-section, which would make my recovery worse. So I am skipping all the hard stuff and going right for the section. I feel really selfish, but I want my recovery time to be as small as possible so I can make my way over to the NICU and see my baby before she is shipped off to another hospital. One of my SIL's thinks it's horrible to schedule a section at 39 weeks, but we have no choice. She also thinks it's lazy to go right for a section even though I have a VBAC option. Suck it, sister, I don't care!

I think you are making a smart choice. Hugs.

lollipoppoop

gwinnygirl said:

Lawren said:

I was prepared to kick some geese ass the other night at dinner. I took Owen outside to see them and they all started charging and hissing at him. I wouldn't haven't hesitated if they got close enough. Since Jehovah Witnesses were brought up this week-A few weeks ago I told some that came to my house I couldn't come to the door because I didn't have any pants on, from the couch, through our opened storm door. *mobile wont let me use paragraphs*

Postjack/personal story alert - A few years ago we were sitting at my BFFs house very hungover waiting to go to brunch when some JWs knocked on the door. Her BF answered with all of us just looking haggard in the background and said, "You are barking up the wrong tree, folks." And closed the door. I still smile when I think about it.

I used to have them try to come in to my house and sit down to talk with me.  I always wanted to tell them how dangerous that was.

esf60

KelseyKetchum said:

I'm surprised this one hasn't shown up here yet maybe I'm just a heartless person but my FFFC is I don't care that Cory monteith died. If you chose to do drugs you also chose to leave behind those that love you.

It hasn't shown up because it's an awful, awful thing to say and feel. Anyone who's struggled with addiction, alcoholism, eating disorder, or something similar knows it's not a choice. Those who never have should count themselves lucky and feel compassion towards those who fight these illnesses and struggle with recovery.

northport6

I'm about one week-two months away from losing my father's brother to the result of addiction: he's been a lifelong drug addict (cocaine), alcoholic, smoker and has struggled with a gambling addiction. 

He got the losing end of the genetic lottery among the brothers.  He could never quite kick any of his habits and while what appeared to be his "choices" hurt many of us in my family many times over (stealing money, manipulation, threats, etc.), and even caused me to exile him from my own life in a permanent way, the hope that I think all of us had was that he'd have a lightning bolt moment.  That the stints in rehab, the endless promises, the interventions would amount to something and that our family's love could turn him around.  That moment never came.  Over the summer he was diagnosed with a tumor on his lung that was pressing against his heart.  The cancer has since spread to his bones, liver and brain so, at this point, it's a matter of time. 

There's no question his excesses led to this place, but to suggest it was somehow within his control not to destroy himself is plain ignorance.

lollipoppoop

tarashea721 said:

I'm surprised this one hasn't shown up here yet maybe I'm just a heartless person but my FFFC is I don't care that Cory monteith died. If you chose to do drugs you also chose to leave behind those that love you.

It hasn't shown up because it's an awful, awful thing to say and feel. Anyone who's struggled with addiction, alcoholism, eating disorder, or something similar knows it's not a choice. Those who never have should count themselves lucky and feel compassion towards those who fight these illnesses and struggle with recovery.

I agree completely. I actually am pretty angry at this statement. Might even be post it worthy for me....

I love that you say eating disorder is an addicition.  I have struggled with it since middle school and have a family member that just doesn't get it and thinks its a choice. 

My step mom died from sclerosis of the liver due to her alcohol addiction.  She slowly died for 15 years and it was just an awful thing to watch. 

insertclevername

Soozerella said:I mentioned a while ago that I started therapy because I was pretty seriously depressed. Today is another session with the lady and she is always 20-25 minutes late to our hour appointment and doesn't really do anything that encourage me to take drugs instead of breastfeeding and talk to me about my annoying MIL. Basically I feel like it's a giant waste of my time and especially now that I'm not feeling depressed I just want to stop going, but pretend like I still am to appease DH.

I am glad you are feeling a bit better but sorry your therapist sucks.  Are there any other therapists nearby that you could try out?  Therapy was so helpful for me after DS1 was born.  Also, there are medications that are safe while breastfeeding so it doesn't have to be one or the other.  I refused meds last time because I didn't want to risk it and then spent the first 1.5 years of DS1's life in a PPD haze.  If I get PPD again this time I am going to take bf safe med.

northport6

@Soozerella said:

I mentioned a while ago that I started therapy because I was pretty seriously depressed. Today is another session with the lady and she is always 20-25 minutes late to our hour appointment and doesn't really do anything that encourage me to take drugs instead of breastfeeding and talk to me about my annoying MIL. Basically I feel like it's a giant waste of my time and especially now that I'm not feeling depressed I just want to stop going, but pretend like I still am to appease DH.

I broke up with a therapist once for chronic lateness.  Maybe that time would be better spent getting a pedicure.  About the same cost as a copay, no?

ETA: wordz

northport6

NYMama1 said:

@Soozerella said:I mentioned a while ago that I started therapy because I was pretty seriously depressed. Today is another session with the lady and she is always 20-25 minutes late to our hour appointment and doesn't really do anything that encourage me to take drugs instead of breastfeeding and talk to me about my annoying MIL. Basically I feel like it's a giant waste of my time and especially now that I'm not feeling depressed I just want to stop going, but pretend like I still am to appease DH.

I am glad you are feeling a bit better but sorry your therapist sucks.  Are there any other therapists nearby that you could try out?  Therapy was so helpful for me after DS1 was born.  Also, there are medications that are safe while breastfeeding so it doesn't have to be one or the other.  I refused meds last time because I didn't want to risk it and then spent the first 1.5 years of DS1's life in a PPD haze.  If I get PPD again this time I am going to take bf safe med.

But, seriously, ^THIS.  It probably makes sense to keep going to somebody even though it's not super helpful right now because who knows how having the baby will make you feel.  I've actually been seeing the same grief counselor since the loss although I think I got past the grieving process for the miscarriage in the summertime.  Just seems like maybe a good idea in case PPD pops up.

MamaHanna

ClaireFraser said:

MrsP821 said:

KelseyKetchum said:

I'm surprised this one hasn't shown up here yet maybe I'm just a heartless person but my FFFC is I don't care that Cory monteith died. If you chose to do drugs you also chose to leave behind those that love you.

You get a big EFF YOU from me on this. This comment is truly one of the most heartless things I have ever read on here. Addiction hits very close to home to me. It is a disease. Yes, they may choose to start doing something, but the disease takes over their body and they cannot stop because their body is now dependent on that drug of choice. Do you think other people that are diagnosed with other diseases like heart disease, diabetes, AIDS, etc. chose that for themselves?

That was not cool Kelsey.  Had you read anything about his situation?  He had been in rehab.  He was clean, had a relapse and his body couldn't handle it.  The Glee cast had even staged an intervention at some point.  He was trying.  His body couldn't take it when he relapsed.  I think it's incredibly tragic and sad.

As someone who has had both parents and a sibling with an addiction and someone who has worked professioanlly with people with addictions I can tell you it is not a disease. Saying that is a total cop out. What I feel more accurately describes it is a parasite. It latches onto you and sucks you dry and getting rid of it is nearly impossible. Getting off of drugs is probably the hardest thing any human being can do and not everyone can be that strong.

Unless everyone in his life hated him I am sure more than one person tried to do something to stop him from letting this drain him dry but words can only do so much. I sincerely hope no one you know is ever effected by drugs or alcohol because I think you lack the gene for empathy.

MamaHanna

MrsP821 said:

MamaHanna said:

My FFFC is that I know I am going to get in a fight with DH when I get home from work so I am already mentally rehearsing what I am going to say. I hope I am not the only person who does that!

The fight will be over his lack of doing ANYTHING around the house. He works a lot but right now I work full time and I am trying to power through clinacal hours before the baby gets here so I can finsh my degree so I am working as much if not more than he is. Today he has the day off and I asked him to:Feed the dogs, take out the trash and put the recycling in the garage. Really hard I know! I think I had more chores when I was 8. I would put money on the fact that none of it will be done when I get home. Not trying to be dramatic but this has happened the last 3 weeks in a row so I am just kind of expecting it.

This has been an issue for a while now and it's starting to worry me with LO on the way so soon. His mom stayed home and did everything short of wipe his butt for him, then he left her when we got married and I stayed home so house hold chores all went to me which was fine but now I work and will be a working mom and he still expects me to do the same level of work. He says "you take care of the inside and I take care of the outside"...ok that's fair, but he hired a landscaping company to do it for him. So my argument will be "If you can hire people to do your house work I am hiring a maid service to do mine."

Edit:sorry that turned into a vent...lol.

You just described my situation with my H to a T. He finds time to play video games or go golfing, but when it comes to housework, he has every excuse in the book not to do anything. And, he also hired a lawn maintenance service to mow the lawn because our lawn mower broke. I'm calling a cleaning lady next week to clean my house and IDGAF if he gets mad at me. My house will be clean and I won't need to spend 2 days doing it myself!

Update: I could not hold in the sassy when I saw he just went up 2 levels in Candy Crush on Facebook so I texted him and he is actually going to do his chores. Best part was he had to ask me where the trash bags are! Dude we have lived there for 6 months and they have been in the same spot since the day we moved in, we get them at Costco so they are in a huge box with a picture of trash bags on it. HOW THE FUCK DO YOU NOT KNOW WHERE THE TRASH BAGS ARE!!!!



Oh well, at least he is doing it. LOL

opolanco

today I just feel like being in bed and doing nothing, I miss my mom and evrything else, im bummed my little one wont be received in a full nursery, in the few weeks just a pack and play...I though coming to miami was just transitory for the birth, husband doesn't wanna leave miami and im missing my apt terribly

nofcksgiven

I can't let this "I don't care when addicts die" thing go. When I look back to my early 20's I realize that it's just pure luck I don't have to sit my ass in an AA meeting every night. It had nothing to do with growing up and stopping the partying. It was just the luck of the draw.
DH has been sober for almost 9 years...I matched him drink for drink. Another best friend has been sober for just over 7 years- I matched her drink for drink, too. My bio father was a legend in AA. He had been sober for almost 25 years when he dropped dead at an AA convention due to a cocaine overdose when I was 5 years old.
I'm pretty sure everyone knows an addict- even if you don't know you do. I'm so sick of the judgmental preachy attitude when it comes to addiction. It's disgusting and makes me sick.

nofcksgiven

Keenanshell said:

Not sure if this is a good enough confession but I use the c word quite a lot. I'm a little worried my little one will hear me say it. I tried cutting down my swearing but it didn't really take off lol x

I'm really worried that my child's fist word will be "fuck" or something along those lines.
I talk like a sailor. I've been trying to stop, but FFS, old habits die hard.

insertclevername

Soozerella said:

Soozerella said:I mentioned a while ago that I started therapy because I was pretty seriously depressed. Today is another session with the lady and she is always 20-25 minutes late to our hour appointment and doesn't really do anything that encourage me to take drugs instead of breastfeeding and talk to me about my annoying MIL. Basically I feel like it's a giant waste of my time and especially now that I'm not feeling depressed I just want to stop going, but pretend like I still am to appease DH.

I am glad you are feeling a bit better but sorry your therapist sucks.  Are there any other therapists nearby that you could try out?  Therapy was so helpful for me after DS1 was born.  Also, there are medications that are safe while breastfeeding so it doesn't have to be one or the other.  I refused meds last time because I didn't want to risk it and then spent the first 1.5 years of DS1's life in a PPD haze.  If I get PPD again this time I am going to take bf safe med.

I had pretty serious depression when I was a teenager and was on a series of different medications that all made me pretty dangerously suicidal. I know that this is pretty common for younger people on antidepressants but I'm so terrified that it could happen again that I don't feel safe taking anything while my baby is 100% dependent on me. I sort of feel like after the 6th month mark if I still feel like shit I will be more inclined to take something. I'm not anti-drugs by any means I'm just scared of them for myself.

I definitely understand.  I felt the same way.  I have no doubt you will do what is best for you and baby.

Ashncal2012

JaxxM said:

Not sure if this is a good enough confession but I use the c word quite a lot. I'm a little worried my little one will hear me say it. I tried cutting down my swearing but it didn't really take off lol x

I'm worried too! I have the mouth of a dirty sailor! I know its unattractive... I just can't help it.

I'm pretty sure my 16 month old said shit yesterday.  I have an awful mouth and have been joking about needing to watch what I say for months. I've been working with him on expanding his vocab lately and he really got "uh oh" down in the last 2 weeks or so. Yesterday he dropped his fav toy over the baby gate and said " uh oh chit"  Mother of the year.....

opolanco

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nofcksgiven

Ashncal2012 said:

JaxxM said:

Keenanshell said:

Not sure if this is a good enough confession but I use the c word quite a lot. I'm a little worried my little one will hear me say it. I tried cutting down my swearing but it didn't really take off lol x

I'm worried too! I have the mouth of a dirty sailor! I know its unattractive... I just can't help it.

I'm pretty sure my 16 month old said shit yesterday.  I have an awful mouth and have been joking about needing to watch what I say for months. I've been working with him on expanding his vocab lately and he really got "uh oh" down in the last 2 weeks or so. Yesterday he dropped his fav toy over the baby gate and said " uh oh chit"  Mother of the year.....


I think it's funny when really young kids cuss.
I don't encourage it, but I laugh hysterically when it happens.

northport6

@Meggie0421 said:

I can't let this "I don't care when addicts die" thing go. When I look back to my early 20's I realize that it's just pure luck I don't have to sit my ass in an AA meeting every night. It had nothing to do with growing up and stopping the partying. It was just the luck of the draw. DH has been sober for almost 9 years...I matched him drink for drink. Another best friend has been sober for just over 7 years- I matched her drink for drink, too. My bio father was a legend in AA. He had been sober for almost 25 years when he dropped dead at an AA convention due to a cocaine overdose when I was 5 years old. I'm pretty sure everyone knows an addict- even if you don't know you do. I'm so sick of the judgmental preachy attitude when it comes to addiction. It's disgusting and makes me sick.

FIL is in AA (was ore or less drunk continuously until DH was 28 years old) and DH attends meetings sometimes.  Gave up drinking the summer before we got married, somewhat at my insistence.

ETA: ALL THE HUGS TO YOU.

opolanco

do we get two FFFC 'S ? well i went to the supermarket got all my cravings and my BIL keeps eating them and doesnt replace them, when i mention it he just doesnt say anything and im paying rent and all its not like im here for free.. he also allegedly never has any pocket money or forgets his card.. annoying

leahraewku

Ashncal2012 said:

JaxxM said:

Not sure if this is a good enough confession but I use the c word quite a lot. I'm a little worried my little one will hear me say it. I tried cutting down my swearing but it didn't really take off lol x

I'm worried too! I have the mouth of a dirty sailor! I know its unattractive... I just can't help it.

I'm pretty sure my 16 month old said shit yesterday.  I have an awful mouth and have been joking about needing to watch what I say for months. I've been working with him on expanding his vocab lately and he really got "uh oh" down in the last 2 weeks or so. Yesterday he dropped his fav toy over the baby gate and said " uh oh chit"  Mother of the year.....

For weeks now, we've been thinking DS has been saying ,"Oh, shit."  We just figured out yesterday he's really saying ,"All set!"

blainethetrain

Meggie0421 said:

Keenanshell said:

Not sure if this is a good enough confession but I use the c word quite a lot. I'm a little worried my little one will hear me say it. I tried cutting down my swearing but it didn't really take off lol x

I'm really worried that my child's fist word will be "fuck" or something along those lines.
I talk like a sailor. I've been trying to stop, but FFS, old habits die hard.

Hahaha. The other day, DH said "Oh, FUCK!". DS, with exactly the same inflection says "Oh..." sharp intake of breath from DH and me..."my gosh!" We laughed for a good long while about that one.

esf60

CitrusXoXo said:

tarashea721 said:

esf60 said:

KelseyKetchum said:

I'm surprised this one hasn't shown up here yet maybe I'm just a heartless person but my FFFC is I don't care that Cory monteith died. If you chose to do drugs you also chose to leave behind those that love you.

It hasn't shown up because it's an awful, awful thing to say and feel. Anyone who's struggled with addiction, alcoholism, eating disorder, or something similar knows it's not a choice. Those who never have should count themselves lucky and feel compassion towards those who fight these illnesses and struggle with recovery.

I agree completely. I actually am pretty angry at this statement. Might even be post it worthy for me....

I love that you say eating disorder is an addicition.  I have struggled with it since middle school and have a family member that just doesn't get it and thinks its a choice. 

My step mom died from sclerosis of the liver due to her alcohol addiction.  She slowly died for 15 years and it was just an awful thing to watch. 


You're in good company. I also struggled with an eating disorder, so I know first-hand how hard it is to get a grip on it, and how powerless you can be against it. It took me years to get it under control, and it most definitely was NOT a choice. I would have given anything to feel normal about food. It was crippling.

insertclevername

gwinnygirl said:

I had a binge drinking problem in college and right after. At the time it seemed like all fun & games - when I look back I am lucky to have not gone down a darker path. I am missing whole days & nights that I do not remember, and by some accounts serious shit happened. I also dabbled in a lot of drugs very young and used until I was in my 20s. So yeah, addiction is not something I take lightly.

I grew up surrounded by people battling addiction.  I definitely struggled through high school and college with drugs and alcohol.  I could have very easily slipped down the darker path and am lucky that I happened upon the path that led me out of addiction.  I am ashamed to admit that even at age 29 before I had DS1 I had a few black out drunk episodes.  Luckily my H stuck by me and we worked through it together.

bishesbcrazy

hckygrl909 said:

Not sure if this is a good enough confession but I use the c word quite a lot. I'm a little worried my little one will hear me say it. I tried cutting down my swearing but it didn't really take off lol x

I'm really worried that my child's fist word will be "fuck" or something along those lines. I talk like a sailor. I've been trying to stop, but FFS, old habits die hard.

Hahaha. The other day, DH said "Oh, FUCK!". DS, with exactly the same inflection says "Oh..." sharp intake of breath from DH and me..."my gosh!" We laughed for a good long while about that one.

DD thinks Daddy calls people "castles" (asshole) while he's driving.  LOL  So far I've been lucky that she hasn't picked up on anything.

esf60

@Meggie0421 hugs! I'm with you, that post definitely struck a nerve.

MamaGrillo

gwinnygirl said:

@EmmaBoBemma - I'm sorry your SIL sucks. You are making the right choice for you & your baby. (((creepy e-hugs)))

Zackly!!
Shame on her for laying that on you, especially when you're facing what's ahead.

sleepymonkey

My FFFC is I am not looking forward to my baby shower at all.  I just found out my friend is planning one for me (DH let it slip).  Since it's supposed to be a surprise, I am not involved in developing the guest list.  I don't have many close friends and most of my family is out of state so I'm not sure who is being invited.  I assume she is working with DH and MIL and they all think it's perfectly fine to invite people that I consider just acquaintences, like some neighbors and co-workers.  I am not comfortable with this and DH knows it but doesn't care.  I just think a party where gift-giving is the norm shouls be reserved for people I am close to, or at least very friendly with.  I am grateful my friend cares enough to insist on throwing a shower but I really wish (and still have some hope) that it's just a small sprinkle with just a few people.

MissyC979

Here's one. I just left the hospital against medical advice. During my NST, I started having some shortness of breath and had to sit up fully in the hospital bed (I had been at an incline in the bed). I felt like the heat was blowing on me and it was kind of strange.

I was already in L&D for the NST and the baby is fine. My pulse was a little elevated and I was pale. MY BP was high when I first came in (lower number was 88 and I've been running in the high 70s). My BP and blood oxygen levels were fine when they checked me a little later and I started feeling a little better.

However, the doctor on call wanted me to go to the ER to get checked out because of the shortness of breath. I really don't think there is anything wrong and the baby is fine. If anything, I may have had some slight anxiety because of the BP because I had pre-eclampsia last pregnancy and I'm scared to get it again.

I live 10-15 minutes from the hospital and can get back there if I have problems again. I just didn't see the need to sit in the ER for several hours to be told everything was fine...

Ktrue85

Nrg2020 said:

Honestly I had a dream two nights ago that I was breast feeding my cats. Really have no idea where it came from but in the dream I was happy and so were they. However they do not lick my nipples in real life, at least not while I'm awake and aware, lol.

FTFY.

northport6

@Heaven802002 said:

I had a binge drinking problem in college and right after. At the time it seemed like all fun & games - when I look back I am lucky to have not gone down a darker path. I am missing whole days & nights that I do not remember, and by some accounts serious shit happened. I also dabbled in a lot of drugs very young and used until I was in my 20s. So yeah, addiction is not something I take lightly.

This is so me but I was binge drinking up until earlier this year. I use it as a coping mechanism for my anxiety. I know it's not right but keep doing it for some reason. I know things will need to drastically change when LO is here and I am terrified. As for Kelsey's comment I'm hoping she just meant she doesn't care cause he was a celebrity she didn't know. I doubt she would feel that way if it was, say, her SO or mother. Right Kelsey?? Soozerella- if I were you I would find a new therapist. You shoulda be able to trust and feel comfortable around your therapist not have to deal with their shit. It is very unprofessional for them to be late every time. It can add to someone's depression. You deserve to have someone good that will be there for you. As for cussing- I feel like every other word outta my mouth is a bad one so I am definitely worried about LO catching on.

Oh, mama, this is so tough.  Good on you for recognizing that it will probably continue to be a struggle, because it's impossible to seek help if you don't first realize the problem.  Are you in therapy for your anxiety?

::BIG TIME INTERNET HUGZ::

northport6

@Heaven802002 I would certainly never presume to know your financial situation, but if the copay becomes a hardship, I'd reach out to your therapist to explain your situation.  A new mom suffering from anxiety issues is exactly the sort of person the sliding scale pay system exists to accommodate.  And, of course, you have us and this board to vent to.

cantsitwithus

I had a binge drinking episode earlier this year, right after my miscarriage. I got black out drunk, fell into the bath tub (DH said I kept going into the bathroom for some reason), broke my nose and ended up with two black eyes. I didn't really leave the house for two weeks. I've been scared to really drink anything more than a beer/glass of wine or two since then.

northport6

@sehart3478 said:

I had a binge drinking episode earlier this year, right after my miscarriage. I got black out drunk, fell into the bath tub (DH said I kept going into the bathroom for some reason), broke my nose and ended up with two black eyes. I didn't really leave the house for two weeks. I've been scared to really drink anything more than a beer/glass of wine or two since then.

Oof, the things I did in the wake of my miscarriage last year...I wish I didn't remember them so clearly.  Also, I creepy internet lurve you.  >:D<

MEP923

esf60 said:

tarashea721 said:

I'm surprised this one hasn't shown up here yet maybe I'm just a heartless person but my FFFC is I don't care that Cory monteith died. If you chose to do drugs you also chose to leave behind those that love you.

It hasn't shown up because it's an awful, awful thing to say and feel. Anyone who's struggled with addiction, alcoholism, eating disorder, or something similar knows it's not a choice. Those who never have should count themselves lucky and feel compassion towards those who fight these illnesses and struggle with recovery.

I agree completely. I actually am pretty angry at this statement. Might even be post it worthy for me....

I love that you say eating disorder is an addicition.  I have struggled with it since middle school and have a family member that just doesn't get it and thinks its a choice. 

My step mom died from sclerosis of the liver due to her alcohol addiction.  She slowly died for 15 years and it was just an awful thing to watch. 

You're in good company. I also struggled with an eating disorder, so I know first-hand how hard it is to get a grip on it, and how powerless you can be against it. It took me years to get it under control, and it most definitely was NOT a choice. I would have given anything to feel normal about food. It was crippling.

I was going to say the same thing but the people came with my crib and I didn't get a chance. I had an eating disorder too. Honestly, for as long as I can remember. I was hospitalized 3x. Recovery is similar to drug addiction. It is a daily battle and relapse is common. Maybe why I also found that first comment so offensive. I have had times where I slipped back into my eating disorder and I wasn't even sure how it happened. It is a daily battle and it's very serious.

I feel for Cory because I know he was in rehab and slipped. I had many moments where I came out of the hospital and slipped and was able to turn it around. I think he could have done the same.

cantsitwithus

@northport6 It was really bad! The left side of my face was so swollen I could hardly open my eye!
Lurve you too.

frankierokx

@sehart3478said:

I had a binge drinking episode earlier this year, right after my miscarriage. I got black out drunk, fell into the bath tub (DH said I kept going into the bathroom for some reason), broke my nose and ended up with two black eyes. I didn't really leave the house for two weeks. I've been scared to really drink anything more than a beer/glass of wine or two since then.

Miscarriages are very hard, I did and said a lot of things going through mine so  you deserve major hugs lady! 

>:D<

Meynara

My confession for this week -- I'm so, so relieved that (as far as I know at this point in time) no one is doing anything vaguely resembling a baby shower this time around. I honestly don't know how I'd handle being surrounded by people given I'm getting to be more and more of a grump each day, so I'm just glad it's one less situation to have to worry about and put a mask on for.

Of course, last pregnancy I thought the same and ended up with a surprise one two weeks before my due date...

MEP923

Heaven802002 said:

I think if I plan out my finances I can afford to see the therapist at least once a month which is definitely better than nothing. It's one of those things that I want to do because I know it will help but that I postpone because it gives me anxiety to actually do it. Sitting there talking about stuff I don't really want to talk about is hard! @sehart3478 I'm sorry you went through that! :-(

Also, I went back on my antidepressant last week because my anxiety is so bad. I am on a low dose until the end of the pregnancy and it is helping. My psychiatrist and OBGYN both recommended it.

@sehart3478 So sorry you went through that! Hugs!

esf60

@MEP923 What an awful thing to have gone through, and I totally understand. I was in and out of treatment, fully recovered (or so I thought) only to slip back into it. These things creep up on you. One meal skipped can lead to days of meals skipped, just like one hit of something at a party can lead to a full-blown drug binge. xx

KFED103

First, just want to say that we have some strong ladies up in hizere!! Hugs to all.

I remembered one of mine. Yesterday I asked DH that when he talks to his mom the next time, to hint around if she is going to get a big item for the baby. She bought DS's crib and dresser last time do I would assume she would want to get something for this LO. She's a bit scatterbrained and needs to be reminded of things sometimes. And I just want to budget for the big things we need to get.

Also, Her daughter had 4 showers/sprinkles for 4 kids so I don't think she is against gifts for 2nd babies

I'm a gift grabby whore!!!