Poll: Push Presents

NatureLovers

Where do you stand on this? Are you for or against? If you're getting one, what is it?

NatureLovers

I told my H after what I've been through and what I will continue to go through, a present would be nice. Maybe a modest necklace from Etsy with the baby's birthstone.

Stargirlb

Yes I always think of random reasons for presents. That I pick out. So basically I just want him to buy something for me on his personal CC as often as possible. 

I want a Tesla. That's my ambitious push present. He said he will work on it but can't promise anything! lololol. Aim high, right? Then even the fall back will be good because he's not going to get me a donut after knowing what I *really* want is a tesla, right?

Stargirlb

If anyone votes the second option I will seriously faint. I totally get it if you can't afford it, or dh is just not nice, but just because the baby is enough?! Noooo.... you will be in service to that child for the next 18 years, not the other way around! 

BackseatDriver

I'm 99% sure that I will not be getting a push present, but I would like something with the baby's initial. I have an initial necklace for my son. If I don't get anything (which I won't) I will just buy something for myself.

I like the idea of sentimental gifts.

llambrose

I had to vote SS. I would love one but know I won't get one. My husband doesn't really think like that and we really shouldn't spend the money anyway.

ETA:  Not a huge fan of the term though and I wouldn't want anything major.  Just a sentimental thing having to do with the new baby.  He still wouldn't think to do it though..

lavet22

I don't have a problem with men giving women push presents, but I have a lot of girlfriends who gave their husbands presents. Like, other than the baby. WTF? All he did was sit on his ass flipping through sports center while I suffered nausea, back pain, discomfort, labor pains, and then pushed a PERSON out of my body... He's not getting a damn thing from me. Lol Maybe I'm a terrible wife, tho. Haha

Stargirlb

Gross? maybe if you were literally pushing OUT the present.... that wasn't a baby...

llambrose

My husband didn't even think about ever getting me a Mother's Day present. Finally on my third one I ordered myself a bracelet with my daughter's name and birthdate on a charm.

Stargirlb

lavet22 said:

I don't have a problem with men giving women push presents, but I have a lot of girlfriends who gave their husbands presents. Like, other than the baby. WTF? All he did was sit on his ass flipping through sports center while I suffered nausea, back pain, discomfort, labor pains, and then pushed a PERSON out of my body... He's not getting a damn thing from me. Lol Maybe I'm a terrible wife, tho. Haha

omg. NO.....

LaBellaVida

I think push presents are silly.

llambrose

lavet22 said:

I don't have a problem with men giving women push presents, but I have a lot of girlfriends who gave their husbands presents. Like, other than the baby. WTF? All he did was sit on his ass flipping through sports center while I suffered nausea, back pain, discomfort, labor pains, and then pushed a PERSON out of my body... He's not getting a damn thing from me. Lol Maybe I'm a terrible wife, tho. Haha

I have heard of this too, that is just stupid IMO. I would NOT do this!

nah82

I have never expected or demanded a push present.  My husband did surprise me and go to Gardner's Candies and get me a box of my favorite Cappuccino Meltaways while I was in the hospital, and that, to me, was perfect.

Milagros315

I said SS because I hate the phrase "push present" and also because I don't expect a gift. However, if H wants to give me a present I certainly will not argue. For one of my birthdays or an anniversary, H gave me a necklace that we keep adding charms to so I think he'll probably just add a birthstone to that. We've spent way too much money just to get this baby for me to want or expect anything more than that.

LadyXaverian

I voted SS because I'm not going to ask for one, and I doubt my husband will get me one, but I don't care what other people do. I'm not "for" or "against" them.

Lanatir

llambrose said:

I had to vote SS. I would love one but know I won't get one. My husband doesn't really think like that and we really shouldn't spend the money anyway.

This is me.  haha.  I'd LOVE something-- like set me up a day at the spa.  lol.  But realistically I know I won't be getting anything.  Well, I didn't with DD1 and I doubt this time around will be any different.

Maybe I can talk DH into making a "push present" for me that NO ONE can come visit like FOREVER after the baby is born.  Or for him to take more than a week off to help out since this time I'll have a newborn AND a toddler.  hahaha.

motherboy

I also find the term push present obnoxious. My husband isn't thoughtful or romantic so I know I won't be getting anything. I might get myself rings or a necklace with the kids names on it, I saw someone linked something like that on here and I thought that would be nice.

rachel+family

I feel ripped off, I never got one last time!! DH better double up this time around

britb618

To be fair it doesn't have to be a thousand dollars but like @NatureLovers‌ said something sentimental like a initial necklace-
My husband got me a ring I really wanted for the Mother's Day right before I had my daughter as like a welcome to motherhood gift-
This time I would love the initials of both kids from etsy. But part of me wants him to just surprise me because whenever he does that he does a good job- my friends husband surprised her with a matching wedding band...but I don't understand how it could be considered gross that your husband would want to buy you something after you give birth to their child - really weird sentiment ...although they aren't necessary for all that you will do as a wife and mom I think it's wonderful if your husband shows his appreciation even if it's your favorite candy

robsbabygirl08

I bought my DH a box of really nice cigars. He got me an eReader (I had been bugging him about wanting one). I was hoping for something a little more sentimental, but he isn't great at that stuff so I was happy I got anything ;-). This time around, I'm not sure we will do a push present.

robsbabygirl08

Yes @ladyamanuet‌

NatureLovers

ladyamanuet said:

This is probably a dumb question, but is a push present a gift for having given birth?

Yup, although the mode of delivery doesn't matter, or if you adopt or use a gestational carrier.

britb618

Yes @ladyamanuet‌ although I looked at it more as a gift for entering motherhood, carrying the baby for 9
Months and celebrating the exciting occasion - I smile every time I look at
My ring because it reminds me of that special time

Stargirlb

who knew the idea of S/O buying you a gift would offend so many!

NatureLovers

mmblake08 said:

I think it's a crazy idea, just me

Even after the torture you've gone through? I probably wouldn't have been so open about wanting one if my pregnancy hadn't been so miserable.

Stargirlb

to be fair, my ex would NEVER get me a present. Getting stuff out of him was like pulling teeth, and then he would grunt and moan about it forever after. Not even worth it. So I totally used to have the opinion that these presents were stupid-- coping mechanism, personally

Cbeanz

Hate that term.

I think it's sweet if dad gives a thoughtful token/trinket to mom after the baby is born.  But it bothers me that some people believe pregnancy, labor and childbirth can be "compensated" with a material item.  Not my style.

MusicFanatic

I should get a new car for this shit.

Stargirlb

MusicFanatic said:

I should get a new car for this shit.

That's the spirit!

idontevenknow

Duh, I'm getting a push present if you count insurance! I have my own through work, but it's an 80/20 and SO is putting me on his for 2015. Best believe I will be using that coverage up. LMAO. Gosh, I am so lame.

NatureLovers

MusicFanatic said:

I should get a new car for this shit.

Yes. And a boob job.

Maebb

DH got me DS' birthstone earrings as a push present last time...except he was due 12/5 and born 11/30, so it was the wrong birthstone. But I like Dec's birthstone better anyway.

He got me garnet earrings as our anniversary present, so maybe he will do a necklace for the push present. Not that I'm expecting or demanding it, but it's a sweet thing for him to do.

Samuelismomma

I don't expect a present. That said he did give me a Victoria secret set, after DS was born. Saying just because I had just become a mommy didn't mean he didn't find me hot! I thought it was sweet thought...:)

storm08

DH didn't give me anything when DS was born, and I don't expect to get anything this time. I would like something with initials and/or birthstones like a necklace eventually, but most likely I will end up picking it out, ordering it, and asking him to wrap it and give it to me at some point.

honeybeee3

No. I'd rather spend the money on the baby to buy diapers, wipes etc. Also I think expecting a gift for giving birth is just silly. However, if my H or somebody bought me something small I would gladly accept it but I don't expect anything.

Beauxbaton

bookworm92 said:

MusicFanatic said:

I should get a new car for this shit.

All of this. Plus new boobs.

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I fully intended to get new boobs after I'm done having babies.

That said, with DS my husband got me a 32gb SD card and a 100somethjng GB jump drive to store pics. And I think some headphones? And then after DS was born we went and bought a ring that had his birthstone in it. This time around he has already said he will get me something, I dont know what. And then I'll probably get a ring with this baby's birthstone.

longcat07

that's it, i'm totally asking for a tesla from SO.

seriously though, i voted SS.  i'm also not a huge fan of the term, but really, in this case, they're just words.  i would love one, but i'd never expect or even ask for one.  LH passed before DS was born, so i had a birthstone ring (DS's) custom-made by an etsy artisan around christmas a couple years later.  i called it a christmas gift for myself, but really i was thinking it was something i wanted just for having him.  it's rose gold, split shank in a cathedral setting (very organic-looking), with a very clear asscher-cut aquamarine.  i kind of splurged on it, and i love it so much.  i would like something in that vein, eventually.  SO is on board with doing it when the finances are in order, so it likely won't happen right away.

NatureLovers

amt1983 said:

I thought mode of delivery did matter? My husband is getting me one but only if I actually push, and no epidural.

Mode of delivery doesn't matter. Either you push a human being out of your vag, or you have major abdominal surgery. Both are big deals and c-sections shouldn't be brushed aside like they're a cake walk.

luciddreamer106

It would be nice, but I won't bring it up to him. The sweetest gifts are the ones I don't ask for.

aerotigergirl

amt1983 said:

I thought mode of delivery did matter? My husband is getting me one but only if I actually push, and no epidural.

no way! You're joking, right?

NatureLovers

aerotigergirl said:

amt1983 said:

I thought mode of delivery did matter? My husband is getting me one but only if I actually push, and no epidural.

no way! You're joking, right?

Holy shit I missed that. Is your H that much of an a-hole? Really?