Poll: Push Presents

MusicFanatic

@CuppyCakes721- while different issues, I completely understand the struggles of pregnancy and what it can mentally and physically do.  This is why we BOTH deserves damn cars  *hugs* to you. (I like long long hugs, so we're all good. Embrace away!)

Beauxbaton

MusicFanatic said:

@CuppyCakes721- while different issues, I completely understand the struggles of pregnancy and what it can mentally and physically do.  This is why we BOTH deserves damn cars  *hugs* to you. (I like long long hugs, so we're all good. Embrace away!)

Its like one big long awkward group hug up in here! Haha you guys are awesome

Beckyboo71

TRexsMum said:

Okay, I'm finally caught up on this thread and want to clarify my earlier post -

Having flowers or food brought to the hospital for you following delivery, in my opinion, is not a "push present". That's just common sense. Hospital food is repulsive. And my mom sent flowers - not my hubby.

I barely survived my pregnancy. While that was physically devastating for me, it was an emotional and psychological roller coaster for my husband for 9mos. I don't think my experience trumps his. We both spent 9mos in terror. The fact that Zig and I both survived was plenty of "gift", thanks.

The "gross" comment I made was more based on the entitlement for expensive gifts that many women get/expect. My sisters best friend said after delivering her second, a boy, "he had better get me a tennis bracelet for this". Not understanding what she meant, my sister asked for clarification. "Well I got the diamond earrings for delivering Samantha. But a boy deserves a whole lot more diamonds."

^ that is flat out disgusting, to me.

Did you want a family? Were you unaware that it would mean YOU would be pregnant? Did you have no idea how babies are born? You signed up for this - you're no hero, worthy of trophies, for doing what you wanted and expected to do. It might be an unpopular opinion, but it's mine.

I totally agree 100%

Jamie02Lee

DH keeps hinting on buying me a necklace n tries to get an idea of what I want... he's as subtle as an elephant lol.. but I don't require or need anything.. I do need a new necklace so a Garnett birthstone or his initials on a tiny locket or something would b awesome but that's it... I have already decided to buy DH a new daddy present which may seem stupid but I believe he deserves something too so I'm getting him the new PlayStation...

mom2case

It's a strange thing imo.  I mean, if I went through all of this FOR my husband, I could see it.  But I wanted a baby and I signed up for all the stuff my body was going to go through.  DH worked more so I could stay home with our first.  I think that was a pretty awesome present.  Our second passed away and DH was okay with me getting anything I wanted to remember that little guy.  I guess it sort of counted as a push present.  Bringing home a baby will seriously be the BEST gift ever this time.  I took it for granted with our first and now I know how much of a "present" that really is.  

sparksfly22

While I don't think it should be a rule to get a gift, I don't follow the argument that 'oh you signed up for this and knew it would be tough so why give you a present?' I mean college is a difficult and voluntary experience for those that choose certain majors and no one goes on complaining about how you shouldn't give your kid flowers or a present for graduating...

So yeah, the idea of expecting something is still absurd. But the idea that your significant other would want to give you a present or vice Versa during a special moment in both of your lives is not strange. And is similar to lots of posters' opinions that reaching a milestone in life this special certainly has a right to be celebrated with a gift other than a baby (just like you get other gifts at graduation besides your diploma or degree).

elleswarth

No one rush off and get "garnet" anything just yet. You may end up with a December baby after all!

melmarie4

As long as no one is having babies to get a push present I don't see why there's anything wrong with it. For most accomplishments and milestones in life we get gifts to celebrate so why not for having a baby? It's not something you should demand or expect. Bragging about it of course would be super annoying. Don't even get me started on the comment that a boy deserves more diamonds, so gross!!

BookitBoo

Or a February baby!

rachel+family

I very well could get a February baby @BookitBoo‌! In fact I'm lying to my friends and family and saying baby is due feb 5th

NatureLovers

@TRexsMum‌ I agree with your sentiment. I do not want an extravagant gift, an Etsy gift is enough for me. And a boy is worth a diamond bracelet? Ick.

For those who hate the term push present, overlook it. The point is not the term but the idea behind it.

melmarie4

I don't know how I feel about the garnet, maybe my baby will wait an extra three days so I can get an amethyst birthstone ring

elleswarth

melmarie4 said:

I don't know how I feel about the garnet, maybe my baby will wait an extra three days so I can get an amethyst birthstone ring

Yeah, I'm not loving on the garnet either. Our first is March, so if this baby could please come in December (I'm "due" January 5th), we could do a nice blend of the two blue stones.

elleswarth

Yeah, I guess I should revise my post and say that I don't care for it with march's stone. By itself or with diamonds would be pretty.

Beauxbaton

I lucked out with birthstones. Sapphire and Garnet go beautifully together.

mom2case

sparksfly22 said:

While I don't think it should be a rule to get a gift, I don't follow the argument that 'oh you signed up for this and knew it would be tough so why give you a present?' I mean college is a difficult and voluntary experience for those that choose certain majors and no one goes on complaining about how you shouldn't give your kid flowers or a present for graduating... So yeah, the idea of expecting something is still absurd. But the idea that your significant other would want to give you a present or vice Versa during a special moment in both of your lives is not strange. And is similar to lots of posters' opinions that reaching a milestone in life this special certainly has a right to be celebrated with a gift other than a baby (just like you get other gifts at graduation besides your diploma or degree).

I think the difference is the expectation.  The talk of push presents is usually the woman asking for something in particular.  Would it be nice for the husband to surprise his wife with flowers on a special day?   Of course!  But what I've seen of "push presents" is expensive stuff.  Diamonds, electronics, etc.  I think it's a little strange to feel like you deserve something more than just your baby.  But hey, it's just my opinion.  To each their own.

Stargirlb

If u don't set an expectation u will get nothing because statistically dudes are not thinking of getting u that super sentimental cute etsy necklace on their own. Duh