FFFC!

MrsT0514

I woke up with a pinched nerve in my neck/back that hurts like a bitch. Guess I slept in a fucked up position. I also have a headache. This fucking stupid cough has prevented me from getting a good, sweaty workout in all week and that also makes me cranky. I don't really feel like entertaining my kid right now...which I feel guilty about at the moment.

I'm an all around peach today, aren't I? Ugh. I think I need to take slme ibuprofen and suck it up.

Helenahhandbasket

M&MHaveMyHeart said:

I'm curious if what's considered getting married "young" varies by region. 

We got married when I was 23. At the time, I felt like that was old compared to other people in our age range who were already married & had one or two kids.

Now looking back, 23 seems young but on the flip side we were already together for 7 years, living together for almost 6. 

I think it does.  DH and I were both 27 when we got married and we were the first in both of our circles.  Most of our friends have gotten married in the last 2 years (we're 33 now).

H and I are going thru a really tough spot right now and I have been feeling like we got married too young.  But then I start to think about the fact that if we would have waited, we most likely wouldn't have gotten married and then DD would never have been born.  Then I start feeling like a total sh!tty azzhole.

When did everything get so complicated?

 

RondackHiker

s0ulchicken said:

I have become the person I swore I never would. I have no life outside of my children and husband. No interests, no hobbies. Nothing. I used to be fun and informed, I used to train horses and read books and hang out with friends. And then I had twins. My entire pregnancy was spent trying to keep them cooking, and now everything that I do has become about or for them. I hate who I have become. I mentioned this to a friend the other day, and all she said is "I've been wondering when you would figure that out." I don't even know how to find new interests or things to do, because, babies.

I've been there a bit too.

I freaked out on DH the other day that I can't wait for horses till his student loans are paid off. I need them in my life. He blinked and said he'd been asking other doctors if any of them owned horses to see if he could find a barn for post baby.

I know you've got twins, but you trained horses, so you're fairly capable I assume (at a minimum). Could you do an occasional catch ride, or free lease or something? I bet there's a horse owner who'd like a kind and capable rider to help exercise a horse. Perhaps there's some mom who can't ride as often who you could split riding time with?

Maybe not now, but another year from now. Or could you read one book a month? You can ease back into being yourself.

ReeseFox

I'm eating Cheetos for breakfast.

WasNotWas

CTGirl30 said:

I am also planning to leave work early to go home & have sex with my husband before its time to get the kids.

You are my hero!!

Helenahhandbasket

Spapeggy said:

I got married at 20.... I feel I was ready and so far 6 years and 2 kids later I don't regret it. My Ffc is I feel like doing CIO and dd is only 4 months. I let her fuss it out but not full on crying. I waited till 6 months with ds.

I guess I have another FFFC.  We did CIO at 4 months on the dot.  It's been a lifesaver.

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ReeseFox

Now I feel really guilty about the Cheetos. I just remembered I have like 3 different flavors of instant oatmeal in my drawer. Oops.

missyishere

MabelShesTheBomb said:

kiraliz2 said:

Macarena came on the radio yesterday and I listened to the whole thing.

fuck right! and if you didn't dance the whole thing through at least once I am disappointed!

Maybe @sookiefrackhouse68 should add this to the GTG playlist, lol

robinsokj

I was married at 25. Am now 31. I have changed per se but I've grown so much where as h hasn't.

missyishere

OnederfulMother said:

Remember that girl who thought people shouldn't get married before the age of 25? Whatever happened to her?

DH and I were together for 7 years before we were married.  I was near 28 when we wed, and although it drove me nuts he took so long to marry me, I see now the importance of waiting until we were more mature.

leanna0127

My DCP has a neighbor who likes to antagonize and pick fights with anybody who doesn't agree with him politically. He is a rabid Tea Party supporter. He flies his American flag at half mast because "Merica died when Obama became president" and he sits in his driveway all day long blaring conservative talk radio. My DCP said he freely uses the n- word and has even directed it at her. He has yet to say a word to me (he has no idea what my politics are) and I usually won't even look his way. My FFFC is that I wore an Obama/Biden hat and shirt to drop dd off at daycare today knowing full well it was going to cause some sort of troule. It did and I loved it. I thought it was past time somebody put the asshole in his place.

missymo

jack19 said:

In my hometown their are foxhunts, almost every time an actual quarry animal is used, usually a red fox.  For over 20 years I have been sabotaging these hunts, I love animals.  The house I grew up in is still in my family and it is on the border of the woods where the hunt takes place.  

I go out very very early, about 4AM in full cammies and armed with a wineskin bottle full of coyote piss.  When the hunt starts you can hear the hounds going apeshit so that is when I start my run. I start squirting coyote piss every few hundred yards. 

 It is a full on adrenaline filled run, I am usually laughing alot because its pretty insane to have that many dogs trailing you.  The piss lead the hounds away.  In 20 years they have killed 1 fox, I have never been caught or seen.  

I had to sign in simply to love tit/reply to this.

Honestly, this is the best thing I have ever read on the bump. If you truly do this, @jack19, you have become my most favorite bumpie ever. It's not only hilarious, but awesomely humane.

ILoveBoys

Libby1978 said:

OnederfulMother said:

I really wish that @iloveboys would come back and say not that she feels guilty, but that she will never, ever, ever  repeat that stupid mistake again. EVER.

We will never see her again.

Not avoiding the conversation. Had to get DD and myself ready and drive to church. I'm not going to GBCB over a FFFC.

I will however not leave DD in the house again. You all covered everything I ever thought and it's not worth the risk.

ReeseFox

@MrsSkull1107  I'm so glad you brought back that siggy! I have to stop and watch it everytime I see it.

nixieknox3

jack19 said:

In my hometown their are foxhunts, almost every time an actual quarry animal is used, usually a red fox.  For over 20 years I have been sabotaging these hunts, I love animals.  The house I grew up in is still in my family and it is on the border of the woods where the hunt takes place.  

I go out very very early, about 4AM in full cammies and armed with a wineskin bottle full of coyote piss.  When the hunt starts you can hear the hounds going apeshit so that is when I start my run. I start squirting coyote piss every few hundred yards. 

 It is a full on adrenaline filled run, I am usually laughing alot because its pretty insane to have that many dogs trailing you.  The piss lead the hounds away.  In 20 years they have killed 1 fox, I have never been caught or seen.  

this is hilarious and just may have made me laugh enough to get me out of my funk.  thanks @jack19

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msdrdg

I told my boss yesterday that I was sick of trying and that I was going to neck down from now on.  She agreed.  Too much stupid ass shit going on around here and it just isn't worth the effort.

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missyishere

@jack19 you should put a fox in your siggy now. 

ILoveBoys

OnederfulMother said:

ILoveBoys said:

Libby1978 said:

OnederfulMother said:

I really wish that @iloveboys would come back and say not that she feels guilty, but that she will never, ever, ever  repeat that stupid mistake again. EVER.

We will never see her again.

Not avoiding the conversation. Had to get DD and myself ready and drive to church. I'm not going to GBCB over a FFFC.

I will however not leave DD in the house again. You all covered everything I ever thought and it's not worth the risk.

I'm glad that you're not going to do it again, but I liked living in my world where I had hope that you just hadn't really thought about all the risks. I'm pretty grossed out that you actually did think of the risks and decided to go ahead with your plan anyway. Especially multiple times.

That's pretty whack, yo.

I hadn't thought about as many as were listed here. I feel super guilty that I ever thought it was even remotely a good idea.

CurlyQ284

@iloveboys I get it. I hate hate hate when DS falls asleep and I have to do something fast. I always have a brief thought "well maybe I could just..." And then I groan and take him with me. But I totally get it. I'm glad you won't be doing it anymore though.

Libby1978

MabelShesTheBomb said:

OnederfulMother said:

Remember that girl who thought people shouldn't get married before the age of 25? Whatever happened to her?

She was such a know it all twat.

FTFY

scoutkate

I've confessed before that DH and I bet sexual favors on the outcome of our Fantasy Football match-ups.  My confession this week is that I'm having a hard time coming up with deeds to suggest.  Apparently I lack imagination in the bedroom.  Also, last week H won and I still haven't delivered on his "pigtails and boots" wager.   

msdrdg

OnederfulMother said:

msd-rdg said:

I told my boss yesterday that I was sick of trying and that I was going to neck down from now on.  She agreed.  Too much stupid ass shit going on around here and it just isn't worth the effort.

I have no clue what any of this means. I hope it's a good thing, tho?

Neck down means, I'm done thinking.  Basically just a worker bee from now on, do what you are told, don't try to do better or different.  Just a drone.  Everytime she or I try to make something better or make a change we just get shit on.  We are both totally over it, so we give up.  Not our company, not our problem.  Just gonna do our jobs and that's that.

Libby1978

@OnederfulMother

I agree that it doesn't have to be the end of her bump career.  It just seems like it happens that way pretty often.  Someone is flamed and we never hear from them again.

nixieknox3

i let the weather have too much of an effect on my mood.  the baby has already had two diaper blowouts and it is not even 10am.  my FFFC is that i was too lazy to change her onsie this time so i just wiped off the small poo stain with a baby wipe and kept her in it.  i'm sure she will shit herself silly sometime in the next 30 minutes or so and i am running out of clean onsies.

RondackHiker

@jack19

Where is your hometown that they still hunt to kill foxes? Every fox hunt I've heard of uses either drag trails or "hunts" foxes on their land (or the land they've gotten permission to ride on) without killing the fox. Many hunts have named the foxes they hunt and will provide them with dewormers and such as needed. They say the foxes seem to enjoy it and will wait and watch and wait to run till the hounds are unloaded. Since most hunts need to get permission to ride on land and have limited land, they can't (or don't want to) kill the foxes or they'd run out of foxes to follow.

I'm not going to lie. I want to fox hunt (the kind that doesn't end in dead foxes). Running with a pack of horses and following the lovely calls of the hounds sounds fun.

leanna0127

Wilson4lyfe said:

My DCP has a neighbor who likes to antagonize and pick fights with anybody who doesn't agree with him politically. He is a rabid Tea Party supporter. He flies his American flag at half mast because "Merica died when Obama became president" and he sits in his driveway all day long blaring conservative talk radio. My DCP said he freely uses the n- word and has even directed it at her. He has yet to say a word to me (he has no idea what my politics are) and I usually won't even look his way. My FFFC is that I wore an Obama/Biden hat and shirt to drop dd off at daycare today knowing full well it was going to cause some sort of troule. It did and I loved it. I thought it was past time somebody put the asshole in his place.

I feel like I would be sketched out having my kid there daily.  Not because he was going to turn into some rabid republican but because homeboy sounds seriously unstable.

That thought has crossed my mind too. Our DCP swears he is harmless, he's just a mean old man. Luckily my mother will begin watching DD next month.

ReeseFox

Our office has been open for 2 hours and the phone hasn't rung once all morning. This isn't unusual since it's Friday, plus a lot of our customers are government agencies. Except I just looked over at the phone and realized it was still on 'night' mode. Oops. I'm really winning today.  ">

msdrdg

@hilarityensued

Neck down means no brain just brawn.  I don't know where the phrase originated, but I got it from theatre.  Basically you are just there to do what you are told, no thinking, just doing what you are told.  You are told to take 4 steps to the right, you take 4 steps to the right, you don't ask why 4 not 5.  You don't ask why not to the left.  You just do what you are told. 

Telling you boss you give up is only a good idea if you know she understands and is of the same opinion.

secretsout

I spend way too much time writing stupid stories that I will never show anyone/no one will ever read.  I tell myself that maybe it is good practice and one day I will be a famous writer, but that is a lie.

In the vein of getting married too young...I don't feel I got married too young, though I was one of the first of my friends to do so at 27.  But, I have been with my husband since we were 16/17, so, 16 years now.  I've never even kissed anyone but him.  I love him very much, and am generally very happy with our life.  I really wouldn't change it, but I feel like our lives are so intertwined because we started so young.  I don't know how to explain it exactly.  I never really got to be myself, by myself, and it never bothered me until recently.  I am just finding myself wishing that I had had that time to go out with girlfriends, make out with some strangers, just be myself. 

nixieknox3

i got married when i was 24 and joke all the time that i was a child bride.  the only thing i regret about getting married that young was that i never lived on my own.  i went from living with my parents, to living in a dorm at college, to briefly living with friends in an apartment, back to my parents and then with DH.  i feel like i should have had a few years where i moved to NYC and lived in a tiny, shit hole apartment by myself.

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WasNotWas

I'm in my pumping room at work and there is a visiting exec using the usually empty office next to it...he is fighting with his wife over the phone and the walls are paper thin so I can hear everything. I've been in here for 45 minutes!!

missyishere

HilarityEnsued said:

Mackalien13 said:

I am way more bummed than I should be about not going tailgating.

I'm pretty bummed too.  I feel like it's a great group.

I would love for you both to be here.  

Littledeer84

Mackalien13 said:

I screamed at my kid last night. Screamed. I yell but this was the loudest ever. She would not go to sleep and I was so frustrated. I feel really bad about it.

I am only on page 3 of this thread, but I just wanted to let you know that I understand. I had a very shameful moment with my DD last week when she refused to go to sleep - she was screaming and I was yelling and trying to hold her in bed. It was stupid and I hated myself for it. I still feel horrible but I just hope that I can remember that there is nothing gained by getting that angry. Im sorry you felt so frustrated and I hope things get better. DD still does not want to go to sleep, but she will stay in bed if I sit in her doorway - it takes an hour but she falls asleep eventually. I am able to keep my cool better this way.

CurlyQ284

I just looked up the hunt by me and they require everyone to have a hunting license so it seems they do kill the fox.

WasNotWas

kiraliz2 said:

willman2585 said:

I'm in my pumping room at work and there is a visiting exec using the usually empty office next to it...he is fighting with his wife over the phone and the walls are paper thin so I can hear everything. I've been in here for 45 minutes!!

I'm going to need to know what they are fighting about.

Apparently he extended his trip to Jax from leaving today to leaving Sunday. She wants to know what important business he could "possibly have" over the weekend. He is calling her craY

WasNotWas

willman2585 said:

kiraliz2 said:

willman2585 said:

I'm in my pumping room at work and there is a visiting exec using the usually empty office next to it...he is fighting with his wife over the phone and the walls are paper thin so I can hear everything. I've been in here for 45 minutes!!

I'm going to need to know what they are fighting about.

Apparently he extended his trip to Jax from leaving today to leaving Sunday. She wants to know what important business he could "possibly have" over the weekend. He is calling her craY

DAAAAMN. He just told her to take her meds and she called him a little bitch.

Why is this man taking this call on speaker phone??