UO Thursday

jap618

ColleenSwerb said:

ColleenSwerb said:

Double posts drive me insane, but trying to control the Internet is like trying to nail jello to the wall. Pointless. Also, I can't believe we are STILL discussing lack of symptoms, or morning sickness going away, or morning sickness showing up.

The thing is it's really not "trying to control the internet".  If you look at any other board (and all of the others that I've been a part of) there is board etiquette (asking people to lurk first, search for your topic, post an intro, give support to receive support, etc.).  Obviously there are the few that ignore the etiquette but if overall we direct them to where it would be more appropriate to post then we would have less posts & we would be able to add more support to individual posts.  Ahhh I'm going on my tangent.  I will save it for my later post.

There are too many lurkers and drive-by posts. I get what you're saying, and maybe when we get a mod we can have a post pinned at the top with some "guidelines". I just don't see it helping much. ::shrugs::

It helps every other board & we don't need a mod to make it sticky.  Again, May already has this and they have no mod. 

AcaAwkward

eme520 said:

AcaAwkward said:

Why get your underpants in a twist over some stranger in the checkout line? NBD!

Thank you for not using the "p" word.


I HATE THE P WORD!

I was watching the national news last week and they were interviewing a lady who was evacuated in CO and she told the reporter she only had time to grap "a pair of extra clothes and panties." I still shudder thinking about it...WHO SAYS "PANTIES" ON THE NATIONAL NEWS.

Stasi

jap618 said:

ColleenSwerb said:

jap618 said:

ColleenSwerb said:

Double posts drive me insane, but trying to control the Internet is like trying to nail jello to the wall. Pointless.

Also, I can't believe we are STILL discussing lack of symptoms, or morning sickness going away, or morning sickness showing up.

The thing is it's really not "trying to control the internet".  If you look at any other board (and all of the others that I've been a part of) there is board etiquette (asking people to lurk first, search for your topic, post an intro, give support to receive support, etc.).  Obviously there are the few that ignore the etiquette but if overall we direct them to where it would be more appropriate to post then we would have less posts & we would be able to add more support to individual posts.  Ahhh I'm going on my tangent.  I will save it for my later post.

There are too many lurkers and drive-by posts. I get what you're saying, and maybe when we get a mod we can have a post pinned at the top with some "guidelines". I just don't see it helping much. ::shrugs::

It helps every other board & we don't need a mod to make it sticky.  Again, May already has this and they have no mod. 

I'm on team organization! Hense, my push for eliminating the daily symptoms post and reiving the daily ticker change thread. If we can copy one board in the future, it would be S13. They had their shit together as their pregnancies were/are wrapping up. They don't have 10,000 "is this my mucus plug?" Posts and its awesome!

AcaAwkward

eme520 said:

AcaAwkward said:

eme520 said:

ckred27 said:

It goes both ways, some of the careful ladies make those who have the occasional glass of wine or sushi ect sound like selfish biotches who dont care about there babies and then the ladies who aren't so worried about the rules get defensive and shoot back.  The next day the more laid back girls will say something that will piss off the more careful ones and then we get to play again.

I guess... I just think it makes no sense at all to tell people who are following doctor's orders that they are being ridiculous.

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But some doctors are also more lenient than others -- mine is fine with alcohol in small amounts in 2nd/3rd Tri, doesn't have a ton to say about cosmetics, is cool with really fresh deli meat and sushi, etc. Thus, my more relaxed take on the rules are in complete compliance with my doctor's order.

(Not disagreeing with your initial point of "why judge those who are more cautious"... Just wanted to point that our.)

I don't really think my statement disagrees with what you are saying. My doc said no to deli meat and my aunt, who is an MFM, highly recommended I stay away from any alcohol. Different docs say different things and each has their own reasoning. I recognize that.. it still doesn't make sense to me to criticize those who are cautious. And that's all I have to say about that.


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True, true, true.

Holljade

spasticfantastic said:

ok, there's a BIG difference between this....



and this monstrosity...

my inlaws put big flowers/bows on DD when she was little and they would watch her and it made me cringe inside.

Also? Who brings their own bows/hats/etc to dress up someone else' kid?

AcaAwkward

fireflygirl12 said:

baylorlinda said:

I feel annoyed at everything today.

1) I think some people are ridiculous in how they completely change their life when they get pregnant. I use the same hygiene products, face wash with salicylic acid, eat processed food, eat sandwich meat, eat sushi, and drink coffee. Most things in life will not harm you or your pregnancy.

 

And drink excessively and snort coke too? Everybody has to draw their own lines somewhere. Some people have been down long, hard roads to pregnancy and everything that has even a .0001% risk is risky enough to give up. I actually think it's kind of sad if someone can't give anything up for 9 months.  


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I HATE HATE HATE when people throw your last sentence around. It reeks of Pregnant Martyrdom. Yes, I know there are women out there who are so addicted to drugs and alcohol that they can't give them up while pregnant...but don't act like every woman who has a glass of wine while pregnant lacks self-control. That's just ridiculous.

bwelding85

fireflygirl12 said:

hlm184 said:

bwelding85 said:

Also, one that has been getting at me more than usual lately is how toys are marketed so gender stereotypically. I want to get DS a toy vacuum and/or a dust pan and broom set, but the only ones I can find are hot pink. Because, you know, only girls can clean. I think it's detrimental to be reinforcing these stupid gender stereotypes at such a young age.

I was at a walmart a year or so ago and I realized that they actually had a toy section labeled "Boys" and another section labeled "Girls."  I freaked out!  Seriously, I can't believe a place would do that these days!  I thought we were past that.

Unfortunately, there are still a lot of people out there who would faint at the sight of my son playing with a doll or play kitchen.


Ha I wonder what those people would say if they knew my DS pretends to breastfeed his dolls?

bwelding85

AcaAwkward said:

eme520 said:

AcaAwkward said:

Why get your underpants in a twist over some stranger in the checkout line? NBD!

Thank you for not using the "p" word.

I HATE THE P WORD!

I was watching the national news last week and they were interviewing a lady who was evacuated in CO and she told the reporter she only had time to grap "a pair of extra clothes and panties." I still shudder thinking about it...WHO SAYS "PANTIES" ON THE NATIONAL NEWS.


*shudder* I hate that word with a passion.

kateleestar

First: https://www.amazon.com/Tuscan-Whole-Milk-Gallon-128/product-reviews/B00032G1S0/ref=dp_top_cm_cr_acr_txt?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1 LOLOLOL.

 

Second: I love me som HIMYM. I love Alyson Hannigan, and no one will convince me different.

 

Thrid: I've had sushi while KU... I've only had veggie/cooked/smoked rolls tho. It just so happened (thank god!) that my fave roll is smoked.. so I'm okay. Although, the rolls I'm craving TODAY ARE NOT. So so sad. So much hurt, lol.

 

Fourth: Um... I don't really have a UO? OH, maybe that I don't plan to b-feed at all? Lol. Sorry in advance?

 

 

ETA: Read the review by "edgar" OMG. LOL.

AcaAwkward

For all those looking for gender neutral "household" toys, I know Kid Kraft makes a bunch of cooking stuff (play kitchens, cooking utensils, mixers, coffee makers, etc) in different color schemes (blues, pinks, primaries, more realistic colors like chrome and black). They might make cleaning type toys too!

Land of Nod also makes a ton of gender neutral toys - their cleaning cart, play kitchen, doll houses, doll cribs, etc are all decidedly Not Pink --- of course LoN is pretty damn pricey.

fireflygirl12

AcaAwkward said:

baylorlinda said:

I feel annoyed at everything today.

1) I think some people are ridiculous in how they completely change their life when they get pregnant. I use the same hygiene products, face wash with salicylic acid, eat processed food, eat sandwich meat, eat sushi, and drink coffee. Most things in life will not harm you or your pregnancy.

 

And drink excessively and snort coke too? Everybody has to draw their own lines somewhere. Some people have been down long, hard roads to pregnancy and everything that has even a .0001% risk is risky enough to give up. I actually think it's kind of sad if someone can't give anything up for 9 months.  

------------------- I HATE HATE HATE when people throw your last sentence around. It reeks of Pregnant Martyrdom. Yes, I know there are women out there who are so addicted to drugs and alcohol that they can't give them up while pregnant...but don't act like every woman who has a glass of wine while pregnant lacks self-control. That's just ridiculous.

No martyrdom here. I'm not actually even one of the women who gives everything up during pregnancy. I'm just arguing the other side because I totally get why people drop every single thing that might even be potentially risky. My point is that it's obvious to the majority of people that you shouldn't be an alcoholic or druggie while pregnant (or in general), but to some people it's also obvious that you should give up lunch meat, facial products, coffee, etc. Everybody has their own lines.

kwolslager

fireflygirl12 said:

I don't get parents who care more about being their kids' friend then a parent. I will not provide alcohol for my underage kids and my son will not have his girlfriend sleeping over at our house. I realize they will likely drink underage and engage in premarital sex, but I don't think that is a good reason to open up my house for it. My kids will have plenty of exposure to options of birth control of STD prevention though, because I'm not completely naïve.

I completely agree! Although I must say that now I am an adult, my mother is my best friend, and I love her for being my parent growing up and waiting until I was a mom myself to open the door of friendship! hopefully many many years from now, when my daughters are all grown up, I will have that kind of relationship with them.

bwelding85

@acaawkward thanks for the recommendations! Going to check those out.

Ikea has great gender neutral stuff, too - I love their kitchen. Just haven't seen quite what I'm looking for.

AcaAwkward

eme520 said:

AcaAwkward said:

fireflygirl12 said:

baylorlinda said:

I feel annoyed at everything today.

1) I think some people are ridiculous in how they completely change their life when they get pregnant. I use the same hygiene products, face wash with salicylic acid, eat processed food, eat sandwich meat, eat sushi, and drink coffee. Most things in life will not harm you or your pregnancy.

 

And drink excessively and snort coke too? Everybody has to draw their own lines somewhere. Some people have been down long, hard roads to pregnancy and everything that has even a .0001% risk is risky enough to give up. I actually think it's kind of sad if someone can't give anything up for 9 months.  

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I HATE HATE HATE when people throw your last sentence around. It reeks of Pregnant Martyrdom. Yes, I know there are women out there who are so addicted to drugs and alcohol that they can't give them up while pregnant...but don't act like every woman who has a glass of wine while pregnant lacks self-control. That's just ridiculous.

Being overly cautious has its advantages though. I'm tempted to tell H that pregnant women shouldn't be around cleaning products so that I don't have to clean the bathroom. I think he would totally buy it

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I think that's called using the ol' noodle to your advantage!

katieharpiceland

ColleenSwerb said:

The posts that reek of a total lack of common sense get to me more than the double posts. If your pants don't fit, try maternity pants. It's not rocket science.

This made me LMAO. By the way, my bra isn't fitting. What on EARTH do I do??? I don't think they make bras in different sizes anymore, right? 

cloudninemom2be

I'm just joining for the day...whoa! It's getting heated in here! Continue on ladies, this is good stuff you are putting out there.

ckred27

cloudninemom2be said:

I'm just joining for the day...whoa! It's getting heated in here! Continue on ladies, this is good stuff you are putting out there.

AcaAwkward

ColleenSwerb said:

The posts that reek of a total lack of common sense get to me more than the double posts.
If your pants don't fit, try maternity pants. It's not rocket science.

cloudninemom2be

@eme520

Absolutely agree. I have enjoyed a couple UO's as I am fairly new to the site. I love it!

cloudninemom2be

@ckred27

Ahh, love Alice in Wonderland! Sums up the room quite nicely.

cloudninemom2be

@ColleenSwerb

You crack me up! Laughing like crazy over here. Your comment about pants made me laugh out loud in front of strangers...oh man!

Rogue237

J&NL said:

It really irritates me when the first question I have to answer on an application (Like the college application I just filled out) is what ethnicity you are and if you are of hispanic descent. I'm sure it's anonymous and for statistics purposes but most of the time I wish there was a "who gives a shit!" answer. 

Now with that being said I don't know the purpose of the question, all I know is it bothers me. It just makes me feel like I'm secretly being pre-judged by what I write down. 

@J&NL Me too! Or when I have to pick "other" because I'm multiracial, or WORSE, when they tell you to "pick one you most identify with." Ummm, I identify with being more than one!

fireflygirl12

lilnightmusic said:

Thank you cards are archaic.

Agreed IF the person is there when you get the gift. However, I get annoyed when I send something and receive no acknowledgement from the recipient. What if they never got it? I'm good with a thank you text or email or whatever, but at least let me know you got it. This recently happened with my BIL and a BRU gift card so I'm a little annoyed by it.

TallaB

kendramiroslaw said:

I guess my UO (another tame one!) is that I much prefer throwing up in a sink than a toilet.  I don't want my head where people poop.  I clean my toilet every weekend, but I think throwing up in a toilet makes me throw up even more thinking about the germs and whatnot.

Ewww, i'm the opposite! I do not want my stomach contents where I wash my fruits and vegetables! Plus, its so much easier to flush than to have to make sure I get all the chunks off the side of the sink.

BiggerinRealLife

I'd say a tame UO means a) people have learned when to stay quiet and/or pick their battles b) we've finally weeded out all the crazy! Well done ladies. We are awesome A14, hear us roar.

J&NL

kendramiroslaw said:

I guess my UO (another tame one!) is that I much prefer throwing up in a sink than a toilet.  I don't want my head where people poop.  I clean my toilet every weekend, but I think throwing up in a toilet makes me throw up even more thinking about the germs and whatnot.

I just told H the other day about how I hate puking in the toilet because they're disgusting. I can't throw up in my sink though. It drains slowly and that would just be a giant mess I don't want to deal with.

AcaAwkward

lilnightmusic said:

Thank you cards are archaic.

Oooooooo girrrrrrrl, not cool courtesy never goes out of style! It takes 5 minutes to write one!

(I'm aware opinions on this subject vary a lot by region. 'Round these parts, you send a note!)

RocksInTheWater

I am not a fan of baby headbands but the small, dainty ones are ok. I guess they just seem super impractical unless you are snapping a few pictures. Thank god the garter look alike headbands have (mostly) gone away. Those were horrid.

pdilly2b

@bwelding85

Not sure if someone else has suggested this, but B brand has a cute broom set that I'm planning to get DS for Christmas. Saw it at Target.

fireflygirl12

dani+california said:

This UO thread is pretty tame...so I'm going there. How I Met Your Mother is not funny. The Big Bang Theory is not funny. At all. Ever. *runs away*

I actually love the BBT and HIMYM is OK. I just read an article this morning that the 3 main characters on BBT currently make $350K each per episode. Apparently they are requesting a raise to $500K/episode for the new season. I can't believe that people in Hollywood get paid such ridiculous amounts of money. And then some of them still manage to go broke.

BeeBee08

AcaAwkward said:

Thank you cards are archaic.

Oooooooo girrrrrrrl, not cool courtesy never goes out of style! It takes 5 minutes to write one! (I'm aware opinions on this subject vary a lot by region. 'Round these parts, you send a note!)

Thank you cards are polite and make people feel good, like how you felt when they did something that deserved a thank you.  This is probably really unpopular, but I don't think a hand written note should ever go out of style. 

LittleLady77

Ha!  It took me 3 years, $30,000 and another woman's eggs to get pregnant.  If you want to judge me because I'm actually doing the research and being careful go ahead.  Frankly, I will do ANYTHING I can to have a healthy baby at this point.

For the record, I know I'm psycho about it and I'm sure if my experience was different I would be more lenient.  I do not judge others who drink coffee, eat sushi etc. but I do think it's sad when women don't look into the risks at all.  If you do the research, know the risks and decide it's worth it then fine but just not even bothering to look into what each risk carries is just sad.

I love BBT.
I prefer to throw up outside in a bush where I can throw some dirt over my mess.

KendraL86

P&B715 said:

I think bikinis shouldn't be allowed for any kid, but then again, some adults shouldn't wear them either.... ((Coming from someone who has never and will never, because I have been overweight and I've had a stomach scar since I was 3 from surgery))

I am a pancreatic cancer survivor and, as a result, have had a very large abdominal scar (vertical, about 14 inches straight down my midsection) since I was 21.  I still proudly sport a bikini.    Scarred stomach or not, I still feel bikini worthy. 

cloudninemom2be

AcaAwkward said:

lilnightmusic said:

Thank you cards are archaic.

Oooooooo girrrrrrrl, not cool courtesy never goes out of style! It takes 5 minutes to write one!

(I'm aware opinions on this subject vary a lot by region. 'Round these parts, you send a note!)

Absolutely! Doesn't hurt anyone to pick up a pen and write a few heartfelt lines in a card. So respectful and appropriate.

BeeBee08

lilnightmusic said:

Thank you cards are archaic.

Oooooooo girrrrrrrl, not cool courtesy never goes out of style! It takes 5 minutes to write one! (I'm aware opinions on this subject vary a lot by region. 'Round these parts, you send a note!)

I feel like there's a sense of entitlement about it though. Like I thanked you thoroughly when I received the gift and when you saw me using it. Do I need to send a piece of paper you'll throw away immediately after reading as well?

I see what you're saying.  I think if it's an intimate setting where it's you and the gift giver (or do-gooder) and you are able to properly thank them at that time, then a thank you card probably isn't necessary.  If it's a larger group and your time and attention is stretched thin, a personal thank you is appropriate.  And always, if someone goes out of their way to do something kind for you, even if it's just something small but made your day, it's thoughtful to send a little note to let them know how much you appreciated it.  But hey, I am not Emily Post, and am not a politeness police, so I'm just going by what I would do. 

Today as I was leaving the fertility clinic, bawling because I "graduated" to a regular OB and I never thought I would see the day, the first thing I said to DH was "we need to send them a thank you card"...so this UO was good timing for me

katieharpiceland

Awww...congrats @BeeBee08 on your graduation. :-D That's a nice milestone!!!

knotty-girl

AcaAwkward said:

lilnightmusic said:

Thank you cards are archaic.

Oooooooo girrrrrrrl, not cool courtesy never goes out of style! It takes 5 minutes to write one!

(I'm aware opinions on this subject vary a lot by region. 'Round these parts, you send a note!)

I agree. It's insulting not to get a Thank You card. My sister is really bad at this and doesn't enforce her children writing them. I send gifts and never even know if they got them, not even an acknowledgement during a phone conversation. Makes me feel like my effort is unappreciated. I blame her, not the kids though. We weren't raised that way! I write thank you's within a week of receiving the gift. I even hand wrote 300 thank you's for my wedding gifts well within the 1 year deadline!

megan8127

bwelding85 said:

AcaAwkward said:

Why get your underpants in a twist over some stranger in the checkout line? NBD!

Thank you for not using the "p" word.

I HATE THE P WORD! I was watching the national news last week and they were interviewing a lady who was evacuated in CO and she told the reporter she only had time to grap "a pair of extra clothes and panties." I still shudder thinking about it...WHO SAYS "PANTIES" ON THE NATIONAL NEWS.

*shudder* I hate that word with a passion.

Panties is so gross.  And so is the word moist.  Add those two together and it's sickening...moist panties.  Barf

megan8127

I am all on board with boys being able to play with dolls, having kitchens, and anything else that is gender stereotyped as "female".  In fact, my son sleeps with his baby doll during every nap and at night. 

Alright, my UO aspect of this conversation: I think being concerned about the colors the toys come in just contributes to the gender stereotypes, ie boys shouldn't play with pink things.    

 

Rogue237

I can tell you that as a child I never so much as picked up a Barbie. I read comic books and played with He-Man and She-Ra dolls. I wore Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle t-shirts and pants (almost never dresses). I'll be doing my best to get my daughter on the same path if I have one haha.