A few months ago, our BMB experienced a late loss. Because I have a position of prominence around here, I volunteered to spearhead an effort to raise funds in order to get this grieving mom a thoughtful keepsake gift and make a donation to a relevant charity in the precious little one's name. Except, psyche! I'm a terrible human being! Here's what I did instead: First of all I never sent the keepsake gift to the mom. I mean, maybe I ordered it and kept it for myself, maybe I just faked that I ordered it, whatevs. Also, the money that was to be used for the donation was over $500. But these other thoughtful compassionate mothers had just GIVEN it to me, trusting I would do what I said. Hello, I need things for my baby, especially since some people had the balls to purchase gifts for me not on my registry! Cunts. So instead, I waited until I had been called out repeatedly for dragging my feet, and then made a donation of $25. Yup, less than 5% of the money collected! Then, to add to the whole fuckedupness of the situation, I did a shitty Photoshop job on my bank statement and receipt from the charity, thinking that was going to fly. After that, I pretty much fell off the planet. I don't feel the need to explain my actions to anyone, I have no intention of following through on what I promised to do, and I'm basically giving the finger to this mom, her lost child, and the decent human beings who reached out to comfort her during a devastating time. Because money! And gliders! So what do you think guys? Should I permanently fuck off forever from this website, especially since I've demonstrated a complete lack of shame and accountability? Probably, right? But first, I want you to say exactly how you feel about me. I know I'm a disgusting person and all, but I need to know that this sentiment is universal.
I want to fucking kick you in the face and drag you through the town square, telling every single person exactly what you did and pausing to let them kick you in the face too. I know I can't, and as a pacifist never actually would. But the desire to do so is HUGE!!!!!
- After poorly photoshopped e-mails about your donation, even when the organization was called and verified, multiple times, to multiple callers that you NEVER made a $550 donation, you still tried to pretend you did. It's really impressive, your dedication to the craft of being a gigantic cunt. (a word I NEVER use)
- You have the audacity to still lurk on these boards! Last active RIGHT NOW! Super cool. I've also heard you're still in a facebook group! What lucky ladies to be in your cunttastic, felonious company
This is absolutely disgusting behavior and the attempts to cover it up are even more disturbing. Taking advantage of a loss mama and her baby....I just can't. GTFO.
TTC #1 since February 2011 Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility) Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)= Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1 ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies Bleeding and low betas=very cautious C/P 5W3D Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1 scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2 delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30= Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3 transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174! It's a BOY!
You're a disgusting human being for taking advantage of an awful situation, a grieving mother, and a large group of women who believed they were contributing money to said grieving mother. It's truly despicable.
You want to know the worst part? Not a single one of us is SORRY for donating, but we are sorry that only a portion of the proceeds were used for their dedicated purpose. We genuinely believed that the money was being used for the purpose it was donated for. Many of us were super patient because we understood that raising children, working, medical concerns, etc can cause delays. You can hide your face for days and days and hope that this just blows over, but honey, you can bet your ass that if we could press charges, we would have done so. Unfortunately, you got lucky and found loopholes in the criminal code that prevented charges. I hope you choke on the money you pocketed, obviously it was so needed that you used it for your own purposes instead of making the correct donation in honor of this mother's child.
You seriously need to pay back this money. That is the least that can be done.
IF DX: DOR & Fragile X pre-mutation carrier
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54
2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4; BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
I alway try to see the good in people, and would possibly have been able to forgive an unforeseen circumstance or admission when it came to what happened to the money. Instead we got an insultingly bad photo shop job of a bank statement as if we are a bunch of fucking idiots. Ridiculous!!
You should be ashamed of yourself. Enjoy your PB nursery furniture.
I hope that the roof on your house falls off, your pipes break, your foundation cracks and it costs you THoUsANDS of $$$$$ to fix. Karma is a bitch and she always wins! you won't!
Owning up to it and offering a sincere apology would have gone a long way. Lying, avoiding, covering up, turning tail and running? So disappointing. Respect is gone.
There's a special place in Hell for people who steal money donating to a grieving mother. I'm sure of it.
I don't regret donating for a moment, and maybe that's a shame on me, but I really hope that you, @erbear1010, are a one-of-a-kind gem in this respect. There are bad people out there, and you are one of them. I hope you read every single comment on here and the guilt crushes you.
Just for those of you who aren't aware, a gift is scheduled for delivery to the mother who lost her baby on what would have been his EDD. It's not as much as what we originally had planned, but she will know she has our thoughts, prayers, and support during what is sure to be a difficult time despite this ordeal.
Carry on.
BFP#1 11-26-10 MMC 1-13-11
BFP#2 6-8-11 Eleanor Beatrice born 2-15-12 BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
The VERY least you could do is offer up a sincere apology and explanation for what in the hell happened. No one believes you'll donate the money, because why would you steal it if you had any? I'm not holding my breath, though.
The VERY least you could do is offer up a sincere apology and explanation for what in the hell happened. No one believes you'll donate the money, because why would you steal it if you had any? I'm not holding my breath, though.
Good. Otherwise I'd be worried about your safety because you would surely die holding.
TTC #1 since February 2011 Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility) Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)= Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1 ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies Bleeding and low betas=very cautious C/P 5W3D Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1 scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2 delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30= Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3 transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174! It's a BOY!
I wondered at first if there was any way to get our money back. But I knew right away that I didn't want my money back. I just wanted it to go to what it was supposed to go to. I can't possibly miss that money as much as a Mom misses her sweet lost child.
You wake up every day enjoying that life growing inside you, while your ass graces the cushion of an overpriced glider that was paid for by the good intentions of scores of women who wanted to honor the life of another little one that didn't get to grow as long as he needed to. A little one that didn't get to grow as long as your little one has.
How do you do it?
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
What you did is one of the lowest, shittiest things I've ever witnessed. It's only compounded by the fact that you lied like crazy to cover your ass and forged documents in attempt to save face. This is where you really showed your true colors and just how pathetic you really are. An explanation, sincere apology, and commitment to make things right would have gone a long way. It's too late for that now. Karma is a bitch and I hope you get what's coming to you.
Just so you know you came super close to getting charged and having your name publicly shamed in real life. Actually, it still might happen so you should admit what you did and make an apology.
You STOLE from charity. Seriously, how do you sleep at night?
But even worse, IMO, is she stole from a mother grieving the loss of her child. Charities will get more donations and this mother will eventually get the gift she deserves, but honestly that wouldn't of even been done had we not demanded answers and for her to be removed as the person in charge.
Re: A Very Special Thursday Night Confession
DD born 2/3/03
BFP 3/21/13 w/ EDD 12/02/13, C/P 3/29/13.
BFP 9/18/13 w/ EDD 5/26/14,
Beta #1 @ 14-16dpo = 375, progesterone 33.6
Beta #2 @ 20-22 dpo = 8,782!
Beta #3 @ 27-29dpo = 44,230, dx subchorionic hemorrhage/ threatened mc
Beta #4 @ 29-31dpo = 72, 080
Grow, little one, grow!
***** All AL Welcome *****
- After poorly photoshopped e-mails about your donation, even when the organization was called and verified, multiple times, to multiple callers that you NEVER made a $550 donation, you still tried to pretend you did. It's really impressive, your dedication to the craft of being a gigantic cunt. (a word I NEVER use)
- You have the audacity to still lurk on these boards! Last active RIGHT NOW! Super cool. I've also heard you're still in a facebook group! What lucky ladies to be in your cunttastic, felonious company
-You are disgusting. I have nothing else to say.
Go to Hell. (shouldn't be hard)
TTC #1 since February 2011
Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility)
Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)=
Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1
ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
Bleeding and low betas=very cautious C/P 5W3D
Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1
scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues
Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2
delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30=
Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3
transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174!
It's a BOY!
Oh, and this:
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
You should be ashamed of yourself. Enjoy your PB nursery furniture.
You are the scum of the earth.
8-|
TTC #1 since February 2011
Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility)
Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)=
Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1
ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
Bleeding and low betas=very cautious C/P 5W3D
Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1
scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues
Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2
delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30=
Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3
transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174!
It's a BOY!
I don't regret donating for a moment, and maybe that's a shame on me, but I really hope that you, @erbear1010, are a one-of-a-kind gem in this respect. There are bad people out there, and you are one of them. I hope you read every single comment on here and the guilt crushes you.
Just for those of you who aren't aware, a gift is scheduled for delivery to the mother who lost her baby on what would have been his EDD. It's not as much as what we originally had planned, but she will know she has our thoughts, prayers, and support during what is sure to be a difficult time despite this ordeal.
Carry on.
BFP#3 9-4-13 Benjamin Lee born 4-28-14
TTC #1 since February 2011
Me: 29 (3/5/13- high NK cells) DH: 28 (5/8/12- MFI low morph and motility)
Cycle #21 (IUI#1), Cycle #22 (HSG 9/21/12) and Cycle #23 (IUI#2)=
Cycle #24- December Snow Bunny IVF #1
ER 12/6/12 (14R, 11M, 9F), ET 12/9/12 transferred 2 day 3 embies
Bleeding and low betas=very cautious C/P 5W3D
Cycle #26 March Lucky Duck- FET #1
scheduled 3/20/13- CANCELLED- lining issues
Cycle #27 May Emerald- FET #1.2
delayed- Starting Trental for 3 months + natural cycles Cycle #28-30=
Cycle #31 August Shooting Star- FET #1.3
transferred 1 hatching blast 8/21/13= Betas 8/30 (108) and 9/3 (565)
U/S 9/19/13- HR is 128! U/S #2 10/4/13- HR is 174!
It's a BOY!
It’s not that I don’t like you, it’s that I don’t know you. Stranger Danger.
09/23/11 - Married DH
04/01/13 - BFP at 4wks
05/30/13 - MMC - BO @ 12wks 5d
08/29/13 - BFP @ 4wks 4d
09/17/13 - 7wks 2d - Normal HB Detected! Baby measuring perfect for dates and positioning!
10/23/13 - 12wks 3d - Perfect NT scan! HB 167 & baby wriggling, waving & yawning!
12/17/13 - 20wks 2 d - We're having a beautiful baby girl! Go Team Pink!
05/03/14 - Bobbie Gloria was born at 39+6 weighing 6lb 14oz!
I almost feel better.
DD born 2/3/03
BFP 3/21/13 w/ EDD 12/02/13, C/P 3/29/13.
BFP 9/18/13 w/ EDD 5/26/14,
Beta #1 @ 14-16dpo = 375, progesterone 33.6
Beta #2 @ 20-22 dpo = 8,782!
Beta #3 @ 27-29dpo = 44,230, dx subchorionic hemorrhage/ threatened mc
Beta #4 @ 29-31dpo = 72, 080
Grow, little one, grow!
***** All AL Welcome *****
Nora - 10.26.12
Henry - 5.9.14
This is all real.
Yes it is hard to believe, but this piece of garbage did exactly what was mentioned.
Hope you get your comeuppance.